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Hey everyone. I'm sorry to announce that i wont be coming back to this site to answer questions anymore. It has caused one two many problems for me ever since my aqqantice got a column, herself. I apologize to everyone. This is not your fault, but i dont want to deal with problems again. My own problems i mean. So, I'm sorry and i will miss you all.
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im having a party . . wat should i have to eat and to do...don't be all perverted and say those nasty things...besides spin the bottle wat good games r there to play...the party is for grls n boys the age of 13.....help
Have out little snacks like pretzels, chex mix, oreos, chips, maybe little sandwiches, candy. Play Light as a feather stiff as a board, Twister, Uno, catch phrase, cranium, play outdoor games like ghost in the graveyard and volleyball. Hope you have a great party!
~Cayd
well .. my best friend is mary -- nd i love her to death !! and her boyfriend is -- wel'l say tom .. nd im best frienz with tom too -- lOl nd i have a boy friend .. lets say tim -- here qoes
mary went to florida for too weekz -- me nd tim when on a break --.. i started messinq around w/tom just u know liek flirtinq stuff -- but then we had a trip nd he liek felt mee upp .. nd we liek made out and all this .. then liek that was over i never stopped him i never said anythinq about it to hiim - then we had another trip nd we - were messinq around nd he finqered mee ' nd i qave him head -- nd liek aqaiin it was over we didn't ever talk about it aqain .. but mary nd {tom" qot into this fiqht nd he was liek yaa thats y i did all this stuff w/ur qerl jackiee . nd liek i don't know what to do should i tell her or deny itt cuz its a huqe mistakee - i dun't know what was wronq w/meee but it happened nd lieek she'll flip if i tell her nd i dun't noe wat to doo -- pleaz help ..
backstabber*
You really should tell your best friend and STOP messing around with her boyfriend if they stay together. I know it'll be hard, but think about what you're doing to "Mary". Good luck and make the right choice! :)
~Cayd
My girlfriend is cutting herself,she has been doing it for about a year.She is not as bad as she was but she is starting to think about it more and more,she says she is addicted and she doesnt know if she can stop, and she really wants/needs help.I dont know wat to do or say.What can i do to help my girlfriend?
I totally understand what your gf is going through. If she wants help, she should go to a counselor or even tell parents. Good luck! I know it isn't easy to stop, but your girlfriend should think about how many people love her and care about her...It's what helped me at difficult times *WINK WINK*
~Cayd
A new girl at our skool is 17, engaged, and has a baby. Shes still a freshman cause she was expelled from her old skool her freshman year. Everyone makes fun of her cause she has a kid and is a 17 year old freshman. She doesnt let it bother her, but it bothers me. Shes a good friend of mine now, and I want to be able to stop some of the stuff. Is there any good ways to make ppl just shut up about it?
thanks!
If you see your friend being harassed or anything like that, stick up for her. Tell the meanies to shut their mouths, because they don't know what they're taling about. Tell them how they wouldn't even have the strength or courage to raise a child and keep going with school. I hope i helped. Good luck!
~Cayd
My 15 year old friend engages often in un-protected sex. No matter how much I tell her to wear a condom, or my god, at least go on birth control, she continues to give herself to random guys, especially under the influence. Recently, she slept over my house and woke up with severe morning sickness. She also became constipated, and complains now constantly about her stomach hurting. She hasn't gotten her period yet either. I called planned parenthood for her and it did nothing. I can't think of anything else it could be but pregnancy, and they want to schedule an appointment, which would mean she would have to tell her mom, which, stubborn as she is, would be a struggle at best. She's my best friend, and I cannot see her do nothing about this situation...any advice?
You are being such a great friend. Your friend may have to tell her mom, if the morning sickness and constipation continues. Explain to your friend how serious this is. Explain to her that she may have to raise a child, alone and tell her to stop having un-protected sex. She's taking a HUGE risk of getting an STD or AIDS. I hope i helped and good luck to you and your friend.
~Cayd
OMG!! I really can't take this anymore! Ok well all my friends and all are like you changed blah blah!! ANd i dont get the bigg deal it not like they havent changed either! Just cuz im turnin a lil Skater !!! I dont get the big deal and im really sick and tired of it .. what should i do and i tried talkin 2 them but it doesnt work at all !! Please Help me !! I dont kno what i wanna do and i feel like ______
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FED UP!
That is really rude of your friends to not listen when you try to explain. I would just say, "Fine, if you're not gonna listen, you're just gonna have to deal with a NEW me". If they are going to not be friendly to you, try hanging out with some new people. That way, if they drop you completely, you'll have other people to turn to. Good luck to you! Well, I'm off!
~Cayd
I live in a TINY town. 4 all you other people who do too, what are some fun things to do without driving to the big city?
I live in one too! I like to invite friends over a lot and rent movies. You can also find some new hobbies. I started making pillows. I also do Stamping and Scrapbooking now. You can also go online a lot. I know I do! Hope I helped!
~Cayd
This may not be the right category, but I couldnt find a better place. I just found out today that one of my friends from school, that I graduated with passed away yesterday. His friends were going through his cell phone, found my number and called me. I had one class with the person, we always flirted with each other and talked about hooking up. I never called him after we graduated because I thought, yeah hes to good for me. Well, he still had my number in his phone and I feel bad for never calling him. I want to go to the viewing to see him one last time and to pay my respects to him. He was a great guy. But, then again, I dont want to go because I want to remember him from how he was before. I dont think I could handle seeing him in a casket. I dont know what to do. Should I go to the viewing or not? The viewing is Friday..so I need answers soon. Thanks!!
Here's one way to do it: Pay your respects to your friend because if you don't, you may regret for the rest of your life. You can go to the funeral home and give your condolences to your friend's family and possibly talk about some happy memories. You can decide if you want to approach the casket or not, it isn't mandatory for you to have to approach it. If you decide to approach the casket, you can look somewhere else, other than your friend's casket or you can close your eyes. Its up to you, just follow your heart.
~Cayd
I am 17/f. I had this childhood friend of like 8-9 years. We were best friends, but then we hit a ofrk in the orad and she turned to drugs about a year and a half ago. When I fisrt found out that she did it, I was pissed and told her that she was dumb and shouldnt do it again. She told me she wouldn't, that she was just tryingit so I gave her the benifit of the doubt. Her and I stopped being friends about 6 months ago. She started becoming really selfish,and just always pissing me off. She was telling me she was clean but I know her too well and could tell by how she wasacting that she was lying to me. Now she hangs around with my younger sister who is 16. I just found out the other day, that just as I thought, she is still using. My sister told me she snorts heroin in front of her all the time and that she is getting really bad. She also told me that she offered her soem to try but my she told her no. The fact that she had the nerve to offer my sister drugs really pisses me off. I feel like calling her up and telling her off. I have been debating on doing this for like the past 3 days. I cant seem to stop thinking about it. I understand that she is ruining her life but why would she encourage someone else to do the same? I wanna call her or so bad! I am so mad! I don't know what to do.
Call this girl! She needs serious help. She has a problem and doesn't realize it. You and others need to MAKE her realize it. Let all of your anger out if you talk to her. Tell her how she is destroying her life and her body. Tell me how it goes.
~Cayd
My friend is having a birthday/sleepover party this weekend. Problem is..I dont like sleeping over anybody`s house (just a problem I have) I do sometimes though..but i reeally dont like it. Plus, the friends shes inviting are people i dont know at all.Please help, i dont want to go to this party..what should i say to my friend? I really dont feel comfortable sleeping over someone`s house ive never been to before.My friend, whos going to be there, knows about my problem and im afraid shes going to tell.Should I make up a dumb excuse or admit my problem and jus hang at her house til like 10? I really dont wanna hurt my friends feelings or embarass myself.
Thank you soo much for the help in advance!!!
I have that problem sometimes too. Its no big deal. Talk to your friend, see if you can go to the party until ten or whatever. You'll still get to share most of the fun. If your friend's friends ask why you have to leave, make up something. Say you're going on a day trip with your family the next day or something. Good luck!
~Cayd
ok well i have this friend who cuts, but she wont tell me that she does. i found out from someone else. i want her to tell me because i can atleast try to help her stop. i had cut in the past but i stopped and now i want to help her. i dont know how to get her to tell me so i can help her. i can't let her know that i know though. please help if you can.
If she's not going to tell you, you should just walk up to her and say, "I heard you're cutting. Is this true?". If it is, give her attention. Convince her to tell her parents, she needs help if she's cutting. You will be helping her, and if she doesn't want to tell her parents, then you should. I know it may seem like you are letting her down or something, but it isn't. I know what a big problem cutting can be. Good Luck and tell me what happens!
~Cayd