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Q: Be4 anyone reads this that is a punk i have nothing agints you. i just dont understand you.
My problem is that my BESTEST friend in the whole world was like a pretty girl and was well prepy and now all she wants to do is be a sk8 boreder and wear black and she is always like pink is and evil color! She used to let me brush her hair and put her make up on but now she wont even let me touch her. I think that are relationship is floating away and i never wont that to happen. I know she has a right to be her own person but i dont like the person she os becoming and I dont want to change her bak its just i wont to understand wats going on with her and y she want to change all of a sudden i just am confused plz help me dont let our friendship fade wat should i do to figure this out and be able to understand her again.
-confused-

Well. I know where you're coming from. Actually, It was my best friend in your best friends place. Yeah. usually we just do it for the attention or for the hot guys who are skaters and us girls think they will like us if we become more like them. Thats not true. A guy likes you for who you are, not what you're trying to be. But the best thing you could do, is talk to her. Pull her aside and find out whats going on. And sooner or later, i can tell you, she will mention that its about a guy.. or at least that she thought it would be nice to be difference for once. People are like that. Give her time.. if she doesn't realize how much she had with you, she will regret it, because she wont get much from the skaters. Hope this helped.

Q: Okay my problem is that my mom wont give one of my best friends a chance!!! My mom thinks just because Nicole** (**name has been changed) is just a lil different than my other friends that I cant hang with her! Ive asked many times to go out with Nicole but my mom continues to say no because "theres just something about her..out of all the people who call you, shes the rudest" hellloooo she (my mom) dont even answer the phone most of the time! I DO! Ugggghhh! is there ANY way to convince my mom that my friend isnt all trouble, even though she may be?

Well chick, the only thing I can really tell you is that your mom has been a teenager/child once before and she understands how kids are and how kids can be, which may be why she isnt letting you hang out with her... the only way you can possibly convince her, is to let her trust you with your friend... maybe both of you can hang out with your mom and act like your mom is just another friend, and im sure once your moms sees how good of a friend she is, she will trust you and Nicole** enough to let you hang out with her more than you do now.

I hope this helps... let me know if you need more advice... or have any questions...

Q: Ok...i'm 14 and i have a huge problem with my friend. you see, he likes this gurl amber but she hates him (she thinks he's a stalker), he was just calling her a slut and other things like that a week ago and last night he got online and started yelling at me for saying mean stuff about her (i never liked her!) so he got all mad at me and is telling what i think of her. including her. i talked to her today and she is kool with me (well kinda, it's the type of thing where we hate each other and we both know it). but my friend is being such a pain about the whole thing and everyone thinks it's my fault! what should i do?

Well i've been where you are.. but i think he shouldnt have gotten mad at you for talking about her, because he was talking about her too, but he shouldnt have been if he liked her.. that only shows he doesnt like her that much.. if everyone thinks its your fault, dont let that bother you.. just ignore it, or tell them he was doing it to.. explain it in perfect detail.. if i were you, just ignore the people who thinks its your fault.

*Best of Luck*
CrYsTaL

Q: Is it wrong to make plans with one of your best friends and after all the trouble they went thur to ask there parents,they go and make plans with someone else. After you have been planing this since like Sunday. Or is it a signal that they dont wanna be your friend anymore? help
-Me

no it doesnt mean they're not ur friend anymore... you just have to talk to them...i didnt make plans with her okay, i just need money and all.. im sorry.. w/e

Q: My Friend doesnt like me anymore! I dont know why.. she just wont talk to me!

Well then try talking to her and see whats wrong, maybe she just doesnt want to be bothered so she doesnt talk to anyone. All i can say is just talk to her alone, or bring another friend and work out whats wrong. I hope this helps!

Q: Im not sure what to do? My best friend moved away and her dad doesnt let her come in contact with people who dont live near her anymore. We were so close we hung out and did everything all the time. And now that she cant contact me or i cant contact her, we've fallen apart. I've made a new best friend (of 2 years) and we're slowly fallin apart b/c we dont talk much, and she likes the same guy that i like, but i dont mind, what do i do, im afraid, i dont want to hurt my new best friend (2 years).. how do i talk to her anymore?

well the only thing you can do is talk to her and hope she understand, tell her you dont mean to hurt her in anyway, you just want to be close again. I hope this helps.

Q: O.K...i knew my friend liked this guy at our school & he had wanted me to go down on him & i was like no i cant do that..then 1 day i was walkin home & he had asked me again...i was thinkin & i asked him did he think my friend wouldnt mad & he said they werent talkin..(mad) & i was like well O.K.so after i got home i felt bad & told my friend..she said she was very disappointed & that our friendhip was frozen! So she got all mad & i was like whatever.see i had also did 1 of her other friends guy too. but ive done him before & them goin out didnt change nothin.(he said)They simply told me i did somethin they wouldnt do! So whats the big damn deal!!..what should i do???

Do what you think is best for you and your friend. Dont do something that your mom wouldnt, lol is this to bad? Im sorry but i hope this helps.

Q: Hey yall,

First of all I want to thank all the people who helped me with my last question.I loved the advice.Thank you!

Ok my next question is about me and my bestfriend.
My bestfriend means alot to me, I mean i've know her for 4 years but.Recently she moved away from my neighborhoo,and not in walking distance.So when she moved I started hanging out with my new next door friend.We now hang out all the time like me and my bestfried use to do before she moved.My bestfriend is now taking it as though i'm tryna replace her. But i'm not.I mean she said that she don't like the fact that i'm slowly replacing her and I need to choose who do I want to be friends with more.Who should I choose? My bestfriend or my close friend.Both of them mean alot to me. I'm confused!

Love Apple

Well Apple, sometimes the hardest thing you can do is choose between your best friend, and your close friend. I've been in this situation many times. I think you should choose the one that you think will be there for you until the end. If you still want to be best friends with your best friend, then be it, but if i were you, i would choose the person that will always be there no matter what. Your best friend might have other friends since she has moved away, and she might make you think the same thing, that she is replacing you. Think about what you wanna do, what makes YOU happy, not her. I hope this helps, email me if you need more advice.

Crystal

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Hey! I'm Crystal, as you know. I am here to give advice to those who need it the most. I've given much advice in my time and I plan to keep doing it. Don't be afraid to ask me any personal questions or even random questions, I can help with anything, because believe it or not, I've been in some of the same situations that most people have been in. I love giving advice, its my life, Not only am I good at it, but I understand where people are coming from. So, Don't take anything to seriously and ask away, Thanks! :)