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I have this friend, and we were really good friends at the beginning of the year. Literally every guy in our school thinks shes hot, and i think its gone to her head. She goes out with people shes not really friends with on friday nights and never invites me and acts like im a total freak all the time. on the other hand, shes always really nice to me and stuff when shes not around those people who think shes so hot, and i like to be around her then. i dont want to tell anyone how shes treating me because theyll tell her because they want to be friends with her. i cant talk to her because shes so mean when shes mad at someone and no one will be on my side of the arguement.

Its not always about taking sides! You need to tell her that shes treating you wrong when you were friends with her, not because everyone else wants to be, but because you like being around her but shes changing and you wanna know why!
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Lately i havnt been much of a good friend, we all slag each other down, act all "friendly", and dont trust each other. So i decided to do a blood bond to bring us together.

We got 4 candles 1 each and 1 for the middle of the circle, we got a knife to slash our fingers and make them bleed, we made a little poem up to say together and we sat in a circle light the middle candel, said our poem, while linking fingers. Then we got our candles, and lite them then blew them out. My friend has a etopic baul/bawl how ever you spell it and i was wondering can the disease pass through the blood? If so i might have it now!!! Ahh! but she was born with it and its to do with the baul/bawl not the blood but im not sure.. what if i catch it will i die? Scary...
lush me x

Well if your gonna "act friendly" and not really be a friend then why would you do this? Theres no way that i can tell you that you dont have a blood disease/ aids or anything ekse, i think you need to go to the doctor, thats really not safe to do that bc you dont know and YES diseases can be in the blood, i doubt youll die, but seriously make sure!
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Okay well i have a friend and she makes me do EVERYTHING 4 her well at lunch like she will be like here is 50 cents go buy me a cookie and i do it! i dont want to but i do anyways. and i through her trash away 4 her and she pays me a dime and i dont want to do that either i just feel like i can tsay no and when i do i feel like she will be mad at me but whp cares right i cant do stuff 4 her right? well i dont know what do to please help!

Tell her to stop being lazy, she has 2 legs and is capable is doing her own things herself, do you not get sick of babysitting your friend? What does she do for you? Ask her to take your tray and and see what she says, maybe she doesnt realize that shes doin it, maybe your setting yourself up for it Cinderella!
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i have this friend and we are really good friends. I am a 15 year old guy and she is a 14 year old girl. She wants me but i feel if we go out and something happens between us that we might not be friends afterwards. I dont want that to happen. How can i tell her this without hurting her feelings?

Well being only 15 i really dont think your ready for a serious relationship and most of the time wouldnt recommend it if you were 45. Im not gonna tell you that it wouldnt work though, alot of ppl stay together that long, but its likely that you wont be with 1 person throughout your whole high-school career! If your really good friends, then just tell her like you told me and she'll understand, dont lead her on, just tell her that you dont wanna lose her as a friend and if yall broke up that you wouldnt want things to be weird!
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I have a friend that i love very much, and i did some stupid stuff to get in trouble and now i won't be able to see her for a while. I know it don't bother her she probably likes having a break from me, but i can't stand it i used to look foward to seeing her lovely smile everyday and now i can't. What should i do?

what about dont get introuble?

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My Friend Lied to me telling me he got suspended for acting "pimp" and i knew that u cant get suspended for acting like that. But i had found out by a nother friend that he brought a knife to school. It totally shocked me and i started to cry because wat friend could do that. I'm still mad and frusterated. Now he may be suspended 4 good. im still mad for it should he still be my friend?? Should i trust him??? and I*m mad cuz wat was he gunna do wit da knife!
PLEASE ANSWER IMMEDIATLY!!

Betrayed is what you feel! What would posess your friend to think that he had no other options? You should be there for your friend and let him know that your there for him because he obviously has problems and thats not the way to solve them. Yes your friend is probably suspended for a year or so, the school has no choice and you can obviously understand that! Was he gonna stab someone or was it a deliberate act of being violent! I probably wouldnt fear for my life if i were you but you def. should get to the bottom of this! :*:SaRa:*:

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how do i tell a friend that i think im to old to hang out wit them in the nicest possibleway??? plese help!

how do you tell a friend that? this person is obviously not a friend but you shouldnt make up stuff, if your so much more mature than they are then tell them the truth. (honesty is the best policy). Why all of a sudden is age a problem its not like they got older over nite! Tell them that your busy or you cant "hang out". :*:SaRa:*:

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i have a question i have a friend and i try to get her to just go somewhere with me as friends but she always has better stuff to do are she gets looped into doin something else how do i get her to finally go somewhere with me

Maybe its just never the right time, i mean im sure sometimes she asks you to do stuff and you already have plans or didnt answer the phone or it was inconvenient for you! Its prob. not her fault when things come up without notice-everything happeneds for a reason, just stop worryin about it...if its suppost to be, then it will be, dont try to make it into something if its not and you pushing isint gonna change her mind, its gonna push her away, so why not drop that subjects till she brings it up, then if you feel the same way youll know its suppost to happen! :*:SaRa:*:

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i have a friend ive been in love with since 7th grade and she knows how much i love her,but she wont go out with me. i have tried everything i have proposed to her 3 times but she says shes to young to make that kind of decision,but i know she is who i want to spend the rest of my life with. she wont even go out with me because we are best friends. but i think its because im not cute enough or i dont have blonde hair or blue eyes or im not buff or skinny. what can i do to get her to like me.

Appearance is not always what people are looking for, you have a kind heart, good intentions and im sure that you mean very much to your friend, so much that she wouldnt wanna lose you over a breakup or something stupid! Its not always about "goin out" why not be friends and see if in the future something could happen, im sure she does like you, like you so much shes doesnt wanna lose you...

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My best friend and I have known each other for a few years. Since we started high school, however, she has become really needy. She will "like" a guy but she won't do anything about it..then she'll blame them for not asking her out. It becomes the focus of her life and she gets really depressed if the guy doesn't 'pay her enough attention'. I've tried telling her that guys aren't the only thing in life and that her friends love her, etc..but she wont believe it and just uses it to show how 'unloved' and 'unlistened to' she is. What do I do? I don't want to end the friendship, but I'm tired of feeling used.

Ok you sound like a really great friend and i think this chic is lucky that you care so much about her! I think that you need to stop babyin her because she likes the attention! Guys arent always worried about girls, i know i cant believe that either but its true, they do think about other stuff, just tell her that its her fault and tell her to be a little more outgoing and if she wants this boy bad enough then she could at least attempt to real him in! Good luck- :*:SaRa:*:

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Ok..Well...About 5 months ago me and my "BFF" stoppped being friends because, well, im not sure, i think it was because her other friends didnt want her to be friends with me, so the other night i said some stuff to her, since she wouldnt leave me alone ((talking to me online)) and saying she was just friends with me outta pity, blah blah. And now she is posting our conversations in her public diary, and getting my other ex-friends all against me. Its like...one little bitch, but shes so powerful! I literaly want to like..RYhwehgfwejlvf Haha i get pissed at her!! And she is teling poeple i lie about my personal problems, byut then w(hy)tf would i lie about having depression. Help me!! AND IM NOT APOLOGIZING I ALREADY DID LIKE 10 TIMES BEFORE AND SHE WAS GAY! x0x0x, me.

Hey there, sorry about your psyco friend, ppl dont realize how bad the things they do and say affect other ppl, i think you should kick her skanky butt! But anyways, im glad she has new friends and all and she thinks that shes wonderful but you need tell her that what shes doin to you is wrong and that you were there when her other friends werent, ive been through this and even though it hurts your feelings you have to realize that she is just doin it be cool but i think shes a loser neway! So just forget about it if youve dont all you can do and for godsakes just stay mature about it! Good luck! "*"SaRa"*"

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does ne1 one the formula n units for density!?! plz help major test comin up!!

Umm not very smart but heres all you have to do..density= mass/volume...and also look up the periodic table on like yahoo or ask. com
Hope i helped..:*:SaRa:*:

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I have this friends and I really like her like more than a friend. A couple of months after we became friends I asked her out but she thought that it would be better if we stayed friends. After that was said, we became much closer and im kinda getting signals. what should I do, I really like her?

I believe you like her, i love it when that happened, its always better to start off as friends, even though my relationships wouldnt work very well i dont think..what if yall did go out and broke up? Then you would lose and good friend and it would be awkward to be around eachother...talk to her about it, maybe she realized that your more than friends, good luck! :*:SaRa:*:

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(14/f) i have a hard time getting along with girls. i only have 3 really close friends that are girls and 2 of them are changing alot and i'm begining not to like how they are acting lately. the majority of my friends are boys. i really can't stand being friends with girls! they always find a way to piss me off and with my guy friends... they are so much more easy going! my friend amanda she's been my best friend for about 3 years and she's the same way as me so i guess that's why we get along. but is there something wrong with me that i don't like being around girls and i just like being around guys??

Ok finally someone to relate too! Ive had the same problem since i can remember and it doesnt go away! I was always a Tom boy and wanting to go have fun and not worry about make up and stuff like that, but of course i was a little kid and i didnt know ne better..Girls are jealous, sneaky, 2 faced and very rarely do i find ppl that live around here that are deacent! Guys are fun, go places, they can relate and give you advice just like girls only they usually dont try to steal your boyfriend! I think its normal, how many girlfriends do you need? Just be nice and talk to them but i wouldnt trust em! :*:SaRa:*:

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hello..im working on my profile and i need a good website that has scroll bars...cursers...the lines thru the page...pop ups...music codes...welcome sign...and n e thing else wuld help! thanx send as many websites as u can i will rate high!thanx

Yeah im your gurl! Here are some of my personal favorites! http://www.coloryourprofyle.com/webpage/coolpage.html
http://www.thuggndivazdollz.com/
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Hope I helped if you need more lemme know!
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School has been going for about a week and things aren't exactly going very fast!
I am usually pretty populiar but now no 1 wants anything to do with me!
I dunno what to do cause i have like 5 friends out of 600!
What can i do to make it easier on me to make friends????

Ok take my advice on this one! Dont worry about being popular! Smile at everyone, talk to everyone even if they arent on your social standards! Everyone is equal and nobody is better than anyone else, remember that and you have 555 friends to make! :*:SaRa:*:

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My two friends and I were in a chat room and one of my friends says, 'OMG! I got your email! Don't tell *Katie (me)* though" to my other friend. I hate it when people talk like that. I asked my other friend what it was about and she said nothing. What should I say/do?

Your friends shouldnt be keeping things from you..When theres an uneven amount of friends in a group theres always an odd ball! I mean sometimes do you n your 1 friend talk about the other gurl?you know you do! Maybe it was nothing bad, maybe they are doin something nice for you? Talk about it!Get to the bottom of it! Thanks for the question! If they are talkin about you then chances are they arent real friends anyway! :*:SaRa:*:

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