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Aloha, Guys.I love giving advice so I hope I can help you out in any ways needed. I live in Wisconsin and i love hanging out with my friends. I also love movies and stuff too. I'm a normal teenage girl.
*Currently in CD player: A Boy Named Goo (The Goo-Goo Dolls)*
Okay, well ask away!
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this is sorta kinda hard i guess it is complicated to say this to like the whole world but i have this problem with self mutilation adn i do it cause well everyone is always making fun of me and it is just so hard my friedns told me about this website becasue i don't want to go to counseling and talk to an adult who always sayd " and how do u feel about that" I really need help
meetmyyimshi13
Ok, I used to feel soooo goddam depressed all the time. It really sucked. People I thought were my friends ignored me and talked behind my back, and then my sister moved away for college and that hit me really hard. I tried to talk to her, but I ended up crying my eyes out and so then I turned to cutting, which did not help at all. My mom's a counselor and I know how you feel. She's always like, "whats wrong, blah blah?" It's really annoying and stuff...Ok, anyways, I told my sister because she started replying to anonymous poems I sent her and so I told her that I'd been cutting and she gave me the courage to stop and I started writing in a journal and I told my good friend about it and she gave me a rubberband and said to snap it on my wrist 3 times if I ever felt like cutting. It helped so much! My best advice to you is to write in a journal, or find some way to let out anger. I realized one day that I shouldn't have to be taking this crap, because most of the people here are people that I'm never going to see again and when I do at our highschool reunion, they'll probably be wrinkly and gross and having stupid jobs while I'll be the one who took control and everything! Also, praying helps. I know it sounds like crap, but it really does. So tell me more about the problem and I'll help you find other ways to get you feeling better!
Toni Marie
Hi I am christian, and I have a friend who is jewish. I want to get her a "holiday" present, but I am not sure what to call it, or if she would think it was rude. I am also not sure when i should give it to her. I don't know when haunaka is. What do you think?
Yeah you should totally give her a present! Don't even call it anything! Give it to her sometime before Christmas. Plan a gift exchange for both of you. I'm pretty sure it's going on now. And instead of giving those little Christmas tags on the presents, just get a piece of stationary and put, To: (Your Best Friend's Name), Love, (Your name). Happy Holidays!
*Randy T*
I care a lot about what my friends think of me. I was preppy, and I want to go punk. I got some cloths liek element shirt and volcom and stuff. But when my friends get mad at me they call me poser, even before I got this new stuff. They also say I hav real bitchy attitude. And this past summer a lot of family issues happened, and my friends know that and still call me a bitch. Do they really mean it when they call me a bitch and a poser? Or are they saying that just because there mad? I told them how when they say that it hurts and they dont seem to care. And me and one of my best friends just got into this big fight! She has been ignoring me and calling me bitch and poser. But were friends again.... Do you think she styll thinks that? Or was she talking out of anger? PLease dont sey get new freinds cas i dont want new ones! wat do i do?
Wow, that is really rude of your friends. I hope they don't mean it. You can wear whatever you want. Remember, you are your own person. You should talk to your friends and explain to them that you don't appreciate their comment. Tell them that you were looking for a shoulder to lean on, but they didn't give you that. Tell them to remember that you love them, and just talk. Things have to get better...I bet they will. It takes time for good friendships to stay fun. Just work at it, talk to your friends, and think of old times. Tell me what happens, and hang in there.
*Randy T*
Hey whats up? is this Caydee?
You know the truth...I ain't telling...Just because of the stolen identity. Peace out!!
*Randy T*
(Marshmellow Puff Man!)
i'm in middle school and we have the popular cheerleaders. Everyone tells me how thin and beautiful i am. And the popular girls aren't that pretty, but all the boys love them. I'm not a cheerleader but i think i'm just as good as those girls. why don't the boys notice me?
Those boys are jerks. Most guys are at the middle school age. They WILL come around. Girls mature three years faster than boys. In my middle school, the same thing happened. The cheerleaders are all extremely ugly, and the "cool" people love them. I'd say you are pretty and cool, i dont know you, but you sound like it. So just wait a few years. They WILL come around. I promise. I thought the same thing, and in highschool, WHAM! Lots of guys had crushes on me.
*Randy T*
My friend and i used to be really close but lately shes been ignoreing me alot and its really hurtin my feelings.. what should i do!
A lot of people go through this and it hurts. Believe me, i know. Send her an email or a note that says, Hey! We haven't hung out a lot lately. Are you busy this weekend?
You guys can go shopping, see a movie, or whatever! Just try to talk to her and i hope things turn out ok.
*Randy T*
my friend gave me a note to give to another friend...and i forgot to. Later that night i remember the note was in my pocket so i did a bad thing and read it. In the note she talked about how she wants to kill herself and about how she is thinking about slitting her wrisits! what should i do! if i tell my friend she`ll be furious that i invaded her privacy...but if i dont....who knows what could happen!
Give the note to your other friend and read it to her. You guys should create a plan to talk to your friend. She may be mad at you, but you saved her life.
*Randy T*
okay my friend cuts. i really want her to stop! what can i say to her to get her to stop? please help me!
signed ,
worried friend xO x3
Its really hard to stop cutting. I'm still going through the process. Here's what you do: Get your friend a rubber band and make her wear it everyday. Tell her to snap it three times where she wants to cut whenever she gets the craving. It's helped me come a long way and I hope it'll help your friend.
*Randy*
OK well, I have two friends. Recently one of my friends has been hanging out with another group who me and my other friend dont like. Well, My friend who is hanging out with the other group always acts like nothing is wrong, but it feels like she is drifting farther and farther away out of the friendship the three of us have. I want to ask here not to hang out with this other group. But how, and how can i do it w/o hurting her feelings? Well I'm looking forward to advice! Thanx in advanced.
Sometimes friendships dont always work out. I know its really hard to deal with. I've had it happen. Just call up your friend and say, "Hey, i'm bored. Wanna hang out?". If it doesn't work, remember that you still got your other friend and i'm sure that you make friends easily, so start making friends! It'll be okay.
*Randy*