I really like it when people ask me for advice, but unfortunatly most of my friends are gone this summer and don't have time to talk to me. And they hardly ever ask me for advice anyway. I need to find less secure friends. Lol. Besides, my summer may get a bit boring. I'm open to any questions, specializing in school work, photography and being a teen. And even if I don't have an answer, it's nice to know someone is as confused as you are.
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My good friend is having a pool party tomorrow and she invited many people to go. One of the people going is her boyfriend. I don't think I have ever hated anyone more than I hate her boyfriend. He treats me like shit, he treats HER like shit and they honestly make me sick when I see them together. I originally wasn't going to go because of the fact that he was going to be there, but then my friend Cara convinced me to go as well as my boyfriend. I made the decision not to go because I don't want to start anything with them. I know everyone is going to be there to have a good time, and I want to have fun but I CANNOT have fun if he is near me. I can't even begin to describe how much I loathe her boyfriend. I sort of feel bad that I'm not going but I know I'm making the right choice in staying home because I don't want to ruine it for anyone else just because I'm going to be misterable. But my question is, do you think I should go anyway? She really wanted me to go but I seriously will not be able to keep my anger inside if I see them together. (link)
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If there's a lot of people there, he's less likely to treat anyone poorly. I would go to the party for your friend. If her boyfriend is really as bad as you say she is, she's going to need a lot of support. Try to have the two of you stay in a large group of friends. Don't let yourselves be alone with him. If you really think she should break up with him, you should tell her. If he does treat her bad at the party, find a time when you can be alone with her, and explain to her that she deserves better.
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Okay, I'm 14 years old, a male, and I am a homosexual FYI. I lived with my mom until her drug problems escaladed and I had to move with my grandparents. During that time, I became friends with this guy who I am friends with but am totally not attracted to whatsoever. I stayed there for a few months and we signed up for summer P.E. together and everything was going good. Then, I moved with my mom again and I became friends with this other guy who I am totally attracted to and I guess that kinda boosts his personality. I ended up blowing my other friend off and dropped out of summer P.E. to be with the guy I like/love or whatever. Is it bad I kinda ditched my best friend even though its my life and I should be able to do what I want and if this other guy makes me happy that should be the only thing that matters right? Anyways, my summer P.E. friend calls and says I blew him off to be with Ronnie and smoke drugs which isn't entirely false and he hangs up on me. Is it bad that I did this and what should I do now. Also, remember its too late to sign back up for summer P.E. and its also nice to know my summer P.E. friend is a republican and doesn't know I'm gay or anything like that. Please help me out of this bind. (link)
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First of all, try not to bring politics into this. People can form opinions, then actually experience the issue and change their opinon. Explain to your friend that you know blowing him off was wrong, and that you really regret it. While you can spend time with Ronnie, don't forget to spend time with your friend too.
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ok, well my friend got raped by her dad and is abused. I dont know if he does it alot, or if he did it just once, but still, my friend is in deep shit if she dosent tell anyone. Fortunatly she told me cause we're really close, but she didnt tell the social worker *she was adopted* cause she said she dosent want her world to turn upside down and change. She told me to keep it as a secret and when she told me i was half asleep *i'm awake now* so i promised i wouldnt tell anyone that could arrest him or anything. Should i tell my parents and make her suffer but have her world the way it is and how she wants it to be? or should i break my promise to my friend and tell my parents? Please help, it's a big problem! i'll rate high!
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Of course you should tell someone. This can emotionally scar her forever. If he does it once, he's going to do it again. It might get worse. Tell your parents right away. It'll be hard for everyone, but you have to be there for her. She's probably going to get mad at you, but anything is better than this. By helping, she'll eventually figure out that you love her and will be there for her any time. Love and support from all her friends will get her through tough times.
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ok well last year in 7th grade was the most roughest time ever i could think of!! i was so liked at the begining of the year and people started making rumors up about me and i lost almost every friend....i also got beat up once well i didnt get beat up thats what everybody says i just got in a fight ok and i am just having such a miserable summer bc thats all i ever think about is next year how im not going to have any friends to be with and where im going to sit for lunch and all that ughh i dont know what to do and all my mom says is "i dont know what to tell you" all im really worried about it one person bc she was friends with all the 8th graders and all the 6th graders and shes mean to me and hates me and she could prolly get everybody else to hate me and shes tall and is friends with all the popular people and shes not afriad to come in my face and say crap to me [ITS HAPPEND BEFORE] =[ it just started out i was hanging out with the popular people at the beegining of the year [ i guess thats what i wanteed the most ] and i dont know what happend but they all started hearing roomers and crap and yeah i started to get bad grades and i almost failed 7th grade and all this crap ughhh im not sure if god made all them hate me for a reason? im just so confused=/ somebody please help me ive been going through this forever and i really really need some help please =(
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Be nice to others. Try to make friends. Join a team or club. But NEVER worry about what other people think. If someone comes up to you and insults you or makes you feel uncomfortable, just laugh it off. People who spend all their time making fun of others and putting them down feel really insecure. That 's theory is probably that if all her friends are busy laughing at everyone else, they won't notice her flaws. If she insults you, compliment her. Once she realizes you don't care, she'll find some other poor victim.
Hopefully now that you know how bad rumors hurt, you won't start any and will stop them if you hear them.
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ok, well all my friends have secrets. Everyone does.. right? well i dont know why but EVERYONE tells me their problems and secrets, sometimes it can be something really small that i can stand like "i like _____" but sometimes they're REALLY big like "i've been raped! dont tell anyone!". Now i'm really popular when it comes to friends so i'm holding ALL of THEIR secrets! one of these days i'm gonna combust and tell everyone all these secrets. I want to be there for my friends, but i dont want to go crazy holding everyone thought, secrets, and personal problems. What do i do?! (link)
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First off, congrats on being trustworthy. That's a great quality in friends and something everyone looks for. You'll go far socially.
However, sometimes it's just too much. If people keep coming to you, calmy tell them that you have a lot on your mind and as much as you'd like to help, their problems might add some un-needed stress. Suggest a diary. If they want input, suggest www.opendiary.com, where they can get input and advice as well as give it.
If your friends do have a huge problem, like, "I've been d," don't just sit there! This is a situation where you have to tell! Don't betray their trust right away, though. Tell them that they need to tell an right away. What happens if they get pregnant? If they still don't tell, call their parents. Explain that your friend asked you to keep it secret, but that you're worried. Your friend may be really angry at you for a while, but someday they'll be greatful.
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Hey my friend and I have been friends for a long time. We promised to be best friends forever. Lately though, I feel as if we've grown apart. Just recently we have been going to different middle schools and we won't be meeting up until high school. We haven't been talking to each other much lately, even though we're out for summer break. How can I help improve our relationship? (link)
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Make plans with your friend to do something fun, like a movie. Or invite your best friend to do stuff with you and your other friends. The more connections your best friend has with your school, the more you'll get to see them. Try to meet some of their friends too. By staying in your own bubble, your friendship can become boring.
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ok so my best guy friend is moving. i used to like him but now im trying not to b/c he's moving and i no it won't work out. but i still want to be friends. how can i still be friend's with him if he's moving like 2 hours away. will being friend's work with him so far away? (link)
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Of course you can still be friends! Think of him as a pen pal. If you want to keep things interesting, mail him a letter instead of writing an e-mail. It'll be more personal, and a bit more fun. You can also send stuff too, like a CD for his birthday. Make plans to get together every few weeks. You could meet somewhere in the middle and see a movie. If he knows you're planning on staying friends, he'll make the effort too.
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what are some good qualities you need to have in a friendship? for example ..loyalty. i need at least 3 of them. thanks i rate high for good answers
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I would have to say that a good sense of humor is important in a friend. It's my personal favorite.
Generosity is important too. You want a friend who will share stuff and not hog all the popcorn at the movies. Lol.
It's also important to have a friend who cares. I always know my friends will be there for me if I need them, even though they tease me all the time!
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i had this best friend named ryley when i was about 5 years old years old!! we lived next door to me and we did EVERYTHING together!but then when i was 8 he moved and i never saw him again and now i am really starting to miss him. My boyfriend goes to his church and a few weeks ago he said his best friend ryley from church asked if he knew me!he said yes and ryley told him we used to be best friends!now i really want to call him since i know now that he remembers me! but i dont know what i would say!i sure did change alot from when i was 8 til now im 14.i dont even know if he cares or wants to talk to me..what should i do? (link)
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Of course he cares! He wouldn't have asked your boyfriend if he didn't. He probably misses you just as much as you miss him. See if the three of you (you, Ryley, and your boyfriend) can hang out together. Try going to a movie (that way you can get used to each other without having to talk) or a restaurant. As for talking, try remembering some of the good times you guys had. Or ask him how schools going. I know it sounds lame, but it'll make him feel more comfortable too.
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