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hey everyone! im caitt♥ yes, im only 13, but trust me ive been through alot. from parents getting divorced, to bad relationships, to losing friends, to people from my family passing away, to my whole family being on a hitlist. so yeah you can pretty much ask me anything. i usually get a chance to get on this site at least once a day. dont hesitate to ask me questions. send me something in my inbox and your question will be answered the same day! also if you add me as a favorite columnist, i automatically add you because you added me =]. thanks for reading. byee♥
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A girl I know, but I'm not really good friends with, is having a pool party. She invited 3 boys, and I don't know any of them. I wouldn't care if they were there if it was just a regular party, and I have a boyfriend, so I'm not worried about any of that dating stuff. What I'm worried about is, that I hate how I look in my bikini. It's the only bathign suit I have, and I don't really want guys to see me in it. Especially when half the girls at the party, are anorexic bitches. I think it'd be rude if I didn't go, and I don't know what to do.
hey, well you should buy a different bathing suit that you feel more comfortable in. like instead of a bikini try a tankini. explain to your mom that you dont feel comfortable in your bikini and want a new one.
-caitt♥
Hey iam a 17 female and I just found out that one of my friends that i've been best friends since 2nd grade is bisexual and I don't know what to do is it ok for me to still be friends with her or what?my mom's very prejedice against people who are gay and bi and she told me not to associate with them,but she's my best friend and I don't think I can stop being friends with her all at once what should I do?
hey, well no you shouldnt stop being friends with her. just dont tell your mom that shes bi and everything will be fine. my cousin is best friends with a girl thats bi. there usually nicer if you ask me.
-caitt♥
My best freind tyler has been there for me but since shes been hanging out with this other girl she hasnt spent much time with me. What should i do?
hey, talk to her about how you feel. explain to her that like you miss hanging out with her and that you know she has other friends but you just want to hang out with her sometiems. also communication is important so wheny our not hanging out make sure you call her or something.
-caitt♥
Alright.....so I'm in the 9th grade and I'm 14. I'm friends with ALL guys.3 of them tease me about my boob size. I'm a 32B and they all say I'm small and I don't know what to do anymore. It gets really irritating and I just freeze and can't think of anything to say. Can anybody relate and give me a little advise here???
Thank You So Much!!!
hey, well if you want your boobs to appear to be bigger then buy a padded bra, if you dont already. also if they make rude comments like "you dont even have boobs why do you wear bras?" you can be like you wear pants dont you=]?
-caitt♥
Okay- I'm 13/f-
I have this friend who moved away a year ago- at first she called me to talk to me but know she calls and has her friends talk on the phone and she know I don't like talking to people I don't know and haven't met face to face I tried telling her to stop but she woulnd't listen and last time she called she put her boyfriend on the phone and he said "hey babe wanna see my (you know what except he said it out right)" So I hung up- I hate that- I don't mind hearing my guy friends talking abbout that but they never say it to me- do you think I should talk to he anymore? I was going to tell her"I don't want to talk to your friends if YOU call so, if that's why your calling don't bother calling again"and hang up but I don't know now what do you think- my mom hhas said she would tell her I was busy If I wanted her to but I didn't say anything
TY in advance
Jeni
hey, well i wouldnt hang up on her thats rude/mean. maybe she wants to talk to you, but is afraid to call you alone becaues there might be akward silences? you should find out what the problem is and why she always call with other people. try to cater to her answer. after that you should tell her that you dont really like it when she calls you with her friends and you want her to stop or else she shouldnt call anymore.
-caitt♥
i am 15/f. one of my best friends is 14/m. he told me last year that he liked me. i don't like him and have never liked him. i told him that. i thought he would get over it during the summer. however, last week school started and he's being very clingy to me and i'm uncomfortable with this. when we're standing in line for something, he'll stand really close to me and when he talks to me he'll get really close to me. this is really creeping me out. most of the time, i'll find a way to get away or go talk to another friend, but i can't seem to get rid of him. and i like him as a friend, but he won't realize that i don't like him in that way. i already told my best girl friends how i feel and they said that they would talk to him about it. am i doing the right thing, and if he doesn't stop, what should i do? i want to keep being friends with him. also, there is a big banquet in february every year for band students, and he asked me to it this year. i said yes as a friend (he asked me several months ago) because he shamed me into saying yes. how should i tell him that i don't want to go with him if he keeps being so clingy to me?
hey, first off i wouldnt have your friends talk to him about it. i would have you talk to him about it. you dont have to do it in person. you can do it on the phone or comptuer or whatever. tell him that you like him as a friend, but his clingyness is annoying and just plain creepy! i wouldnt tell him that you dont want to go to that school thing with him because thats mean [ how would you feel if you asked a guy to go and then he changed his mind? ] and you dont know how your going to feel about him in febuary.
-caitt♥
hi i finished my boyfriend today as i havent seen him since tuesday but i have only been going out with him for a week anyway and dont know him as well as i would like if i had a boyfrined. but i finished him as he used to go out with my best friend ages ago but they decided that they would be frineds instead although they absolutly hate each other now!! and if i had still have been going out with him i would have had to see them both separatly and i didnt want that! and people alway say that you should chose you friends over you boyfriends but i think i have realy hurt him and hes a bit anoyed with me do you thik i have done the right thing??? i have said i still want to talk to him but he dosent seem to keen.
hey, well go with your gut feeling. if you feel likebreaking up with him was the right thing to do for you, then it probably was. friendship is more important then a relationship with a guy.
-caitt
You can skip the background and just tell me if the poem is too personal to give to someone you've only met a few days ago if you want.
Ok so I met this guy a few days ago and he's perfect but I'm still not over this other guy. This guy is seriously awesome, he's -very- good looking, he's a cook and he spent all of today helping me fix my dining table because he fell on it the night before and broke, and he even paid for everything to fix it and extra stuff to make it look better because he said it was totally his fault. Anyway, he got out of a long relationship a few months ago and he today he had a first date with a girl he likes so there isn't much of a chance of us working out and I'm too hung up on another guy. Keeping this in mind, his birthday is coming up and he asked me to write him a poem because he likes personalized presents and he heard I wrote sometimes.
We met on Thursday and spent about four days in a row together. I'm writing him a poem and framing it. I wrote it directly from my heart and now I'm thinking it's a little too personal for someone I haven't known for more than a week. He said he wanted something really truthful because I warned him but I don't want to look foolish and I still want to be his friend. So is it too close?
What a guy.
You’re such a man
You're such a boy.
Your naive miniscule hopes and dreams
leave me in tears every time
you venture to say a word,
blinking with the beat of your heart.
Wrench my stomach into knots,
why don't you?
As I think of the clarity in your eyes
and I surmise
it's been a while
since you've been hurt.
The way you talk
and smile when you recall
how you were together
and refrain
from saying her name
and just refer to her as her.
Fictitious daydreams in my mind,
And I ask the world
to make you feel that way about me
not out of love or lust,
only for the sake of having you.
How strangely perfect
you are for me,
but cupid knows
that the subtle ache in my chest
and those cardiac arrests
aren’t for you
But wow, you’re such a guy.
hey, well some of the verses are a little "deep" but other then that i think its sweet.
-caitt
i have a guy friend. weve been good friends since we were five years old.A couple of years back i had a HUGE crush on him and he didn't feel the same way about me, but when i FINALLY stopped liking him he started calling me every night and claims he still doesn't like me.Do you think he likes me more than a friend or do you think he just wants to talk as friends? and if you think he likes me WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!
cuticle sistas!
hey, well i think that he has some type of interest in you. i think that he just feels stupid telling you that he likes you now, because he knows that you dont like him.
-caitt
ok, well..theres this boy that i like and i dont know if he likes me, we used to lived next to each other and we used to hang out EVERYDAY but, thne he move and now i only see him at school, but we talk on the computer and we call each other reguarly, and he acts normal around me and when someone else is there with us he acts different. He had a girlfriend, but my friend told him that I liked him and the next day he broke up with her, my friend says he likes me, but i dont know, cause it's been a week since he broke up with her and he hasn't asked or acted like he likes me, and the day he bokre up with her, he said "so your going out with 'blahh' and i said wat? and he said wrong person, sorry...does that mean anytything?! does he like me?
hey, i think he might have some type of interest in you. you can confront him about it and straight up ask him if he likes you. try www.links2love.com for some tips/help. in your conversation say something likee who do you like these days or somethng of that sort. also dont forget to mention that your single =].
-caitt
Ok so i have this friend...and I think he's bulimic. I saw him eating the other day and when he was done...he threw up and it looked like he made himself throw up.
What should I do? Should I confront him about it? Tell someone? Both? Please help, im really worried about him.
hey, yes confront him. explain to him that its very dangerous to be bulimic. if the problem continues at least you tried to help.
-caitt
My friend has tried to kill herself many times because she thinks shes ugly. I tell her shes beautiful but she won't believe me. People make fun of her and say shes ugly, but I told her its just because they are JEALOUS. I feel if I post a picture of her on here, and I want to know if you guys really think shes ugly. Honestly, I think shes really pretty but she thinks I'm just saying that. Do you think she's pretty? http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=21583599&imageID=983295681&MyToken=72866b2d-41b3-4a0f-89b8-e84a24a369a8 I'd mostly like guys to answer this because most of the time she tries to kill herself is over guys, but girls can give there opinion too. I need a lot of answers so I'm going to rate everyone who answers. She wants me to help her change her appearence so if you think anything needs to be changed like her hair or whatever just tell me, and I will try to help her. I don't want her to die, so please answer as soon as you can!
hey, i think shes pretty. maybe you could put some makeup on her. her hair is gorgeous, maybe some highlights?
-caitt
Okay so basically this summer i got in a fight with all my friends and now i only have one friend which is my best friend. but i want more friends for school. how do i make friends??
I want friends that i can relate stuff too.
please help ill lovee youu forever like seriously
hey, the same thing happened to me except during the school year. what i did was i made friends with the only friend who stuck by mes friends. in the long run they were much better then my odl friends and i still hang out with them to this day.
-caitt
ok....well me and this girl has been talkin for maybe 2 weeks and we rly like eachother but another girl ive known for like 2 days walks up to me and asks me to play volleyball and the whole time im playing volleyball ashhlynn thinks im flirting and all that crap and i was playing volleyball haha u know how that goes but she talked to this girl her name is misty i think and she was like i rly like him hes a great guy and hes cute and on and on and on about me and i figure out shes seen me walk through the halls and she just sees me everywhere ha and ive never seen her in my life. well ashlynn feels sorry for misty and shes like ivan we cant be together bc misty would get mad at me and not be my friend anymore.....and yeah i about cried ha
hey, i think i kinda sorta get what you are trying to say. but what you typed out is confusing, and i think thats part of the reason why nobody has answered your question yet. if you want you can try to re-phrase your question and send it to my inbox and i can try to help you out.
-caitt