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HEY! Its fun to give advice to people!! I just get on advicenators when i am bored, and look at questions of people. I try to give good advice, so i hope you like it!!
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I have a friend who I'm not sure if I should keep in my life. We've had great times and she can be really sweet and funny sometimes, and other times I feel like it's a bad relationship.
She lies, a lot. I've learned that it's easier to just roll my eyes and not confront her about it, because getting in a fight with her isn't worth it. She says a lot of things that I (and other people) think are complete bullshit. It just gets to be too much. It's not like I lie or exagerate or go on and on about how I have this great life that she has to live up to, so I don't get it.
Lately I feel like she ditches me for better plans and when I confront her about it she tries to turn it around and starts yelling at me. It's like she doesn't have my back at all. She wants to hang out when she needs a ride somewhere, or something like that. She'll call me one of her "best friends" but doesn't treat me like it at all.
Part of me wants to cut her off, but I'll miss what we have and it would be awkward because we have a class together soon and were involved in some of the same things and have some of the same friends. I don't know what to do without causing an argument or mess. I'm just tired of self-centered people right now.
Thanks
I think you should just gradually cut things off with her. don't plan to do things with her.. and when she asks if you can hang out or do things, just say, oh i would, but i'm busy that night. You dont need to be mean to her. And you dont need to tell her why. you have already tried confronting her with it, and that didnt' work, so why keep trying? dont ignore her, but don't continually put yourself in bad situations either.
I know memories keep people tied to eachother firsthand.. and i know how tough it is. but it sounds liket his has been an ongoing thing, and that things aren't really going to change. By ending things with her, you aren't destroying the memories you have with her. You can make good memories with other friends you have, and after a while you will be happy with your decision.
i hope i helped.. :)
Ok. I met this girl in my class last year. She gets hot headed easily and pushes people around. I don't want to be friends with her but I don't have the courage to say that. What should I Do?!
I have/had the same problem. What i suggest is just saying..hey....it's not that big of a deal, no use in getting that worked up about it or something like that. I really didn't want to be friends with her either so i just pushed her to hang out with other people. Well, give me an update in my inbox anytime! hope i helped.
See I just started Highschool and about turning 15 and I am rally skinny and people make fun of me and it hurts. What can I say to make them stop? Also I am really embarrass to tell anyone that I never kissed a guy( Is that bad)but I just hope I do before I graduate! How do I feel confident in myself in being skinny? and when will I finally kiss a guy??
I would definitely not worry abou tkissing a guy. It will come. as for the being made fun of, they are either doing it for one of these reasons:
They dont realize it's bothering you.
They are just trying to make you mad.
They are jealous of you.
Well, the first thing i would do is justask them to stop if you haven't already. The next thing to do is just ignore them. If you are happy with your body, there is no reason to be unhappy with it or change it in any way for other people.
My bestfriend is starting to get annoying she won`t stop bugging me. I come up with excuse so I don`t hurt her feelings but don`t get me wrong she is my bestfriend and I love her but just I don`t wan`t to hang out with her every single day. do you get my drift. But how do I let her down easy by telling her I don`t wanna chill everyday with you without being harsh
I had EXACTLY the same problem. I was about ready to slap my friend because all she ever wanted to do was hang out with me!! It drove me NUTS! What i did was i just started hanging out with other people, but still inviting her to come with us. She hung out with us at first, then found other friends. We still talk but are not best friends anymore. Well, leave a thing in my inbox and tell me how it goes!!!!
My best friend is Bi, she smokes weed, she cuts, and is into the whole "Emo, scene, be yourself type of phase"
She thinks I'm fake because I love to dress up nicely, wear "preppy style" clothes, and I like country music. She thinks everyone is really bi, and if you don't admit it youre fake. I'm sick of her and her other bi friends ragging on me cause I'm not like them! They're all like "hardcore" and they hate it that I'm friends with all sorts of people. I just relate to everyone a little bit, I'm just the type of person that will talk to anyone, they think I'm after popularity and I'm all fake for not sticking to one "type" How do I get them to stop ragging on me about this, and show them that this is the real me!
Well, to tell you the truth, i think they are jealous of you. But anyway, There are two things that i would choose from.
1. Ignore them. Don't even talk to them at all- not in the halls, lunch...nothing.
2. Make fun of them back. Well, there's not much to say to explain this, but they seem like there's a lot to make fun of. So, if they are making fun of you, do it right back to them
Ok, if you have anymore questions just put somethin in my inbox, i will answer! HOpe i helped...tell me how it goes!!
Sometimes my mom will say hurtful things to me and not even realize it.
"How can you possible have that many texts, you don't have more then 3 friends!"
(Keep in mind, this was after I just lost my boyfriend, best friend, and almost all of my friends so I was very upset from losing them)
"I would buy bigger jeans, you're getting fatter"
Even though I'm a size 1.
I've talked to her about this numerous times, but she just doesn't understand. What should I do?
I know this sounds mean, but i would give her a taste of her own medicine. When shopping and she picks out clothes, say mom are you sure you can fit into this? or things like that. When she does something just insult her about it. If she becomes mad you are sayinga ll this, just say, well i really want you to stop doing the exact same thing to me. I am going through puberty and yes, i will be getting bigger, but not neccessarily fatter. I want you to support me and my friends, and i do have more than 3. Even if i had only 3, i wouldn't want you to tease mea bout it. Things like that...i hope i helped.
can you give me a few ways to start conversation?
-starting it
how can you talk to someone thats walking?
[i see people i would like to talk to but they're walking =\]
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How are you doing today?
How is your summer going?
I can't believe the summer is almost over!!
Been spending a lot of time at the pool this summer?
Are you ready for school to start?
Hi! i haven't seen you in a while!
i hope i helped.
ok. so this is important to me..
I asked a guy how his day was,
and he was like
I didn't do jack today :P
and I didn't get that.. I feel dumb asking though.. Can someone explain this to me.
Thanks a ton!
:]
When he said i didn't do jack, he meant the day wasn't exciting and he did nothing. hope i helped.
My friend that is 12 years old acts really slutty and doesnt have any self-respect. shes really selfish and ugly. she dresses like a corner girl. how should i tell her to straighten up?
Maybe you guys could both go shopping together and pick out clothes for both of you. Then when she goes and picks something out and asks if you like it, just say, uhhh no i don't really like it,, but i think this would look really cute on you! and things like that. hope i helped!
Everyone is always saying i am too sensitive, even my friends! Once i was playing cards with my friends and then we played a joke on a friend taking away her card and she slapped my leg at least 5 times. So i told my friend and this boy was listening and said what you going to go cry about it. I get sad so then people say to me i am starting drama. I really need help on this!
Ok, next time this happens, i would just say, No, and i really wasnt talking to you...but please stop because i do not appreciate being slapped. If they continue to do it, just go and find something else to do...after a while they will get the message. I hope i helped.
ok. i have 2 best friends who i've been inseperable from since like 4th grade (one of them though since like kindergarten). and now i'm going into highschool. we're always together, (most of the time lol) i can tell them anything, we have so many laughs and fun times together, and i can totally be myself around them, which is great because i'm really shy. but last year, well technically still this year..lol 8th grade.. the one who i haven't been friends with since kindergarten..lets call her Jen. well Jen has been occasionally telling me some stuff about the other friend "Rachel" about how she annoys her sometimes, and stuff like that. ok so i was just talking to my friend Jen online. and this is sort of what she tells me:
she was like: no offense because i know you are really good friends with Rachel but i really dont like hanging out with her. then she gives me all these reasons why. she also telling me that she thinks Rachel has become conceited, and gave me a reason. "she just like acts immature sometimes and tries to be funny when she's not" thats also something she said. "like I'll be her friend and everything.but i definitely don't want to hang out with her a lot in highschool"
so my question is. do you think it is right of her to say this? we're supposed to be BEST FRIENDS, yet she's saying all this shit behind Rachel's back. i don't want our friendship to just die, i mean i have the greatest times with these two girls. high school will be a huge change and we'll make new friends and everything but i don't want it to completely tear apart our friendship. idk i just can't believe she's saying this because i feel like i have the best times when all 3 of us are together and now if Jen doesn't want to hang out with Rachel it will never be the same. what should i do/say to her? do you think it was right of her to say this? if you want the reasons of why Jen said what she said then give me your email and i'll tell you. thank you.
I think you should tell Jen that she can talk about Rachel behind her back all she wants, but not around you. Make sure she knows that you won't take it. Explain to her that she doesn't have to like Rachel, but you are friends with her and she shouldn't put her down like that. Tell her that if she doesn't like something that Rachel is doing, she can always talk to her about it and ask her to stop. If she is talking aobut Rachel behind her back to you, she might be talking about you behind your back to Rachel. May not be happening but you never know. Everyone has their flaws, yes , and no one is perfect, but she should still respect her. hope i helped!
The people that know me think that I'm a nice person, but people who don't, think that I'm stuck up and a goody-goody. It's as if getting good grades is a crime! They assume that I can't have a good time, which is really not true. People won't really come up and speak to me (especially boys) because of this. The problem is, that none of my friends can tell me what it is that makes me appear stuck up at a first glance. How can I appear to be a more friendly and approachable person?
The more answers, the better!
(oh, I'm not really worried about the boys. I have a boyfriend. it's just a detail.)
Talk to your friends and see if they have any boy's email addresses/phone numbers. Just go up to people and ask them questions like: so, what have you been doing all summer? and things like that to get a conversation going. Find something that you both like and talk about it. Get advice from some friends about things about boys that you want to get to know.
My "best" friend carrie went out with mark, who is one of my other best friends. They broke up after three days because Carrie thought Mark liked me instead and ever since then she has changed a lot. Slowly, she can began being obsessed with being popular, lying, attention, cheating, cussing, and she gradually pushed away all of her friends. After she had lost four best friends, she came to me. I heard Carrie talking talking to one of my friends about me and I confronted her CALMLY about it on IM that day.
Carrie: hey
Me: hi
Me: how come you said I was fat?
Carrie: what the hell? i never said that.
Me: I heard you say it
Carrie: I DIDNT SAY THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Me: I heard you and so did about three other people so don't lie. I just want to know why u said it.
Carrie: MY FUCKING GOD!!
Me: can you stop cussing?
Carrie: what the fuck?
Me: okayyyy im going to take that as a no
Carrie: you know what? fuck you
Me: I never even did anything to you.
Carrie: WHO GIVES A FUCK IF I CALLED YOU FAT!? GET THE FUCK OVER IT! FUCK YOU
Then she signed off.
An hour later she called me and said "Look, I'm sorry. I never even said that. I would not ever talk about you behind your back."
I didn't even want to listen to her try and lie again so I just said "ok I'm going. bye" and hung up.
A few minutes later, my friend, Samantha, signed on and said that carrie had said something else about me.
Carrie signed on.
Me: wow. you said ANOTHER thing about me? how do I copy you? Normally I could care less if you said it to my face..but you just told me that you never talk about me behind my back.
Carrie: so?
Me: so, you lied AGAIN.
Carrie: w.e.
Me: can you please just go back to normal..everyone wants the old you. you haven't been normal since you and mark broke up.
Carrie: i dont give a fuck
Me: please stop cussing
Me: ok look i was going to invite you to my party but i cant
Carrie: w.e.
Me: i dont want someone cussing in every sentence at my party and i've asked u nicely to stop
Carrie: I DONT GIVE A FUCK!!
Carrie: SHUT-THE-FUCK-UP!!!!! FUCK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Then she signs off and calls me and says, "LOOK I'M SORRY AND YOU CAN'T ACCEPT THAT, THEN SCREW YOU!" and hung up.
Well, what the heck? What kind of apology is that?!?! She's apologized two more times but I don't really think that's enough after what she did..do you?
Should I ever forgive her or just stop being her friend?
This is long, so I'll give 5's to anyone who at least tries.
Explain to your friend that you really want to be friends, and that she can always go to you as a friend just to talk. It sounds like she is very hurt that her and her boyfriend broke up and is covering it up with this behavior. Explain to her that it isn't helping and she isn't gaining any friends by acting this way. hope i helped!
My sister and I are into scrapbooking and she did a layout from when she was maybe 10 or so where her and her friends were playing with hair curlers in a game. I don't recall if she said it was truth game, but the object was to end up with the most or least (can't recall) amount of hair curlers in your hair. Does anyone know the name of this game? My sister is being driven nuts that she can't think of the name and of course I want to help my sister.
The game is called How many curlers.
see i have a big problem im good at talking to people about there problems and they like talking to me but im not really good at talking about my feelings when they get really badn i mean talking baout boys is ok and things like that. but i found out recently my friend has cancer and isnt going to be alive much longer this persons haveing a really hard time and it jurts me so much i think about this person everynight and i cry to myself at night the person kinda had a heart attack the other day adn i feel that its a warning that this person wont be with me much longer they thought about ending there life and there was nothing i could do i was up all night in tears afraid that when i woke up they wouldnt be there anymore and this person means so much to me and sure its hard to deal with loosing the person but i guess i just need to have faith but its tearing me up inside i hide it from everyone. i know its not good to keep this all inside becasue its takeing me over but its so hard to talk about ive only told one person about the least bit that the person only had cancer and i stopeed at that maybe im just afraid to open up and face that im going to be in a great deal of pain soon. i just need help to open up and to stop keeping it all inside i so much think of calling my friend and telling her everything but i stop and just think i need to open up im hurting so much inside becasue im holding this all in and i guess i dont want the person to see that becasue it will put them in so much more pain but plezz help me if u can i ll rate 5'd if good advice thanxs so much
and srry for the wrong periods and stuff but im typeing fast and trying to get this done without backing out thanxs so much in advance
This must be very hard to deal with and you feel as if you will always be sad. But think about the person with cancer. He/She wouldn't want to see you sad while they are alive, they would want to make what time they have on earth good. Also, you will have an easier time if you are happy while the person is still alive. It makes it easier for both of you.