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HEY!! U can call me Nikki Im from that little water state. Im fifteen and a sophmore. I can connect with most teens and their problems but also i think older people need to be open to advice from younger minds as well..so give us a chance. =] I like helping people and giving advice is the one the best ways to help. Ask me anything, i may not always have an answer but ill try. I put in thought and time on the question being asked, something id like people to also do for me. So tell me little pieces of your life and ill see if i can try and put them back together. ;]
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Is there something where you can text someone and they give you advice? Like an actual person. Kind of like chacha, but chacha is always sooo formal...someone who will talk normally. Has to be in the united states so it doesnt cost me money. And no additional chargers to or whatever
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idk where you can text for advice.. but u can text me.. just ask me a question on my column
ok i really need some advice so plaease help.
me and my friends have become very good friends with our substitue teacher at school. he is 40. and we are 16. he works with the police (drug buster) hes a security at the mall and we visit him every day. my mom knows him threw the school system becsacz shes a teacher. hes also in the army and is going away to iraq in a few weeks and we have been plannin to go out to eat before he leaves for about 6 months now. we are with him at the mall all the time and he drives us home sometimes. he alredy brought 1 of my friends to get pizza a few nights ago. and he jus asked me to do our food thing tuesday b4 he leaves. i have no problem doing that. he knows i love to drimnk (i dc that its illegal) he asked me what kind of alcohol i want becuase hes gunna buy me some for tuesday so i can dirnk. the thing that makes me think is that even though im good friends with him and i trust him ocmpletly, it seems sketchy that hes asking me to drink. i mean, i cood think of it as him bein my own age and bein jus friends, but like idno its jus weird that since hes 40 and im 16 and im gunna be drinkin with him. i do want to get suttin to eat wit him, but idno if i shood drink. please tell me what i should do. and if i shouldnt drink wit him, what are excuses i can tell him? (i dnt wanna say cz ur 40 and its weird)thanks, all help is needed.
Well you dont need to avoid what you like to do just because of the person, try drinking something light that couldnt possibly get you drunk, such as wine coolers. Smirnoff is really good. Or if your positive you dont want to then just make a joke out of it,like Oh Im trying to cool down on the liquor so no thanks. Or anything that wont make it seem like your thinking its because hes 40. Its nice that you and your sub can talk and stuff, but also be careful like the rides home. It seems like if someone found that out he wouldnt really be subbing to much more. But goodluck with the dinner, and I wish him well in iraq.
well this will be long sorry ut i really need help not mentally but with my friends!!! i have one group of friends lets name them A B C D diched me last summer sense their camp counserlurs and im not so i had one friend from tht group that wasnt either so we became bffs! but i made older and newer friends from my school that are abs. amazing but their going into highscool and im going tino 8th and like there is lets call her k she is my bff from last summer. and she wants to hang with me and i will then theres the popular ppl i guess! the boys ang with them a lot and girls from my school hang with this major slut and i told them that she is a whore and they want me to pisck a group and im bffs with the boys but the boys dont want me to they say wenever u have the time fit us in and their cool like that but the girls arnts!!
help sorry its long i need the help please!!
OKay well first no one can make you choose between the groups and you dont need to. The boys sound chill, so how about you only hang with them, you dont need to hang with the whore just because they do. Your other best friends, abcd, you should keep hanging with them. Its great to have a lot of friends, because you cant always hang with certain ones,because they might be busy, so then you have the other ones to hang with. Those groups dont need to be friends with eachother, but its cool that you have connections to all of them, so keep those connections, have fun.
My friend's boyfriend is terrible. He smokes, drinks, does drugs. Basically, all the things she'd never do. And now we barely talk anymore and I don't know what to do. They've been together for a while now, but we've been friends 5 times longer. I try talking to her, but she pushes me away. How can I tell her that she can do so much better? What should I say?
Tell it to her straight. She'll appreciate it in the end. Tell her that her bf needs to clean up his act, because all his drinking, smoking, and drug use just aint cute. Then tell her she is better than what he does, and that she can make him change and that if he dont want to change than she deserves better. But you also have to understand that maybe she likes him just the way he is. Tell her that you feel like your friendship is kind of being pushed to the side, because of her relationship with her boyfriend. Tell what you think and what you feel.
my friends 16th birthday is coming up and my family is going to las vegas my brother and dad are going for the SEMA car show.. aand my mom and I arent going to that show so we thought that i should bring my best friend as her sweet 16 present from me and stuff.. do you think thats a good idea??
if so how can i find out if she would want to go without her being suspiscious of it being her present.. ???
First thing to do is ask her parents. Dont bother getting her excited and her parents saying no. If you dont want to ask her parents, have your mom call and ask. If they say yes, then heres the plan. While talking to your friend, bring up the idea of you going, dont tell her that your family is definitely going, say that you guys want to go. Be happy and excited about the "idea" and then say Oh wouldn't be so cool if me and u went. Dont mention birthday. Then talk about things you guys could do in las vegas and she'll be happy and what not. If she agrees and says yeah that would be, then thats how you know she would like to go. Besides, who wouldn't want to go to las vegas with their Best Friend. and your a great friend for inviting her. hope she can go. good luck -ask me if you got any more questions.
my best friend max told me a huge secret about himself a long time ago and i swore not to tell anyone. i messed up big time by telling steven because steven has a big mouth sometimes. a few days ago i was talking to max and i told him that i really dont like steven because hes annoying me a lot. then max told steven that i think hes "gross". he was just kidding of course but what if steven gets mad and decides to tell max the secret i told him a long time ago as like payback or something. that would guarantee max hating me forever. what do i do? help!!
Tell max that it was just a slip up. Everyone messes up, tell him that you understand if he ignores you for a while, but if hes really you friend than he shouldn't hate you and stop talk to him forever. I'll say it was wrong of you to tell steven, i mean at least tell someone who isnt a big mouth. But everyone does it, well I do. Sometimes you just cant help your self and sometimes you dont realize you even told. Just remember that max is supposed to be your friend, so just apologize, explain and you should be fine. If he doesn't talk to you for a while, give him some time, then start talking to him again and he'll get past it. Ask me, if you have any more questions. :)
so, my best friend, can treat me like DIRT.
i mean horrible. she's just sooo rude! what do i do? i mean i love her so much, and shes amazing. but when shes rude i dont know what to do! i just take it. beucase i NEVER want to loose her. i NEED HELP!
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Tell her straight up, when she is rude. Be like that was rude and your being rude right now. Some people just dont know when they are being rude, annoying, or etc. Or your friend may be moody and just takes it out on you. People say people take their frustrations out on the people that care for them. Dont stop being her friend, talk to her about it.
I'm friends with this guy. He called me and texted me for hours with one of his guy friends. I put my phone on silent and was trying to sleep. I woke up a few times to check it my phone and noticed that there were 15+ text messages and calls. I had two voicemails. Both were screaming and cursing at me for not picking up my cell phone because they wanted to make plans. Basically my phone was flooded with them. I can understand he was upset that I wasn't answering, but to yell and curse? I'm a female. I'm not one of his "guy buddies" and no one deserves that. This isn't the first time it happened but he swears he was drunk. Should I just end the friendship? Or is it worth another chance? Thanks!
You should keep being his friend, but if he does that too often than no. Tell him next time he calls late that you are trying to get some sleep and you'll talk to him later. It seems like maybe he might like you and when you dont answer he gets upset because he wants to see you. Or he's a drunk cornball who just said the wrong things and didnt mean it. Definitely worth another chance though.