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my two best friends are moving and i call them my sisters because i have known them for along time any ideas of how i could get over the pain i am going to feel once they move but my one friend is moving close and my other friend doesn't know where she is moving any ideas highly appreciated
thanks. and my two friends donot live close by to me.
I know how you feel..if the one is moving close then won't you still be able to see them? and about the other one, if she doesn't know where she's moving, just hope that it's not too far away. just make sure you all keep in touch after they move, that will help the pain. eveyr now& then try going to visit them if they move far away. sorry about them moving, I feel your pain!
Oh Yes, SS2, I lied to you big time. I'm not really a sophomore.. I'm just a 10th grader. :-p
LOVE YOU MORE,
SS1
Liar liar plants for hire! geesh! 10th grader..smore..same difference! Atleast you're no longer in denial..honesty is the best policy! love you more!
You are one cool freshman.
- A sophomore who loves you more *las*
Well..what can I say? Lol, Well, yeah..uh..I guess you're one cool SMORE..and man oh man i've never heard such a huge lie from you before..I'm disappointed! I love you more& alwayss will!
my friend is doin some stupid stuff, and i want him to stop. he's always takin crazy chances, like jumpin off roofs into pools and stuff. and then the other day he was burnin himself with a lighter. and on more than one occasion he talks about he wishes he had a knife with him so he could slice his wrists. when i ask him why he does this stuff he answers "no one cares about me, so why should i stop?" how do i tell him that everytime he does something, it kills a part of me. i dont wanna seem mushy or anything, but i cant stand to see him doin this crap. please help me im freakin out, im so afraid for him.
ps-and dont tell me to get an adult to talk to him, cuz if i tell on him, he'd neva speak to me again.
thanks
xXxashliexXx
Just next time the subject comes up..tell him that whenever he does stupid things like that, it hurts you. I've been through that before, and I just straight up told them how I felt..& I didn't get mushy about it. Tell him he's one of your friends and YOU care about him. Even though people say "no one cares about me" it's not true, there's always someone who does care. If you need anything anything else, drop me one in my inbox! Hope I helped! :]
-Amber
ok.. so this boy ive been really good friends with since 5th grade asked me out at this place we have in our town the teen center to hang out..i told him i'd think about it..but im afraid if i say no he wont be my friend anymore but i dont wanna say yes cuz hes not that cute.. i dont want ppl to make fun of me cuz he is ugly but hes reealy sweet& nice.. what should i do?
Give him a chance! Looks aren't everything hun, unless you're incredibly shallow. Don't worry about what other people have to say about you hanging out with someone that's not the hottest guy in school! If he's really as sweet& nice as you say, I say go for it. Everyone deserves a chance:]
dear babii gurl thanx for the advice but me meghan and mirandaand jessie are not as close as u probably think well ne way on saturday meghan is having a birthday wat should i get her and wut should i do to get meghan jessie and miranda's attention so theyll hangout with me
You're very welcome hun!..Well it's kinda hard to understand how close you girls really are, being this is simply an advice column so you can't give full detail. I don't know ANYTHING she's into..I don't know how old she is or anything. As for getting their attention..just ask them what their plans are..I'm sorry I can't help you with what you need, try being more specific about things next time, ok? :]
This school year, I've noticed that nearly all my friends are boys. I've never really got on with boys before but nowadays I'm always hanging out with them. Is there something wrong with that? I do have friends who are female but I find I relate to boys better.
13/f
I have a lot of guy friends as well, there's nothing wrong with you at all! Some girls tend to relate better with guys, it happens!:]
dear babii gurl thanx for the advice but im very shy how could i not be so shy to ask meghan miranda or jessie if they wanna hang out
If they are your best friends..and you have known them for so long, it shouldn't be too hard! If they get online, just be like *hey what are your plans for this weekend* and if they don't have any be like *would you want to go hang out at the mall or see a movie?* If you call them or vice versa, just bring the same thing up..their plans for that weekend..Hope I helped!
-Amber
dear baby gurl i am very confused about my friend ship im 12 years old and attend chichester middle school .as you probably know as you get older you will wonder who your friends are and who your enimies are help me out.there is these three girls i have been friends with since kindergarden ,meghan ,miranda and jessie . meghan just slept over recently , any way she s always talking to me when im alone and she makes me feel like im am loved shes a very good friend and has a great personality.jessie is very sweet and is best friends with miranda (sometimes all three of them are best friends),but she dosent really talk to me when miranda is around .miranda oh boy she is very out going very pretty and dosent care what anyone thinks shes always herself me and miranda used to be very close, there was actually a time when we were best friends.im very shy and dont know how to tell them i would sometime like to hangout with them miranda and jessie have boyfriends so jessie is always sayin that her miranda ,vince and taylor are a group ,but they include meghan of course.i dont quite bond with them like i used to but they always say they love me (as a freind)and that their my friends how could i know for sure ?they never call me or invite me out to like the movies or ecx.im always scared to talk to miranda but not to jessie or meghan .meghan is so nice i can talk to her about boys and broken hearts she always comforts me. how could i get more involved so that theyll always want to talk to me. please write back always chelsea a ps. miranda is very popular and always has opinions that why im scared to talk to her ill never know if she'll say something negitive about me, please help
I know exactly what you mean. Unfortunately it's kinda hard to keep a group of 4 girls best friends for that long! Different people act different around other people, and one-on-one! Some friends get along better one-on-one, kinda like how I'm assuming you& Meghan are! But to hang out more..how about you invite them places..whether it be individually, like you& one of the girls..or all 4 of you! Ask them if they wanna go to the movies or hang out up at the mall or somethin! I wouldn't consider any of those girls enemies unless they have done somethin to you that made them deserve that name though! Hope I helped ya! -Amber
Okay. Well there is this story. A "guy" and a "girl" started out flirting this one night but b4 they realized it they were making out. The problem is that the guy already has a g/f and his g/f is the "girl's" bestfriend's sister and also her bestfriend too. That "guy" and the "girl" who made out r bestfriends to begin with and emotions got caught. So the "girl" doesn't know wat to do since she feels this guilt in her each day and it won't go away. Also, the "guy" and the "girl" are keeping the whole make out thing a secret. What do u have 2 say about that story? (p.s i'm the "girl" and i'm 14)
Well, if you knew they were going out..that prolly wasn't the smartest thing to do. But since it happend, you can't go back on that. But that guilt is going to stay with you whether you like it or not. I'm sure the guy has it as well! All I have to say is..goodluck trying to keep that hidden from his g/f..although that's a wrong thing to do..sorry:[
Dear Short Shit #2,
I regret to inform you that your advice to my last post is insufficient to my needs. Thanks for attempting to answer my questions with the suggestions that I received. I have, however, found that you are wrong. I do
Dear Short Shit #1,
MAN OH MAN!! You are obviously a dummy..everyone who's anyone KNOWS that I, Amber love you, *Short Shit #1*...wayyy more than she will EVER love me! That right there is a proven fact! SO GET OVER IT!
MUCH LOVE,
Amber;)
last year i gotinto this huge fight with my best friend in the whole world and its too long to explain but to fill you in the fight caused us to not be friends anymore. Now this year , out of the blue she apologizes and she confessed how she really feels and how she regrets how she stopped being my friend and stuff and i started to miss being friends with her. Should i be friends with her again...i mean theres always room to start over...right?
There's DEFINATELY always room to start over when it comes to best friends. Since she was the one to come out& apologize I think you should give her credit for that. Friendship is a very important thing in your life..so hold onto it;-)
Okay, theres this chickk that goes to my school. I was haveing such a good day cuz I got my hair cut and I got stuff to scrunch my hair, and I thought I looked soo nice. EVERYBODY was complimenting me, and I've never got any compliments from any of these, like my best friend amanda told me i looked pretty, and I've never been told that i was pretty before so it was really cool. But this one chick, shes supposed to be one of my best friends, says I look really bad, and I'm trying to looklike one of my other best friends named Justine, But i wasn't, because Justine doesn't even scrunch her hair! And my belt had broken that day and It wasn't cuz of me, it was because I wore it like everyday and it was fallen apart, it was my favorite belt, and I like put pins in it so it wouldn't break anymore, and then of course I said. "look at my belt" in front of her, and she said "That's what happens when your fat" and I'm like "Dude your mean" and shes like "Truth Hurts", I dunno, she was never mean before, Do you think she was just mad that everybody was complimenting me and not her??
I rate high..!
I think you're exactly correct. I think she was just jealous that everyone was complimenting YOU and not HER! People who are like that tend to put others down, I guess it's their way of letting you know they want the attention everyone is giving YOU& not her. Don't pay any attention to it, she'll have to get over it eventually.
Alright well, my friend C and K fake make ouut and kiss all the time. You know where you put your hand over there mouth and kiss it? Well, the other day C kept doing it to K. And put her legs all over her and was all into it. She kept touching K. K looked really uncomfortable. I'm thinking C is lezbo-curious or bi-curious whatever you want to call it. By the way she is only 12.!. What do you think?? I would love to hear your comments. I just think it's wrong 'cause she is only 12.
It's not really wrong at all. They are just curious& experimenting..everyone does it at some point in their lives. But if "K" is uncomfortable, she needs to tell "C" that she is. Other than that it's pretty much normal. Hope I helped!
Okay so I have this friend. Let's pretend her name is *Amber.* Every day at lunch when I'm about to sit down she sticks her head out of a classroom and is like "I LOVE YOU MORE(las)" and I'm all like "wtf? No she doesn't!" WHAT DO I DO?
*Short Shit #1
Dear Short Shit #1,
HAHA! How many fricken times do I have to tell you..I LOVE YOU MOSTEST! I honestly think you should stop arguing with *Amber*& just agree with her that she loves YOU more, because believe it or not..I think she does love you wayyy more than you could EVER possibly love her *LAS*..xoxo! MUCH LOOOVVVVEEE
HOPE I HELPED!
-Short Shit #2
There's a girl in my Social Studies class who is really cool. [by that I don't mean "she's sooo popular I want to get to know her"; i mean she's just really cool...] I met her a month before school started when I started basketball. I'm the new girl too. Well, since she's in my class, that means I have an advantage and that I can talk to her. The thing is, she really intimidates me. I don't know why but I'm afraid that if I start talking to her she won't want to talk to me or anything, or she'll think i'm this huge loser. We have occasional small talk with each other but it doesn't really getr any farther than that. [Like, we talk about basketball for a second or I say her shoes are awesome..] I can't really talk to her about stuff like, erm, shopping or something because she's also a tomboy. I don't know WHY she intimidates me, but she does. I really want to get to know her and be a friend but I can't, because I'm not the best with socializing. [things like, We should go to the movies sometime or Hey, what's up and taking it from there never work for me. I can't ask them to the movies because I don't know her well enough to ask her that. And after what's up I'm just..black.] Please help.
Well start off by asking her what she's been up to& what she's interested in..I've been through the same thing& I know it's not that easy, but once you start talking about something, other things will come to mind& it will help start off the conversation. Ask her what other kinds of things she's into& whatever else you wanna know about her. Hope I helped!
Ok. Well ive gone out with this guy right? Lets call him James. But that was two years ago when me and james were in the 8th grade and he didnt take relationships seriously therefore never kept a girlfriend for more than 3 weeks. So anyways now me and James are best friends, but we like each other again. I dont know if I should go out with him though because I do not want to ruin our friendship. My question is for all you guys who went through this and did go out after being best friends, when/if you guys broke up, did you stay friends? or did it change?
I've been through this a few times, and yes I stayed friends with them..just not as close of friends. Just make sure you can trust this guy, and talk to him& make sure he knows about the risk of the friendship changing afterwards. It really all depends on how strong the friendship is between you two, and how well it will hold you two together. Be careful, and GOODLUCK!
Well ther is a boy I like at school who is really ugly but hez extremely funny and none of my friends know cuz they have crushes on him too! So this is a total secret but anywayz hez like my best friend thts a guy! Well Monday he had a bee stinger stuck in him and well he hasn't been to school since monday.... i know this is really stupid but i'm scared hez allergic to bees and they couldn't get the stinger out...I am scared okay! I have his number cuz its in our school directory...but I wouldn't call him unless my friends were over n i'm havin one come over saturday..if he doesn't show up at school tomorrow should i call n see if hez ok? Also tell me if I should be scared!
Please Help Me I am soooooo scared!
You have every right to be scared, he's your best guy friend and so of course you're worried. My best guy friend is allergic to bees, but I'd call him ASAP if I were you, just to check and see if he's okay. Also, you shouldn't be afraid or anything to call him by yourself, hope I helped ;-)