I go by Ahnee, to some. and you.
I live in Orange County CA, and it's not as great as it seems. it's just as shady as everywhere else but we're polite enough to keep it behind closed doors. Great.
I'm in highschool.
I have an opinion on just about EVERYTHING, but won't give it to you unless you ask.
I talk to people.
Sometimes i can just be a brutally honest bitch, don't ask me a question you don't want a real answer to. I refuse to coat my thoughts in sugar
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please help me. I don't know what to do anymore! ok. here's the deal. My best friend has been like "doing things". Today she called me and said that last night she peirced her nose (BY HERSELF). I was SO shocked and started to think I shouldn't hang out with her anymore. She went close to s*x but didn't. And she ALWAYS says that she's fat but she isn't. One day she told me she threw up her food but only once. Should I still hang out with her?
ps. I DON'T (OR DIDN'T) DO ANYTHING SHE DOES (OR DID) (link)
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sounds to me like right now would be the worse possible time to just leave a friend like that. she's most likely making all these decisions for a reason. you need to talk to her, tell her that she's getting you worried about all the wreckless things she's doing or is thinking of doing. stay with her through thick and thin. it doesn't mean you have to join her in all these things just let her know you're there if she needs you. she could have an eating disorder already, that you should probably watch more. if the eating disorder gets really bad, you should really tell someone.
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I had sex with this guy.
He asked the next day "is it everything cool between us?"
What does it mean?
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i think im gonna have to disagree with these two people, but it might not be what you want to hear
i would take this as he's checking to see if you guys are still "cool" with eachother, not "are we ready to take the next step in our relationship?" or anything like that. more as "you understand that this was just a fun thing right?"
But tone factors in here, so take that into good consideration too
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okay, so there was a guy who used to go to school with me a few years ago, but then he moved to san francisco. i don't know anything else other than his first and last name. i don't even know if he still lives there. i want to get back in touch with him becuase we were really good friends. I just don't know what to do. can u help please?!?!? (link)
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Alright well my guy best friend and I were kinda sorta friends with benefits.
But all along I found out he liked me more than a friend.
So he asked me out and I didn't even like him in that way and I said yeah..
So it didn't work out to well and I broke up with him because I just wanted to be friends..
Now anytime he talks to a girl I get really jealous and want all his attention on me..
I don't get it because I don't even like him.
But he asks me out again because he thinks I'm like leading him on and I say I don't know..
Then he starts talking to this other girl and I say you better not go out with her..
Promise me you won't go out with anyone until you get an answer from me?
So next thing I know he's going out with the one person I truly hate and he's ignoring me.
I don't understand.
What should I do and what is going on with him?! (link)
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ok, first why you're jealous. you get jealous because you're used to getting all of his flirtatious somewhat sexual attention, and even though you're not actually with him you still want that attention to be all on you. understandable but thats what makes the whole fwb thing difficult.
If you guys really are just fwb, or even just friends now you shouldn't really care who he goes out with unless you're watching his back and think the person will hurt him. He may be trying to make you jealous, or realize that you do want to go out with him, or maybe he's just trying to move on and it just so happens it's with the girl that you don't like. Either way, you need to make up your mind about how you want you two's relationship to be
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kay so best freind is not being a good freind.
im pretty sure its the loser boyfreind.
so we sure to a life of straightedgeness last summer. that must have meant nothing to her cause donovan says drink and her late nights on the phone w/ me become drunk nights ditching me for donovan. this kid is a scumbag and everyone knows and tells her. she doesnt care and really i dont either shes had loser boyfreinds before but this ones affecting my relationship w/ her. she has no interest in our big rockstar dreams anymore.[she basically quit guitar] ive told her shes being a bitch when i called her crying my eyes out but donovan was on the other line and theyll be on late so shed see me tomorow at school. move on to the next freind? shes the one that i call when im like that because we think extremely alike and she knows how to make me feel better. and ive slipped into old habits because shes not there to advice me on my tear filled nights. so i turn to you. -lauren (link)
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i know exactly what it's like for your bestfriend's mind to be clouded by a random ass-hole boyfriend. The thing is, i think all you can do is stick with her and really try and knock some sense into her. dont tell her "dude, youre an idiot. hes a jerk and you need to leave him" because she will automatically go on the defensive. you just need to explain to her how she's changed and how it's affecting your guys' relationship. although the "its me or him" thing doesnt seem to work because if she picks him itll lead her more deeply into a self-destructive nature, but you need to take care of yourself too. explain things to her and she how she responds
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Basically there is this girl, Nikki nobody likes her. She had friends at one point and then everybody turned on her including me. I'm friends with a 'popular' girl Lindsey. And Lindsey is rude and snobby but she's kind to me. I'm not 'populer' me and Lindsay just hangout during school. I dont like Nikki either, and she knows it. But today I was hearing Nikki and her friend talking about, Nikki cutting herself. I saw it was true, I know it was she showed her friend her scars [I saw them there is two]. And I dont know why I did thing..to Nikki and anybody who's going to sit there and think they never made a bad decision knowing it was wrong and did it anyways is a lair, we've all done it. I told Lindsey, It was a bad idea she's going to tell everybody she hasent, yet. I'm about 50% sure she will. But I know Nikki started cutting because of Lindsey, I know it. I don't know what to do, Suggestions? comments? I feel awful that she cuts herself and I know Lindsey, And Some what of Me and her own self image issues affect this cutting.
I'm in middle school 8th grade. (link)
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most real cutters aren't itching to show people their scars. if someone is doing that (showing it off) it's most likely for the attention and this girl knows what she's doing. but let's say this girl is for real, you don't know why she's doing it and you can't completely blame yourself because you don't know what this girl is going through outside of school. If she hasn't actually come up to you and asked for your help you don't owe her anything. that may sound harsh, but sometimes people just need to deal with things by themselves.
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OK, this is kinda like my other question but more centered around him. He is my best friend and im really starting to like him. But I think he likes the school queen. Im 13 years old and in grade 8. Can you guys give me advice wether or not he likes me. This is what weve done in the past 3 or so months.
ok everyday we like talk all the time. whenever im outside his class he'll give me a big smile and then when the teachers not looking playfully stick out his toungue at me he trusts me alot and asks for advice all the time he likes my worst enemy We sometimes pretend to be mad at eachother and start pushing eachother
at voleyball he said i should get the best player of the night reward cause of my lovely smile
dunno umm a few times weve been caught holding hands we give eachother hugs sometimes one time i got soaked at his house and he let me change into his sister's pj's and let me lean against him to get warm we always sit beside eachother he seems to love making me laugh and defends me quite a bit
yea my friend says were flirting with eachother. Is this true? And do u think he likes me?
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this does sound like flirting yes. but if you think he's interested in other girls maybe he's just playful. me and my guy friend play around like that all the time but we'd never get together. but if you like this guy, and he does seem like he likes you, and you guys have a good amount of trust with eachother, maybe you should try getting a little closer
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I'm torn and at a loss. I'm very close friends with a married couple. The husband has become like my brother. He's very protective of me and has been there for me more than I could ever ask for. I go to church with him, his wife, kids, and his parents. Well, a little over a year ago me and my fiance broke up and I got into the whole partying scene with his wife. One night, this guy was over at their house and she was prancing in front of this guy in a short tshirt and thongs. I ignored it. Then at this party a month or so later, a bunch of us were playing poker and it turned into strip poker. I quit, but she continued playing (she was the only woman playing). She was sitting in a guy's lap and the only thing she was down to was her thongs and cowboy hat. I felt this alone was cheating. Well, things went a little further that night and she told me that her and him kissed. But I feel it may have went further than that. They continued calling each other for a week or so after this happened. I urged her to stop. She'd admit that it was bad, but she would continue. So, I backed off and got back in church. This summer we started hanging out again, and before I know it - I'm pulled right back into the same situation - knowing and seeing her mess with this guy. I've recently found out that she's been with a few more guys that I know. It's so hard for me - I want to tell her husband so bad because it's unfair to him. But I've vowed to stay out of it.
More bad news...I've fallen for her husband hard. Feelings I've never felt before, I'm feeling for him. Sometimes the way he looks at me and talks to me - I feel he may feel the same way. My mom believes he feels feelings for me also but he's trying so hard to make his marriage work. His mother has made comments to me and my mom before that she wishes he would have met me before his current wife because he would date me in a heartbeat. I've backed off from him because I know I don't need to feel the way I do. But he'll call me or will come see me and I just break down b/c it hurts so much. I just dont know what to do. Can someone help me and steer me into a direction that's right? I don't feel I'm in a position to be a homewrecker... (link)
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ok i guess ill just throw my opinion out there.
you need to tell youre friend that she either needs to tell her husband or you will. this may sound messed up but he seems to be a close friend, someone you would even say is as close as a brother. I'm sure he would do the same for you. If you do tell him and they break up I don't suggest throwing yourself into a relationship with him for quite a while. You know when children are involved it just makes things that much more difficult. but you can't let a friend go on hurting like this, it isn't fair to anyone.
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Last summer, this boy that was my BEST FRIEND. Came to my house in the middle of the night, to do it with me. In the beginning when we were on the phone, I played along, I thought he was kidding, I even asked my friends.. i was like.. hes kidding right? & there like oh yeah. So i went with it. Then he told me he'd be at my house later. He doesn't live really close so it was about a 3 mile walk. When he came, of course I said no. Ever since, he got mad at me & hasn't spoken to me since. I miss him, he was my best friend. Was I wrong? I mean at the time, I felt so, so smart & all. That I said no. Now, I feel like I messed up something, I messed up the friendship & its all my fault.
Am I wrong?
How can I make it better?
or realize, i wasn't wrong? .. if i'm not. (link)
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ok, lets just remember this. guys are lead by their penis. offending a guy this way can be like stabbing him in the heart. the male ego is very very sensitive and must constantly be stroked.
explain to this guy you honestly thought he was kidding and didn't expect him to actually do it. tell him you still want him as a friend and that you miss having him around. make him feel like he's still wanted
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