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Do You Think I'm Fat?
My friend, Austin, used to be overweight and lost a bunch of weight two summers ago. I lost a lot of weight too but not as much as her.
The thing that bothers me is that she calls everyone fat, if someone has an inch of flab -anywhere-, she'll call them a cow. Especially is she's mad at them.
She also thinks that anyone who is overweight is disgusting and lazy. She won't even consider -looking- at a guy who is a pound overweight.
She's not exactly skinny. She worries about her "gut" which is like a pound of flesh on her tummy (it's tiny) and I'm not fat but I'm bigger than some of the girls she makes fun of. I am more understanding though and I wouldn't secretly pick on people because of their weight.
Austin and I are like best friends. So does she think I'm a cow too? How can she look down on all these girls who aren't even all that fat and not look down on me?
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I think your friend is just trying to make herself look good, or trying to give herself more self-esteem.
Maybe you should remind her that she was once fat and that she didn't like it when people made fun of her (if they did) so she shouldn't poke fun at them.
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Obviously she`s not looking down on you. She`s just teasing girls who are fat because she was once fat & she`s proud that she lost weight. But she`s a little bitch for doing that. No offense, but she`s shallow. You guys are best friends, so I highly doubt she`ll be calling you fat behind your back or even in front of you. She probably isn`t calling you a cow because she actually knows you..You know?? Well maybe you should just ask her the same question that you asked us. ♥
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personally, i don't think she is looking down on you because she is your best friend. i think it's time to have "that talk" with her. tell her it isn't nice to judge people according to their look(size) and if she still doesn't understand that bring back the old times when she use to be a little overweight! i think you're an excellent friend for not making fun of people because of their weight. keep up the good work, don't forget to get your friend in check!!!!!!!
***HERSHEY WISHES HUGS AND KISSES***
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If I were you, I would remind her that she used to be overweight and she's being very shallow for making fun of overweight people. Tell her that some of the girls that she's making fun of are skinnier than you. She might be looking down on you but doesn't want to hurt your feelings, or she just says those girls are fat to make herself feel better when she doesn't even think they are fat.
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Austin obviously still has serious issues about her weight; just because she's lost the pounds from her body doesn't mean she's lost the problems in her mind.
Part of her might be thinking, Well, I lost the weight, so why can't other people?
But at the end of the day, everyone is responsible for their own life and their own choices. You can't control how she thinks anymore than she can control the size of your thighs.
One way to move forward to is talk to Austin. Let her know how hurt you feel when she makes anti-overweight people comments, and also tell her that you feel worried she may be judging you in her head.
A good friend would make an effort to reassure you how she feels about you, as well as watching how she spoke around you in the future. If she continues putting people down or begins to say mean things directly to you, it may be time to rethink your friendship.
A secure person doesn't need to harshly judge other people by the standards they have set for themselves. We're all different, but we're all human.
Best of luck.
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