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so i have this friend. we have been friends since like 6th grade, were in 11th. anyway..she honestly treats me like shit. i dont know why i am still friends with her. well no.. i take that back. i do know why. because if i ignore and just dont want to deal with her anymore she will seriously make my life a living hell. she has done it before. she acts like im not even a human. ive been the one that has been there for her since i dont even know. she is crying, im there triyng to help her. but when I am crying or something is wrong with ME, god forbid she takes 5 seconds out of her life to help someone with a problem and that its not all about HER all the damn time. i dont know what to do. im sick of it. when i get mad, i just ignore her. im not the confrontational type, i dont like bitching at people. i usually keep the peace. but she on the otherhand will rip you apart and make you hate yourself. its happened. today in lunch i was telling her something, because i mean her being one of my best friends..itd b nice if i was allowed to talk to her rtight? apparently wrong. i tell her something, she goes "ok, i dont care" and gave me attitude. so i just got up and went with my friend and i started crying so hard. then these other two gierls that i used to be reallly good friends with, not so much anymore, came up and talked to me., they care more than my so called best friend. she knows im mad but she will turn it around on me and be a bitch. i dont know what to do anymore. please help me! (link)
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hey,
Girll, i've been there for before, except my friends know how to treat me right because they're my friends. Friends as in; there for me when i need them, and respects me. && frankly you deserve to be treated that way too. Yes, you guys may have had some good times and obviously some bad ones too, but with a friend like that...YOU NEED TO DROP HER....and if she does try to maker your life a living hell...act like it's not even bothering you...TRUST ME THAT ALWAYS WORKS. don't sink to her level and try to make her life a living hell in return. From what i've read your'e a really good and people would love to have a friend like you.
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Ok well im going into eighth grade and i have never had a boyfriend. everyone is always like aww you should try to get one. and i tottaly have. but i dont hang out with guys to much. so wat do i do? (link)
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hey,
well um i'm about to be a junior and i still haven't had a boyfriend so your'e not alone. and trust me you don't need to have a boyfriend in the eighth grade.
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I don't think he's gay, but I'm not sure..
What I really want is like a brother relationship with him. (link)
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Like i said before, just really get to know him. get to know everything about him!...
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Ok, please hear me out, and give your honest opinion.
I am a male in high school and am a straight guy. But there is this one kid that I can't get off my mind.
He is a very good looking guy and he's not mean or anything, I just feel like I want to talk to him all the time and be with him. But every time that we talk I feel like I'm the one that keeps starting conversations and he never starts them..
I don't think I 'like' him, I'm not sure.
Like for example, he's a trouble maker but not a bad one, and every time he does something stupid, I'm always the one to look at his gorgeous eyes and smile and his smile is so awesome I can't even describe it. And the way he smiles at me I feel like there's something more.. but I'm not sure. :(
So as I said, I'm not gay, but I just want to bring up this relationship as friends and see where that goes.
How can I get him to talk to me more?
We talk on AIM, Facebook, MySpace, but we end up just running out of things to talk about..
ALSO! How can I get him to talk about his life? Like what can I say to him that will get him talking about himself personally.
Thanks!
-AJ
PS: I'm 15 and he's 14, we're both in the same grade. (link)
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hey AJ,
i appreciate the fact that you came to me for advice. And of course i'd hear you out, i treat everyone who asks me a question or wants my opinion as if it's one of my best friends.
Well to start off, do you know if your friend is gay? Because maybe that could help you sort out your feelings a little bit more.
Ok, well since you talk to him online most of the time, that's really good..and i'm prettyy good at starting conversation's...ok let's see you'll always get a decent convo by asking random questions, i know it sounds crazy or impossible, but Oh my dude it works!..lol
ex.
YOU SAY- "While playing paintball has someone ever shot you directly in the face?"
HE SAYS- "YES...that FU**IN SUCKS..but i got em' back..and....."
YOU SAY- "yea well, when my friend shot me in the face..."
i know it's corny..but i really don't know what guys talk about..but you know what i mean right?!
It's ALWAYS good to bring up something that has happened to you, and so..he could relate..or probably bring up something similar!
And once you start to have those random moments with him, the more you find about him, then he can get into personal information about himself.
oh and maybe you're just a little bi-curious and there's nothin wrong with finding your inner self.
If you need ANYMORE advice, feel free to come to me, not matter how long it is!!!
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Can someone please tell me what to do? I'm really crying my heart out right now because I think my best friend is mad at me, but I don't know what I did! It was maybe 2 days ago that when I'd try talking to her, or asking her why she's mad, she would just ignore me. She used to hate these 6th graders on my bus because they were annoying but now she's talking to them like she's their best friend. (We're in 7th grade) I don't know what I did! Sometimes she'd talk to mee like nothing was wrong, and then I'd try to talk to her again, she'd ignore me! Then it would happen again. I'm not sure if she's mad at me and my other 2 best friends, or just me. Sometimes she'd make gestures that told she was annoyed or something. Yesterday I asked her why she was mad, and she said she wasn't, she said it over and over again, but I know it's a lie, you can tell she's lying. Today she ignored me, and then again I tried asking her why she was mad, guess what? She STILL ignored me, and I was literally about to burst into tears but I held it in. I can barely breathe now because I'm crying so hard. We ARE really good friends, I swear we are, or maybe were, I could tell her ANYTHING, we've been BESTIES since last year. A LOT of people which most are my friends, would make fun of her all the time! And she wouldn't mind! We've been doing it since last year! I don't think she minds, but if she did, she would've been mad wayyyy earlier last year. I keep saying sorry, even if I didn't do anything, I don't know what I did. Please don't say to back off because I know! I just really want to why she's mad, and what's wrong. Please help me, tell me what to do. She's changed. She's plays this game "Maplestory" and she's obsessed with it! I'm SERIOUS. She's going to marrry some guy she met, and maple, her maple BF and friends are consuming her life, I miss my old friend. I know she pick her BF over her friends anyday. Then her Maplestory friends. I think it's really stupid that she's LOVE some guy over the internet, I just can't convince that it's wrong. I've told her plenty of times how dangerous it is, and how it's just useless, but nothing works. This isn't just with her. Last year I had the BEST OF FRIENDS. Now I barely get to see HALF of them, they moved, they don't have ANY of my classes, OR they've moved on and made new best friends. Yes. They ditched me. This one girl we were BEST BUDDIES last year. We could tell eachother ANYTHING. We hung out a lot. If she had a Myspace last year, she would be my #1 in my top friends, now I wouldn't even put her in there. I think her preppy life has changed her. Same with some of my other friends. I just miss my old friends. Where did they go? Maplestory has changed my friend. Most of everyone changed, and I feel like a piece of old trash/news to them, cause they have "better" friends to hang out with. Trust me, I DO NOT have the guts to confront them. I just can't. So please, someone help, I'm stilling crying HARD. I just miss my friends.
She's also keeping me as friend on Myspace, and I'm still number one on her top friends! I just don't understand. Why won't she tell me? I'll understand. I'll understand if she thinks I'm annoying, I know I am, if that's the case. It also seem like she would talk to everyone else, except for 3 CERTAIN people. I'm one of them, and the 2 are my other best friends. We're the top 3 who like to make fun of her. In a funny way. On Myspace, she still talks about her BFF's which she states, is us 3, but she's probably lazy to delete it. If she does decide to stop acting this way, then I won't know if she's just faking our friendship, which I know I'm not faking. (link)
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hey,
Your a good friend..scratch that..a GREAT FRIEND..if you're trying to find what's wrong with your bestfriend and she's giving you the cold shoulder and you can't take that for answer...GIRL YOU GO GUTS, you have a really good heart!!!!!
first off, you have a right to be mad,angry, confused,sad,depressed or all of the above. i'm a sophmore(10th grader) in highschool and i'm ALWAYS going through what you're currently going through. Your right about your best friend being mad at you, so that's why you need to just act like you don't care anymore. TRUST ME, after 2 days she's going to be like hey____(your name) and then act like nothing ever happened between you guys. this WILL DEFINITELY WORK..100% guarantee. And don't stress about it..you guys will be friends in a couple of days, just watch and see..good friends always end up back together. Oh, and other things might be bothering her too, so don't think it's you. And she might get tired of you saying "sorry" or "what's wrong."
"don't make someone a priority if they don't make you an option" [keep that in mind :]
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i am going to a party the 23rd and on myspace 4 girls that i thought were really nice and everything are plotting something to ruin my reputation, i don't no what to do but they think i'm a boystealer i mean i'm really not i just hang out with guys all the time because my sisters always did because they used to say how much easier it is to be friends with guys then girls and i like it too. But should i go to the party i mean its the first time ill get to see all my friends all summer and i usually just don't cheat myself of having fun. But please helP!!! i really don't want a bad reputation going into the high school!!!!! (link)
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oh definitely, ur sisters are so right. boys are way much more easier to become friends with than girls. i mean, i'm a girl and everything,, but they just cause too much drama..on a daily basis. but anyways, YOU SHOULD DEFINITELY GO!!!!...you get to hangout with your friends..and have a great time. yea, at first whatever they spread about you,is gonna hurt but,...it's all jealousy. strut your stuff...lol...work it..!!!! have fun..and be carefree.
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Ok I think he likes me but I'm not totally sure.I turned him down caus of my friends.I was just lacking cofidence.But now I'm not completely sure just what to say.Any sugjuesttions?Plus I have to call him and my ma don't like him or me dating.So I NEED HELP! (link)
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you should DEFINITELY stick with him. because if you don't you'll end up regretting it. and if your friends were your real friends they would encourage you, and want you to be happy. i had a friend that was like that towards me before. i liked this boy, and she didn't want me to go out with him, because of her reasons. And i should've followed my heart. Instead, i felt bad, and missed a great oppurtunity with a great guy. so don't make the same mistake i did...take chances...live,laugh, and love.
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So i know this story may sound selfish but i cant help it! My bestfriend( known her since 2nd grade got closer in high school) is bestfriends with this other girl(name=chy) she meant like ONE MONTH ago and i dont mind that but everytime i make plans with my bestfriend shes like ohh sorry im hanging out with chy. im like ok .. then like in school ill ask her to hangout when shes free and she will say CAN CHY COME ill be like umm i cant go and like i make it obvious i dont like chy because chy never liked me( and ive told my bestfriend this but shes like oh) ughh.! and my bestfriends computer is broken so she tells me to go check it for her and i do and i realized that her top is :: HER COUSIN, CHY, HER SISTER,ME
i didnt tell her this cause i think its stupid.
and i just cant stop but be jealous of their friendship. How do i get over this?
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ok. this has happened MANY times w/ my previous friendships. you should definitely talk to your best friend. Ask her "why doesn't she hang out w/you anymore?" don't mention anything about chy. because then, it would seem like you ARE jealous, then your best friend would start attacking you!![NOT PHYSICALLY] if she makes up some excuse like,"oh i'm hanging out w/ chy!" or something related to that, then you should ask her why does she like hanging out with chy more than she does with you, especially since you knew her since 2nd grade!!! if you need anymore advice, or need help, feel free to INBOX ME. =]
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My friend and I are good friends. But sometimes I'll catch my friend staring at me, and staring at me like she's mesmorized or something. It's not just that she stares at me, but she's stares at my boobs, at least that what I think, because it doesnt look likes shes looking at my face. Shes next to me all the time like in a give me some space kind of thing. Is she crushin on me or what.. ?
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i don't think she's crushin on you. i just think she's obssesed with your body. like for example a girl may find a guy attractive but, she may not even have one bit of a feeling for him. If it's creeping you out, i think you should tell her your a bit of uncomfortable with the way she looks at you. Or this also may be jealousy. she may love the way your body looks so much, the only thing she does is stare at you.
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So I have these two friends, Shelly and Gina. You see, when I hang out with Shelly and Gina separately, we have alot of fun and there's no problems. But, whenever I hang out with them together, like all 3 of us, i totally feel like the third wheel and they leave me out. They're always walking away without me, hugging each other, and telling each other they're each others` best friends. Sometimes it feels like they don't even know I'm there! For example, we were shopping at Old Navy awhile ago and they kept trying on the same things and telling each other what to wear, but when I said I was gonna try something on or I liked something, they either totally ignored me or walked away. Also, people always seem to associate them with each other and invite both of them to things, but not me. I'm pretty sure Shelly is doing it purposely, but Gina probably isn't. This is really making me feel bad. And it's not like I can move on and hang out with my other friends, or hang out with them separetely all the time, because i take dance with them 5 days a week and that means we're all together ALL year long. Any advice on what I should do? Thanks. (link)
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i was going to say confront them , but since you don't want that answer, make it seem like to both of them you feel hurt or leave them out.... you DON'T have to talk to them. after 3 days they'll question themselves and go up to you and ask you what's wrong..THEN that's the part where you tell them.
tell me what happens after that!!!!
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good luck!!!=)
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well i am moving to a new school. i mean these girls are beautiful and very mature. i made 3 new friends over AIM but they seem to be real sexually active. like they grind with boys, make out, and one girl even sticks her hand down boys pants! but i have never even kissed a boy and there are parties and stuff and i dont think i know how to grind or kiss or anything. I find it kind of gross but, i want to fit in. wat do i do? (link)
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if your around the age of 13yrs. to 16 i suggest you DON'T be like them. YES, it will be a temptation to follow them b/c "they're" everywhere but, you wouldn't want them to be calling you a slut now, would you? o.k. it's one thing to grind(not really a big deal) and it's a whole another CHAPTER to be "sex"ually active! being active can lead to unwanted things like "pregnancy" and things even worse like "STD's". so DON'T BE ACTIVE!!!!lol but uuhhh yea just be comfortable, don't make anyone pressure to do something you DON'T want to do!!!! and that sticking your hand down boys pants just makes me want to ~puke~. like seriously!! don't do that!!!! your probably a good person don't make your self a BAD one!!!!!
if you have anymore questions just get @ my inbox!!!!!
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good luck making friends
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Hey ok let me in on my problem, i am 18 years old and i am a fulltime nursing assistant at a hospital. my "best firennd" works a part-time job and dont work much and blames us not being able to hang out on my schooling and job. but on the off days that i can hang out if we do, she is constantly on the phone with her boyfriend,(i just broke up with mine). oh yeah and did i mention my ex is her boyfriends best friend. well anyway i tryto tell her that this upsets me but she dont listen she just continues to do it even though i ask her not to and not to mention she is always blowing me off to be with her boyfriend even after me and mine broke up and i needed someone to comfort me what should i do? (link)
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I say bye- bye OR get her in CHECK.
i know i would not like if my "BEST FRIEND" ignored me after a HORRIBLE breakup, and i would just hate it period!!!!!:( you're a VERY good friend for not lashing out on her..if you
think she's worth your time, i say talk to her!!!!even though you said she ignores you tell her ONE LAST TIME!!! if she ignores you that time then i say that's a friend worth throwing away for good!!!!that's no way for a friend to treat you like that especially a BEST FRIEND!!!!! good luck , and i hope you make a wise decision in deciding to throw her away or NOT!!!
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My friend, Austin, used to be overweight and lost a bunch of weight two summers ago. I lost a lot of weight too but not as much as her.
The thing that bothers me is that she calls everyone fat, if someone has an inch of flab -anywhere-, she'll call them a cow. Especially is she's mad at them.
She also thinks that anyone who is overweight is disgusting and lazy. She won't even consider -looking- at a guy who is a pound overweight.
She's not exactly skinny. She worries about her "gut" which is like a pound of flesh on her tummy (it's tiny) and I'm not fat but I'm bigger than some of the girls she makes fun of. I am more understanding though and I wouldn't secretly pick on people because of their weight.
Austin and I are like best friends. So does she think I'm a cow too? How can she look down on all these girls who aren't even all that fat and not look down on me? (link)
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personally, i don't think she is looking down on you because she is your best friend. i think it's time to have "that talk" with her. tell her it isn't nice to judge people according to their look(size) and if she still doesn't understand that bring back the old times when she use to be a little overweight! i think you're an excellent friend for not making fun of people because of their weight. keep up the good work, don't forget to get your friend in check!!!!!!!
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I have been best friends with this girl since second grade and now we're in ninth. but lately, shes been acting really jealous of me and she's not being a good friend. she has done a lot of things to betray my trust and she has been super jealous of me. my birthday is on wednesday. i'm turning fifteen and i'm cuban so it's a really big deal. she noes that i'm going to have a quinces and that it's going to be really special.. but instead of being happy for me about the good things coming my way, she's being super jealous. i can't talk to her about it because she would take it all personal and stuff... but what else could i do to show her because it's really bothering me how she is like calling every boy that likes me and talking about everything she wants for her birthday. it's not that i want to be the center of attention or anything because i'm not like that... it's just that i see how jealous she's acting and i don't like it. what can i tell her? (link)
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well i definitely think YOU should talk to her! it's the only way she's going to get in check and realize what she's doing to you. break down to her softly, MOST LIKELY she's going to understand how you feel since she's been one of your life long friends!!!:) if you use this advice, tell me what happens, if you still need more advice, feel free to comment or ask!! hope i helped GOOD LUCK
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One of my friends likes this guys and wants to date him, so we have all been trying to get them together. the thing is whenever we all go to the movies or whatever her best friend is always all over him. her best friend just got out of a relationship and is taking it pretty hard. lately she has been hanging out with my friend's crush (just her and him)
I was wondering whether anyone thinks that she would go for the guy. I mean normally i dont think she would, but she isnt in the best mental state. what do i do?
ps: the guy likes them both
Thanks!
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your kind of in the middle right now, just know you can count on me 2 help u out!!!:) well since the 2 girls you've mentioned(bestfriends are going 2 be going at it for a while.) talk to the other girl who just got out of the relationship and tell her that your friend wanted him first! don't say it so harshly just talk 2 her one on one and tell her that your friend wants him badly! since that is her bestfriend she should understand 100%. the guy should choose one. and IF the guy ends up choosing the other girl then tell your friend that there's alwayz going 2 be more fish out in the sea waiting 4 her!!! thanx 4 writing!!! hope everything goes grrrreeeaaaattttt!!
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Hey Guys, I have a HUGE Problem, I know you guys are probably gonna say "You shouldn't care what people thinks!". Well I need to answer that. I can't help it. It all started when Me and My best friend Amber. We Arn't Like That (Lesbian). She has a Boyfriend and yeah I am Single. We act like sisters though. We 'Sometimes' share a drink (pop, etc.). What I mean by that is. She could be drinking something and then I would ask her if I could have a drink and I would take a drink. Now everyone thinks I'm a Lesbain!! What Can I do To Get Them To Shut Up? I'm Not That WAY!!!!! (link)
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don't ever feel like you are a lesbian!! i know ALOT of people like that at my school. they're always eating or drinking off of eachother! that's okay to do that. well if u really are annoyed by this unwanted attention then stop drinking off of her then. sooner, people will realize that your really straight! or you can like sit with another friend for like a week then go back to your friend. i'm not saying to drop your friend just act like your taking a break from her. then people will finally SHUT UP!!!! thanx 4 writing!!!!
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Ok, so i have this friend named *ang* and she was my friend the whole sumer. I was either talk to her on the phone, she was over, i was over her house, or she was at the pool with me. Ok so when school came, this friendship went down, she turned into a wana be popular girl, anging out with them, and turned into a backstabber. We still stayed friends. So i decided to take dance with *ang* and she was so happy and so was I! So tonight is our dance recitle, and she hates me. She caleld me a bitch, she gets into my email account, but then, after, she just comes back to me. and me being to soft harted i accept her apoligy. If i doont, she gets totaly mad and starts spreading bad rumors. ive told my parents, and ive told teachers, and en talked to her, nothing has worked. please help me solve this problem. (link)
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hey,
feeling blue? well don't let that dumass freakin 2faced bitch break you down even more! just STOP being her friend,S-T-O-P! NO MORE 2ND CHANCES. NO MORE SOFT HEARTEDNESS. let her know that your not no rag that she swipes up everyday! then CHANGE YOUR PASSWORD TO YOUR EMAIL ACCOUNT! if she's still spreading aboutyou then tell the principal on her. your not tattle tailing on her you just don't like what she's doing 2 you.thanx 4 writing!!!
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My so-called best friend...K,..was talking about me behind my back. And when I confronted her she was like "OMG I SWEAR I DIDN"T SAY THAT!" Because, her boyfriend, my good friend and ex, just broke up with her and she said that he left her for me. I know that doesn't seem like something to get mad about, but it made me furious! Because, I liked him, and I told her too, and she just forgot about it and omg,...do I have a right to be mad? Should I just forget the whole thing? Thanks in advance!
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hey! it's alright 2 be mad about this. just realize that if you guys get into an argument it's all of the boyfriend's fault. tell your BEST FRIEND why would she talk about you? you never talk about her. just remain friends with this boy. because there is a chance if you get with your ex again this might seperate your relationship with your friend for good! take time to talk with your friend she's probably just confused with everything and just needs a shoulder to cry on. your good friend don't let a boy get in between your friendship.
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My friend is really cool and stuff but sometimes she can be a huge pain in the butt. She has a lot of boy troubles. She is kind of mean to most boys and will like hit them and stuff. She still likes boys though. She says that no guys like her because she is fat, short, and ugly. Thats not true at all though she is really pretty. Then she says that everyone likes me(which isn't true) and she says that I'm miss prefect because I'm actually nice to guys. It makes me really mad. how do I tell her in a nice way that She is too mean to guys and that if she is nicer to them she might be able to get a boyfriend. I will rate answers! (link)
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hey!
if your friend is that mean to guys then just tell her straight up! if she wants boys to like her then she will take your advice into consideration. and it won't hurt saying that she brags to much about how she's "ugly." always encourage her and say she's pretty! because she will soon later realize that she is beautiful in the inside and out!
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mah friend used to like this kid named billy, she liked him forever but he never liked her back. Now she has a boyfriend and I like billy. She doesnt know, and she still likes billy also. I think that she cant have her cake and eat it too.. since she has a boy friend she should get over billy. what should i do? billy said that he likes me and might wanna go out with me, should i go out with him and for get about mah friend or what?
please i rate well!
Jackie (link)
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to start off with, you have to tell your friend about the feelings you have for billy. if your friend has a b.f. and still has feelings 4 this other guy why is she even going out with him? DON'T 4 GET ABOUT YOUR FRIEND! you should go out with him. ***hershey wishes hugs and kisses***
GOOD LUCK thanx 4 writing :)
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