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I need to make some friends. I used to have friends last year, but this year (sophmore), I just can't seem to make any or hang out with anyone. I stopped caring about my hair and myspace and facebook...stuff like that. Could that be a reason that people have stopped liking me? I just need to know a way to make friends and stand out from all the people like me. I don't want to be like everyone else and I want the girls that I sometimes hang out with to like me. These girls are the kind that guys think are sooo "hot" and "can't wait til they turn 18." They hang out with skater boys (i'm jealous) and are really really pretty.
My life pretty much just sucks in general :)
But help, if you can!
Yea, I think everyone goes through this at sometime or another.. i went through the same things myself.. my advice would be to spead yourself out a little.. just remember.. you can never have too many friends. Try striking up a convo with someone that you normally wouldnt, or taking a extra fun class.. or attending more school social things. The other columnist was right, you get out what you put in, but you have to put yourself out there and make yourself available ya know! Always remember to be yourself!
my friend was over my house she acts like a stud we switched cell phones for 2 day during them 2 day i got over 15 messages from her girlfriend saying stuff i dont even want to mention should i ask her is she gay or play like i dont know
sinceraly "cluless"
If she acts like a stud.. and you got messages from her "girlfriend" then you already know shes gay! lol
But when u see her again, i wouldnt come right out and ask her.. try somethin like.. "damn girl you got like 15 messages from so & so!.. so whats up with yall two?" Try and sound like you know shes gay, and you just want to find out about her and the other girls status. If you ask that way, you'll get your answer, and at the same time you wont wont freak her out by being attacking.
Hope I helped!
MCalways!
ok there is this kid he wants me dead and i didnt do anything to him!! what should i do? hes nice to eevryone else but not me! i need help! badly!
If he's REALLY making serious threats to kill you, and you think he just might be crazy enough to do it, then I would go tell someone, maybe your parents or something. But if you dont think he's willing to actually go that far with it, figure out what the hell made him so mad. If your sure that you didn't do anything to him, then I woud just leave him alone.
hey im 13 and lately ive been feeling left out. i have a whole group of friends who iused to hang out with but i cant hang out on the weekends anymore because i need to study for school and i also have something going on. even though i cant hang out really ive been feeling left out, my friends wont talk to me, and the only chance i can hang out with them they always have plans. ive been also trying to hook up with my friends ex so do you think its that they dont wanna be friends with me or what
First off.. I dont think that you should be trying to hook up with your friends ex. DO you think thsta why they aren't talking to you?
If its not, then explain to them that you have a lot of things to do on the weekends, and you have a busy schedule, but you would like to set a day where yall could just hang.
today im goin to watch a movie with my boyfriend and some friends. i want to wear a thong with the pants in wearing but im afraid that the pants might slip and show my it while im sitting there. im not a slut so i dont want him or anyone else to see it. i dont know if they would tell me if they saw it since most of them dont even know i have any. any pointers?
Go ahead and where the thong. If you all are sitting there watching a movie, I doubt that anyone is going to see your thong! But if they do see it later on in the night...I doubt that they are going to call you a slut. Especially if they are your friends!
Take Care
I really like this one girl called Nicole but from what i hear she hates my guts i want to ask why but shes a bad girl always skipping school and stuff (nadda really bad no durgs that i know of) it could just be because shes Goth i dunno. anyways my query is how do i make on friendly terms not a relationship without doing something corny, cheap or expensive(sp?)
thanks a ton
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Solemnstar
well the first thing you need to find out if she actual does hate your guts..(you said that you heard it) And by doing that, you need to talk to her. It could be that she just doesn't trust a lot of people, and maybe its not just YOU personally. SO the best thing I could tellyou right now is to talk to her first, and see where that gets ya..then we can go from there..
First..like start out with "Hey Nicole, what up?" and if she answers....f off you moron, then I would leave her alone..but if she says like "hey" back, then ask some follow-up questions
Hope I helped!
I go to a private school, and my friend did also, but then she went public. i still keep in touch with her and she is still a really great friend. But now i have this other great friend in school with me and i'm not sure wiether to think she is a better friend or not. Should i replace her? is it bad that i do not feel as close to my previous best friend?
-dorinflower55
No its not a bad thing at all! And your not replacing your "previous" best friend, you just have another one! Who ever said that a person could only have one best friend? Maybe the 3 of you could hook up one day, and get them two to know each other! Then you'll have 2 best friends.
Try it!
Take Care!
Ok..well I had three best friends. One of them I kinda spread apart from because she is always with her boyfriend but we were still friends and we didn;t hate eachother or anything let's call her Maggie. The other two supposedly HATE me now because Maggie randomly told them I was talking about them when I HAVENT been, I mean how can I, I am never with Maggie she is always with her boyfriend. So now I am really mad because my two old best friends hate me. I guess I don't want to be friends with them anymore if they are going to be like this but I don't want them to hate me with a passion!! They won't talk to me and I don't even want to try talking to them! Do you think eventually they will get over it?? I mean one of the girls shares a locker with me and if she is going to stay being bitchy then I'm kicking her out! What should I do...please don't tell me to try talking to them because I won't thanks!
Why is maggie lying on you like that! I th ink you need to have a talk with all three of them TOGETHER to get all the facts stright..and get your friends back!
i have these 2 friends and they are like 2 of my best friends..they are twins too.But like they have other friends that they chill with but they never have chilled with me, & we are always there for eachother and they always say bf4l sfl and i sorta believe the bf4l part but not the sfl, it just rlly pisses me off how they dont chill with me, how should i handle this? what should i say to them?
Why do it make you so upset that they have other friends other then you? Either talk to them and incorporate them into your group of friends by talking to them and getteing to know them...or finding some new friends to hang with
BTW...what does SFL mean?
okay i had this friend and she gave me ur barbell to use and now that we are not friends she wants it back..but the thing is i told her i would give it back thursday before break and she never showed well now she is saying all this shit like o0o0 im getting pissed because your not goin to give me my barbell well...i kind of thru it away well ne wayz she said she was goin to kick my ass i really dont care but i just want her to go away and stop buggin me...she is a freshman she cant do ne thing i mean im a junior...what the hell...so what should i do??? PLZ HELP
if she gave you something, and something happened to it while it was in your possesion..then you are responsible for it. Just tell her your gonna pay her back for it. Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot..wouldn't you be mad if she didn't return your stuff?
Okay i have this friend and her name is andrea. we are like best friends but now i dont think so...we tell each other everything but she never sits by me at school. she is having a great time with her other friends and she tells me all there jokes...she never really talks to me anymore. she told me i cant be in there lil group anymore! so are we still best friends or not? or should i stop being her friend? HELP please!
shes telling you that you cant hang out with her and her friends.does that sound like a best friend?..I wouldn't say stop being her friend..just ask her why she hasn't been around you as much. You should be able to go from there
Good Luck!
ok theres this one kid i have known for about 3 months and i think he is really cool and i have liked him for awhile... well my best friend has only known him for a month and went out with him... and like i really liked him the whole time but wanted her happy but she broke up with him bc she didnt like him all that much and now me n him want to get together but iono what she will say... should i talk to her bout it or just tell her i like him n i am prolly gonna hook up with him? some one plz help me
Thanks so much Love alwayz
Lost and Confused
yes..I say talk to your friend! How would you feel if she turned around and went out with your ex! I know I would be real upset!! Explain to her hat you have liked him for awhile now, and you know that she broke up with him because of whatever..but you would really like to get to know him. then you know..ask her if it would make her feel weird and stuff like that. She might not even care if you went out with him! You just gotta talk with her hun!
Best of luck!!!
My best friend has OCD... and she reminds me of it like 24/7. Whenever she leaves the house she asks like over and over if she left sumthin on and such. I keep reminding her that OCD is just that she is detailed and stuff like that (my parents are both doctors and explained it). It's driving me NUTS! help! what do I do?
Its nothing you really can do. It might be hard..but thats just part of her disorder. You sound like a very good friend for sticking around with her! :)
Okay, 3 of my very good friends think they're fat... and they're NOT!!! we're only 13 years old and they've been going on all these diets. They hardly eat anything at lunch! I cant convince them that they're not fat! I'm really afraid they're going to go anorexic or bulemic. I dont know what to do, or what to say to them to convince them they're not fat. I've talked to them MANY times about it, but they just dont believe me. It really bugs me that they think they're fat, cuz they're not fat AT ALL! please help me!
Everyone has that problem at some point or another. I always had people telling me that I wasn't fat, when I thought I was. I just had to grow out of it. Still to this day, I skip lunch, so dont worry, if they get hungry..they will eat! Just watch them for signs of eating disorders and things of that nature..but for right now..just keep telling them they are beautiful the way they are :)
OK, I was in this sort of relationship, b ut I never went out with this guy, but anyway, my friend who I wasnt' friends with at the time ( I was mad at her) told my worst enemy about this problem. And I'm really mad cuz I don't want her to know. I mean my enemy won't tell anyone but, I am really mad! Should I confront my friend and ask if she told my enemy or what? Please help!
If its bothering you this much then I think it will be worth it to confront her about it. Just tell she had no right to spread you business around, and especially to someone you dont even like! speak your mind!