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my name is EJ and i have a friend that i have know for almost a year now and i have liked since the first time i saw her and i was wondering if yall could give me some advice on how to ask her out so if she says no we can still be friends (link)
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Well...all i can say is that you shouldn't beat around the bush and go for it. The worst that she can say is no...but you will never know if you don't at least ask. She will appreciate that you just came out and asked and telling her how you felt...but don't out to strong with it...and no matter what...you all should still be good friends whether you all go out or not because the friendship that you all have built over the past year should be strong enough that it will last. Just don't break her heart if you all do end up going out. One of my best friends did the same thing with me and we are going out now because we felt the same about each other...but we have known that about each other for a little while now...but he would have never known that i would have gone out with him if he had never taken the chance and asked me out. So...just give it a try and see what happens. Hope I helped and get back to me and let me know how everything goes if you can.
In Him,
Candace
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ok.. i have this best friend.. he means like the world to me.. i love him soo much.. but as a friend.. not as a stocker obsessed way.. and i always talk to him.. and my friend.. like LOVES him.. like she wants to go out with him.. and whenever im with him.. she always gets mad.. so what do i do.. shes my best friend.. do i leave him alone.. or do i stay friends with him.. just never talk to him?? do i stay friends with him.. and risk loosing my best friend?
signed congused GIRL (link)
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well, this hard to deal with. I go through with it all of the time. Well, anyways, a guy is never worth it to get in the way a great friendship. But on the other hand, you are best friends with the guy too. So its like a win lose situation. What i would try and do is talk to your girlfriend and explain it to her what is between you and the guy. If she doesnt want to listen, then she obviously isnt a true friend. It also comes down to how long you have known them each. If they ty and make you decide between them, dont get into the middle of it, but if you have to choose, choose the one that youve either known longer or you are closer to. But i would personally stay away from that because a lot of hurt will go around and maybe other things such as rumors and everything else. If they make you choose, then obviously both of them arent good friends at all. Trust me, i have been in the same situation too. But hopefully things will get better and you all can go back to your alls normal and daily lives soon enough. Hope i helped! Get back to me and tell me how everything goes if you can.
Love,
Candie
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okay my best friend is going out with my recent ex and we went to the movies with a grroup of people but his girl friend could not go and we ended up sitting next to each other and in the middle of the show we started holding hands and yesterday his girlfriend found out and wont talk to me or him what should i do? cause he likes me and i like him...
signed CONFUSED (link)
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Well, there is still going to be something there between you and your recent ex. If your friend is going to go out with him right after you two break up and not ask you about going out with him and is now mad at you for that happening at the movies, then she is not a true and good friend. What you need to do is sit down and talk to her about the whole situation, maybe even all three of you, and also talk about you feel. If she doesnt listen or anything, then you should find a new friend to hang out with. You should also suggest the same to your ex as well. And if they end up breaking and you two end up going back out, dont feel guilty, just be happy that you two are back together and that she deserved what she got. But dont be mean and rude to her about that stuff, OK. Get back to me and let me know how everything goes if you can.
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ok i have a problem also.. but first of all im in 7th grade.. so its about a boy nd like not many ppl go out with ppl.. cuz its a catholic school..just to let you know.
well i liked this guy since like november.. and my frend thought that he liked me too.. but hes like super popular.. and im like 1 step away from being a total loser.. but theres only 3 groups and im in the 2nd.. so i got 2 shy 2 ask him if he likes me or sumthin.. and i have a major crush.. like HUGE.. and now i just found out that he is starting to go out with this girl.. and im just really mad.. i dont know how 2 like feel better.. im misrable.. and im always really hyper in school and i'm always smiling and laffing.. no one has seen me sad.. except for like once.. but only a couple of people saw me.. so today and yesterday i was happy as usual.. so no one knows that i like him.. except for my frends..but no one could really tell.. so today i was really misrable.. and i was soo sad.. and now i hate the girl that hes goin out with.. and idont know what 2 do.. please help me!!
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Well, dont hate anyone. Its not right in the Word of God for one thing, and for another, just because shes going out with him doesnt really quallify for that. But anyways, I know that its hard to go up to guy that you like and talk to him, trust me, I know. But you should just go up and try to talk to him. Bekieve me, Ive done it and it wound up that I actually became quite popular when I did it and in another instance, the guy I liked, it wound up that he actually liked me to. So give it a try and see how it goes. Get back to me and tell me how everything goes if you can. Love, Shorty, Candace.
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As my title says, my friends tend to be really mean to me. We had a free Spanish period today because there was a substitute, and they ignored me the whole time. They were making plans to go shopping for bathing suits, and go snowboarding with each other, and didn't ask me to join them. One of my friends just randomly tells me to shut up, and she thinks it's just a joke. They tell each other stuff and don't tell me, and then they talk about it right in front me. Basically, they treat me horribly, and I really don't need it from them. What am I supposed to do?? (link)
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Well, obviously they really dont care about you and really arent your friends. Try hangin out with people who will like you for you. Then, if your mean friends ask why you dont hang with them anymore or anything, dont be mean back, just tell them what was up and tell them how you feel and that you really dont want to be their friend anymore. OR... you could sit down and talk to them about how you feel first, and that doesnt work, then thats when you know that its time for new friends. Hope I helped. Get back to me and tell me how everything goes if you can. Love, Shorty, Candace
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Hi. My problem is a long long story. It starts like this. Me and my punkish/gothy friends have been together since like…4th and even earlier. This year I’m a freshman in high school and I’ve started hanging out with new people. Preppy but they’re not that preppy. They like emo and rock and accept everything. I don’t even want to call them preppy…They’re very popular and just normal. Amanda has become my new best friend and she in the normal group. My old best friend alix has drifted away from me and so had the whole punky group. They even stopped inviting me to hang places with them…I am pretty social and I need people so I made new friends still being friends just not best friends with my old friends. I’m talking to Alix one day on my way to lunch and it’s fine and then she says she has to go to her locker and I say I don’t feel like it and then another old friend of mine (Michelle) says why don’t you go hang out with your other friends like Amanda and them all. And then Alix says Amanda’s a snobby bitchy skank. I swear Amanda must be the nicest person in the world. She has nun potential. She’s really nice and does everything for me and sometimes I feel like a leech but Amanda says it’s fine. She is definitely not a bitch and I am sure of it because I asked many many people about what they think of her and the first thing they said was she’s nice. So that makes the bitch part wrong. As for skank? Amanda doesn’t date much…I don’t remember her ever having a boyfriend. She has crushes but she gets shy around them…So I don’t know where the skank came from…The snobby part? Well her parents do have money but it’s not like she acts or dresses like a rich snob. I told Alix that she shouldn’t say that because she doesn’t know her. And Alix said that if shes a skank she doesn’t want to get to know her. I told her I really don’t appreciate her saying that and then I left..So I told Amanda and my new friends what Alix said about her. Sara (emoish cheerleader and also very nice friend of mine) said that if Amanda’s a bitch then Sara must be like Satan or something. I’ve been friends with Sara since elementary school. None of my old friends believe me because I JUST started hanging out with her a lot again now. Back in like 3rd grade we were partners for a field trip to a water park. Well I could tell that Amanda was upset but shes acted careless and had to tell me not to worry. And a good point is that none of my new friends said anything bad back about her. I really like these new people. They have a good influence on me. I don’t want to tell anyone but Alix is a bigger bitch skank and snob then Amanda. Saying that stuff about Amanda was bitchy. Alix has let random guys give her hickeys and done other stuff too….I don’t think she realized that when she called Amanda a skank. Alix’s mom also has money….As a matter of fact Alix gets just about everything she wants. She gets a new cell phone every once in a while. Amanda doesn’t even have one right now….My new friends are also smart. They’re in all the honors classes with me and doing well….I like being on the same level with people instead of being with my old friends who give “me damn your smart”. Alix is in my honors English and global class but shes not doing well at all….My new friends are the ones my mom always wanted me to have…So now Alix is mad at me…She didn’t even really notice me before….And I don’t know what to do because I don’t want to completely abandon my old friends for my new friends because we have been friends for so long and we used to be so close…But they won’t accept me being with new people no matter what…I know it has to do with typical high school stereotype but no one really wants to admit it…And it would take me all through high school to establish and entirely new group of friends as big as the old one….I cried over this once but it’s really stupid how my old friends are acting and I don’t know what to do…Since this was really long and you might have gotten confused leave a message if you have any questions. Please Please help me!
Love,
Cup of orange juice
(picked a random object in my room) (link)
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Well, if they have treated you like that, then they really must not be your friends at all. What you could do is talk to them all and get them to see that they arent to bad somehow. Or you could just hang back and forth between the two groups, but that can get tiring aftre awhile. Just do what you think is best for YOU and follow YOUR heart as to what you want to do. Hope I helped. Get back to if you can and tell me what happens.
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my friend, let's call her "emily," is very opinionated. most of the time it's rude and she's not afraid to voice her opinion, especially to me. now at first i didn't mind this, but now it's getting really annoying. see, last night was the sports awards banquet at my school and she kept making rude comments to me about people she didn't like but were my friends. if she didn't like them, she would be like, they don't deserve this award because of blah blah blah and i just wanted to scream at her because they deserve it so much and she just says that because she's jealous (she used to be good, but not anymore). how can i get her to stop being so rude and obnoxious? i really don't want to hear this constant complaining anymore. i'm not very confronational so i don't think talking to her in private would be my best option. thanks so much! (link)
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Well, I just suggest that you should just sit her down and talk to her about how you feel. Maybe you could find someone that feels the same way that you do and you both sit down and talk to her and then tell her how you both feel. Dont accuse her of anything, dont yell/scream, just calmly talk to her. If you want, have an adult in there so that things dont get out of hand, but you dont have to. But also, you could encourage her to do the things that shes good at and just be there for her when she has a problem or something. Just be a good friend to her and maybe shell turn around and see the light, see the way that you do.Just be prepared for things to boil up when you talk to her if she is that kind of way. Well, get back to me if you can and tell me how everything goes.
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