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i had some drama within my group of friends. me and my 2 bffls told some of our other friends how it annoyed us that they always talk about their amazing sleepovers infront of us and we're never invited. They all hate me now, and they really dislike my 2 friends, but since i did most of the talking, they especially hate me. They said some really mean stuff about me and even said they "never liked me." i know i shouldn't care about girls who pretended to be my friends for 3 years, but it really makes me so mad! i have friends on my side too, but i feel so crummy about the things that said about me, calling me a b*tch and a hoe and annoying and stuck up. what should i do? i'm so mad at them!!!
15/f
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ok well first i think both these girls and you need time to cool off. right now it seems like both of you are really mad and i think if u talk now it might just get worse. when you're mad you say stuff you dont mean so you dont want to make the fight worse. so yea i think you should give it a little time and when things calm down you can talk about it rationally and just tell these girls that you didnt want to get into a fight you just wanted them to know that this bothered you and you didnt want to make a big deal about this. if they are true friends theyll get over it and everything will be fine. but if it seems like they are still being mean then maybe you should reconsider if you really want a friendship with these girls. you should be with good people that you can be happy with. drama sucks and you want to surround yourself with people who DONT cause it. believe me i've dealt with these kind of girls soo much and have had the same problems
hope everything works out and i could help
Samantha
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There is a girl I've known for a good long while, and recently I made the effort to get back in touch with her and be friends again. I assumed it was going pretty well, we talk online and go out shopping and stuff sometimes. I do like her, but recently I've got the feeling she is just using me to take her places (into town, to see bands) b/c she's not allowed on her own. If I suggest just hanging out or something, she'll always just brush away the suggestion. If we do see each other we get on well though. I'm pretty much her only friend as well, and it sounds really mean, but I thought she'd be kind of pleased to have some friends.
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ok well personally i dont think you should really talk to her about it because it doesn't seem to serious. i mean i think she would be upset because your her ownly friend. but she is obviously sending you mixed messages so its confusing to see what her intentions are. maybe this girl is just overly excited about having a friend and isnt just using you to take her places. you have to put yourself in her shoes too. i mean if you had no friends and all of the sudden someone wanted to be your friend and cared about you i think you would be happy too right? so just watch how she acts around you and the things she says and you'll probably be able to see if shes a true friend or not. eventually you might get into trouble or something and see if she comes to help you or if you have a problem see if shes the one who wants to help you solve it. it seems like her intentions are good and shes just overwhelmed by the attention your giving her
i hope it works out and i could help
samantha
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me and my friend from my old town are in a huge fight... i feel bad cuz i forgot her birthday but she FLIPPED OUT ON ME!! so she was like your fucking hockey messed my whole life up! but hockye is important to me but so is she.. i wanna take my life somewhere with my hockey..... help! (link)
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yea ok well i wouldnt be surprised if my friend flipped out on me. sorry but forgetting your friends birthday is a big deal. but DONT WORRY im sure you can fix it. ok well first you should give her a sincere apology like write a letter or say it in person. not IMing because it doenst seem that meaningful and tends to start fights. also get her a card and like a present that would be meaningful to her. tell her that you really care about your friendship and that you were going overboard a little bit with the hockey. sorry. i know that hockey is like your passion but you said it yourself there are other things that are important to you. keep playing hockey but just keep in mind the people and other things that mean somethign to you because friends are prescious and you dont want them to slip away...
i hope everything works out and i helped a bit
Samantha
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hey, i'm 14/f and i have a bffe, just like any other girl. But the problem with my best friend is everything i do, she must follow along. Its as if she doesn't have her own life to take after.She basically copys everything i do and if i come up with a new saying she starts saying it like 1 day latter ALL the time. And i even said a few things the other day just to see if she did it, and she did! i said i hate chocolate candys lately, so she took hers and threw them out! i couldn't believe how right i was that she copys but then again i can't help then feel bad. I mean, how do i get her to stop copying me, or even better how in the world do i tell her that she's doing it without making her upset? i told her once in 7th grade, and she didnt talk to anyone for weeks, but she has continued sense then though. its not like it helped. i thought about copying her to show her that she copys me 24/7 but would that really help? Reply pleaseeee i need to know :) (link)
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hi ok i think your friend is insecure about herself. she isnt happy with who she is so she feels like she needs to be someone else. I think since shes your best friend you should talk to her like a serious talk. you should tell her that she doesnt have to agree with you on everything that you say. you should tell her that she can disagree with you about things and have her own opinion and you wont be mad at her because thats how she feels. i dont think you should flat out say your copying me and its annoying because this girl sounds sensitive. so yea i think you should tell her that and also that she should be happy with who she is. tell her like ok the reason why we became best friends in the first place is because i liked who YOU were and that you werent the same as me. thats what makes a friendship interesting so you can see how other people think.
so i hope it all works out and that i could help
Samantha
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Today, I found out that my freind told this girl that I don't really know all this stuff. Here it is, my best freind(Jane) told this girl (Jess) that she didn't want this one boy (matt) to like me. See, Jess and Matt used to go out. And since they broke up I have been flirting with him a lot and he has been flirting back. We have a great connection and this Friday we are going ice skating together. Well, my freind Jane, and other freinds are coming and Matt is bringing his freinds. So, Jane told Jess to go prob. so I wouldn't flirt wiht Matt so much. But she also said that she didn't want Matt to like me and that I always flirt with him and he flirts wiht me. AND I guess in one class she had to tell her something that was very important and secretive.. something that is about me. Now I'm mad at her and not talking to her. I don't want to see her and I just want to be mad for awhile and errr. I think Jane has told other people about me too and she's my best freind and I told her everything and really trusted her. How should I act with her? What should I say\? How long should I be mad? Is this my fault? PLease answer... 5s are high! (link)
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ok well first of all maybe jane has feeling for matt or something. that is the only reason i can think of i mean why would she be upset for you liking him when shes your best friend. yea so i think you should have a talk with her. i mean im sorry but if she likes him and you two are really close i dont think its nice to flirt with him.
but if she doesnt like him than i think its ok to flirt with this guy. i mean ok guys get over girls and you cant control how you feel. and if this girl is really your best friend she wouldnt tell you who you can and cant flirt with. you are your own boss.
i think you should just talk to you friend and see whats going on. maybe it was a miscommunication. that happens to me a lot
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GoSh im having really bad luck with guys lately. all of the people i think are sooo hott and stuff dont think im hot but ive started hangin out with this girl..i mean she is like one of my best friends and she is absolutely gorgeous!! all of the people i thought were hott saw my friend and they're all like oh my gosh she is soo hot! and im really jealous of my friend ..i admitt im jealous but i dont know what to do! and this other kid that i kinda like i mean i cant like him because i dont know him but he is just soo cute but he goes to a different school..so i dont even get to see him only once in a while..and i havent even talked to him yet! ahhh i dont know how to tho my cousin kind of talks to him but they switched quarters and now she doesnt know if he will be in any of hers..and then she says that she kinda likes him ..i mean i cant say i like him i just think he is the cutest thing ever and i would maybe like to hangout with him! please dont suggest aim..tried that..didnt work out very well..very confusing so i dont know what else! everytime i ask my cousin to ask him to go to a movie with us he is just like maybe i will try to make it! and he never comes..so that doesnt work! any ideas for all of this?! i just feel so ugly lately =[
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ok i had the exact same problem. I dont know how old you are but in the teen years guys like the girls who are the easiest to get to know and only look at the outside. If you are a little bit shy guys might be intimidated by you and dont know if you want to talk to them or not. Maybe you could make the effort to talk to the guys a little more instead of waiting for them to make the first move.
And dont get your self esteem down because of this. If i guy doesnt like you for who you are and only looks at the outside hes not worth it. there are guys out there who are nice and will talk to you. sometimes you just have to put yourself out there. be happy with who you are
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Theres a new girl at my school; Lizzie.
She seemed really sweet and over the past 2 weeks we've become [ or so i thought ] great friends.
The first day she got here, she asked me like who are good people to hang around, who to trust/not trust, who the populars are, who would get you in trouble, and what our school is like.
I told her in my school you can't trust anyone. I told her about a girl on our Team that is so stuck up and self-concieted and thinks she popular [ and shes deff. not ]And I told her my opionion about other people too. Well Lizzie ran off and told all those people what I had said about them and how not to trust me. This made me mad cause she specificly asked about these people then stabbed me in the back by telling them my opionion about them.
I don't wanna confront her about it though; I'd feel so embarressed. What should I do? (link)
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ok i definately do NOT confront this new girl. No offense but she obviously didnt care about having a friendship with you and just wanted to be cool and fit it. If you confront her matters will just get worse because she'll see it getting to you and she'll probably just do something else obnoxious.
As for the girls you said bad stuff about. You probably should of been careful of who u said these thing to and say those things to only people you can TRUST. i mean she is knew and you hardly knew her so u cant really believe that she wont say anything. and i dont think you should apologize to those girls either. i mean you dont want to be friends with them obviously so it doesnt really matter.
I think you should just worry about who your real and true friends are and make sure you know who you can trust and who you cant
I hope i could help
Samantha
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My ex-best friend Hana and I used to be really close, but ever since she went down to visit her cousin (who is pretty slutty herself) she's been acting like the only thing that matters in the world is how good she looks. It was really starting to piss me off, so I told her. She blew it off like it was nothing, which made me angrier. So, now she's started hanging out with two other girls that are known as sluts at our school, and they've really been annoying me. She pretty much dropped me for them, which made me sad. Now since she's found out that her only friends are the other two sluts, she's been trying to be friends with me again. I don't know if I should accept her friendship or not because it really made me angry how she dropped me like that. She hasn't even said sorry... Now since she's been hanging out with those two girls, I haven't talked to her at all. It really makes me sad that we're not friends anymore because we used to be able to tell eachother anything. I've made new friends, but in a way I miss my old one. If you have any advice for me then that would be awesome! Thanks (link)
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Hi well i had a similar problem but not the slutty part. At our teen ages a lot of girls feel insecure about themselves and try to figure out who they are. That is probably what your friend is going through. Its good that she realized what she was doing isnt good and its probably just a phase. Also it depends how you told her. You should sit down in a mature way NOT yelling and tell her the things that have been bothering you.This way she can explain herself without feeling attacked.It seems like you two were really close so everything will probably work out.
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I have a very very very good friend, Caitlin and she's the sweetest
girl I have ever met. She is 18 and I'm 20 But lately she's been ignoring me or telling me
she's done with me and everything and she acts like she hates me and
she claims she doesn't. Then like 5 minutes later she loves me to death
and my question is that we can NOT ever stop fighting and I really like
her and I hate fighting with her. How can we stop fighting and how can I
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well i think the cause of this constant fighting is you spend too much time together and maybe you should think that you are not always the one who is doing something wrong maybe she is taking advantage of you because she knows you will come crawling back to her and always take the blame try to stand up for yourself more but dont be mean to her
hope i could help
Sammy
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There's this one girl in my group of friends who moved into town after we all became friends and we sort of accepted her into the group. The thing is, she's always the subject of our joking and teasing, because sometimes she is really bossy and gives empty threats randomly every three seconds (like I borrow her pencil and she says, "Give me back my pencil or I'll punch you soo hard!" even though we all know she never will) sometimes I feel sorry for her, but she gets on my nerves a lot. What do I do? (link)
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well first of all you shouldnt tease her because it will just make her be defensive and want to threaten you more i think you should confront her and tell her not to threaten you and to stop being bossy but DONT say it in a mean way
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Sammy
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There is this girl named Rachel. When we first met, 5 years ago, I couldn't stand her. But I was her friend because my friends really liked her and wanted us all to get along. Well two years ago I mentioned something about not liking our principal (I have good reason too)and she just exploded at me. She started screaming, "Hannah! You don't need to judge people like that! Judgment is 1 of the 7 unforgivable sins. If you don't stop being evil your going to hell!" Well I got mad and yelled back that she was an idiot and some other stuff *cough*. Well that was two years ago and we resolved our issues, darn those stupid friends of mine, and tried to become friends again. Well now out of no where she has been bad mouthing me and my mother, shooting me hateful glares, make rude comments right in front of me, and declaring that my mother is unfit to teach. Its very annoying so I sent her an email telling her to just leave me alone and be done with it, but she won't stop! How can I make her leave me alone.
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this happens a lot to everyone well you should definately not be friends with her she is obviously not a good friend to you and these other friends of yours should respect your feelings that you dont want to hang out with her also she is doing this to you because she knows it bothers you. if you just ignore her she will see it doesnt bother you and move on hope i could help
Sammy
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Well, I have this HUGE problem. I started to be friends with 4 girls, named; Jess, Rachael, Chelsey, & Mary. Well, ever since I started hanging out with them, everyone's changed, and started to hate Mary, (supposebly they've hated her for a while, but they just never told her) Mary always cuts people down for no reason, at all! It really makes me mad, she'll pick on homosexuals and people who aren't PERFECT. But she isn't either. She'll say that all these popular guys like her, when she's not popular at all, and they wouldn't pay attention to her. Well, we got into a fight the other day because I was "ignoring" her all day. I seriously don't know what to do! When I'm around her it's always like I'm not paying enough attention to her. I'm her only friend, and it makes me mad, because I feel like I'm losing my 3 best friends, and I don't want that to happen. I don't want to be Mary's friend, but I just don't know how to break it off with her. Help? Please. (link)
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well first I think you should confront her about the problems you have with her but in a nice way dont yell at her or anything just tell her that the whole attention thing that you have other friends too and also you do pay attention to her even if she doesnt think u do and if she still continues to act like she does she really isnt a good friend because she isnt respecting ur feelings.. hope i could help
Sammy
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