hey everyone... Im just a girl that loves to give advice...and hopefully im good at it...dont get mad at what i say tho because all I do is tell the truth on how i feel
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Location: Maryland...the best state EVER
Occupation: middle school...it sucks majorly
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my best friend is going out with my other best friends step bro. we will call them k&j. well j's brother only comes down everyother weekend and thats the only time k goes there. j is always saying that she feels left out cause k is always with her bf. when i talk to j she seems upset. do u thin is k using j. cause i really dont know and if she is should i bring it or just keep it to myself. (link)
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wow that was realllly confusing...say this question in simpler form and put it in my inbox...thanks
hopefully ill be able to help
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Okay, I have this friend, and he's a boy, I'm a girl. I just want to be good friends, but I know (well I guess I don't really know, but I strongly think)that he wants to be more than just friends. And I can't take that. I mean, what would happen if he asked me out and I'd have to say no? What would that do to our friendship....? Do you think I'm leading him on my being his friend? Please, I need help! (link)
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no you deffinitely arent leading him on by just being a friend...leading him on would be flirting and stuff like that so if he does ask you out youll just have to tellh im that you dont like him like that and you just want to be friends it might hurt him but hopefully he will forgive you ang you can still be friends
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Hey everyone, Siren here...I'm lost on this. Here's my shpiel:
This girl has been my best friend for around 13 years. Last year, I got a boyfriend and she got really clingy; called me every day wanting to hang out. It drove me nuts, but I think she stopped calling once she realized I wouldn't abandon her.
That was the start. Now, I never wanna hang with her anymore...Being around her bothers me, and I can't figure out why.
She sits with me and my choir friends at lunch, but she doesn't speak to them, only me, and when she does, it's off topic. She'll interrupt a convo I'm having with another friend to talk to me about something else and it's...grr. I feel like I wanna talk to her sometimes, but I almost don't want her to sit with us...
I know sometimes friendships die, but I really don't want to lose her, and I hate feeling like I don't wanna be around her. I used to tell her EVERYTHING, all my secrets...she used to know the most about me of any of my friends, but I stopped telling her because she doesn't seem to...care?
It might be that I grew up a lot, and she hasn't quite, but I'm not sure that's the only thing that's screwing up our friendship. I'm sixteen and a girl, she's seventeen, if that makes any sort of a difference.
What should I do about this? I asked my dad (he's a psychiatrist) and he didn't know what to do; neither did my mom...so I turn to y'all. (link)
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well i had the same problem with my friend except i hadnt known her nearly as long as you have known your friend...but i had to cut my friendship i ended it because it wasnt healthy for me she stressed me otu soooo much and it just was not a good relationship...she cared only about herself and not me...but now i have a really close best friend that i never had a chance to hang out with cuz i was with my other friend...so i think you should just tell her that you cant be friends with her anymore...and you have otehr friends that you can hang out with so it wont be bad for you and hopefully it will reduce some of the stress or pain your having
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Ive had this friend Z since 7th grade and we talk everyday, mainly cuz he IM's me all the time. But I also have a boyfriend that ive had for a year and 7 months and they obviously dont like eachother. Z doesnt like my boyfriend cuz he doesnt talk to him and that bothers him and my boyfriend doesnt like him because he thinks that Z is tryin to steal me from him. Well...lately its becoming a little obvious hes jealous. But in the last couple days everytime he talks to me he keeps talking about his ideal girl and theyr some things i have in common with his ideal girl. Everytime i ask him if hes talking about me he keeps sayin that he thinks im "a cool person to talk to" and "im a great friend". But yesterday he told me he had an opionion about me...but has kinda been avoiding me all day today. Not knowing this is driving me crazy. But the main point here is...is this guy sending me mixed signals or what or does he want me in a more than friends kind of way...plz help, sry its so long, ill rate a 5 if u answer. (link)
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hes sending mixed signals...its like it sounds like he wants you as a girlfriend but then he says like your great to talk to and that sounds like your a good friend but thats all...so im sorry that this wont really help but your gonna just keep getting these signals unless you ask him what he feels...and tell him he needs to tell the truth
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ok-i live in southern louisiana and were out of school today (wednesday), tomorrow (thursday), and idk yet about friday for hurricane ivan. so on my profile it says holy crap no school tomorrow! i mean a lot of people put stuff like that ya know. (and for people that live up north, to get a day off for a hurricane is like ya'll having a snow day-thats how it feels) soo my mom and my bff's mom work together at a preschool and thats where we met when we were 3 years old and now were almost 13 so we go there with our moms to hang out n stuff sense we dont go to the same school. and well were actually born 2 days apart but shes shorter and umm lets just say not as well devloped as me! soo yeah and shes sorta immature, but like not like stupid immature, but like her family's kinda strict in a way like she cant see pg-13 movies until shes 13! (which will be in december) but anyhoo- so cusing isnt THAT big of a deal in their house mainly if the dad would say "damn" or something only everyonce in a while it would be ok but like my friend says them like when shes saying a story or somethin. but back to the story: well i had my away message on and she got on the internet and was like hey OOO u have a bad word on ur pro! (and i could kinda tell she was joking ya know when i was reading the message) but then she was like but seriously thats not like u? why did u say that? but she has no clue i actually cus kinda normally, like say crap and stuff which techinically isnt that bad a word and i say it around my other friends and stuff at school but she signed off b4 i had came back. but i dont get why she thinks its that big of a deal if i would say something like that-yeah maybe shes not that used to me saying it but idk...am i over reacting?
and im really sry this is so long but please help! (link)
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well i think shes overreacting...im 11 and i say other cus words **like real ones** but its probably just from her family backround and shes not used to it **poeple where i live are bible thumpers...people who like live by the bible** and they always overreact the same way when i say something like crap when i drop something or something or other...but i think its not really a big deal and you dont need to do anything with it
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hey. ok well i like have this friend whos birthday is in like 40 days exactly. and im not quite sure which of 2 movies she'd like better. but i can only pick one.. i think..? maybe. well anyways, which movie do u think she'd like better for her birthday?? Saved or The Day After Tomorrow?? Ok thank you for ur help on a situation as serious as this is =]
~Ananymous(i cant spell)~ (link)
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well i think personally that i would like the day after tomorrow becasue a little birdie flew to me to tell me that you 2 saw it together and it would symbolic and cool...haha and jake gylanhaul **or however you spell his hard last nam** haha its just as hard as mine! anyways he is sooo hot and its such a good movie...so get her the day after tomorrow
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I have a friend who I like very much, but who has a habbit of asking me to call her because she's feeling low at really incovenient times. I want to be there for her, but it becomes problematic when I feel I can't fairly say no when she asks me to call for a few minutes because she's feeling low, even it's like 1am. If it really was a few minutes, it would be fine, but once she has me on the phone she's impossible to let go, because every time I talk about having to be up in the morning she talks about how people always seem to let her down when she needs them. I do want to be there for her, but I do need to sleep too, and I simply can't survive on talking till 2am or later every night to get up at 7am. How can I be firm about needing to get off the phone without offending her? (link)
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i have that problem to with my friend its like she uses me to make her feel better...and it sounds the same with you you need to just tell your friend that you will be there for her but cant be talk on the phone all the time or the lack of sleep will make it worse...how are you talking to her at 1 in the morning when she wants you to call anyways?
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im not sure if this is the rite category but im a 14 year old male and i wanna run away. i dont like tthe way im being treated at home my parents r taking away my comps cuz they saw somethin on this site that they didnt like and they think i had somthin 2do w/ it. my mom is always yelling 4 no reason she thinx im always doin somthin rong my dad gives me no privacy and tries 2 read my messages. i hate having my life consumed by them. i want a life of my own.so should i stay or should i go? (link)
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I think you should totally go...if you really hate your life with your parents at least try living somewhere else...but you need to be prepared dont just suddenly leave with out anything but clothes and a toothbrush youll need money(dont steal from your parents that will turn into a mega huge mess)
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i have a problem i have a really anoying friend and i dont know how to get rid of her she just wont leave me alone! how do i get her to get out of my face¿ (link)
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tell them that they are annoying you and you think you need to take a break from your friendship...if they say that they dont want to then tell them you think you shouldnt be friends with them any more if they arent going to respect your opinions
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okay. . . ive been really upset and depressed lately and i told my best friend that she neva talks to me and neva calls me or makes plans anymore (shes moving in 4 days) so she said that ive changed and that she never wants to talk to me and that im giving her an attitude and that im a bitch. and in my info it says that i dont have anymore best friends and she goes "and u wonder why you dont have any best friends" what should i do??
and oh yea, shes having a going away party soon and im supposed to go. Should I go, or not? (link)
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shes being a real b**** and if shes moving you probably wont talk as much anyway...i moved last year and i never talk to my old friends...also shes probably just really upset that shes moving and taking it out on you... I dont hink you should go to the party because she might just make you feel worse...only go if she appologizes and says that she wants you to go
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A couple of my friends always tell me that im so gorgeous and they wish they looked like me n stuff... yeah, its flattering but it makes me feel uncomfortable and a lil guilty or something. should i do something? or what can i do so that i wont feel uncomfortable... thank u (link)
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that happened to me toyou can tell them that you dont wont them to keep telling you that and that it bothers you hopefully they will understand and stop
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okay i hang out with a group of about 8 girls...its kinda split up, its kinda like me and my 3 other best friends, then them tha 4 other girls. between tha 2 groups in one, weve had our fights and up and downs. but now one of tha girls in my group is moving away in 2 weeks to Hawaii..then another girl in my group is getting soooooo close to tha other group..now its just me and my best friend and we feel left out and everything. please dont say that i needa have a talk with tha other girls, cause we are sick of even bringing it up cause they never listen and dont really care...next yr at school me and my best friend are gunna feel like losers cause its just gunna be me and her!!! helppp (link)
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try and be better friends with the other girls hopefully they will become better friends with you then they were before...and if the other girl thats getting close to the other group if really your good friend then shell try and bring you two into the group more
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umm.. i have this friend and she is like my best friend but ever since her and this other girl that she met have became closer friends she has shut me out and i dont know what i should tell her and so i said something to her about it and she told me that she didnt want to tlak to me ne more if you have ne advice that would be helpful plz answer me i will rate everyone that answers my question thanks alot
-DesPErTlY WoRrIEd- (link)
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i think you need to tell her that you want to be her friend and that you hope you still can be friends even if she has a new friend also
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Okay, So I got this guy friend right, who is an ex we dated about 10 months. well now after we broke up and all I realized how much he really gets on my nerves, for one : he's 18 now, well I take that back he's 19! but anyways, He still hangs out with people my age and stuff, (i'm 15), he got mad when I told him he was immature, and he gets all offensive when I try to help him. In his online journal he called me "ms. bitch" and it was definately unneccisary. I just think he should find people his own age, and do stuff most 19 year olds would do. so what should I do? I want to be his friend and all, but I just think there's more for him... (link)
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you cant change a guy and you shouldnt try he doesnt want to be your friend you should just leave him alone just because you dated doesnt mean you have to be his friend after you broke up
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Ok theres this grl that i dnt like at all we have gotten into soo many fights and she makes me feel like shit when we get into fights..((there over the stupidiest things too))No body really likes her caz of her bitchy attitude..:x i have alot of confidence so im sticking up fer myself i dnt need herr Sh*t! But she wants to be friends with me and again..should i become friends iwth her again or stand my groound? And if i stand my ground then how do i tell her to bak off and not call me ne more because if i dnt do it nice she will spread shit about me!! :`( Help me plss!!
**RR**
rate fives to who ever helps mee! (link)
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tell her you dont have friends that make you feel like that but dont be harsh girls tend to overreact say something like you shouldnt be so harsh to the people you want to be friends with im sorry but you kinda blew your chance with all the stuff you have said to me in the past
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Well me and my ex boyfriend Kevin just broke up yesterday....well today someone called me and was like you dont know me but i am one of phylicias friends and do you care if her and Kevin go out so i sed no...nut i really do care alot...Phylicia is like my BEST friend in the world and i still like kevin but i dont know? What should i do? (link)
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well now ther isnt anything you really can do you should have told them yes i still have feelings for him... even if it made you look bad you wouldnt have been lying but since you did you should tell her that it bothers you that they are or are going to go out
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im going to my friends house 2morro and well the girl that owns the house i havent seen her ever since school ended!! shez my best friend!! but sumtimes my friendz think i act like a looser... i dont wunna look bad n act like a looser 2 so wut should i wear? my other best friend is coming and she alwayz thinks ima looser!! but she thinks that with alot of her best friendz were all so crazy!! lol. help!! =) (link)
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if u r going kinda late go shopping and get a really cute skirt **light colors are cutest** and a white top **low cut if you are going somewhere with them or halter** if you arent going late then wear sofees and a tank top or halter **again light colors if you have them they are very summmery**
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i have had this best freind of mine since i was in 4th grade. recently in 8th grade she and i started acting really different. i cared what other people thougth of me, and she couldnt care less...i knwo i shoudlnt care...but thats not what im askin advice about. well one time she told me that she had to go to the doctor and i might never see her again and left it at that. so i was worried. well it turned out that she had family problems and she was cutting herself. well we 'broke up" as friends and my parents are always askin why dont i ever talk to her anymore. im afarid that they wont except that we broke up bcuz she acted weird and i just thougth she was plain weird for an answer...what do i do? (link)
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I think you really need to tell your parents...and you should try to help your ex friend... even if she is your ex friend you should check out some clinics that specialize in trying to help people with that
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I have like a lot of friends but the only time i see them is at school or at a party i throw and none of them ever call me except for my bestfriend and maybe one other person once a month, and i just want to have people call me to see what im doing or to hang out, what should i do? (link)
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maybe try calling them??? that idea ever pop into your mind... it is such a simple solution... and suggest doing other things out of school besides a party that you throw
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How do I get more friends?? I have two best friend but it feels like no one else is really my friend.... like I only have 2 friends!! I think I'm pretty... I mean people tell me I'm pretty and modeling agents come up to me (not to sound cocky but I'm just trying to tell ya the whole story) I used to be popular back in 8th grade but now I dont know what happend.... I mean I have A LOT of "not really/kinda sorta" friends. I know i need to "be myself" but I dont know how to... HELPZ (link)
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I cant tell you how to be yourself... but to get more friends you are going to have to go up to people and say hi or whatever dont make them go to you
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