My name is Melanie, and I'm 14 years old. I live in MA. I love to play soccer, and have been playing since I was little. I like to play other sports as well. I love hanging out with my friends, of course.
Lately I've been going through a lot of crap so I wanted to make one of these, so I could help other people if they needed it. Some people may not like my advice, but I can't please everyone. I'll try to help you as much as I can. If you'd like to talk to me on IM for some reason, my s/n is lostxinside87. My e-mail is SoccerChick62591@aol.com if you want to e-mail me, if you do, make sure you put advice in the subject, otherwise it will be deleted.
P.S feedback is always welcomed =). And thanks for those of you who give me awesome feedback, it's greatly appreciated, and I'm glad I helped!
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I am trying to plan a great slumber party for me and my friend but I need some help on finding some great slumber party activities like pillow fights,chick movies,and etc.
I will rate very high for great ideas!!! (link)
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I haven't looked at any answers below, so sorry if some are repetitive..
-"Girl talk"
-Kareoke [or just dancing around, listening to music]
-Games
-Truth or dare
-Prank phone calls
-Sneak out.. if you want to
-Pig out on food
-If you have any siblings, you can sneak up to their room and do something to them [at my
friends sleepover we painted her brothers nails when he was sleeping!]
-Make-overs; paint nails; facials
Hope I helped! And I hope you have fun at your sleepover!
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o0o0o0kkk well my best friend.. i get the feeling she doesn't like me and I REALLY WANT TO CHANGE WUTEVER IM DOIN WRONG but the thing is i dont no wut im doin! wut should i do to help our frendship here???
i rate high!
*~!desperate for help!~*
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Honestly, the only thing you can do is to talk to her. Maybe you could ask her how she feels, does she think your friendship is as great as it's always been? Does she not like something about you that you can fix? Just try to work out whatever you feel is wrong with her! Feel free to IM me at lostxinside87 if you need anything!
Hope I helped!
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What do you do when people tell you that you've changed, because i've been involved in alot and i've lost two of my really close friends because of that. What should I do? I don't even think I changed. I'm just being myself =]
xox !MaDiSoN! xox (link)
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People go through changes, and drift apart. Especially during the teenage years. Maybe you could ask them if you changed. Or even ask some of your other friends. But just remember to always be yourself. That's the best thing to do; you don't want to be fake. So many teenagers don't know who they are, and if you do know who you are you're lucky.
Hope I helped!
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Ok, well, me and my 2 friends, Emily and Zoe, were in the same class in 4th grade, and now this year Emily is in a different class than me and Zoe. She only has 2 friends, and some girl bullies her sometimes, she is so stressed out all the time because she has dislexia, and she cant "tell me and Zoe any of her secrets becuz she doesnt trust us" (?). Dont get me wrong, Emily is nice, and me and Zoe really want to be her friend still! Our friendship is fading and me and Zoe r pissed off. Please, what can I do to keep our friendship going?
I am a female and 13 years old. (link)
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I would try talking to her. Just tell her you feel you guys have drifted apart, and you don't want to drift any further.
Maybe you should try hanging out with her more. Try calling her more often to make plans, or even just calling a few nights a week to talk. Or you can talk online. She's probably just going through a rough time right now. Many teenagers go through rough times, and because she has dislexia she may be treated differently (like you said someone bullies her) so maybe she's been really upset lately. Maybe you did something to her that made her upset. Just ask her what's going on. She's the only one who can give you the right answers.
Hope I helped!
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A little while ago I made myself throw up cause I didnt like the way I looked.I promised my friends I would stop so I am,but my so called best friend wrote on her xanga that im bellimic and that everyone says I was just doing it for attention and for those who dont know wat an xanga is its like a website u can write things on and EVERY1 reads it cause alotta my friends have them and I didnt want any1 to know.Now I know that was wrong of her to post that on her xanga but I got really mad at her and I wont talk to her and we were just fighting last nite and we were cursing eachother off and I called her a backstabber.Do you think it was right for me to get mad at her? Do you think I should just let it go and apologize? I kno this gurl wont apologize to me cause thats how she is,but i dont know wat to do cuz I dont really wanna lose her as a friend but shes just really gotten on my nerves lately and she hasnt been a good friend to me.Thanks for reading this! (link)
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Well, it depends. Do you feel she is worth staying friends with? If you asked me, it was very wrong of her to do that, and you have every right to be mad. If you decide you want toremain friends with her you can apologize. But I wouldn't trust her right away. "It takes years to gain trust, and seconds to throw it away". If anything you should gain trust in her little by little. I would tell her how upset she made you though. You said you were trying to stop. It's not easy to stop, I know. I would recommend going to a doctor though. You could be bullimic. And if that's the case, it's not good. It eventually will ruin your esophogus and other insides of your body.
Hope I helped!
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I go to a private school, and my friend did also, but then she went public. i still keep in touch with her and she is still a really great friend. But now i have this other great friend in school with me and i'm not sure wiether to think she is a better friend or not. Should i replace her? is it bad that i do not feel as close to my previous best friend?
-dorinflower55 (link)
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I wouldn't say it's bad if your friend that switched school isn't as close with you anymore. I mean, you just don't see each other as often. However, I don't think you should stop being friends with her. I think you could keep in touch with her, maybe by IM, e-mail, mail, phone, or by hanging out every now and then. Because you guys don't see each other as often I think you'll both find other people you become close with, but that doesn't mean you guys should stop being friends! If you want, you can IM me anytime.
Hope I helped!
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OK, thanks 4 the advice. But I had this huge 2 hour phone call w/ her like last week. And she just kees on going. I mean I've told her so many times. And I've been thinking about telling her that this has 2 end and that we can't be friends. I mean, I've been best friends w/ her for like 4 or 5 years, and we deeloped a really close relationship. But I still don't know what to do. i am actually kinda scared 2 tell her cause she gets mad REALLY easily. I mean I don't want to lose her as a friend, but she makes me feel SOOO depressed and unimportant. So I still don't know what to do! HELP!!!!!! (link)
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If she truly was your friend she wouldn't be treating you like this. I think the only thing you can really do is try making new friends, and gradually move away from her. It doesn't seem right that she's making you feel depressed and unimportant. Friends are supposed to make you happy, and be there for you. You get what I mean? You can IM me anytime if you want.
Hope I helped!
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any tips on planning a sweet 16? like what kind of dress to get, howm any to invite, what kind of place too have it in..hotel..or wherever..any details or personal experiences..tips..all appreciated. 5s for everyone ! -ty- (link)
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Well, I can't really help you with the dress, because I don't know your style. For the number of people, invite as many as you want, but it also depends on where you have it too. For place you could A) Rent a hall B) Go to a hotel C) Take a limo and then go to a resutrant.
Hope I helped!
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OK, so I have this friend who is being mean. Ever since these two new girls came into our class, she has been hanging out with them. I am always left out and she makes me feel SO unimportant. I have tried to tell her about it, but she doesn't do anything about it. I mean she was a great friend, and I don't want to tell her that we can't be friends anymore because she has hurt me way too much. What should I do????? (link)
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I would try talking to her again, but if it doesn't work, I would try finding new friends. You don't deserve to be treated that way by your "friend". You could try saying to her "I think we've both changed, and our friendship isn't working out" or something like that. But she really doesn't seem like a good friend, and I think you deserve better friends than her! You can IM me anytime if you'd like!
Hope I helped!
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okay so this is the same person about the girl with the bulimia friend. okay i told her parents but they are like on drugs..so they really didn`t care.. i told my parents & i thik they might help.once they get there butts off the sofa..but like yea my friends is really really really mad at mee for telling on her but atleast she won`t die..right?
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Good job for trying to tell someone. It's the right thing to do, and real friends would do something like that. I would tell a teacher or your guidance counselor at school, I think they'd help her out. Goodluck.
Hope I helped!
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okay, so i have this friend, and she cuts herself. it really scares me, because one time she cut so deep that it wouldnt stop for a while. her dad abuses her, and she doesnt get along with her mom very well. her boyfriend went away for spring break and she misses him a lot. she cut herself again because she thinks her life is so fucked up, and she thinks she should die. i really want to help her, but i dont know what to do. please help!!! (link)
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You NEED to tell someone. It's not right at all that her dad is abusing her, he's probably one of the reasons she cuts. Try to be there for her too, it's always nice to have someone to confide in. I would say she needs to go to a counselor. You can IM me anytime if you want!
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Ok i am 15 yrs old am i am very small. My friends push me down and twirl me around. I am getting sick of them doing that. They think its so cool to be small but it's not! you always get underestamited!but I still wana be there friends!
What should I do?
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Try telling them that they're aggravating you. Stand up for yourself, and tell them to stop. Or push them back (not too much so you cause a fight), and they'll probably get what it feels like to be pushed around. But I wouldn't let them keep treating you like that! If you need anything else just IM me or drop another question in my inbox.
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Hi right well i went out with my two best friends today called k and m we went to a theme park! and some of the rides were two person seats! m always wanted to go with k she never seems to want to be with me on anything and im confused! my friends mean everything to me and i dont want to have a big argument! how do i sort this problem out becauses it kind of feels like she likes k more even though ive been best friend with them both same amount of time and i like them both the same!
please help rate high! sorry its a bit long (link)
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I would talk to k. Ask her what's up. Just say "I noticed the other day you were kinda ignoring me, is everything alright between us?". I think it'd be best to be honest with her about how you feel. Maybe she didn't notice what she was doing. Or maybe she feels her and m are closer. Hope everything works out!
Hope I helped!
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my xboyfriends brother just died today, and i i'm not dealing with it very well. i just dont know what to do, it feels like no matter who i talk to i cant lift up my spirits. my boyfriend right now has been doing everything he can to help me, but its not working. even people who arent my friends are helping me, im just not making any progress. what should i do?? (link)
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Maybe you could talk to your parents, I'm sure they want to support you. If you feel you're really having a hard time coping, maybe you could ask your mom if she can take you to a counselor. Or maybe you could see your guidance counselor at school.
Hope I helped!
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Hey, I like this guy alot, but he always wants me to do stuff with him more than kissing. Im 14 and I dont really want to b/c Im a Christian and I dont like to do stuff like that ..but I like him ALOT HELP ME! (link)
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Even if you feel you like him a lot, doing something you don't want to isn't right. I understand how you feel, a lot of teenage girls are pressured into doing things they don't want to with guys. If he truly loved you, he could wait. I know a good site you could go to, it's www.pureloveclub.com .. it has stuff on how waiting is the right thing to do and everything. Goodluck, and remember never do anything you don't feel comfortable with!
Hope I helped!
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ok so last night i was supposed to go to the movies with my friends. well i found out i couldn't because i had to go to my grandma's 60th birthday. well my best friend said she didn't want to go to the movies. so i asked her if she wanted to come over and she said yea. so i get home and it turns out i have to stay home and watch my little brother. so i'm like yes now i have a better chance for margot to spend the night! so i ask my mom and she keep's sayin i don't know n that she'll call me. so at like 7 i call her for the last time and i ask, i'm not worried that margot won't be home because she didn't want to go to the movies. so my mom says yes and i call margot's house, but her mom says she's at the movies. so i'm kinda mad and i call her cell and say hey you can come over after the movies if you want to and she says ok i'll call you. well she calls at 10:30 and says that her mom said no because it's too late. and i'm like ok. and she says are you mad? and i say no, but inside i'm freakin pissed! what should i do? sorry it's so long. (link)
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I would tell her how you feel. Be like "hey remember when you asked if I was mad? Well, honestly, I was". To me it's not right. I mean, if she decided to go to the movies, she could've called you. Maybe you could ask why she didn't call you telling you her plans to going to the movies were back on. I would forgive her though, everyone makes mistakes.. And if you think about it, at least she eventually called... better late then never.. right?
Hope I helped!
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Okay so my best friend is all of a sudden being a total jerk to me. She's saying I'm stupid when I'm an A- average student and she's a C average student. She's saying just because it took me a longer time to move up a level in gymnastics means I'm not as good as her when I'm the one who got her into it and she's only moving up a level because she wants to be better than me. I work my butt off to get the scores to move up but she gets a score 4 points lower than mine and she can move up. I have other friends but I spend more time with her. What should I do? (link)
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I think she might be jealous. Maybe she can't accept the fact that you're better than her in most things. You could try to confront her. But if you don't want to be friends with her, tell her you feel you two have become different and should go your seperate ways. You said you have other friends, just call them up more often. I'm sure they wouldn't mind hanging out with you =)! Goodluck.
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I moved to a new school and made friends with a lot of people but the ones I usually hang out with are Michelle and Mimi...well....personally, I don't really like them. We're just in the same homeroom and stuff. The other friends of mine, they are like a group and really close to each other so whenever I talk to them I always get lost and just sit there and listen to their conversation. Well, Mimi, she lies a lot, she's a copy cater, and a wannabe. Michelle, she acts really nerdy and a copy cater too. I've noticed that they copied me a lot...I don't really want to be friends with them but I don't want to hurt their feelings or anything and some other reasons like Mimi would starts spreading rumors about me...so What should I do?
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Maybe you could try telling them you feel your friendship has been fading apart. Or that you feel you've both changed, and feel that the friendship isn't working out. It's up to you though. I hope everything works out ok..
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i want to play some sports.. but idk what ones are good. any recommendations? (link)
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There's so many great sports out there! It depends on your age, and what you're interested in. My personal favorite is soccer. It's harder than a lot of people think though. Some other good ones are: track; keeps you in shape + it's fun, basketball, baseball/softball. There's so many! It depends on your gender too, you could try hockey, but some cities don't have teams for women. Sports are so much fun.. I hope you find one you love.
Hope I helped!
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I have so much going on in my life right now and i feel like i dont have anyone to talk to and i found out all the people i thought were my friends are just using me or are just jerk and my family is always fighting and my parents are divorced and i had to live up to all these high standardands and i cant get over this guy ahhhh i dont want to go back to my bad habits...drinking...drugs...cutting...any of that can you please help me (link)
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Well, to start off, you can IM me if you ever want to talk to me. I would suggest talking to one of your parents, whatever one you trust more. Tell them how you've felt lately, and maybe suggest to go to a counselor. If you don't want to tell your parents, you could go to your school guidance counselor. You should talk to somebody though, keeping things bottled up can lead to more problems. Maybe you could even write in a journal or something. If you go to a therapist they might be able to give you some anti-depressent pills, which might help you out. Just out of curiousity, how old are you? Are you a teenager? A lot of teenagers feel the same way as you do. Good job for not going back to drinking, drugs, or cutting. It can be very tempting sometimes, and takes a lot to not do it. I would suggest seeing a therapist overall.
Hope I helped! Remember, you can always IM me.
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