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dumped... well, kind of...
alright, i've got a moderately small and intricate clique at school. about 6 girls. anyway, we're all best friends, and don't really hang out with anyone more than anybody else. but then someone else joined our little group (lindsay). and joy has been really down(who's usually really outgoing and loud) she just, i dunno, she and lindsay hung out a whole lot. they have a million inside jokes, and they can't be separated more than 2 feet. joy tells lindsay virtually everything... like why she's so depressed and stuff. things she won't tell us at all.
the rest of us feel kind of like she dumped us, i guess. dropped us for someone more worthy or something. i confronted her, and she felt all bad and stuff, but she just went back to lindsay, and i feel like i'm losing a friend... what should i do?
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I think you all should comfront her because instead of 1 person just comfronting her then you have the whole gang and that is more bound to get the point across. And to make it a lil bit harder... do it with lindsay with you guys.. maybe she will have an idea of whats going on instead of joy just getting the prespective of it all. They may get a bit mad or something but if you got your point across and you stood up and said what you wanted to say then you cant really blame yourself or anybody because your friends shouldnt treat you like that-trix
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It is okay for your friend to have afriend. And let her know that. but also let her know that you and the rest of your friends feel left out. And that you would appreciate if she would let all of you know when she is down because you are all there for her and care for her. If she can't understand where you are coming from, then you will unfortunately just have to deal with it. Hopefully she will come back around. but you have to understand that when friends get older sometimes they just grow apart. I know it sucks, but its life. Hope I helped you out. :)
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this has happened to me too.. and i'll tell you what i did.. i confronted her and she did they same thing so then we got mad at her and started talking about it all the time and stuff.. well anyways.. that just pushed her farther away, we eventually became better friends again, but it took a while.. maybe u should just spend more time with joy.. like invite her over to a sleep over and talk all of this through (but just you and joy) don't make it the whole group.. they she will just feel like u guys are ambushing her because it will be 5 vs. 1 .. talk it through and i hope things get better.. i mean i wish i would have done it!! good luck!!
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hi..aww...i'm sorry bout wuts going on...talk to ur friend n tell her how u feel...but i dunno wut to tell u cuz sometimes u loose friends b/c they find someone that they think its more "cool" or they feel more comfortable around them...dont take it personaly...sometimes thats how life goes...xoxo effy...
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I think you need to tell her how you feel in a nice fashion. Just tell her that you and the rest of the group want to be there for her but you all feel left out. Tell her that you love the fact that shes really close with lindsay but you wish she was still open with the rest of you. Sometimes when a person is kind of depressed and lonely the shut everyone out. maybe lindsay is the only one that she feels comfortable talking to in this point in time. Just be supportive to her decision. Good luck hope things work out
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Well mayb you Should give her some time..She is probly Pmsing..lol..Or like she just is goin through a phase...
-Stephanie
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