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Hello, all- I'm Becky. I'm 16 years old but wise far beyond my years, so hopefully you can expect some good advice from me. I'm not here to spit out cutesy answers to every single question- I won't be a bitch, but I'll be sure to tell it like it is. Just accept it, and consider less-than-sweet answers as tough love. :]

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have an eating disorder.[i'm not one of those skinny girls who has them.]
&& i've told mii close friends about it.
but 1 of them [whos like mii sister] says shes getting worried about it && said if i don't get help then she'll get it 4 me by telling someone.
i tried 2 tell her that i can't get help cause mii parents will find out && they aren't the "okay we'll get help for you" type parents.
their the "i'm gonna hurt you 4 being stupid" type.
&& theres nothing i can say 2 her to even try 2 convince her 2 not tell.
but she keeps saying that unless i get help then shes gonna tell.
so what i wanted 2 ask if any of you had any suggestions of a way 4 me 2 get help without mii parents knowing?

Talk to a counselor at school. That's the best thing I can think of; they'll be able to help you work out your disorder and probably help out with the parental issues you have going on as well. Good luck, and don't be upset with your friend: she's just worried about you and wants you to be safe.

~Becky
[15/f]

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ok so i was txting my friend (shes about to b my step cousin) and she said she had a docters appointment and i said ohh why? and i sorta kept bugging her cuz it was bugging me and she goes: (my name) please nobody knows about thin except me my mom and my dad okay.
and i really wanna know!! shes 15
what do u think?

It's not your business. If she doesn't want to tell you, that's her decision and you really should respect it. If you had something you wanted to keep from her, would you want her pestering you constantly to find out what the deal was? Think about it.

~Becky
[15/f]

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Ok so my friend(15/f died, along with her dad and brother in a car crash. Her mom and older sister are the only ones who survived.
Alot of people on myspace and msn, ect... are writing a bunch of messages about her and to her family type thing. I was wondering if I should post a bullentin saying that everyone should write a message to them about her or w/e and then we should have someone give them to the mother. Is this a good idea or would it just hurt the family more? I just want to show support and what not so yea...what's the best thing to do?

I think this is a great idea. It will show her mother and sister that people truly loved your friend, and it will show support which will hopefully help her mom and sister in their time of grief. I'm sorry about your friend =[

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Hey everyone [:

Ok, so i just came into highschool this year, and i made some amazing senior friends, let's call them A, B, and C. Well, i have a friend, D, that is so much better than me, and has replaced me multiple times with different people. D started hanging out with A,B, and C. One day, i got into a fight with A because of B.

following me?

Ok, so then D became all close with A, B, and C. And now they barely talk to me anymore because they are all obsessed with D. Whenever i am with them and her, i am so left out and not talked to, that i walk away and they don't notice.

What should i do? i have talked to them about it but they said i could "never be replaced." Too bad it already happened.

It's possible they don't even realize that they are leaving you out. You should try and think up fun things to talk about when you are all together. Also, you could plan something fun to do with all of them, like going shopping, or to a movie. If that doesn't work, though, and they still ignore you, it might be a good idea to meet new people that want to spend time with you. Hope I helped =]

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I need advice on what to do, so my best friend Ashley was nice to me since 7th grade. Ashley has another friend named Megan. Well Megan and Ashley don't have any school classes together, and they are really close.

It's like this, One day I asked Ashley if she was doing anything, and maybe we could go to the mall, and she just makes up some silly excuse like "I have homework to do, and I have to clean the house" when its a FRIDAY NIGHT!!! And then I ask ashley if she wants to come home with me on my school bus, and she says she can't, and then I find out that she is able to rid Megan's bus. UGH!
Ashley just sometimes really bugs me, but other times it seems like we get along. Like we laugh at things we say, or do. (not laugh at each other, but laugh in a fun way) but our friendship is so weird, Ashley and I have absolutely nothing in commen. We are both athletic, but we have completely opposite intrests, like food, sports, hobbies.

Well I'm always seeing Ashley and Megan together, and It seems like Ashley is being annoyed around me. I think I have a habit of interrupting people, talking too much, asking too many questions, talking too quietly. What i'm asking is If Ashley is a good friend, and does it seem like she's annoyed around me? and how can I get rid of my habits, to make friends easier and not be so annoying to people.

Do I even sound annoying to you?

I don't think you sound annoying, I think you sound like a friend who doesn't want her friendship to break apart =]

I think you need to realize that since Ashley and Megan don't have any classes together, they want to spend some time together. Still, that isn't any excuse for them to exclude you. Are you friends at all with Megan? Maybe you should talk to her some time, and see if you have any common interests. Then, you will be friends with both of them, and you'd have a better chance of getting invited to do stuff with them. Also, you could invite both of them to do something.

If the friendship with Megan doesn't work out, you need to talk to Ashley about this. Tell her that you are sad that she doesn't spend any time with you anymore. There's a good chance she doesn't even realize she's being exclusionary. If you have any more questions, feel free to drop them in my inbox. Hope this helped!

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I have this friend.She is a really great person to be around but sometimes she hits me for no reason.She pulls my hair and i yell at her and tell her to stop but she keeps on doing it anyways.What should i do?I already talked to her about it.

This is really bad. My sister had this same situation with her friend, where her friend pinched her really hard. My mom noticed bruises and said that if it didn't stop, she would call the police. So what my sister did was just pinch her friend back really hard once after her friend did it. Her friend was mad at her for a while, but then she never did it again! If that doesn't work, you definitely need to talk to your mom about it.

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I'm going to a party [boy&girl] and they're having secret santa. They said to get a gift 5-10$. I'm not sure what to get, any ideas?
Thanks!

candy or giftcards are always good presents. everyone loves candy (and they can always trade if they don't) and giftcards are great because you can get what you want. some giftcard ideas are:

~best buy
~blockbuster (or any other movie rental place)
~borders (or another bookstore)
~iTunes
~target

good luck. have fun at your party!

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Alright, well I was talking to my friend and she said her friend ( who idk cause this girls in a grade lower than me ) is going to a party and just asked if i wanted to come to, and it was fine with her friend.

So if you were me and didn't nobody there except one person, would you go?

I'm just afraid the girl I do know'll be off talking to a thousand people, and I'll be sitting in the corner.. just sitting there.

I hope I helped.

I think it kind of depends. If you are a really outgoing person, then go ahead and go- you might make a ton of new friends! Still, if you're kind of shy, you might feel uncomfortable talking to people you don't know. If you do decide to go though, and your friend is talking to other people, you could always go and join in her conversation. It might make you feel more comfortable talking to others when she's there. It's really up to you though. Just do whatever feels comfortable. Good luck!

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I have a problem with people being jealous of me. I don't know why they are - I'm not extremely beautiful or wealthy. I'm just an above average looking girl with average intelligence. I don't have a bf either, so this makes their jealously all the more perplexing.
I have a part time job with a union, and can afford to live on my own. I have an appartment I rent, a car, and a lot of nice furniture. I own about 150 CD's and 70 DVD's.
I by no means am rich, but only have myself to look after. So I can afford to spend my paychecks on what I please. I had saved up a bit and just bought a new futon and recliner. That made some of my friends REALLY jealous.
This one friend of mine makes just as much money as me but says that most of his paychecks go towards paying credit card depts. I have never had a credit card so don't have this problem. My sister is also jealous of me because she owes money to student loan payments. I never went to college so don't have this problem. Some of my other friends don't have cars, and are always saying how lucky I am to have one. But they don't relize how much money I put into it. I just paid 400 to replace the breaks. I wish I could just enjoy what I have without people feeling jealous. I earned it. What can I do, and how can I stop people from envying me?

i think you should just ignore their jeolousy. if you don't react to it, theyll stop talking about it eventually. also, try not to "flaunt what youve got" and that might make them feel better. bottom line is, don't worry about it, because these people are your friends. and, you earned all of what you have, so you don't need to feel guilty about it. ♥

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Becky this is Kensey! haha i got you sooooo bad on the So LyK wUt ShUlD i Do????? haha i hate that writing! oo whos good lol
;-D gotcha

get me back some time,
kensey

lol i hate that writing too be on the lookout for my tricks! lol jk...or maybe not...wow kinda weird ♥

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I Have A GREAT Friend but she sometimes makes fun of the way I look like she will say " your nose looks weird or you have a double chin! haha" and She isnt a serious person and It hurts my feelings. What Can I say to her! Please dont say things like "Slap her, hit her, etc."

chances are, she's just kidding, especially since you said she isn't serious. she probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings, so what you should do is next time she does it, just be like "it hurts my feelings when you say stuff like that, please stop" and she'll prolly stop. hope i helped! ♥

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hi i like this boy. i want to be freinds with him and talk to him with out him knowing that i lke him.i kno were his locker is (right acrass from mine if i could do somthing with that)help

its great that you want to know this gug instead of just telling him you like him. what you could do is just strike up a conversation with him one day, like if you have any classes with him. if it goes well, do it again the next day, and the day after that, etc. after a few days of that, since you know his locker is right across the aisle from yours, you could talk to him while you're both at your locker. if you have fun talkling to him, ask him for his screen name because it's often easier to IM someone rather than talking to him. do all this, and you're sure to make friends with him. hope i helped! ♥

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