Hi. My name is Alissa-marie, by friends call me Alissa or lis. I'm really open to comments and questions, because i get them alot. OK, Im supposed to give some sob story of why im here. But thats not gonna happen. Because im here because i feel the need to help some one, and i like to do it. You dont like what i say, oh well. I am an up front person. I know how to beat around the bush and i know how to jump into it.(perferably, jumpin, lol)So, now u know a little bit about me. But this is all you need to know. Why? Because this column isnt about me and my woes-you can go to my live journal for that. This is about you. Ask intelligible questions, and you get one back. If you ask a dumb question -and i dont always have a sence of humor- dont expect an answer.**There is a wonderfull button called 'reject'...**
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Okay, well, there's a guy I know from MSN who I've been talking to for about a year now, friend of a friend, never met him in person. Last year we mentioned that it might be interesting to actually meet, though he did think that it might be a little awkward, but twice our plans got screwed up one way or another so we just dropped the subject. I didn't speak to him all summer because his computer broke down, and when he came back on I thought maybe I'd mention our idea again. He said he thought it might still be weird, but I said we should give it a try anyway because there was nothing to lose. He agreed and even suggested a place we could meet. A few weeks later, on a Friday, I said how about Sunday and he said yes, but we didn't decide on a time or anything, and come Sunday I didn't see him online until the late afternoon and he didn't even bring up our half-made plans. Anyway, the point of all this is that I really don't know what to do, whether I should keep trying or not. I really want to meet him because I like his personality but for all I know he finds me annoying. I don't know whether to let it go for another while so as not to seem desperate, or if I should just confront him and ask him to just tell me whether he wants to meet me or not so I can go from there. I really don't want to sound pushy. Sorry this was so long, but any advice would help. Thanks. (link)
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aswk him if he really wants to meet u or if he id=s kinda umcon=mfortable about it. And its a friends friend- they've met/. b/c if they have, whenever they go hang out maybe u can show up too...
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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I have no lessons at all with my boyfriend and only one lesson with my two best friends. The only times I can see them all is at breaktime (20 minutes) and lunch (1 hour) My boyfriend and his friends (who are my friends too) don't hang out with my best friends, how can I divide up my time during school so that I can spend time with all of them? (link)
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spend the break time with ur friends for a week and luch with ur bf, and then switch around. That way u can hang out with then all even though ur bf migh not want to hang out with ur bff's
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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my best friend's mom hates me! last night she listened into our convo on the phone then ally (bff) called back and told me that we weren't allowed to be friends anymore then her mom told me that she listened and didn't appreciate what i said about her(i don't like her) and she hung up. i started crying really hard for like five minutes, then ally called back again and said that her mom said that she crossed theline by listening in and that we could be friends as long as i don't go over to ally's house. it makes me feel better, but i still can't get it out of my head. i still want to be friends with her, but i don't want to deal with her mom. what should i do??!?!?!?!?!?!?
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forget her! she has made itr up in her mind that she doesntlike u. and thats that. so u should just make plans to go other places and have her come over to ur house. just totally avoid her mom and hope for the best!!
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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ok so i went to a football game this past weekend right and i saw all of my friends from my old school there that i haven't seen for like 3 years. so i was like oh kewl! then my one friends comes up to me and was like hey and i was talking to her about who else was there and she said my old good friend maya was there so i was like oh kewl then shes like yeah not really she's a slut now and then she took me over to these one dudes and they were like oh maya yeah shes a slut and i was like ok then so then i finally got to talk to maya and when i was done my friends like so... and i was like well shes changed. not like she was a hoe or n e thing i meen god i talked to her for like five miunutes. so then i talked to maya about it and was like whys everyone calling u a how and shes like who so we were talking about it and stuff and then everything was kewl but then today she pops up and was like w/e i know its you who thinks im a slut one of ur friends told me! so i was like wtf i never called you that! i meen god im so________________________ confused! i dont know what to do! please help!
please do not erase!!!! (link)
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be like, hey i didnt say that! we used to be so tyght, and u know t hat im not the backstabbing type. dont throw away our friendship when u know inside that whats-her-face is lying to you!! And youll tell her all of this if u want to be her friend.
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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Ok, I have been friends with this girl "K" for about 2 years. Anyways, "K" threw a big birthday party, but not all her friends were invited. So she told me not to say anything because she didnt want to hurt anyone. Well, after her party on the bus she and "J" were talking about a party that I wasnt invited too. I was just sitting there, looking out the window. Everyone who was invited to "K"'s party was invited to the other party. Right now it seems like all my friends are acting like that, talking to me and then when someone else comes, Im not there!
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dont sweat it untill after the party. what if it for you? than youll feel really bad. after that, get all up on her and tell her off. have fun!!
XoxO Alisa-Maire
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Ok, me and my friend **J have been friends a little less than a year. And well things between us have ALWAYS been more than just friendly (yes, like friends with benefits), but we can't ever be just friends. As soon as he finds a girlfriend, or a friend he who he likes more than me that will be flingy with, he leaves me alone, I mean he completely stops talking to me. Well the first time I got REALLY attached to him, I would have done anything for him. Then he hurt me, really really really bad, to the point where I started cutting. Then I finally forgot about him and as soon as I have COMPLETELY erased him from my memory, he started talking to me again. It started getting super friendly again, and I tried to not get o attached and I guess I just did get attached without realizing it. And well he hurt me AGAIN. We don't even talk anymore. It didn't hit me hard until today, and I just started crying in the car on my way home from school. When I got home I had to avoid people because my eyes were puffy. I hate the fact that I still cry over him. What can I do to feel better?
- the ** means the name was abbreviated.
thanks,
Genna (link)
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tell him that u appreciate being his friend but its not really ok 4 him 2 just ignore u like that. and also, u shouldnt get so touchy-eely if he isnt going to make sme kind of relatioship. i kno how it is to have some1 who wants 2 get all touchy feely wit u nd then just doesnt talk 2 u no more.
XoxO Alissa-marie
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okay, my best guy friend has this gf, theyve been goin out on and off for like almost 2 years now....me and her have ALWAYS been sooo kool with eachother, like i usta hhellaa like her n stuff...but they like ALWAYS fight and she could be tha biggest bitch to him...ive never said anything to her about it like stuck up for my best guy friend cause his gf was being a bitch to him...so ive had all this anger built up inside of me against her cause she can be so rude to him...so neway acouple nights ago me and my best [girl] friend got drunk and my other best guy friend was there...and they were fighting on tha phone so i got on tha phone and said with some aditute..listen do u even know how MUCH he LOVES u..i sware he would like die for u...and i said allllllllllllll this good stuff but with some aditute cause she was pissing me off..then she got back on tha phone with him and she kept argueing, and i was really drunk and i was like yelling out fuck that n stuff..and then she was saying some stuff then i got hella mad and started going off on her....and now we arent kool nemore...he says shes scared but i dunno whut to do. i mean hes like my BROTHER weve been best friends for sooo long he loves her so much and shows it and shes just a plain BITCH to him...whut do i do??/ (link)
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just tell him the truth- she acts real mean nd thats got 2 stop. if he should break uo with her, tell him that. u always have to stick up 4 ur friends- and tell him that ppl dont ALWAYS change... sometimes its just in their blood.
XoxO Alissa-Marie
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Ok HeReS HoW It StArTeD:
I WaS OvEr At My FrIeNdS HoUsE(aka person) AnD ThIs iS OuR CoNvO.
Person: Ummm I need To Tell you Sumin Serious But you Cant Tell AnYbOdY!!!
Me: Ok You Can TrUsT Me
Person: I think I mite Be bi
Me: Bi as in Bisexual
Person: Duh
Me: Wow
PersOn: I kno
Me: So r you atrracted to any of our friends?
Person: yea
ME: Are you attracted to me?
Person: Maybe
So Thats It. So Im confused cuz it kinda grosses me out cuz what if she invites me to sleepover and since i cant tell anybody about it she'll get invited to sleepoers nd stuff so she could try to make a move on me nd my friends i need help
ill rate!!
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tell her since your not bi, you are not really interested in her like that. You want to still be her friend, but you dont want to worry about you making a move on anybody whos not this way. It will kinda freak you out. Also, the cosmo girl for september has an article on when they tell you that!Hope i helped.
XoxO Alissa-marie
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okay well i have 3 best friends one is emily i've had for 3 years and the other two brittany and meghyn and i spent the night with meghyn and brittany this weekend, and emily is always like your ditching me.. sometimes i feel like i have more fun with brittany and meghyn then emily well see meghyn and brittany are popular and brittany is in my class so we hang out alot.. so hanging out with them makes me popular but emily is not so popular... what do i do about it? me and emily are good friends but sometimes it gets annoying we have been best friends for 3 years.. what do i do? mods please dont delete i really need help. (link)
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there is nothing wrong than wanting to have more than one best friend. Its healthier. You need to tellyour friend that she shouldnt be selfish. You, on the other hand, shouldnt hang out with ppl just because they might make you popular doesnt mean that you should leave a friend behind!
Xoxo Alissa-marie
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hey can anyone tell me what you think when i tell you that i call my friend all the time and he dont call me and i asked him all the time why he dont call and then sence recently i havent called for like a week he asked me why i dont call and when i kept on asking him why he dont call he said well stop asking me why i dont call does that make sence that he would do the same and ask why i havent called and to mention i call him mosly because i like him and i wanna build a stongrer frinedship (link)
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call him once, and then the nex time ask him about it. if u wanna be his friend, then u have to be upfront and tell him the truth. i want to be your frind, but u have 2 want to be mine 2! tell him that and it should be a succes!
XoxO Alissa-marie
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me and my friends have a so called"friend" named jodi.weve known her for like half a year.at first she seemed cool.but then she got really annoying.she started acting like a bytch and only do what she would wanna do.so should we keep talking behind her baq and acing like were her friend.or confront her and tell her we dont wanna be her friend
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confront her. Only bad things can come from acting like your here friends. Like a totally bad reputation! and you dont really want to be that mean to jodi, do you?
Alissa-marie XoxO
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one of my friends can never stay single for more than a week! when i first met her she had this boyfriend then they broke up and in a few days she went out with someone else then they broke up (but she swore she loved him) and then she goes out with another guy the next day. then when they broke up shes already planning to hook up with her friend. ugh! it pisses me off that she can never stay single while all my other friends don't care about guys! how can i explain this to her that she does not always need a boyfriend!!!!!! (link)
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Give her a dare- to be on a dating hiatus for one week! If she can not stay away from the boys for one full day, then tell her that she has a problem. If she can talk to her and tell her that she can do this more often. People will start t hinking of her as a hoe. That will be a problem for her!
Hope i helped!!
XoxO Alissa-marie
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ok see all the girlz are lie acting like bitches to me and im so sick of it like 1 point there att my house then the next day the acting like there all that and like i deont no there just mean so help! (link)
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You just need to drop them and get somenew friends.They obviously dont really apreciate you, cause if they did, they wouldnt treat you like trash. They would respect you. Tell them, hey i really dont appreciate how you guys have been treating me, so i think you guys shoud leave untill you can act grownup again. Dont get walked over, hony!
XoxO Alissa-marie
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My 15 year old friend engages often in un-protected sex. No matter how much I tell her to wear a condom, or my god, at least go on birth control, she continues to give herself to random guys, especially under the influence. Recently, she slept over my house and woke up with severe morning sickness. She also became constipated, and complains now constantly about her stomach hurting. She hasn't gotten her period yet either. I called planned parenthood for her and it did nothing. I can't think of anything else it could be but pregnancy, and they want to schedule an appointment, which would mean she would have to tell her mom, which, stubborn as she is, would be a struggle at best. She's my best friend, and I cannot see her do nothing about this situation...any advice? (link)
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Tell r to tell her mom for the last time. If she refuses, then you need to tell her mom yourself. If she pregnant, she is going to need all the help she can get, and by telling her mom, atleast youll be on her side. She may not see it that way, and be calling you things that you got over in elementary school, but you should. Shell understand later. And you need to tell her mom now so that if she is in fact pregnant, then her mom can start preparing her. The sooner you talk to them, the better. If you friend decides to tell her mom, go with her. But just as support. There will be a certain time when you feel u need to leave, and that will probably be your cue to leave. Have fun babysitting!
Hope I helped so late at night , ALissa
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ok... Me and my Ex-boyfriend Drew Broke up a while ago and he said he still liked me kinda and now he is going out with one of my old friends. I really want to still be friends with him and he is going to my school and I have lunch and homerome i think with him. But his girlfriend is going to another school! There is no way I can deal with that pressure... So I guess I am kinda askin 2 ?'s. How do I get my feeling out of the way? and how do I get him to be able to be my friend? Thanks! :( :)
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You should talk to him and tell him that you think he should stay friends with you. As for your feelings about him, we can only hope that they turn out for the best. Love is like a chess game you never know what you will happen next-will the king captivate your heart or will you find that hes has a queen to diminish you?
With love
ALissa mshonest4eva
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A new girl at our skool is 17, engaged, and has a baby. Shes still a freshman cause she was expelled from her old skool her freshman year. Everyone makes fun of her cause she has a kid and is a 17 year old freshman. She doesnt let it bother her, but it bothers me. Shes a good friend of mine now, and I want to be able to stop some of the stuff. Is there any good ways to make ppl just shut up about it?
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You should tell them that its her life. How would they feel if they were called a hoe? I'm sure that they wouldnt appreciate it! Also, the world could do without ppl who judge. If they say the same thing, then they are actually hipocrits. She may regret what she has done, but firstly, she deals with it, and secondly, she did commit abortion, which they might of done. So, actually, you can point out to them that she is a role model.
Hope I helped!!
XoxO ALissa
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I am going into my junior year in school in about 2 weeks. Ever since freshman year, I have had the reputation of being the "goofball" or the "non serious" one. I think this is what caused somebody at school to always say "I hate you" and make fun of me. I never hear her say anything nice to me. Once in a while she'll be like "Oh you know I'm just kidding right?" And I'll be like "Oh yeah! I know!" It doesn't bother me that she says "I hate you" once in a while just kidding around, but it does bother me that she treats me differently than everyone else. I think she thinks it doesn't bother me because I usually just laugh it off. But it does bother me. I'd like to be friends with her without her treating me mean. I don't really want to tell her it bothers me, because that would be embarrasing to me...and her. So, what's a goofball to do? (link)
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Pull her aside and tell her, hony, its id like to be your friend and all, but the i hate you thing has got to stop. Be honest!
XoxO ALissa
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nd shes really nice to me when its just us but if she is with another friend she is a butthead and i get madf at her all the time but then we talk on the fone or5 have a good time sumwhere and we r friends again what shuld i do i am mad at her again (link)
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tell her to stop being two faced!! You enjoy hanging out with her, but tell her that its hard to hang out with her and other ppl when she is totally mad and degrading. If she talks, listen, even if u r really really pissed. To continue in a friendship, both ppl have to be willing to listen, remember!!
ALissa
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what should i do with a friend that just sits there and does nuthin all day long just sit there not even watching tv (link)
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You should invite her over to do stuff with you. She may be depressed, and if she is, shes gonna need your help now more than ever! Whenever your going out with a group of friends, or with your mom and you dont want to be stuck with her all day, invite her to come with. When you go over her house, do craft projects. Get her INVOLVED!
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well i have a boyfriend but i really like my best friends boyfriend…but so does she…she absolutely loves him! my boyfriends really nice…and i like him and my friends boyfriend the same…which is a WHOLE lot…please help! (link)
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Whoa! 2 guys? Babe, chill it! Ok, lets slow down, we need to figure this out. You need to have a talk with your bf, and ask him, wtf? Do you really love me or there something wrong? Why ask him? Because, lack of attention from him might be the cause of your distress. You should give that a try. If thats not it, talk to your friends bf. Question their relationship. See what he says. Ask around. Is he a playa? Does he mess with ppls emotions? Then sit down and think it over. Thats all I can do for ya, hun!
Hope I helped! Alissa
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