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Q: hi, i am 14/f....
and one of my friend's is cutting herself badly, and idk what to do, cause i promise her that i wouldnt tell anyone
but i am really worried about her, cause she is doing it really bad, and me and my other friend really want to help like talk to her about it
cause i have done it before it doesnt help and i know that now, and when i was doing it my other friend help me though it so she knows how to help to. and if we tried to talk to her she changes the subject
what should i do?!?!?!

not tryin to sound bad or mean but get her to rubberband instead. the pain is like cutting but you wont loose all the blood and wont have big scars to remember later. i did cut for a while i recently stopped. i rubberband now and my friends tried to get me off cutting. they helped alot but it was me that got myself to stop. theyd grab me make me listen theyd use tough love hold me down whatever. if you tell it will make it worse for her. no phyciatrists work just piss you off even more. just dont let any kids make fun about cutting in general around her thats when all hell breaks loose even if they dont no she does. um anything else ill help.

Q: My best friend's a senior. She finally got a car so she's been driving around lately. I haven't seen her over the summer or anything. i also transferred to a different school .. so I haven't seen her since the last day of school. We plan to hang out later today.. she's going to drive us to the mall. But in our next message.. she said i could save your mom the trouble and do all the driving... blah blah she could give me gas money and I'll do all the work.

Does anyone else find that a bit wrong? I'm poor myself, my family can barely pay for gas.
She's the one that offered to hang out and stuff, then she's thinking my mom will pay for gas money.

Is she only asking because she's a new driver and she realizes how much gas is .. or what?

when someone first gets their own car they want to drive it a lot. but are worried about how much money it will cost if their paying. i say why dont you pay half and she pay half because she is new. tell her you dont have the money. or let her pay and buy her an ice cream or coffee at the mall. hope i helped

Q: im new to this all and theres alot of questions about a person i think theyre from her. i think randomgrl if not sorry for bothering you. how do i find out if its her or can someone else help me i seriously need to know if its her. i havent seen her in awhile-HOW DO I GET YOU TO FORGIVE ME? i am going deppressed over you youre my best friend and ive never even had a girl really talk to me this much but your my bestfriend i just dont really understand you not in a mean way but your crazy my parents dont like you your parents dont like me we never can see eachother unless we do sneak. were loseing contact. your very interesting thats what i love about you but you scare my family. i love you. i need you. since the incident everything got so messed up im sorry real sorry i just couldnt take it there was too many of your friends around. you know who scared me so bad you know she scares me. i know i do get scared easily and you dont at all but i love you i need you i miss you. i am going depresssed over you. you make your life seem easy theres so many thing you cant take in your life and i get one thing and i go crazy i love you to infinity. im not sure if you still love me or not atleast like a little i know i messed up big time. the black was for you. now its summer and i dono what to do ill miss you so much if we dont see eachother. i know i really messed up at the party i hate myself for it i will do anything you want just forgive me. i was trying to make you jelous with your enemie never worked i never knew you hated her that much i am so sorry for that. im so sorry what i did at the party. im so sorry for all ive ever done to you. i never ment to hurt you ive never ever seen you cry and i hated it. you know i dont think before i act you know that. i found your art in your locker forgive me you are so amazing and interesting and you never hold back on what you think and your hott and mysterious and unique and strong and i love your art no matter what it is and i can go on forever and I LOVE YOU! how can you forgive me? all i need is to know if you forgive me and if you hate me. i love you no matter what they say i love you! please how can i make it so you can forgive me? how do i make it up to you? i kicked my bro in the crotch for you but you can do it again if you forgive me. he says you have the right to hate him he just doesnt want you to hate me. i love you i miss you i need you!

i forgive you~i could never hate you you know that~i do love you still i told you i always will~well i told you before the incident~zig was supposed to tell you what happened~i never knew you felt alll that about me thanks someone cares about me more than i thought~read your email i guess i was writing all this to when you were writing to me lol~whyd you write it all over an open site i have 6 email addresses and 5 s/ns and you could have called~ill finish over email~i do really love you but just a thought pay attention~your very interesting unique and cute too and are you still my pengi? tell your bro he deserves what i did to him over and over again ha but hes off this time. i forgive him for what he did and i forgive you too. i love you to infinity are you still my freaky dork. i love you. your really what i live for im happy once again i love you!

Q: ok i have this good friend whos depressed sad but she always says "shes fine" and act normal around everyone and i know that shes not okay even though she denies that shes sad. but she pretty much admit it when we talk online.but she doesnt know why she cant cry even though shes really sad what do you guys think the she cant cry? and what do you think she should do? and how to release your tears? thank you so much and im sorry because of my english is bad im from japan

i say its fine. no1 has seen me cry for a very long time. since my attempt i cry over the phone to my bff. thats all. since ive been going threw alot more than most people. but i now have meltdowns and cry myself to sleep everynight i couldnt cry at all befor my attempt but now i do but not infront of anyone. i deny it to and say in fine. but my friend found an icon f.i.n.e fucked up insecure nuronic and emotional. im in with all the goths im gothic since i became deppressed. although i am suicidal cutter and gunner, deppressed and denys all tears. my friends are the only ones i dont kill myself for. the first time i tried my bff came over right away bc i was on the phone with him and i had another meltdown. he came over and saw me bleeding almost to death and stopped it to save my life. i just turned 13 and that all happend at 12. is she wearing darks and death jewelry. check her wrists. most cutters start at the wrist to almost elbow. if you love her tell her you love her and would miss her. is she tough if she is use tough love if not be sweet. im tough i hate it when ppl are like all mushy. she is ok. although im the quiet shy girl but a super freak around my friends. to release your tears you have to find you life out for yourself and you need friends more than ever to live seriosly. i really hope i helped

Q: I lost all my friends 3 years ago, made new ones BETTER ONES! but i keep thinking that if i still was friends with those biotches then would i be happier? i know my new freidns are nicer but there not as popular or cool, i love htem so much more then those girls and i no there much better then those girls but i keep having second thought which i shouldnt bc my new friends are the greatest. what do i do to get those stupid unhearrd of thougth out of my mind. my old friends were so mean to me! they dumped me! all bc i did somehting by accadent and whatvever!

that JUST happened to me~i was in the popular btchs~they started hateing everyone but them~they mainly hated my (now)bff~they always said he was a btch and a dork~i went with him instead and they dumped me to~now i noticed how mean they are and how everybody hates them~now everytime i see them we just hate eachother just that turned all the preps and goths against eachother in my grade~for advice i give you forget them youll get alot more friends and better friends~you will really see the difference and how mean and how btchy they all are~if you notice that you will forget about being their friend~i have never noticed how much i was missing out on~i have true friends now~stay away from them if you like your best friends more stay with them~...they regreted it all now im the one that held the group together so their falling apart but tryin to stay together just to fight with me~i was never a real prep~now our group ~the goths~ are starting to become the most popular out of the hole grade~you will like your life alot more now~hope i helped

Q: i dont know why,but i cant make a conversation,i cant be funny,i dont know why no one wants to be my friend. im really self concious(sp?) how do i become wild,fun and outgoing? and funny? like i cant hold a convo. i have like no friends here for some reason. whats going on?i find myself boring,and blah,i dont like it! thanks for any help!

i an very random i wild and outgoing and funny and funn. just say what you think. if no one is talkin start a convo just start talkin about what ever. like if your outside i just started playin with a bee and sayin its my homie then the convo just goes on. if you hav random thoughts say it loud and proud 'i like pickels' or what ever. sit down with anyone start talkin to them ya meet alot of new peopl and friends .you could also dress up in costumes like halloween. i always were angel wings. hehe my trademark. i wear black clothes and angel wings. wear what you want. i used to care what everyone thought but now i dont give a fuck what ppl think bout me. now i have a very close group of friends i just made. i used to not have any friends but i just went wild and had fun and alot of ppl from different groups are together in my group there my homies. my friends i would do anything for. you need to go crazy and try all i do but im just crazy but my new friends are too there just like me. depends on your personality i like 'different' things. im sayin all i did to meet people. last month i had no friends but 1 my guy homie. im a 13 yr old gangsta and proud. hope i helped not sure if i wrote to much but i just went trough this i know how you feel ~hope i helped~ !be unique!

Q: I playfully punched my guy friend on the cheek. Now he keeps saying it hurts, and I should kiss it. Thing is, I really like him, but Ii'm super nervous to kiss it, even though he keeps telling me to. I want to, I'm just nervous. How can I work myself up to do it?!

kiss it, it will make him feel better since you hurt it, besides he even wants you to. do it

Q: my family used to hang out with another family every so often quite a few years ago. but every now and then we see them around but we dont really get together anymore. the boy that is my age has gotten really cute and his sister is a little younger but shes really nice and i like her alot. i see the sister sometimes at sports but not too much. i wanted to know if you guys think it would be a good idea to try to get to know them again. like try to get their screen names or talk to the girl when i see her about hanging out sometime to catch up. what do you guys think? and if we did would it seem weird if i was to just i.m. the brother to say hi again, like what if he doesnt rmemeber me i know the sister does but im not sure about him would it be weird or should i go for it? thanks!

that sounds just like wat happened to me~but he has all brothers but now hes my best friend again~i dont think it would be weird just say 'hi do you remember me (your name) we used to hang out like a long time ago' then just start talkin~hey it works~hope i helped~

Q: im 14 ~today was my bday ~valentines day ~all i could think about was my bff since 4th grade~hes a guy ~ive been staring to really like him and he likes me we both no we like eachother ~my family doesnt really care about me tht much and dont say o yes they do ~bc they dont they told me ~i hate them ~they fogot it was my bday till like noon and ive only been talkin about it for days ~his family is just like mine ~were both deppressed when were apart~my bff he was the first person to tell me happy bday and even sing it ~which was left on a message on my cell at 9:00am the time i was born years ago ~i called him back ~it was so sweet ~someone cares about me atleast ~one person in my life ~i really love him and he really loves me but every1 who dates ends up hating eachother i no we wouldnt hate eachother but ~hes the only person in my life tht cares about me ~should we date ~i dont wana lose the only person who cares and loves me ~and yes im gothic depressed but can u blame me!!! ~my parents dont care his parents dont care any of my cousins dont care no1 else cares about me!!!!!!!! exept him i love him i dont ever want to loose him ~and if we ever do date he cant come over as much ~we cant go anywhere alone anymore ~what do i do ~i hate my life ~but i love him with all my heart ~i got only the present from him today ~i dont really care about the present i just wanted to be with him 2day thats all i wanted for my bday ~i cry myself to sleep every night im cryin my eyes out right now and hes the ONLY person to ever see me cry exept my mom since i was like 5 ~what should i do i dont wana loose the only person in my life we both love eachother as bff and as bf gf ~and no im not going to see anyone for all my problems ~hes the only person i can talk to ~i hav tried to kill myself befor~before i met him~hes means the world to me i mean the world to him~we only have eachother ~we might runaway together ~NOBODY WILL CARE EVRY1 NOS NO1 WILL ~im not sein a pyscyatrist ~what do i do ~OMG SUM1 PLZ HELP ME

omg sis you never told me!!!~your bro~

Q: what exacly does understanding means? can you give me an example?

im from korea

if you understand someone or something you know what there talking about and listen to them and if you are not confused ~well i hope i helped~

bio

-i dont change for people -my only fear is being hated again -i am extremely hyper at times and adicted to coffee -i curse way to much -i have a bad temper -in love with taking pictures -has had a very emotional life -im NOT emo or gothic but thats what everyone wont stfu with -i think of guys as better friends -id be gone without my friends -my old friends have put me threw way to much -i used to be one of the popular people but now i cant stand them but still talk -i love guitars -my favorite music is taken away forever -ill answer any question honestly just dont hate me for bein brutally honest