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Hello! I'm Jenn! I LOVE my friends and I'll try really hard to give you good advice. I like to sing, dance, and act and I love theater! So go ahead, ask me anything!
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My Boyfriend is really clingy sumtimes and my friends have told him to kinda back off a bit but he hasn't done it that much what do i tell him?
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Tell him to back off. But be kind of nice about it. Or you can tell him to take a break. If I were you, I'd say to him, "Boyfriend, I think you're really great and I love spending time with you but your kind of clingy." Hope this helps!
Okay, so i don't have any friends. frankly alot of people don't like me because of all the drama that went on last year in 8th grade. Now i am really scared to be going into freshman, when almost everybody hates me when i only have about 4 girl friends.. and would've i`m not in any classes with them? well thats not my problem.. my problem is.. the people that don't like me are going to harass me and get everybody to gain up on me.. i`m now a religious christian && not many people know that, except for the people that went to church camp with me. i don't know what i am going to do. what should i say to people who are trying to fight with me.. should i like apologize to them.. so that they don't cause drama for me in 9th? i really just wanna stay out and be like unknown.. but thats not going to happen.. what do i do :[[ please please help.
Going into high school is a new experiece, a new start. It's said that you get out of touch with the majority of the kids you were friends with in middle school once you go to high school. I have a couple suggestions for if they tease you:
1. Tell someone! If you don't feel right telling the principal or a teacher, tell your 4 friends. I'm sure they'll be willing to protect you and help you.
2. Don't pay attention to them. I know it's hard not to, but if you just don't answer to them, don't even look at them , they'll soon get tired of bullying you. People bully other people because they want to see their reaction. BUt if you don't give them a reaction, they'll get bored of it.
You know, in high school, people usually mellow out and don't care as much. I have a friend who in middle school, tried to please everyone and be friends with everybody, since high school, he's completely mellowed out and has a great group of friends while everyone else pretty much leaves him alone. Good luck with all of this and remember: high school is the best years of your life!
I just found out that my best friend's dad passed away today. I knew that he had some kind of cancer and she'd been visiting him in the hospital for some time now, I also know that she did NOT get along with him. I never met him because he lived in SC and her and her mom lived in NC. (they weren't divorced, it's actually kind of confusing) Anyway, I'm just not too sure what to say to her. We've been friends longer than I can remember and I know this must be tough for her. I've had some friends pass away, but the only family I've had pass away was my great grandmother and my sister- I was young when my great grandmother passed away and I wasn't even born yet when my sister passed away, so I don't know everything she's going through.
I was just wondering if anyone here lost a parent and what others said to you that was comforting.
I plan on telling here that I'm here for her no matter where I am or what time it is, and I will be there, but somehow that just doesn't seem like enough... I don't know, I'm just looking for some advice on what I can say and what would be comforting. Thanks in advance.
i undertsand how hard this can be. When my best friend's dad died last year, I didn't know what to say. Don't say: I know what you're going through. Because you don't. Also, don't ask her if she's ok because that will make her feel worse. I'd just say, "I'm so sorry and if you need to talk, I'm here." If she does decide to talk to you. Don't say a word while she's talking. Listen intently and then give her a hug. Hope this helps.
my friend is mad at me because of a misunderstanding. i have tried everything, but no matter what i do she refuses to be my friend. I have told her i was sorry more times than i can count. i was literally in tears before because her friendship means a lot to me. i even told her this. she has blocked me on aim and wont answer her phone because my name shows on the caller id... and she wont talk to me at school. there is no way i can get through to her that it was a misunderstanding. i feel awful and i don't know what to do....please help.
I would give her a couple of days distance. Usually it's easier to stay mad at people when all they do is apologize and such. Once she sees your absence, she'll remember all the cool stuff about you and hopefully miss you. You can also write a note explaining how it was a misunderstanding and how sorry you are about the whole fight, and have a friend give it to her. Have the friend make sure she reads it and doesn't throw it out when getting it. Hope this helps!
I've been friends with a married man for about 3 years and we have never crossed the line. I knew him and his wife before they moved last year. I thought of him as one of my closest friends- he was someone I could always talk to. Well yesterday we got into a big fight on MSN messenger. I told him that I missed him (because I harldy get to see him since he moved) and then he made a comment "I'm a married man". Then I said "I know- just friends". I was upset and told him I didnt think we should talk anymore. He wanted to know why. I told him that his comment " I'm a married man" made it sound like I wanted an affair with him. I assured him I was not like that. I said I would never cheat with a married man because it happend with my mom and dad. I also said I hoped we could still be friends. Well I thought he would have respected me for saying that but instead he coldly responded with "good bye". He gave me no explanation either. I thought this man was my friend- surely a true friend would understand. Now he has completely shut me out. He won't answer my phone calls and I sent two emails saying that he was the best friend I ever had and I hoped we could still be friends. He is not responding. This man has been an important friend in my life for the last 3 years- this just doesnt make sense. Why do think he's being this way? Do you think he really did want an affair with me and now is miffed that he knows he won't be getting any?
oy, this is a tough one. I'm sorry that this happened to you and I know, it sucks. I'd try calling him a couple more times and leaving heartfelt messages. Explain to him that you are truly sorry for the big misunderstanding. If he really won't budge, then call his wife. Explain to her the whole situation and how he took it the wrong way. Also tell her that you would never do anything to hurt their marriage. Ask her if she could talk to him about it. Maybe his wife's words will help him see that he took it the wrong way and you guys could be friends again. I really hope this helps and good luck!
she's such a bitch! ever since like 8th grade, she's been the worst friend ever!
she leaves every summer on vacation and she actually planned a suprise party for herself.. but she didn't want anybody to know that she planned a suprise party for herself so she got my cell phone and started text messaging everyone telling them that I planned the suprise party.. and i was fine w/ that because i could understand that she doesn't want to tell anyone she planned it for herself. it wasnt actually a party party but it was like going to dinner and movies with a whole bunch of people. but, i got bitten by a red ant and i'm SUPER allergic so my foot looks like a big red balloon and i couldn't go because i had to go to the doctor and i was under heavy medication because the swelling was so bad. so she goes and has her stupid little party putting on her stupid fake smile and actually goes out with everybody having a good time while i'm at the hospital! and calls me to brag about it after... i'm sorry but that is SUPER bitchy of her to do. they almost had to hospitalize me! i'm so mad at her and i don't want to take her to a party tonight! what can i tell her not to take her... and how could i stop being friends with her because i don't want to be friends someone like her anymore! this isnt the first time and her mother always talks bad about people and started talking bad about me when i was just dancing with some guy and didn't say anything about her stupid daughter that was making out on the floor!
ok, this girlsounds like a jerk. That's really rude of her to call you and brag. I have a couple suggestions on how not to be friends with her. (But keep in mind they're kind of mean .so...)
1. Tell her flat out. Just tell her that you don't like the way she treats you and you need some space. She might change her ways, if not, hey! You have your space!
2. Hang out with friends and don't invite her. Just exclude her from your plans. Maybe she'll take a hint.
I hope this works...(sorry if my suggestions seem kind of mean to her, but it sounds like she deserves a good kick in the ass.)
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my parents and i are going on a camping trip this weekend and they said i could invite one friend with us. well, this is really hard for me, because i can only invite one person, and i have two best friends. we always hang out together, but sometimes i do things with just each of them alone. i already mentioned the trip when we were all hanging out together and they both said they want to come. well, that was before my parents told me i could only bring one person, and i don't know who i should pick. one of them, hayley, said she might not be able to go because her parents are really overprotective and wouldn't want her to go for the entire weekend. my other friend, rachel, could probably go, but at this point it seems like it's a 50/50 chance that either of them could go for sure. i like both of them the same, and i have the same amount of fun with each of them. does anyone know what i should do or which i should pick?
I would ask Rachel, because she seems more reliable to go. Then I would explain to Hayley about how you could only invite one person and she seemed like it wasn't for sure. Then I'd spend the day with just Hayley so you guys can have some one on one time before you go on your trip. When you return, I wouldn't mention the trip unless Hayley asks. Then I would say. "It was fun but we wish you were there." Also, same thing goes for Rachel is she can't go but Hayley can. Hope this helps!
My friends always tell me im pretty and that im the skinniest out of all of us whenever i say im fat or that im ugly or hate my hair and things like that and i dont know if they are doing this to make me feel better or not? what do you think?
It really sounds like you want them to say something good about you. Trust me, when my friends do that to me I find it super annoying. Did u ever think that maybe they're telling the truth? If you don't like the way you look, wear make-up! It can make the ugliest girl very pretty. And if you think your fat then go on a diet and excersise. But you should stop complaining to your friends. I did that for a while and they got so annoyed that they started agreeing with me, they said, yea you are ugly and stuff. It really hurt my feelings but I knew they were just frustrated with me. So I'd be grateful they think you are pretty and i'd stop with the insecurities. NOBODY'S PERFECT!