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My "best" friend carrie went out with mark, who is one of my other best friends. They broke up after three days because Carrie thought Mark liked me instead and ever since then she has changed a lot. Slowly, she can began being obsessed with being popular, lying, attention, cheating, cussing, and she gradually pushed away all of her friends. After she had lost four best friends, she came to me. I heard Carrie talking talking to one of my friends about me and I confronted her CALMLY about it on IM that day.
Carrie: hey
Me: hi
Me: how come you said I was fat?
Carrie: what the hell? i never said that.
Me: I heard you say it
Carrie: I DIDNT SAY THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Me: I heard you and so did about three other people so don't lie. I just want to know why u said it.
Carrie: MY FUCKING GOD!!
Me: can you stop cussing?
Carrie: what the fuck?
Me: okayyyy im going to take that as a no
Carrie: you know what? fuck you
Me: I never even did anything to you.
Carrie: WHO GIVES A FUCK IF I CALLED YOU FAT!? GET THE FUCK OVER IT! FUCK YOU
Then she signed off.
An hour later she called me and said "Look, I'm sorry. I never even said that. I would not ever talk about you behind your back."
I didn't even want to listen to her try and lie again so I just said "ok I'm going. bye" and hung up.
A few minutes later, my friend, Samantha, signed on and said that carrie had said something else about me.
Carrie signed on.
Me: wow. you said ANOTHER thing about me? how do I copy you? Normally I could care less if you said it to my face..but you just told me that you never talk about me behind my back.
Carrie: so?
Me: so, you lied AGAIN.
Carrie: w.e.
Me: can you please just go back to normal..everyone wants the old you. you haven't been normal since you and mark broke up.
Carrie: i dont give a fuck
Me: please stop cussing
Me: ok look i was going to invite you to my party but i cant
Carrie: w.e.
Me: i dont want someone cussing in every sentence at my party and i've asked u nicely to stop
Carrie: I DONT GIVE A FUCK!!
Carrie: SHUT-THE-FUCK-UP!!!!! FUCK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Then she signs off and calls me and says, "LOOK I'M SORRY AND YOU CAN'T ACCEPT THAT, THEN SCREW YOU!" and hung up.
Well, what the heck? What kind of apology is that?!?! She's apologized two more times but I don't really think that's enough after what she did..do you?
Should I ever forgive her or just stop being her friend?
This is long, so I'll give 5's to anyone who at least tries.
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You were really nice in asking her to stop cussing. You even approached her calmly when she talked about. It sounds to me like she needs to chill out and accept that what she did was wrong. You can either:
1)Give her time to say sorry and just try to be your nicest to her whenever you see her.
2)Let her go.
A really hard decision. Just make sure, whatever you do, not to EVER talk about her behind her back. She would probably find out. Oh yeah, and instead of chatting with her on IM, talk calmly with her in person. Don't try to completely accuse her of everything, just say that you guys need to talk and that you do not want to lose her as a friend. Tell her that if she apologizes you will too (even if you didn't do anything). FORGIVE AND FORGET!!!
I have had friend problems for the past year and they are still going on now. I really hope this helps you out! It helped me!
Heart yazz,
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don't even bother for now.
she's being inhumane and super rude.
no one deserves to be treated like how she's treating you.
give it time and then if you see that she's changed, give it another try.
hope i helped!
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Stop being her friend. She doesnt treat you like one of her friends so theres absolutley no point in remaining friend with her. Maybe once she changes back or calms down you can talk to her about it. but until then keep your space.
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Stop being her friend!! She's being a b*tch to you and if she was really your friend she wouldn't be talking about you behind your back and then denying it. She sounds like she has some mood swing issues and needs some help. Don't worry about her and don't talk to her and just forget about her. Hope this helps you out some.
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i dont understand why you would want to be friends with someone like that but okay. why dont you try confronting her in person, that way she cant sign off or run away. if your still fighting then you can try to just drop it and wait a few weeks and see if she changes, maybe shes just still upset about breaking up with her b.f
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Explain to your friend that you really want to be friends, and that she can always go to you as a friend just to talk. It sounds like she is very hurt that her and her boyfriend broke up and is covering it up with this behavior. Explain to her that it isn't helping and she isn't gaining any friends by acting this way. hope i helped!
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