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Ok so on Friday i am going to my freinds house for a "movie night" we're going to paly volleyball outside earlier and then later we're going to watch hide and seek. well no big deal. she invited 4 guys and 3 girls (shes the 4th girl). well its kinda like a paired off thing. she invited couples. except for me. she invited this guy. i kind of like him i guess. same with him. he told my freind he kind of likes me. well i dont know i thnk it's goign to br really weird. because all the other people are goign ot be with their girl/boyfreind and then there will be me and this guy. i like him and all but i dont know i think it will be weird.and im kind of worried that he's gonna like try something, because thats just the the kind of guy he is...so i guess i dont know what to do.
((14/f))

Just go and have fun get to kno this guy a little more and have fun watchinq the movie !!
Hope i helps you out !!



kaitlyn jO*

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OK this girl I've known for a long time hates me for some reason. I was crushing on her boyfriend and they broke up. We've been in many a fight and I want to be friends with her but all she does is call me a bitch or a cunt. This has been going on ever since I've met her. How do I get her to stop and maybe be friends with me? HELP

Well talk to her and let her kno somehow that her boyfriend didnt break up with her becoz of you .. if she doesnt understand then i would just forget her i'm sure you have other friends!!
kaitlyn jo ♥

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ok..so there was this girl and she was like my best friend all thro 8th grade...then my b/f broke up with me and she went out with him a DAY later. how horrible is that?! well..he is so mean to her and he talks so bad about me and my other friends..but she wont stick up for us..AT ALL! she sits there and laughs about it. she said she was sorry and i was like.ok..and i have forgiven her and everything but now its like evrything she does gets on my nerves i cant stand this girl. and its hard because she still thinks we are best friends and i dont know how to just tell her..Hey girl..we arent friends...i thought it would be easier to forgive her but it keeps getting harder cause she is like the fakest person in the world. idk what i should do because now we are in a huge fight and she is making it seem like its MYYY fault.and ignoring her doest work because she is good friends with another one of my best friends so its like everywhere i go with my friends she is there too..ughhh please help!

I would tell her that you need to have a talk and tell her that you've tried forgiving her and everything and putting it behind you but i cant take it anymore .. and that it is soo wrong that she is dating your ex. like some people say "bestfriends dont date best friends exes"
but thats basicly all that i can tell you!!
kaitlyn jO

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Okay so i go to a small high school i'll be a senior, and i hang out with this group of people and i mean we're all really close, and it's really weird cause theres i'd say about.. 50-60 of us, but we all hang out at school at lunch together and take up this big spot and everything. Anyways there's guys and girls. I really want to have a birthday party this year i'll be turning 17. because i didn't do anything for my 16th really and i haven't ad one since like 6th grade. but i was just wondering if anyone had any ideas on what to do with so many people. my friend had her 16th bday at this big hotel room thing..like whats downstairs..and there was a dance floor and a dj and food and stuff. so i dont really want that. i would just feel bad if i didn't invite some people cause we're all like best friends..and thats what makes it hard. 50 best friends? whaatt.. i mean i have ONE BEST BEST friends, but everyone else is pretty much the same. any ideas?
oh and my bdays in november.

Well what i would do is like have it in a gym at like a reckcenter or something like that but i would have a house party or find someplace that is BIG that is near where you live !!
Hope i helped !!
kaitlyn jO

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ok..if this is the second time i wrote this sry. it says i didnt ask a question and i need some advice. well i am 14 years old and there is this guy. we have been talking for about a month and a half now. he tells me he loves me and we almost had sex. everyone always asks me if we go out, i never know what to tell them so then i just asked him what were we?..were we just talkin or do we go out?..and he said we are just talking. i mean i like u but i want to talk to other girls.

should i keep talkin to him to see if things get better. or shut him outta my life? i just dont wanna get hurt. yah kno?

I would keep talkin to him if you really like him .. but if you would ever go out with him he could cheat on you if he wants to always talk to other grls when hes [ talkinq ] to you !! i'm really sorry that i dont kno what else to tell you but i hope that i helped some !!
kaitlyn jO

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I made the cheerleading squad this year and i love it.. but our coach said any girls that argued or talked about each other behind their baQs or caused drama were going to be kicked off the squad.. and there is a girl on the squad that is so mean to me.. she makes fun of me but says she is just pickin but it bothers me and she says rude stuff that makes me mad.. but i havent said anything to her about it because i'm afraid it will make her mad and start a fight but i'm rele tired of being treated like that... wut should i do?!?

I would just talk to the coach and let him kno that your not tryin to start drama and then tell ur coach about the grl. Let the coach kno that you really like the sqad and want to stay on it but this grl is really making it not fun !!
Hope that i helped !!
kaitlyn jO

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My best friends in the world, Kayla & Bridget are always good to me. But lately, Bridget hasen't been. She hangs out with a lot of other girls who are mean, and doesn't act like her old self. I have no idea what's going on, and Kayla is away to New York for the WHOLE summer and i miss much [i live in virginia]

I rate high!!!!

What i would do is call and ask her how her summers been and ask her why she is hanging out with those grls .. i kno how it is to not have much to do during the summer becoz of your friends becoz its been the same way with me.. just dont get all that mad if she gets and aditude with you but girls go thought changes when they get to middle school .. hope that i helped you !!
kaitlyn jO*

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I told my best friend something that i didnt want anyone to find out, and she tells someone i dont think i can trust her ever again should i?

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Well i would just talk to her .. i would be upset tho becoz she told sumone but you need to have a serious talk with her becoz if she is your best friend then she should be willing not to tell anyone.. well i dont kno what else to tell you babeZ if you want to talk to me then i.m me on xdingyxbabex !!
kaitlyn jO*

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I have this friend thats my neighbor and ive known him all my life pretty much and like we used to be unseparable ((spelling)) and now like since i got a little older and he got more into his baseball and paintball its like were fading apart and i just dont want that to happen because i would die for him if it came down to that and i juss REALLY dont wanna lose him cuz hes like the little brother i never had,,,does anyone have any suggestions on what i could do to help this friendship?!?

I rate HIGH if you can help!

What you should do is just the two of you go play a game of basketball together or just try and do sumthing with him that he is doing at the time .. or you could set a date to go to the movies or sumthing just go and have fun like the old days .. hope i helped !!
kaitlyn jO*

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okay ive known these girls for a very long time but this year we started to be best friends. we always did stuff with each other and had sleepovers every weekend. but lately they both have been getting mad at each other and they both turn to me to either invite over without the other or for advice. i feel uncomfortable because i don't want to get in the middle and i want to keep both for friends. i want to be as close as we used to be. how do i make that happen? help!

Well just let things cool down and stay away from each other for awhile becoz some grls tend to get anoyyed after awhile with other girls soo just stay away for a few days or weekends just dont start to talk about one another becoz that will make the problem flare. hope i helped you some
kaitlyn jO*

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what age/grade will your friends start to act more mature, and start being more than just someone to laugh with. you know, when will it be easier to find that one true friend, cause i'm pretty young, and i dont think anyone is that mature enough that they are the kind of friend that will give you a shoulder to lean on when your sad, or you can call anytime just 2 talk, you know that kind of stuff. does anyone know what age>

It will probably start when you get into middle school .. most ppl start to mature at the age of about 12 or 13 beocz thats the age that most of my friends did althought a few didnt (lol) but i'm sure that you have a couple of friends that could qive you a shoulder to lean on or you can talk to anytime hope that i gave you some help !!!! kaitlyn jO*

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ok i have a really close guy friend that i like a lot. and he likes me to and he is always telling how he wants me to be his girlfriend and that he wants to be with me except we wont hook up until we find a way so that we could see each other more often.(he lives 20 minutes away) but anways most of the time when i call him he says i am going to call you back and he NEVER calls back.. what should i think of this? should talk to him and be4 he says anythin be like "if you dont want to talk to me all you have to do is say so" can so one please tell me what to do. i dont want to hurt i just want to know he never calls back.

You should just flat out ask him if he doesnt like talking to you becoz if hes always tellin you that he wants to be your boyfriend and all of that then somethings messed up there .. maybe he has a girlfriend and thats why he nevers calls baq becoz hes a playa (maybe) but you should just ask why he lies to you about callin him baq hope that i helped a lil bit
kaitlyn jO*

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how do you know if that one friend is that one true "best friend" that will stick with you for life, thru all the bad and good times. i cant really explain what i mean by that one best friend but i think you might be able to get what i mean. thanks

well you can kinda just tell that they are a true friend when their there for you through the thick and the thin times ... i kno how you feel when it comes to true best friends and cant tell if they are actually true to you well i hope that i helped with what i told you
kaitlyn jO*

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