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I had this friend who I've known since I was 7. Now it feels like she doesnt care about me AT ALL and has moved on to bigger and better things. The thing is that she moved away when she was 8 and we still live far away from eachother. Last month we were still friends, but shes changing, hiding things from me, and not the girl she used to be. I try talking to her, and shes telling me that I'm the one trying to start a fight and stuff like that, and meanwhile, I'm trying to fix it! I dont know what to do!!!

its hard to be friends with someone who lives far away. it might be hard to do because you've known her for so long but you should just forget about her and make some new friends

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This may be long, so brace yourself lol.
Ok, so I like my ex boyfriend and i have "I love you" in my profile.My other ex kept on wanting to know who it was and I didn't wanna tell him because he'd get extremely mad. So then after awhile he started calling me a bi*ch, as*hole, and prick n stuff.He said that I think I'm too good for everyone and that's why I won't tell him. He thinks it because I only told my cousin (my best friend) that I liked my ex so that made him think that I thought I was too good for everyone. He was a really good friend of mine, and since I won't tell him who I like because I wanna keep it to myself and my cousin,he doesn't want to be friends anymore. Was he being wrong or was I? please help! What should I say to him?

hes blowing this way out of proportion. its shouldnt be that big of a deal to him that you dont wanna tell him who u like. he is your ex boyfriend. tell him why you think you shouldnt be telling him so he'll realize that you just dont want to upset him.

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my dog died...and i am having trouble getting over her death...what should i do?

get a puppy. ull still feel sad sometimes but the puppy will DEFINETLY distract u

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i've known my best friend for almost two and a half years now, and i have some hilarious pictures and memories from the past bit. also some serious ones and all that. anyway, i want to somehow incorporate everything he and i have been through into some sort of gift to be able to give him at the end of high school (we're juniors right now). but i'm kind of blanking on good ideas. i want to make sure it can have all of our inside jokes and all that, and be something he can keep forever, you know? any help would be greatly appreciated!

make him a scrapbook with all of the good memories and pictures that you hav in it. write under the pictures inside jokes that u associate with them. fill up most of the book

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i became friends with this one girl named Jenna who was new this year. weve been in school for about 5 monthes now and me, one of my best friends, and one of my guy friends are her only friends in our school. well one of her guy friends from her old school likes me and i dont like him back. he saw me at the movies one night and gets mad because im with another guy, he tells Jenna and Jenna gets mad at me and says some extremly mean things to me, things that a "bff" (as she calls us) would NEVER say. she then apologizes the next day when she hears the real story from one of my friends. i dont know if i should forgive her because she really feels bad.. or shes apologizing because she needs friends at our school and if im mad at her, then she knows my friend and my guy friend will surly be mad at her too.. also she has gotten me in a LOT of trouble.. like trouble with cops.. please help!

ditch her. you dont need friends that are like that.

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My two friends, who happen to be girls, really like me, and I don't know if I like them as much! One is good looken, and the other is fun to be with, Please help me on what I should do. Thanks!

i fu dont like them then dont go out with them but if u want to go out with one of them then go out with the one thats fun to be with

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the boy I like is goin gout with my x-best friend. (thats ok )he made a promise at the beginning of the year that he wouldn't go out with anyone. my other best friend asked him out and he said no because he made that promise.is this boy worth worrying about
~x0x0er girl~

nah just ferget bout him. thats not kool what he did

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Hi well like u know i lost prety much the friends that i was really close to before and well laitly i have had hard times of making new friends and well usually i'm really good about talking to people and introdusing my self to them but i just dont know what to do anymore.....what do you think is wrong with me..? and well i hope this site will help me to make some new girls/guy friends that i can talk to when i need some one to hear me out!

u probly are just dishearted cuz ur other friends u arent friends with anymore.just rmember that u do still know how to do it and try to remember how uve made friends in the past

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Okay so my friend just told me that my other friend got raped about 2 years ago.. and I am just now finding this out. And oh my god, I didn't believe her at first, but I know she wouldn't lie about something like this. Ah I am in total shock, I like still can't believe it. I just don't want to believe it... oh my god but I really need to tell my mom, she's good friends with my friend's mom and she deserves to know. But how in the world do I tell her? I like can't come right out and say it.. ahh I really just want to forget about all this though... HELP!!

just when u feel comfy tlkn to ur mom about other things just bring it up and tell her. youll fel better aftrward. hope i helped.
~jj

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well..my friend is being really annoying..recently a guy has hurt her..and all she does is talk bout him and its getting very annoying..im tired of hearing about it..i dont want to be mean and tell her to shut up..but what should i do?! help me please!

omg i have exactly the same problem! my friend was hurt really bad by this boy shes been in love with forever and will never shutup about him. i just pretend to be mildly interested in what she is saying when she talks about him and shes getting the idea that she hasta learn to shut her mouth. hope i helped!
~JJ

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My b-day party is coming up and i just switched skewls now i'm in a public skewl. Now the kids at my old skewl r more care free and like wut they like. The kids at my new skewl care about wut other people think accept some (key word some) of my friends. I'm a mix of both wen i'm with certain friends i'm care free, but with my other friends i'm not.I'm not having a theme party (thats just wrong for a kid my age altho i'm only 13) but i dont kno wut i should say or do. Please help me!

u should hav an all glrs sleepova with only a few of ur new care free friends to get to kno them betta n to feel betta bout urself, with ur friends u should rent a movie n eat snacks n put on each othas makeup n otha grl stuff. itll b alot o fun! hope i helped.
~jj

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my friends always ask me personal questions like "who do you like" .. but i dont know if i should tell them bcuz they might tell other people ... how do you know when you can trust your friends?

well u can tell if u can trust them if they tell u otha ppls secrets. like if they tell u who 1 o their otha friends like n they make u swear u wont say anythin then u probly cant trust them

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heyy! im 13 yr. old girl.. ok so i had this friend and she was my best friend since kindergarden.. we were friends from kindergarden to 5th grade .. then came middle school .. she became somewhat popular somehow .. but she was trying wayy to hard .. anways im in 8th grade now and its only the begining of the 2nd marking period .. she has been mean and stuck up and a bitch to me .. i get upset sometimes (i dont cry but her being me to me hurts bcuz we were friends for so long) and like should i be upset or am i jealous? plz helpp !

when shes alone tlk to her n make it clear that u wanna b friends with her but u want her to stop bein a bitch. if she still treats u like tha then find some otha fiends who won turn on u like that. good luck!
~jj

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I'm at a new school where i dont know many people... i made this one friend, lets just call her anna. So anna and i have been hanging out on the weekends and stuff for the past 3 weeks and im starting to realize that she is really conceited. I don't want to have a friend like this, but i don't really have any other options because i don't want to be friendless. I don't know if you can help very much, just give me your thoughts on this, or maybe if you can relate we can talk about your experience. thanks.

well when i started junior high this year i also kinda had the same problem. none o ma friends had classe wit meh except this one rlly rlly annoyin grl.i tried gettin away from her n droppin hints that i didnt wanna hang out wit her anymore but she didnt get it. anyway in gym class i finally ,ad a new friend so i started sittin wit her at lunch n stuff so the grl finally got the hint n left me alone.well anyway wat im sayin is look fer ppl that u think that u would like to b friends wit n start out by sayin hi im- wats ur name? n it should just go from there

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i'll rate anyone a 5 who reads this and helps thanx!!

me and my best friend have been great friends since 8th grade (were both in 12th now) so we've been friends for pretty much 5 years. i love her to death and i dont know what i would do without her. Were seriously inseperable. About a month ago she met this guy. All of a sudden its like she's dedicating her time to hang out with him EVERY day. I mean all three of us do hang out sometimes but i dont really like it bc i kinda feel like the 3rd wheel. Her ex boyfriend just told me that he likes me but i told him that i only like him as a friend. i told her that he said he liked me and all of a sudden she asumed that i liked him too and now she is mad at me. the reason they broke up was because she was lying to him and cheating on him with this guy she is with now. The guy she is with now wants to get an apartment. He said i could move in if i wanted but i dont want to because i cant afford it but i dont wanna loose my best friend to him because i lost her once before and i was miserable. Well today i left this guy a voicemail saying mean things and everything to him which i shouldnt but he is really rude to me. He calls me a slut and everything. i've told my friend this but she said well im falling in love with him and all that. I really dont wanna loose my best friend at all! i dont know wut to do and its killing me inside. I tryed to talk to her about it but she doesn't wanna listen to me at all. She told me a few weeks ago the only reason she is with this guy is because he gets her w/e she wants (he got her a diamond ring...a $500 stereo and lets her drive his new car and she doesn't have her permit or license) i dont know what to do!! someone please help!! since this is long ill rate u a 5!!! thanx!!!

try tlkn to ur friend again n ge her to listen to ur point o view. if she rlyy wont listen nd it doesnt seem like she cares start makin some new friends. You guys mite just drift away from each othr but u need a bettr friend then her anyway. If she does come bak to her sesnses then give her anothr chance tho cuz it seems that you rlly don wanna give up on her nd that u want to b friends

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