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you can email me: xasktiffany@yahoo.comI like dancing, music, Jake Gyllenhaal, t-shirts, comedy, summer nights, funny movies, and photography.
I hate perfectionists, although I can be one, people who edit their pictures with peace signs and dumb quotes, and flies.
I like giving advice. I don't know if I'm any good at it. Nobody has told me either way.
Ask me whatever, I'll do what I can to help you out.
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Alright I know I need to talk to her about it, but help me out here. Okay so my friend, we'll call her "B", decided she was going to save herself for marriage. Her mom got her this really nice purity ring for christmas. Then B left it in the girls bathroom at school, so of course it's long gone. So her mom baught her another one. There's only one problem now. It's that she didnt keep her promise. Now she had talked about saving herself for marriage and everything for a while now. Then she goes off and does this, with a guy she met only like 2 weeks ago. Not to mention the fact that he didnt even ask her to be his girlfriend until like a couple days after they had sex. She's just going about like it wasnt even a big deal or anything. I dont know if I have a right to be even a little angry. And if I do, what do I do have a right to angry about? I dont know it just kind of upsets me that she did that. Whats your opinion? Am I overreacting? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
I personally think you are overreacting. It's her decision. You can be mad at her all you want, but that's not going to change what she did. So I guess just move on, you can tell her that you don't agree with what she did, but I don't think that'll get you anywhere.
xxtiffany
a) what are some fun things to do with friends
i feel like were always on the computer
b) what about some fun things to do alone at home
for both im looking for some creative interesting things that are fun. where i could be like "wooo that was a good idea to do ! i didnt just waste my night!"
please dont tell me to take up a hobby or something :P
kthx
-take crazy pictures
-bake/cook new food
-watch movies
-dance
-get a puzzle
-board games
-take a walk
-throw a party
-go shopping, exchange clothes with each other
-make movies
hope this helps
xxtiffany
iam in love with a guy he seperated from his wife over 2 years ago she cheated on him and walked out on him and his 2 kids and we have a great friedship but i have fallen in love with him and i know he thinks the world of me but he is still in love with wife my big question is should i stay and wait and see if we could have somthing special or should i walk away and always wounder
You need to do what you think is right in the situation.
If he has separated from his wife, it wouldn't be wrong to tell him you have feelings for him. I would tell him, because you don't want to go through life regretting not telling him.
xxtiffany
i downloaded the adobe trail thing.
but i still dont know how to use it to just have my eyes stay the same color while everything else is turned to black and white
can you tell me how
Haha, sure!
First go up to 'layer'(should be up on the bar that has like file, edit, window, enhance, help, etc) and select "duplicate layer"
Then make the second layer black and white
Then use the eraser tool to erase anything you want in color, and VIOLA!
(if you want to save it to upload it to facebook/myspace, make sure you save it as a jpeg format)
hope this helps!
xxtiffany
* be prepared, its kinda long.
ohk, so my best friend, who i have known for about a year and a half, we've been really rocky lately.
let me explain:
she is a VERY clingy person. she will cling to 2-3 people for long periods of time. it annoys the shit outta me, but i live with it. we're friends. ive tried telling her, but whenever i try, she always gets so mad + gets VERY defensive. so wuht should i do about THAT problem?
wait, theres more.
2 weeks ago, she had a movie night, she didnt invite me, + she always does, i didnt do anything to her, i wasnt mad at her or anything, + she invited kids who she barely talked to, which i really didnt undertstand. i texted her asking her, + she was just all pissed off, so i just didnt text her anymore.
we rarely talk anymore, + if we do, its alkward. wuht should i do about THAT problem?
theres more:
++ then, we were on the bus coming back from a basketball game, this girl, asked me, "hows yer boyfriend emily?!, i said really good, and then my friend pipes in, and goes, "EW, HES SO UGLY!" + she said much more stuff about that, and i got REALLY mad. wuht should i do about THAT?
two more things:
im nothing but a friend, and a good person to her, and all she does is treat me like shit, so i told her, that ive never gotten so much disrespect from a person, no one has ever treated me with so much disrespect like she does, and that she should be ashamed of the way she treats me. was that good to say?
+ one more thing:
we are going to philladelphia, for a class trip, and i wanted to room with her, so i asked her, she said yes, and then she got put with me, and got all pissed off, because i guess she had already made arrangements with her other friends, which she didnt because i was the first one that asked her, and she keeps denying it. + she wouldn't talk to me + she got all pissed.
wuht should i do about THAT?
thats it, but from wuht i have observed, if she needs to cling to people, shes really insecure, + has low self esteem.
but, i need some help + peoples opinions.
thanks SO much everyone.
This girl has a problem. Some kind of emotional or social problem.
I think you should just leave her alone, apparently she doesn't want to be your friend right now. Maybe because you told her she was too clingy she tried to make some new friends.
I say, you don't stop being friends with her, but wipe the slate clean, so to speak. Just forget everything that has happened and tell her how you feel. Don't bring up ALL of these examples, she'll feel like shes being attacked. Tell her you feel like she doesn't want to be friends anymore, and you don't understand why
Hope I helped
xxtiffany
me and my bestie do everything together. i mean EVERYTHING. we have a group of like 25-30 friends that all hang out together and get together weekends and stuff, but me and her are ALWAYS together outside of that and we sometimes just hang out alone of course when we are feeling less social. but well we've been best friends for 5 years now and we've only been through one bump like 2 years ago and it was just a whatever thing. but we are so attached...i dont know what i am going to do when we go off to college. she is way smarter than me so there is like no way we'd go to the same school. and we talk about it sometimes and it usually endes in our reminising about things and becoming sad. will i be able to make a lot of friends in college that i will be compatible with? im the type of person thats going to need someone there to help me cope with everything. of course ill still call my bestie!! but i mean im def gonna need someone to help me through the college life as well and i just need reasurance that i will be able to have that...
Part of going to college is becoming independent.
I had to leave all of my friends to go to a new high school and make all new friends. I still talk to all of my old friends and we hang out. Me and my new friends get along just fine. Plus, if you are getting a dorm, you will have a roommate to help you cope :) In few cases, the roommate sucks, but you still have someone there to talk to and hang out with. My collage brother absolutely loves it. He made all new friends that he hangs out with all the time. Its not just his roommate either, its all the guys on his floor.
As long as you are friendly and yourself, you won't have to worry about making new friends. And nowadays there are SO many ways to keep in touch with your old friends (facebook, myspace, cell phones, aim, texting, etc.)
good luck!
xxtiffany
Im 15yrs old female.hes 16 yrs old.
i hav a best guy friend were really close and i wanted to know how can i tell if were just freinds or not.we flirt alot but he says he doesnt want to be in a relationship.he told me last week that he knows so muc about me that it seems like im his girl.but it was over a text so i didnt really know what his emotion was at the time.he asked me onto go to the movies yesterday but my mom said i couldnt go.he never mentioned the word date tho.but weve talked about if we were in a relationship before and he says it might b a good idea.we fight alot but makeup and laugh about it after.i really dont know how this is gonna end or whats gonna happen.
Ask him if he wants to hang out again sometime.
Tell him how you really feel about him. If he knows you really like him, maybe he will be ready for a relationship.
xxtiffany
female. age 13.
one of my best friends ever is getting really depressed. and he wont tell me why. all i know is that it's about a person and a place. i really wanna know what's wrong. but he wont tell me.
and i respect his privacy. but everytime i talk to him he sounds all depressed. and it kills me inside to see him hurt. and i have alot of my other friends going through depression. it doesnt help that im getting a razor tomorrow. so i can cut.. again, the bottom line is. i need to know how to figure out how to find out what's wrong, i wanna be there for him. but i cant help him if i dont know what's the matter. i need help on how to find out how to figure out what's wrong. and i really wanna know if i like him as more than a friend. even though we're friends with benefits. i mean. please. tell me how to find out. PLEASE.
Before you help him, you need to help yourself.
Stop cutting. Get help, fast.
I know this will get a low rating, but it will be so much easier to help him if you are stable yourself.
xxtiffany
My friend, Jayelle (16) is very into drugs and although I have been friends with her for three years, I'm way different than her. I'm not into that and no one can influence me to do so. However, she's ruining her life and she doesn't care and slowly she's trying to drag me with her.
Her parents don't know that she uses drugs and I don't see how. She's always high and she has drugs in her room. They're clueless. I don't feel comftrable being around her anymore and I have talked to her about it but it goes in one ear and out the other so I stoped trying.
She got upset with me because I did not want to hang out with her because of it and I honestly did not feel guilty for it.
Here's the problem. Both Jayelle & I got invited to a college party but I would not go because they're crazy and I did not want anything bad to happen but she still decided to go. She called me at 2 in the morning asking me to come pick her up. I'm also 16 and I don't have a car of my own so there was no way I could leave. I felt really bad because I knew she was in deep trouble. High, drunk and with a bunch of older guys. I freaked out so I called her older sister who is 18. She acted calm and went and picked her up. I got a phone call from Jayelle the next day cursing me out and blaming me for getting grounded. I felt really bad but I honestly don't feel like it's my fault.
Even though I don't want to be friends with her because of the things she does, I still don't want anything bad to happen to her. Her mother found her drugs and basically cursed me out for it because I didn't go with her to the party and "protect" her. I was shocked.. hearing that from an adult! My mom took my side and is proud of me for not following into her footsteps but there is a part of me that feels horrible. What do I do. Thank you so much!!
I think you need to tell this girl that you cant hang out with her until she stops doing drugs.
Its a sucky situation, and you just have to move on.
Shes an idiot for using drugs, and you should be proud that you wont let yourself be influenced to do the stupid things she does.
xxtiffany
Ok, please hear me out, and give your honest opinion.
I am a male in high school and am a straight guy. But there is this one kid that I can't get off my mind.
He is a very good looking guy and he's not mean or anything, I just feel like I want to talk to him all the time and be with him. But every time that we talk I feel like I'm the one that keeps starting conversations and he never starts them..
I don't think I 'like' him, I'm not sure.
Like for example, he's a trouble maker but not a bad one, and every time he does something stupid, I'm always the one to look at his gorgeous eyes and smile and his smile is so awesome I can't even describe it. And the way he smiles at me I feel like there's something more.. but I'm not sure. :(
So as I said, I'm not gay, but I just want to bring up this relationship as friends and see where that goes.
How can I get him to talk to me more?
We talk on AIM, Facebook, MySpace, but we end up just running out of things to talk about..
ALSO! How can I get him to talk about his life? Like what can I say to him that will get him talking about himself personally.
Thanks!
-AJ
PS: I'm 15 and he's 14, we're both in the same grade.
Hey AJ, thanks for posting in my inbox!
Okay, well you said you werent gay, but could you maybe be bisexual? Also, you are at "that age" where you might be "curious"...if you know what I mean. It might just be a phase. If you are bi, there is nothing to be ashamed of. I personally have a (female) bi friend and when she told me, she asked if i was freaked out. I said no, which was honest. She told me how a lot of her friends turned on her when she told them, probably because they were afraid she had a crush on them. BUT ANYWAYS, back to you. There is a possibility you are bi.
Okay, how to talk to him more. If you are in the same classes, ask him about homework, a test, or anything school related. If a conversation doesnt really kick off from that, dont hang around trying out different subjects all at the same time, its a little weird/clingy, if you know what i mean. Next time, ask him what he did over the weekend. Ask him if hes busy and wants to play basketball, or go to the movies with a bunch of friends, or whatever you or he likes to do in your (or his) spare time.
TO get him to talk about himself personally- just ask! dont be shy. You can say anything. Ask him if hes trying out for, well this might be a little late, but basketball or track or whatever other sports your school offers. Ask him if hes trying out for the school play. Ask him what hes doing over the summer. Things like that can spark good conversation.
I dont know if i helped you, but if you need more advice, let me know, or email me xasktiffany@yahoo.com
xxtiffany
i hooked up with my friends bf. yes it was stupid and i really regret it so dont tell me how bad it was. I feel terrible but i made a mistake. now everyone knows. what do i do. (we have the same freinds)
go up to your friend and explain what happened
and sure she'll be REALLY mad at you for a while, but if i were her, id rather hear it from you than from someone else, this way you can show her you know it was wrong and it meant nothing to you and you feel really bad
dont push her to forgive you, cause like you said, you know how bad it was.
xxtiffany
14/f
me & my boyfriend are REALLY REALLY serious and i dont know what to get him for christmas.
i was going to get personalized dog tags but i found out he wouldnt really like that.
well now since i know that im going to get him a joke gift of a dog tag that says michelles property 9-21-06 (name& date we started dating.)
now i know i at least am going to try to get a chain for him...i know hell like it for a fact... but thats all i know to get him.
(other things ive given him before:
-personalized chocolate from hersheys
-100$
-a watch
-pj pants
-favorite deserts
and thats all)
i cant think of to give him.
(remember i cant drive and dont have any one to be able to drive us anywhere for a dinner or anything like that.)
Thanks MAJOR in advance!!
you already did the personal chocolate, but you should get him some M&Ms that have both your names on them, or i love you
you can also make a scrapbook
http://www.wikihow.com/Select-a-Gift-for-a-Guy
xxtiffany
Hey. I'm 14/F and my friend is 13/F. She was diagnosed with Luekimia last month. Can anyone think of thinks a FOURTEEN YEAR OLD can do, someone with very little money on her hands, to raise some money or help out my friend Caroline. I really want to help, and someone else has already organized a walk to raise money so that idea is out. Any ideas would be very much appreciated and I do rate.
Thanks.
P.S. I don't know what kind of luekimia she has but I know she has started Chemo already and she's really sick due to the side affects of it.
And the ideas don't have to raise money, but if it's something that can make her feel a little better, or comfort her please let me know, I want to do anything it takes to help her.
Its so sweet of you to want to want to help your friend out! And im so sorry about your friend.
You can start to raise awareness in your school.
Put up posters, make announcements, talk to teachers about bringing in guests to speak to your school about leukemia.
Collect donations at your school to give to a leukemia fund.
Also, you can make your friend a scrapbook! Fill it with pictures and memories of you and all your friends
xxtiffany
Ok im 15/m and i have a bestfreind whos 15/f, well i am a very quiet guy and calm but she is the complete opposite and shes always dressing sluty, i dont like her.
Although sometimes she cool most of the times i hate her.
I only see her as a regular freind not as anything else, I dont know what to do,
weve been freinds for 3 years and ive not liked her for 2 years
anyone have any ideas on what to do, and dont tell bull**** like give her a chance cause i cant be freinds with someone i dont like
Stop hanging out with her
Find other people to hang out with, or sit her down and tell her you dont wanna be friends with her anymore because shes changed for the worst.
maybe a little nicer...
xxtiffany
im not so outgoing around some people so what are some ways that i can talk more?
http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Outgoing
http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Outgoing-in-Highschool
http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Outgoing-Outside-of-School
http://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-Shyness
xxtiffany
my friends and i got in a huge fight over something so stupid.
hes deleted me off his myspace, off his instant messanger and everything. we were supposed to go to homecoming along with one other friend of ours but now i dont think he'll want to go if im there.
its gone so far and we've both hurt eachother it wasnt just one person doing it all.
what should i do? apologize? what if he's still mad at me? should i wait till he apologizes?
i hate fighting with friends!!
You should call him or tell him in person that you are sorry for what happened, and you miss talking to him and hanging out with him. If he seems mad, dont talk about homecoming. But if he accepts it and apologizes back, start a conversation and bring up homecoming. hope this helps
xxtiffany
I take German in school (I'm in 10th grade and started learning it in 7th) and I'm in the German exchange this year. I'm having an exchange student stay with me for 12 days in about 2 weeks. The nearness is scaring me! I think I'll be really shy and awkward with her. ?? And if I have a lot of homework or something what is she supposed to do? I just am starting to feel weird about it.
And I leave in late June to early July to go stay with her in Germany for 12 days then go with my classmates to tour the country for 8. I'm really scared mostly because of being away from my boyfriend. I know I can't predict the future but I will say I HOPE we will still be together then. I just worry about anything happening while I am gone.
I'm not too sure what I'm asking... sorry I just want some kind of input. Thanks.
WOW! That sounds like a lot of fun, dont be worried- think of how it is an AWESOME experience.
Dont worry about awkwardness, you probably have a hundred questions to ask her. Its a learning experience, but you can still take time to show her around, take her shopping, stuff like that.
Dont worry about your boyfriend, if hes a good boyfriend he wont cheat on you, sorry, thats the best ive got.
xxtiffany
I am a person that really likes to know "why". When I say and/or say, ask or do some things, other people will find them stupid or dumb. Like today a friend of mine was wearing old sneakers (it was obvious, they were discolored and worn) and I remarked that they looked like they smelled (simply JKing). Another of my friends, who was sitting next to me, stated that that made no sense and things cannot look like they would smell. I was rather surprised at this comment, because that made total sense to me. It may seem petty and umimportant, but this kind of thing happens all the time. My actions and words make complete sense to me, why don't they to others?
...not everyone thinks the same way?
xxtiffany
There is this show I want to go to on Sunday. It's sold out, but my friend has a pass that can get me in.
Thing is my other good friend has been dying to go, but since it is sold out, she can't. She is devistated. I don't know what to do.
I really want to go, but I know she does too.
Do I let her go? Or should I just go?
You are a REALLY good friend for considering to give up your ticket to another friend.
You should do whatever youd like. Keep in mind, it is your pass, that was given to you, so you dont have to give it up. Both of you really want to go see it, but you were given the chance. If you REALLY cant decide, send the pass back, or ask for another so neither of you can go or both you and your friend can go.
xxtiffany
didn't know what collumn to put this in but anyway,
for my 16th birthday i am having a bonfire party at a shore, my dad has got 2 gizeebo's which we will put the fire in the middle of them we're going to get glow sticks and stuff for night
but if anyone has fun ideas then please do let me know everything will be appreciated
x
Bring music, a soccer ball or volleyball or football to throw around, SMORES :), play games like charades.
If you need some more help, let me know!
xxtiffany