hey everyone!
my name is sam and i'm 16 and i live in wisconsin. I'm a sophmore. I'm pretty good at advice, as i've had many problems of my own and helped many friends get through theirs. I hope to help out anyone who needs it!!
E-mail: xotruebrunettexo@hotmail.com
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My friend just told me that her and my boyfriend have been dating, and she said that she didnt want to tell me because she didnt want to ruin our friendship. Do I ditch the guy and her, or just the guy and keep my friend (link)
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Ditch the guy definatly.. but i dunno about ur friend... it depends on how shes treated you up to this point.. is she worth keeping? But think about this.. she didnt want to tell you about ti cuz that would ruin ur friendship, but what made her think DATING him wouldn't!? if you think she deserves a 2nd chance after this then you should give it to her, but only if she was a really good friend to you up until this, if she wasn't then forget about her.. you can find better friends.. also if you do decide to forgive her, don't forgive her right away.. you have a right to be mad even if you don't wanna throw away the friendship, you can still be mad at her for a while.
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i've been friends with this girl since 6th grade. she used to live across the road from me, but then she moved away. Not far, only about 30 minutes. We used to talk on AIM but then we ran out of things to talk about. I mean, we don't have the same group of friends and we don't know who each of us is talking about. Now, I don't talk to her at all and I feel horrible. What am I supposed to do?? I want to be friends with her again but it's like we're complete strangers. (link)
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Invite her over for a sleepover.. i mean you guys were friends once, & she probably didn't change too much, you guys might still have some things in common. Have her over and you guys can catch up on things about what you've been doing. It might be fun.. & if you guys still feel uncomfortable at the sleepover, have some movies ready so you can put them in so it doesn't get ackward or have some games (board games, video games or card games.) good luck hun!
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IM USUALLY NOT ALLOWED TO SPEND THE NITE AT PEOPLE'S HOUSE BUT I ALWAYS ASK NE WAYZ AND THREE NITES AGO I ASKED MY PARENTS AND THEY SAID YES SO I SPENDED TEH NITE AT MY FRIENDS HOSUE LETS SAY HER IS aNNA* I'VE KNOWN ANNA FOR 5 YEARS AND I'VE ONLY KNOWN MY NEW FRIEND FOR 1. SO SHE GOT REALLY MAD AT ME FOR NOT SPENDING THE NIGHT AT HER HOSUE AND YES TO ANNA'S HOUSE BUT I GUESS MY PARENTS HAVE TO KNOW THE OTHER PEOPLES PARENTS TO LET SPEND THE NITE.I WILL RATE A 5 TO ANYONE WHO ANSWER THIS QUESTION!!!! (link)
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Explain to her that ur parents need to meet her parents b4 you sleepover at their house. Maybe invite ur friend over to ur house & have either her mom or dad come to the door to meet ur parents. Im sure ur friend will understand. But maybe have a sleepover at ur house with both or just the friend u've known for a year so she can meet ur parents too & they know who ur hanging out with. good luck hun :)
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Hi dose anyone want to become friends with me???
my names Jenipher and Im 15 , Im feeling kinda lonely on here ???? (link)
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sure! if you want to IM me it's xotruebrunettexo ((AIM)) and e-mail is xotruebrunettexo@hotmail.com
talk to you soon!! :)
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alright, i've got a moderately small and intricate clique at school. about 6 girls. anyway, we're all best friends, and don't really hang out with anyone more than anybody else. but then someone else joined our little group (lindsay). and joy has been really down(who's usually really outgoing and loud) she just, i dunno, she and lindsay hung out a whole lot. they have a million inside jokes, and they can't be separated more than 2 feet. joy tells lindsay virtually everything... like why she's so depressed and stuff. things she won't tell us at all.
the rest of us feel kind of like she dumped us, i guess. dropped us for someone more worthy or something. i confronted her, and she felt all bad and stuff, but she just went back to lindsay, and i feel like i'm losing a friend... what should i do? (link)
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this has happened to me too.. and i'll tell you what i did.. i confronted her and she did they same thing so then we got mad at her and started talking about it all the time and stuff.. well anyways.. that just pushed her farther away, we eventually became better friends again, but it took a while.. maybe u should just spend more time with joy.. like invite her over to a sleep over and talk all of this through (but just you and joy) don't make it the whole group.. they she will just feel like u guys are ambushing her because it will be 5 vs. 1 .. talk it through and i hope things get better.. i mean i wish i would have done it!! good luck!!
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I have had this friend for a really really long time. i am ova her house like almost every weekend and we r soooooo close. people actually think we r twin sisters. but lately this girl has really gotten on my nerves. she sings when she doesnt kno the words and she is a horrible singer and she always treats my sister like crap and when i say something to her sister she tells me not to talk to her like that. i dont kno wether i should tell r not!!! PLEASE HELP ME!!! (link)
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If you guys are really that close than you shouldn't have a problem telling her the truth. I think you should say something like, "why is it okay for you to talk to my sister that way but not ok for me to do the same?!" after she does it to your sis. or if you haven't said anything at all.. next time she does than just say, "don't talk to her like that." and if she keeps it up then say the first thing. And the singing thing is alright, everyone has something that isn't perfect, but i wouldn't tell her that she's a bad singer, sure she'll probably stop, but you'll hurt her feelings really bad, & it could bring on a huge fight.
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i have a best friend that told me she moving in 3-4weeks. i wish she wasnt moving, but i dont know what to do. if she moves i'll never get to see her agian or hang out with her. we hang out every day and when she leaves i want get to any more. im really sad. i want to tell her how i feel and i have been but it wont make a diffrence if she moves or not. i cant not make her move, she has all ready bought a house, and selling the one she leaves in now. she my best friend in the whole world. when she leaves i dont know what to do, i'm going to be sad. help me!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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I think that you should do something nice for her, or give her a present to have that will always keep you guys close.. if she has instant messanger or e mail keep in touch with that.. send letters and talk on the phone.. maybe you guys will get together during the summer and have that person stay a few weeks or something.. i wouldn't make it harder on her than it already is, she has to move and she doesn't have a choice.. i know its hard but if shes really your best friend than you guys will find ways to get together! hang in there hun! things will work out, you'll see! :)
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Okay so when I went out with this friend I met I was having fun until , this really cute!! guy came along I could tell he was alone, My friend went off for something to eat, I stayed , i went over and tried to talk to him but he just looked at me finally we spoke he was sad because his gf moved away and now its his x g/f , but I told him I would try to help , but when we talked for an hour I got to know him ... alot more. Hes 16 andhis names CJ , he asked me out and Im only 15, I like him alot , but is he Prince Charming for me??? PLz help ,, Jenipher WBASAP!!! (link)
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First of all, your probably not going to find prince charming at 15 yrs. old, so now just look for a guy that will treat you right and that you like a lot.. if you like him a lot then go for it, but also take it into consideration that he just got off of a break up and could be on the rebound. Maybe you should wait a little bit, not to long, but a little while to see if he still likes you and wasn't just wanting a girl because his ex just moved.
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My best friend Julz is goin out w/ my favorite cousin Jon!! Julz is turning 14 in october and Jon is turning 13 this september. i really hate them goin out, cuz he's changed ever since they started goin out!! they broke up and they just got back together!! i dont wanna tell julz that i cant stand it cuz she's my best friend and she'll get mad, but i think i have to. ive talked to jon about it but they like eachother so much!! what should i do?? --Chels
p.s. please help me out here cuz i give you guys advice!! return the favor lol (link)
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Unless there is a huge reason why they shouldn't be going out, other then you don't like it (and write otherwise in my inbox if there is) ,but if not then i think that you should just let them be with each other.. i mean if they really like each other, why do you want to ruin it for them? if you do talk to your friend, what if she breaks up with him and they could have something great, and also she could go another way and get mad at you about it, cuz if you don't have a reason other then you don't like it then i don't think she'll react the way you want her to (breaking up with him) she will consider your feelings, but if she's got a guy she really likes she probably will stay with him.
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my friend steals small things like keychains and stuff and i dont really care but she stole from me twice! i dont kno wat 2 do i dont wanna confront her cuz its been a while and i dont want her 2 get mad at me cuz she is a really good friend except for the stealing from ur friends thing... so wat should i do? (link)
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i think you should definatly confront her.. first of all if you don't she probably will take more things and on top of that she'll think shes getting away with it.. and she shouldn't get mad at you, you're the one whos getting stuff stolen from them, not her. she has nothing to be mad about, if anything you do.. all im saying is i think it's a good idea for you to tell her that you know what she's doing and ask her why she would steel from you?
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my two friends, "ally" and "laurie" are in a fight. i am REALLY good friends with both, and so i get together with each and equal amount. the only problem is that whenever i'm doing something with ally, she disses laurie, and whenever i'm doing something with laurie she disses ally. i obviously don't talk about either of them behind there backs, but i don't know what to do to get them to stop. plz help. (link)
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maybe say, if you have a problem with them then don't tell me about it, talk to the other person and solve it. and be like i don't want 2 get caught up in the middle or something like that.
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what do you do when your friends b/f starts following you between different class periods and your best friend gets mad because she thinks me and her b/f are goin out ,,,,what do i do (link)
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Tell your best friend that you aren't going out with him, and you don't know why he's doing that.. thats pretty much all you can do, is stand up for yourself.. Also, you could try telling the guy to stop because he's making you and your bestfriend fight. but be sure to make it clear that you aren't going out with him, and have no intention to either!
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my best friend and i have a "fling" going and his g/f is getting really mad that we hang out ... hes having issues dumping her ... should we do? (link)
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He should definatly break up with her. No one feels good when their boyfriend has a "fling" with another girl.. she shouldn't be put through this any longer. obviously it hurts her, because it would hurt anyone. Also, it might make you guys feel better about what you have, and not like your sneeking around behind someone ele's back.
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there's this friend i have and she always lies to me, but then if i catch her in the middle of a lie, and am like well before you said this, shes like NO I DIDN'T. shes one of my best friends and shes fun to be around when shes not lying, but it gets really annoying...what should i do? (link)
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what you should do if she keeps saying no i didn't and stuff, & you really want her to know what she's doing then if you have one of those little tape recorders catch her & then when she says no i didnt, play it back to her. maybe then she'll stop.. if not, then it's up to you whether you want to be friends with someone who lies to you.. i don't know what to tell you.. you should just think about this.. is it worth having a friend who's fun to be around, even though she lies to you all the time?
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my best friend and i were spray painting our bikes. Her father comes out in a rage. He starts hitting her and she was screaming for him to stop. She used a bit of foul language towards him, but he was really hitting her. the mom had to try and calm him down.SHould I get help, tell someone or just leave it alone? I don't want it to seem like i'm in their family's business, then again that is my best friend she was crying histerically but i couldn't see her because he told me to leave. (link)
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Tell your friend to tell someone first or you could tell her to talk to her mom so they both could do it together... if she won't listen to you then you have to do it b/c it's wrong what he is doing to her and you know it, if she gets mad at you that's fine, she'll get over it.. but just think what happens if you don't do something, it most likely will get worse and not better.. i know it's hard, but somethings gotta be done b4 it gets out of hand!
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I have a friend, Lauren, who kept comparing her friend, Maddie, to me a while back - February, I think it was. She kept saying how much alike we were and that we should meet. Now that I've known Maddie and her best friend Christine for a while and the three of us have become great friends, Lauren has begun acting jealous. Maddie, Chris, and I keep wondering what we need to do about it, but we can't decide. We all knew it would happen, but... shouldn't Lauren learn to share her friends? (link)
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she should share her friends and everything, but don't leave her out all of the time or anything like that. after all there is three of you who are doing stuff and shes the only one being discluded. i relize you may want to do things the 3 of you sometimes but don't always leave her out. She was your friend before you met maddie and chris, don't you want to keep it that way? you're right about the thing where she should share things, but maybe try to get together the 4 of you more. and remember if you guys don't think that you would act the same way if you guys were in her shoes, remember that everyone is different and everyone reacts to certain things differently! hope i helped & please rate!
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Hi. I'm a very shy person who just can't seem to overcome that and approach people when making new friends. It's very difficult for me to make new friends because my shyness gets in the way of everything, and I HATE that! I want to become more friendly and out-going so that it will be easy to be making new friends instead of a struggle. If you have any suggestions about how I can be more friendly and out-going then answer this question please, or give me any resources on how to overcome my shyness when making friends-anythings fine with me. I really need your help on this, so please take the time out and answer this question. THANX!!! (link)
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i think what you should do is maybe talk to some ppl online that you don't know and work on your ppl skills with them, then after you have mastered that take it to the next level and start taking to friends at your school in person then gradually start asking some to hang out somewhere or invite them over for a sleepover and get them to know you better.. if you have anymore questions just ask.. hope i helped and please rate me :)
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hey i gotta problem u see my friend is alwayz choosing her boyfriend over me wat do i do!!?? do i tell her do i tell him??? uh......help me!!!!
thanx~
~*RiSs*~
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First of all i don't think you should talk to her boyfriend because, he may be the cause of your bestfriend picking him over you, but he can't help it. i think that you should talk to ur friend but when you do keep this in mind.. your bestfriend is there for you even if she doesnt relize what you have friendship wise right now, this might be a fase and it could pass. tell her how your feeling, give her sometime .. but in the mean time dont try to get revenge by doing the same thing back to her cuz that might just push her farther away.. if you need anymore help just ask! hope i helped & please rate me!
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hi again. ok. i have this friend and she is soo nuce and i love her to death but, weve grown in different directions. Shes become like a major punk and tells me all this stuff i dont want to hear. She wants me to do all sorts of stuff with her and i want to its just hard to decide what to do because shes not all that great of an influence. what should i do?? (link)
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even though she may not be a great influence,you mkae your own decsions and if you dont want to do something then you dont have to do it. If she is pressuring u into to doing somehting your not ready for or you know u would get in a lot of trouble for. You should probably try talking to her. If you love her that much then it wouldn't matter if she was punk or not.. if she is telling you things you don't wanna hear, isn't it your job as a friend to listen anyways.. im sure she does the same for you. If your in different groups, its harder to do things at school and i think its a good thing that she is making an effort to do things with you. ..however, if you don't want to be friends with her anymore for whatever reason then you don't have to be. but remember this punk thing might just be a phase that she'll grow out of or something and she seems like a really good friend even though she has a bad influence, but you live your own life and how she lives hers doesn't effect the descions she makes.. you're your own person .. hope i helped and remember to rate me :)
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I'm 15 and single I live in KY , Morehead but Boys have been staring at me , and I feel like their scanning me, Plus I have been asked out and How do I know whos the write one, hey if u answer this one please go to my email address. Its on my Column -JayJay- but all me Jenipher
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The thing is your only 15, you don't know if any guy is the right one just by looking at them. And if you want to know if they are before you go out with them. Try to have a conversation with them and if you like them and they like you then go for it. And keep it mind, guys do look at girls, but make sure he looks at your face when your talking to him and you guys will have things to talk about if you go out ( common intrests ) .. hope it helped.
* sorry i couldn't find your column *
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