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So long story short, i did something i shouldnt have dont to my best friend. and now her and my closest friends either hate me, wont talk to me, or are not as close as they used to be. my old best friend has a new best friend too. ive tried a couple of times to say sorry and make things right but they already seem to be used to everything with out me. i really miss them but it would be hard for all of us to be together again and the truth is i dont feel like i have any other friends that would accept me as well as they did.
so should i just leave it and try to find a new group of friends or keep trying to make it better?
You should do both .try harder to apologize and really make an effort .if things just aren't working then move on .whatever you did to make them leave was the mistake and you hurt them bad enough to loose them .you can try to make it better but no promises .so make new friends, which is always a good thing .you may have relied on your friends so much that you feel like it will be hard to get new ones .well it really isn't .just find someone and be nice and funny and be whatever you think they like .you've made friends before you can do it again.
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17/f. ok so my best friend and i have went to this club a couple times. the last time we went was a week ago, and i had just broken up with my boyfriend [18] of 4 months 3 days before. we met these two guys, and the one i danced with is now interested in me. both me and my friend exchanged numbers with these guys, and have been talking ever since, just through myspace and text, though. this guy really likes me, and wants to hangout & go to eat and whatever. he's a nice guy, and sure, going to eat would be fun. however, the [ex]-boyfriend and i are talking again, and trying to work through our problems so we can be happy again. but technically, im still single. i feel kinda bad, because this guy does like me alot, and he's fun to hang out with, but i just dont want to lead him on or anything if my boyfriend & i end up back together. what should i do? would going to eat with him [plus my friend and the other guy] be a bad idea? not to mention, he lives an hour away from me, and doesn't have a car, so a relationship would either a) not work or b) be VERY stressful mostly on me since i have the car & we all know how gas prices are these days or 3) be basically long distance which i dont want. any help?
Ok so it sounds like you like your ex a lot better. But its ok to work things out with him and still occasionally go out with this other guy (but if you do end up together you would probabally need to yell him about future dates with this guy explaining that your just friends). If you really liked this other guy then gas and long distance relationships wouldn't matter that much. Think about it: if the other guy was chris brown or orlando bloom or whoever hot celebrity or super cute guy you've always like, gas and long distance relationship wouldn't have even crossed your mind. If your serious about getting back with your ex then you need to tell this guy and explain that you just want to be friends. Because if you don't and you end up not telling him and going out with him AND you ex then you'll have all this unwanted drama and people will get hurt and the world will come to an end and yada yada yada. Bad idea.
My best friend just broke up with her boyfriend.
He and I are also really good friends. Lately, he has been flirting around with me (while they were still dating). I do like him but I know that it would never work between us because we are so different. But he is gonna ask me out soon and I'm not sure if I sould say yes and just have a little fun or if I sould say no, and if so how am I'm going to do that because he really does like me. If we do date we are going to get into a lot of trouble together.
Oh yeah, I'm a 17 year old female and he is a 21 year old male.
Is your friend truly over him? Ask her about it. Its good that you're thinking that far away but is he worth it? How big of trouble would you really get in. If your friend is honesrly over him then I say go for it. Just make sure you understand your limits and try not to get so sucked into to trouble that you can't think for yourself and yada yada. Since he is an adult you need to be extra safe. Remember that you have control of your own decisions and if you don't feel comfortable then you can always leave him. You're in control.
some guys tend to think im annoying-so how can i not be? and what do they consider annoying? some girls do too but more so guys. i have lots of friends but i was just wondering. thanks :)
Give them some space, back off a little. It could be because your're too clingy or that you're a bit air-headed. The most popular reason is maybe you talk to much. And there is such a thing as way too happy and cheerful all the time. Analyse yourself and think about what you could do to reduce the vibes you give off.
how do i become better friends with my casual friends. i just transfered to a private school in the beginning of the 2nd quarter and i have made some really good friends and a few good friends and some casual friends but i want to improve the friendships (the casual and good ones)to something closer. thanks so much! :)
Include them in everything! Get their opinions on stuff. Make plans to get them somwhere. Even if you know they can't come, its the thought that counts lol. Ask them about themselves and be more lively. Be funny and animated you know? Get their phone number, emails (not at the same time and casually bring it up) so they know you might want to talk to them sometime. Heck, call them! Haha, there's lots you can do. Just be entertaining and inrteresting. Think of all the things YOU would want in a good friend and do it =)
Okay, so my 'friends' were the best of friends a girl could ever have, in the beginning of the school year (long ass time ago) Then in the middle of the year things started to change. I didn't feel the love that friends are supposed to have for eachother (in a friend way). And they are constantly labeling me goth. And I am always the one that is made fun of. But then a girl named Haley started hanging out with us. At first it was all the same for me. But then they all started talking behind her back. I would NEVER join in on those conversations, I would defend her. Then one day me and Haley were still eating lunch, and they left. So when we are done we go find them. And they start bitching on how Haley should just leave, so she leaves and I go with her. And that is the start of our great friendship. I mean, it's like we are sisters. We constantly hang out. (of course it isn't just us isolating (sp?) ourselves, we hang out with MANY more people, but we are always together, no matter who we hang out with) And we always have something to talk about, anyways I haven't hung out with my other 'friends' for awhile. Then a few days ago, I hung out with them after school, and they kept saying 'Why are you hanging out with Haley, she is some goth freak, is that why you hang out with her? I hate Haley, just stop hanging out with her!' And I don't want to stop hanging out with her, but my 'friends' won't stop bugging me about it, I don't want to go back to the old ways with them making fun of me, and them being rude and labeling me. And I can't ditch Haley, what should I do??
do not ditch haley. its possible that shes your only real friend. why dump her for your old friends. the friends that ridiculed you for being goth. you need to stick up for haley. try working this friendship back together and dont give up. if time runs out and it doesnt seem that anything is working out between all of you then just dump your old friends. if they cant accept you for who you are or what you've become then its their own personal problem. your trying to do the right thing and the right thing is not to trash haley with your old friends. sisters stick together.
Hello!
There is this ex-boyfriend from five years ago that I've allowed to keep in touch with me. It helped a lot when I moved out of the country when he couldn't call me anymore, and he would occasionally e-mail me and after I was in a new relationship, I decided to completely cut him out of my life. I didn't answer his pleas to know how I was doing, or how much he says I'll always be a part of my life even if we never speak and I'll always have a place in his heart and of course, that he loves me.
It's like some sort of therapy for him. I don't feel comfortable with having any kind of relationship because it doesn't feel real to me to be 'friends.'
He found me on myspace today and I'm not sure why he insists on keeping in touch? What's his MO, for doing this? According to his myspace page he's involved, and I'm the only ex-girlfriend that he's like this with, the other's they don't keep in touch.
I can be really straight forward about things so what is a humanitarian way of saying: "Thanks for taking the time to say hello. Great. Not necessary to do that anymore. Thank you!"
Signed,
Two Feathers
well he really loves you. and the reason he trys to get in touch with you is because he doesn want to lose you anymore than he already has. but still he needs to respect your decision. tell him 'hi and that your sorry but your in a relationship that your really happy with. you know you've had some good times but its time to move on and just go our seperate ways'. he might be crushed and wounded but he'll get over it. frankly i dont see why he hasnt taken the hint already. so basically its his own fault. anyway i hope that helped you.
theres these two boys. Both of them are my good friends. One is always on my mind, and i really like him. But when the other one looks at me and talks to me, he makes me feel happy. When he smiles at me, i get, allrite this will sound lame, he gives me butterflies in my stomach. But i dont think of him as much as i think of the other one. I used to have a crush on the one that makes me feel happy, and i never knew why. Now i know, but i dont want to like him again, cause i cant see myself with him, but i can see myself with the other one. Im so confused about them.
well you still have feeliing with the boy that makes you happy. but maybe you think that you can do better so you wont let yourself completely like him again. youyr falling for the other boy but you need to go for him and get noticed before you end up getting hurt. be friends with the boy that makes you happy. be very good friends. and just go for the other. dont let the boy that makes you happy stand in the way of the boy you really want to be with
I went to boarding school this past year and had to leave on account of an eatting disorder. Hahaha thats some first sentence. Well while I was at school (2 hours from home) I met this guy. We became instantly friends, and that was it. Well he stuck by me through all my issues and I never felt anything besides friends. He has told me more than once that he likes me as more than a friend. Well now that I'm home I have feelings for him to(Alot). We still talk on the phone everyday sometimes more. And he wants me to come visit. But I feel like if I get close I'm only going to get hurt. He lives extremely far away and the only way is to fly. I mean he's going to go to boarding school for another two years but still I mean 2 hours away is still pretty far. So I guess my question is, do I go with my gut that tells me I should get involved, or should I just stay friends on the phone and leave it at that. :)
well sweetsz do what your heart tells you (sounds cheasy i kno). but if this is a boy that you really have feelings for then go for it. sure it might be hard but you can take it. make plans with this boy. after all he stuck by you when you had an eating disorder. just be confident that you can beat this problem and your parents will understand
why cant guys get it though there skulls! when i said "i dont like you in that way" why do they have to keep on talking about? they talk about going out and he still dont get it to move on! its annoying. how can i tell him nicely to stop talking about us getting together? i just want to be his friend.
the if from : I dont get these two?
refrase the words. be like all. 'yo dude we arent going out got it?. but i still wanna be friends' you dont have to say that EXACTLY but the key is to say like your the boss. say your not going out. say it seriously and with force to show your not playin around. make sure you tell him that you still want to be friends even (or his feelings will get hurt). he might still like you even after that (its not like you cant turn his feelings off). if hes still doing it then just get tough. you dont have to say anything mean but just look tough when he says something. act like you dont appreciate it (oooo tell him that to) =)
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I used to be friends with everybody. & Everyone. No one hated me nothing. But then I had this party really big one, where people couldnt get in, and I hooked up with a guy. There were tons of people there 227 to be exact. Then all of a sudden after that no one has wanted to talk to me. I dont know what to do? I went from having to say sorry I've made plans already to...Hey do you wanan hang out? & I know that sounds conceited and bad. But I dont know what happenned. & I'm not very happy about it, I've gone into a deep depression and everyday I think about killing myself.
dont kill yourself over friends (i think your being too dramatic btw) they probabally just used you for the part. or the ones that couldnt get in are just pissed. its probabally not as bad as you think either. really look at your surroundings. start making friends again. it might be fustrating but start asking questions. the people that were your friends- ask them 'what happened' but dont sound desperate or depressed just bring it up. you might get some answers
my good friend is having acl surgery this tuesday and i wnat to get her a present thing.
my other friend is giving her a stuffed animal before she goes in, and a blizzard after.
any suggesttions? ill rate highh
candy balloon and cards are the basics. but if you want something better than get her something she really wants. a stuffed animal is good but u probabally want something different than you friend. money is great but not all that well....special, you know. candy and flowers too. what i usually do is make a little basket with little trinkets and cool stuff.
okay well i have this friend who had been my best friend fot the past 3 years now. 6 months ago she found herself a boyfriend who she has liked since 6th grade(3 years ago)in the beginning he was the better of her ex boyfriends but now he is a total jerk. all he wants to do is makeout and go to 2nd wherever they are. when she isn't around or not paying attention he makes these really annoying/hurtful comments either to me and my friends or to someone about someone else and i hate it. all of my friends and my best friends friends hate him and know where i am coming from. Jess(my bf) really likes him. i dont know if she likes HIM or the IDEA of having a boyfriend. we have been fighting so much with any little thing i say about him. when he is with her she forgets that my friends and i are there. her boyfriend bobby will randomly walk up to her while her and i are having a conversation and start making out with her. i have come to hate him and i cant stand to be around him. i have told jess all of this a ton of times but she claims she loves him. and her and i never get alone time. i just dont know what i should do because she likes him and knows i hate him and still no progress with anything is being made.(ex. trying to not forget im there) what should i do? ps sorry this is so long
sweetie im wondering if he really likes her then. try talking to HIM. it will bevery hard and fustrating but tell him that things just arent working out. get your bf to talk to bobby. maybe that will help. jess isnt being fair. hes obviously hurting you (emotionally) and making you angry so she should care. a guy really shouldnt come between a best friend relation ship
well i've been in my town for about 2 1/2 years now,and i still havnt made ANY close friends. i dont know why,it just seems like no one is there for me. i have all these aquantenses(sp) and all this,but no close ones. i do have close ones in my old town,but i actually want to have close ones in my new town. how do you make "close" friends? and what makes a close friend? any help,thankss.
a close friend is a person who starts helping you with things. someone you feel comfortable with and cant wait to see again. and you start making plans to go places on the weekend.
go around and go to movies. go to clubs or the most popular place in your town. get a friend from you old and have them help you out so your not so shy. be friendly with everyone. make conversations. and remember people moght not always come to you, have have to go to them
sorry this is long...
Why do a guy tell u that they like u and then said they like your friend too?
okay my best friend Jon i knew from high school went out with my friend Sara for three days, she never like him and she just wanted to be friends, she broke up with him. Jon told me he like me too but he was not my type. years went by and we all now are good friends. But HE stills like us BOTH!
and
i dated this guy name Tony for two months when i was in my 11th grade. i broke up with him because i was dealing with some famliy issuess and i couldnt deal with a realtionship. when i broke up with him i broke his heart. i felt bad but i was busy with famliy too. then my friend Sara told me that he wrote a note to her saying he likes her.
She never like him that way. i was jealous but i got over it. after graduation Tony moved to Hawaii with his mother.
3 years went by and he called Sara and me.
he told me he still likes me and i told him "im sorry but i dont feel the same" he said it was alright about it because he wants to be friends. Then he told me he liked Sara too. she said
to him "she liked him as a friend nothing more"
thats what Tony told me.and he said the same thing to her what he said to me.
I dont get it....? why do guys do that? they cant find out what they want and years go by and they still like us. and we still dont like them back.
I'm not jealous i just clueless.......?
boys dont settle. to boys its like why have 1 when i can have both. it isnt fair bu its just how some guys act. you shouldnt take it, and the next guy who does it you should say something to gim. let him know that he cant have both.
15/f Okay. So, I have this guy friend and he's 18. And I have a friend who is a girl who is 18. And well, I used to have a crush on the guy, but he turned me down, and I got heartbroken. So then he started going out with the girl. I was SOOO wicked jealous...OMG. I hate(d) that girl's guts. Even though she's my friend. I like used to block her on MSN and he would get upset at me. So now...I made friends with her again. Like I unblocked her. And now, the guy friend thinks very highly of me for doing that. But he still doesn't like me in that way. And now I feel as they start going out more, I'm going to be left out and they're not going to be my friends anymore :( (I'm more worried about the guy being my friend than the girl). I am truly happy for them, with just a hint of jealousy (there always is) and I even tried to wreck their relationship once. But it upsets me that they will start paying less attention to me. Is there any way to overcome this icky lonely/jealous feeling? Should I just be supportive and very happy for them? And, if I may ask, is it normal in this type of situation to sometimes wish them the worst? (like in my mind) I mean..I don't mean it. But I don't want to lose him (yep, I don't care much about her).
Thanks so much in advance. :)
get active. do something and hang with your friends. dont get bored or you'll start to think of your situation. be supportive because they still are your friends. you dont have to be like ecstatic about them though. yeah its very normal. its just your jealousy acting up. jealousy is very normal but you need to focus your attention elsewhere.
I'm 16/f, my best friend is 16/m. I feel like when he hugs me now, it's like he doesn't want to or something. Like he's the one who goes in for the hug, but when he hugs me it's quick and like, I feel like it's not all there..if anyone knows what I mean? I used to feel like he wanted to hug me, like the hug felt right. I'm not sure how to state it exactly, but when a hug doesn't feel right anymore..does that mean something?
well its possible that its all in you head but if your sure then maybe you 2 should take a break. still be friends but maybe hes over whelmed with own issues. its good your being supportive but just back off a little more. or he just starting to think your boring and uninteresting. let him know that your a fun loving person. do something together thats super fun. and tell him whats going on because after all you could just be paranoid. say that you feel strongly about whats going on and thats its worrying and hurting you. for additional help >> http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=CheerCandi
ok my guy friend logan today told me that i am attractive to him. it really shocked me and i think it is going to get in the way of our relationship because it is going to be kinda okward around him. what do i do??
Thanks!!!
Shelby
well that does sound like a shocker. tell him that it was random. it was sweet. try to play it like it doesnt matter. be really nice. eventually the situation will go away. play it normal because remember he's just as embarrases as you probabally.
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ok so tomorrow is this outside rec night thing basically it's a dance and it's outside now me and my two best friends last year had lots of fun at it last year but this year there's this guy i like i've asked about him befroe anywho like if i want him to like me or whatever how should act i mean like idk i cant really explain my question but if you know what i'm saying please answer
be normal. make eye contact so he knoows you've noticed him. (but dont stare at him)laugh alot so it shows that you have a sense of humor. hold your head high and be confident because stuff like that does show. always where lip gloss.
and when you walk its OK to put a little swing in it ;) when he says something funny giggle. stay close to him but make sure its not too obviuse. talk loudly and be funny so he notices you.
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Alright, there's this cocky kid in my first 3 morning classes, and I was never really bothered by it until he started going out of his way to be rude. It really bugs me and he's not rude to anyone else at the school except for me! I've never even talked to him so I don't know why the heck he hates me. Once in math class, I got up out of my chair to work on the math worksheet with my friend, Marie. When I got back, I found his assignment planner book on my chair so I would sit on it and be laughed at so he could point out one more of my flaws. I knew it was his, but I asked the boy behind me if it was his anyway because the cocky kid, Austin just ignores me when I try to talk to him if something is his or not. He's asked me to borrow pencils and pens and I've always said yes - I'm a bit of a pushover. I just don't understand why he dislikes me! Judgmental much? I was walking over to the techer's desk to ask her if I could borrow some white-out and on my way over I asked him to push in his chair. He sighed in an annoyed way and pretended to ignore me. When I walked by his and his friend's desk to hand them the stapler, they said "Woot!" sarcastically and motioned for me to leave them alone. Any help? What should I do? Why do you think he dislikes me?
Any help is very appreciated.
Thank-you.
With Love,
Sidney (AlmostSidney)
well it sounds like the typical bully that wants everyone to laugh.maybe you did something but you just dont know what. stand up for yourself and let him know your not going to take it anymore. i know most people say not to tattle but maybe you should. but if you do he might make fun of you. dont ignore it and think that it will never go away. maybe you should talk to a guidance counselor. i hoped that helped you Lovey. just remember that you dont deserve this and he shouldnt get away with it.
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