Ok well i am 14 and a girl
My "father" moved in with us 3 years ago when we were living with a family member
From the 1st sec i hated him
When he got to the house he started telling us what to do and being mean
A year after that my "mom" and "dad" bought a house without telling me or my brother which we all decided they would tell us
They bought a crap house where the air conditioning was bad, a big oil pipe in the backyard, and old wooden floor. (THERE WE BETTER HOUSES BUT "HE" WANTED THE WORST ONE))
Next he yells a lot and i am a person that would say "the hell would help you" when i get yelled at
So he would always get mad instead of listening to my mom (she is sweet and i love her will all my heart but i really do think that she is complete retard) about getting a moving van to move he made my older brother do all the work of moving and "he" would call my bro a retsrd and that he could not do anything right while he just stood there
He took 20 round trips with my brother and my mom had to buy the gas
Then we got a bunny and he took my bunny outside (a cage with pipes as walls)
PS i am an animal lover and future vet!
I told "him" not to and that he would run away
we i came back from dinner my bunny was gone
But like always he would do whatever the hell he wanted (all in 1 1/2 years)
List of "him"
-anger problems
-bought old crap to call furniture instead of my cousin new couches that she offered to give us
- Curses all the time (before he came into our lives we would never curse at all but then they started)
- called the puppy we got mine when he punishes her and he chooses everything
-he yells at my mom and she takes it (she is a retard like i said)
- he tease me because in am shorted then normal
-calls my mom names
-keeps on saying that "then i will got back" whenever my mom got mad at him
-he has no job and does nothing around the house
About me
- I hate cleaning i get allergies
-i can't wash dishes because i would get a cold
-i have a lot of homework and projects to help me mom cook
-i love new things so my mom buys some like every 5 months
oh yeah also i had 2 surgeries and the first time we had to stay in a hotel after he stole the remote, changed what i was watching to some movie with cow crap in it and i get sick with that)
Cause of that i slept on the floor a few hours after my surgery
I asked my mom so many times to divorce him cause in all we all hate him even his own siblings
Well there is WHOLE lot more of thing he did that i hate him for
1.what i am asking is am i right for hating him so d**** much
2.should my mom divorce him?
3.would you hate him
THANK YOU FOR READING AND SORRY FOR THE LONG DETAILS
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also he is my real dad we can my mom, brother, and i came here 8 years ago
3 years ago "he" got his greencard
and i have been trying to cope with him but they alway end up bad the last time this happened:
my brother, dad and i went shopping for fish (during the move i lost "erick" my 4 year old betta fish that i loved with all my heart i kept his tank" "he wanted to use my erick's tank for his new cheap fish (all the fish that went into that tank after erick died. that tanks) the tank ment the world to me because it was the every last time that i was happy for real cause when we got to the new house my other 8 year old dog died by getting hit by a car-he was the only one that went out that morning
ok well he started screaming cause i would not let him use it and i told him from the begining
he yelled at me for 10 mins and when my mom came in he yelled at her to saying how "you don't teach your childern anything" well to make it short he yelled at me to take it out of the living room if i would no use it and i cried for the whole evening (i am very sensetive when people are mean to me especilly about my pets)
my mom had to bring me food first before she went to work because i would not go down stairs
1. The bible doesn't agree with divorce, so i would not recommand it.
2. you do have to respect your father, i was thought frowing up that you should respect your elders no matter what.
3. you are also at fault just like you father is.
4. i don't undetstand why your father that you haven't seen for a long time, would come back, and your wouldn't be happy.
5. truly talk to him and set teh family down to talk out things.
6. Your brother has been the man, while your brother was gone right?, what does he have to say?
ADDING ON!!
From the comment you wrote me, I am shocked.
your father gives you money and asks you to be home ate a certain time and you say you instead do that. I just look at that it makes me wonder about all other children out there with no parents who would love to have a father with them. I hope someday your own children don't treat you the way you treat him and i pray someday your children won't see you cry like your father is crying for you, because believe me, parents can either open your future or close it
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14/ f
So, I've been through a lot. Ive been abused by my step mom, i haven seen my real momsince my 7th birthday (court order) because she has schitzofrania, and i was raped by my bioligical mothers boyfriend from age 4-7. Now i see a sycologist, but i feel no change. I feel worthless and horrible, and i feel any guy can take advantage of me because i already feel dirty because i was raped.
& i have no idea how to fix this.
I am still a virgin but i have done everything else, because i feel as if i was taken advantage of already so it doesn't matter anymore. Which sounds like an excuse but i dont know how to totally explain it. Can someone help me think of a way to stay away from guys and just hang out with my friends that are girls and be happy like a normal teenager? and where i can get my focus back onto school?
the best advice is top pray, and ask God for strenght. Ask him to help you in your situation and to give you a hand when you are falling down. if you open your heart to him, he is willing to answer and is ready to recieve you because he wants to help you.
I am sorry for everything that has happened to you and i hope you can get through it all with the help of God in heaven....
with luck
sarline
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Okay,
My parents got divorced when i was in the fourth grade, I'm a freshman now. My parents divorce was rough. I'm currently living with my dad, and i see my mom every other weekend. Before that though i didn't see her at all. My mom hasn't been paying child support, because she doesn't have a job and had to have knee surgery which prevents her to have a regular job. The relationship between my parents is very tense, they don't even speak to each other. I'm always in the middle of everything. For the most part, my dad and I had a really close relationship. but He always bashes and talks bad about my mom, and complains about money and how his life is so hard being the only parent. I used to just ignore his comments but lately i've been outbursting on him because i'm tired of hearing it. He wants me to not like her and not respect her either, but she's my mom and i could never do that. After I told him that i didn't want to hear his complaining, and his comments about my mom he's stopped caring about me. He's always negative and usually ignores me now. I don't know what to do or why this is going on, So if you could please help me i'd really appreciate it.
first iam sorry about your parents divorce ND I HOPE YOU WILLGET THROUGH IT.
Second, i don't know about you but i have noticed that when parents get divorced, they sometimes try to turn thier children aginst one another.
to me i feel like you dad is afriad. he knows that you love your mom and that you care deeply for her, but he is afriad that you might love her more than him and it hurts him because he has been the one taking care of you.
I think you should talk to your dad again, this time tell him that its alright if he doesn't love your mom, but he shouldn't also talk aout her badly infront of you. tell him that you love your mom, but you also love him and that hearing him talk that way doesn't make you love her less, but it makes you want to defend her more. reassure your dad that treating you that way to take out his anger against your mother is wrong.
i really hope everthing works out and that you are able to get through it.I know divorces are not easy, but you can wrok throught them...
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I recently turned 21. I was very excited for it and still am. I'm a responsible and sensible person, I go to school and work full time. When I'm not busy, I like to let loose and have a good time. The thing is, I like alcohol, very much. The problem is, my mom absolutely hates it since her mother (my grandmother) was an alcoholic. Every time I go out, she gives me this look and gets upset because she knows I'm going to drink. I can't stand it, because it makes me feel guilty for nothing and I end up not having a good time. I love my mom and tell her everything, but this is one thing that we disagree on and is tearing at our relationship. Turning 21 was supposed to be fabulous, but it's her nightmare. How do I handle this situation?
You have to understand, your mom doesn't want to feel the same anger that perhaps she has for her mother. watching you drinking scares her that your going to end up like her. so perhaps compromise, tell her that you are going to drink only once or twice in a while and find something that will appease you both so that that relationship can go stronger.
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My parents have been divorced for several years now and until about a year ago I've had a good relationship with both of them. I live with my mom and I used to see my dad every second weekend. Then about two years ago he got re-married. At first things were going good and then she got pregnant and my step-sister was born just before Christmas. I spent last Christmas with them and that was the last time I've seen my dad. I don't know what happened but all of a sudden he just stopped calling me. I used to try and call him but he never answered the phone or was too busy to see me. So I've basically given up. It's gotten to the point the point I don't even want to see him anymore because I really feel like he doesn't care. Everyone tells me I need to re-establish a relationship with him, and I've been thinking about it, but he acts like he doesn't want to see me. What should I do?
you have to understand that even if he does that, it's not on purpose... he just got married and he just got a baby into the house he has to settle down into every thing which i think must be pretty all too much for him. and yes he shouldn't ignore just because he has a new child, but still have a discussion with him and unless you do that you might end up hating your dad for no reason and missing out on a great relationship with him..
hope i helped.
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My family situation is pretty crazy and embarrassing to talk about, and I'm still having trouble coming to terms with it. My parents divorced 3 years ago. Basically, what happened was that my dad said he was going a business trip, and then never came back.
Since he disappeared he left a lot of loose ends. He has never let me talk with him about what happened in an honest and open way (he didn't bother seeing or calling me until one year after he left), the divorce process lasted a year and was really ugly, he left my mum to pay the bills and take care of me, he remarried without telling me, bought his new family a house and settled down on the other side of the atlantic with them etc.
Now he's saying he wants to talk to me and reestablish a relationship, by sending emails full of either sentimental bs, or unreasonable demands, or long explanations of how everything wrong in his life is my mum's fault. He finds it perplexing that I don't respect him or listen to him at all. He expects me to be perfectly fine about the fact that he never showed any interest in my life before, left me to fend for myself, and that he was never honest with me about anything before either. A part of me would like to just ignore the fact he exists for the rest of my life because he is such an idiotic, annoying and selfish b*****d, but he is my dad and I can't ignore that fact, so another part of me wants to give him another chance. At the moment I'm ignoring his messages by not talking to him. I blocked his email addresses for a few months too. I just didnt know what to think about him so I gave up thinking about him for a while until now.
What can I do now? I tried many time in the past to reestablish communication with him and trust him, but all that happened was that he ignored my attempts and pretended like there was nothing to talk about and that I was a yabbering whiny little kid, which really hurt me. Now he's trying, and I'm tempted to do to him what he did to me. He's so useless. Obviously if he wanted to make things right he'd do more than send emails.
Sorry this is such a long-winded and nonsensical question but I just need somewhere to vent my emotional steam. And btw I have seen a counsellor in the past to sort out my thoughts but it really didn't help... at all. Thanks!
yes i understand that he a lot at fault. but right now i think you are at fault. he obviously is trying his best and from your explanation i see you have a lot of hurt in you and you believe that if you give him another chance he will hurt you even more you you put up this wall between you and him....it's like the wall he started building years ago have been finished by you and now he has realized that he doesn't want that wall there and had tried to destroy it, but you are refusing, that wall is now what protects you pride from him and he wants to take that away. i know how you feel, my friend felt the same way when a similar situation happened to her. the thing is you are expecting him to make up for all the years he missed you want him to make up at such a speed that you don't even want to look at him try you just want the end result, give him a chance Please........wait, prove to him that although he gave you a scar, you have found a way to get rid of it and of yu haven't, it will heal soon trust me...
if I am wrong correct me please
hope i helped
Bye
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my kids father took me to court a year ago. His wife wanted him to lower chld support, get rid of kids medical, all so he could continue to pay for her 4 kids. he covered all of her kids (none are his)on medical and asked to drop mine. They submitted a request and made me sit there until i agreed to sign over my son for tax purposes, drop medical, and lower support. A mediator submitted a form and i was supposed to be notified of the outcome. Thing is, the judge denied it. There are no court papers on file, i went to the courthouse yesterday. He gave the original mediators request to a tax preparer, who claimed my son, and gives the same INVALID paper to his employers so that he doesnt have to pay medical. we both claimed my son and now I am wondering how much trouble he could get in for showing this false paper to everyone. I told him i wouldnt sign my sons exeption paper because he never sees the kids and is always behind on support. His felon exwife drew up these papers by the way. Am I missing something. The court has nothing on record for me to see?he has a$5000 return and is $2500 behind on support, is jobless and wont pay a penny o me.what can be done? thanks guys!
The wife is obviously playing mind games. she is playing with his head and the worst part is he can't even see it, only you can. it might be hard but i think you should try and help him somehow after all he is you kids father...second get a lawyer before things escalate into something even you can't control and if he is jobless, then at least tell him to pay what he can without putting too much pressure.... HE NEEDS TO GET A JOB AND HE NEEDS TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT WEATHER HE LIKES IT OR NOT!!!! And his wife, she needs to be told when to stop
let me know how things work out!!
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i heard a rumor that my parents are gonna get a divorce when igraduate, i believe them but i wish they wouldn't wait. they dont kiss, or even sleep in the same bed or room my mom sleeps in the same room and its irritating. ive actually got my dad to spill a little but i wish there was a way for me to0make them. next year im graduating but ill be tooooo busy.
If you question is you want them to divorce before graduation? then OK!
tell them then, that although they think they might be protecting you by waiting that it's affecting you. maybe they want to wait and see if they can word things out a bit before making rash decisions. normally kids will do whatever it takes to keep their parents together but you that you want them to hurry up and split is surprising. i think thats just it, they are afraid that it will hurt you so if you tell them it's okay then they might hurry up or something...
Good Luck!
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Yeah..my gay dad is always telling me that im gunna live with him 10,000 miles away from my friends i REALLY dont wanna go what should i do to make him change hs mind
wow thats sad....sorry.
but you have to understand that he is your dad and that he Raised You! To get him to change his mind might be impossible but at least try and get him to postpone it until you are ready and get everything together( saying goodbyes and etc). people don't like moving because you miss everyone you once knew, but you will meet someone new and you will always make new friends that doesn't mean you have to say goodbye to the old ones. stay in touch. friends are made and friends are lost but talk to him again if you want. also tell him if you want to that this involves you too. walk something out!..
Hope I helped. let me know how it turns out!!!
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hey my sister is driving me crazy wat do i do
well I am with you there. my sis drives me crazy but you can't help but love them right? just think if they didn't drive you crazy at times, home will be kind off boring. but if they go over the edge thats when something needs to be done.
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I am a 20 year old female, and to give a better idea of myself, I go to school full time and work part time and would not describe myself as a huge partier. I was going out Saturday night, and my curfew is usually 2am (my mom is a big worrier). I was going to a party and asked my mom in advance if I could stay out a bit later, and we got into an argument and she refused. I ended up not getting a ride home until 3am, and my mom was up waiting for me and was furious. I didn't purposely do it out of spite, but nonetheless, it happened and she said my curfew was now 1am and if it happened again, it would keep getting earlier. How can I fix this situation? I admitted I was wrong, but I still felt that I deserved a yes to my request earier for a later curfew. Is there anyway I can get her to see my side? I just want some compromise.
Please don't take this the wrong way. You are twenty years old and your mother gives you a curfew of 2.am. Wow i admire you for that. you must be a very good daughter. most people will just curse at their mother and then tell her that they are adults and do whatever they want. wow i can't believe your mother doesn't realize how a great daughter you are and how lucky she is. at the same time i think she is worried here you are all grown up and she is afraid you will leave her soon. so whatever chance she gets she wants to keep you close by. tell her again what happened and ask her to understand. if she is not listen, sit down with her and don't change your story keep telling her what happened and get her to trust you again.
BYE! HOPE I HELPED>
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i want to go to this party but i'm not sure if my dad will let me. How do i ask if i can go? answer ASAP 2 hrs til the party! will make people favorite columist And give fives!!!
Just ask him
"dad, there is a party tonight and i was wondering if i can go" "my friend _put friend's name here, will be there"
"I am not sure I am okay with that" is what he will probaly say
" what about if i give when iget there i call you, and give you the phone number or something"
you probaly won't like this but it is the best chance you have at going lol.
Good LUck and i hope he says yes.
Just ask him!
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I live alone with my dad and have since I was a baby. My mom died in a freak accident of sorts and so it's just been me and my dad all of these years. We get along great! The problem is that I started to have my period and I am going to need some pads (my friend gave me a few of hers to get me by for a couple of days). I know I should tell my dad so that he knows about it but I don't know what to say to him that isn't embarrassing for us both. How do I tell my single-father that I've started having periods?
I am sorry about your mom.
But sooner or later you are going to need pads. so tell your father. He is your father he knows that this would happen one day and that you period will come. so if you asked me, i think he is already prepared and is just waiting for you to ask
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i have wanted to move out to the country ever since i got my 1st horse 5 yrs ago since then i have got another i live with my young grandad and nanna and my mum. my grandad and i are certain we want to live out there andmy mum dosnt mind but my nanna manages to find 1 problem with every house that we look out even when there isnt one i even go to a school where i only have to go twice a week if the house is far out in the country we are looking a getting another horse and we have 6 other animals i would appreciate your help thanks is there any way of convincing her or should we leave it?
You Nana feels that if you leave you will forget about her. she loves you and doesn't want to let you go just yet. she is afraid of not having that connection with you if you move away. you two should talk, or all the family together should talk and find a solution.
hope it works out!
P.S thats a lot of pets for company. very lucky
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We are expecting our first child and need baby name help. My husband and I have chosen not to find out the sex of our baby until he/she has been born. We have some names we like, but we aren't 100% sure on any of them. We thought maybe someone could suggest some that they really enjoy and let us know what they thought about some of ours.
Baby names we like so far...
Baby boy names:
Michael David
John Patrick
James Paul
David Austin
Baby girl names:
Grace Anne
Madison Faith
Anna-Claire
Elisa Grace
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
We like sweet, old-fashioned names, and traditional names mainly.
Thank you.
i like for boys....
david-matthew
davis-brian
cliton
henry
prince
for girls i like......
jessica-faith
anna-bell
hilary
celine
or jus plain hope
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I am 15 male and i do not share the same faith as my family. I am wiccan and i want to start telling people. not just my friends. I just dont know how to tell my parents. advice?
you have to tell them at some point. if this is what you really want, i wouldn't say i recomman it, but i do reconmmande that you tell your parents. you wouldn't want them finding out from someone else. this would not only make them furious but it would also question their ability to trust you. so tell them iam sure you guys would find a resonable solution together.
BYe HOpe I HElpEd
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Well, one of my cousins always comes over to my house, especially during the summer. She's a college student, and she's almost twenty years old; I'm a couple years younger.
Anyways, she lives about 45 minutes away from me, and has a lake cabin a couple miles away from my house. Some days during the summer, she pops in unexpectedly, and walks in the house without knocking or anything.
Her and her brother are nearly the same age, and one time they came over to our house, and my mom ordered dinner. It ended up costing over $40 just for the 4 of us, and my mom and I barely got anything, while each of them ordered a pizza and onion rings. They left after they got done, didn't throw anything away or clean up after themselves, and didn't even say, "Thank you" for the meal!
It's just little things like this; they have no manners, and sometimes my cousin comes to my house with her duffel bag and spends the night without even asking! She just assumes we'll say, "Yes".
Then, we just had a garage sale, and she was selling some of her stuff, and she barely helped at all! She was on Facebook for most of the time we were out setting up for the sale, and one of my friends, who was barely selling anything, was working like a dog! AND WE DIDN'T EVEN ASK HER TO HELP!
My mom and I don't want to say anything because we don't want to create any tension in the family, but it's just getting to the point that something must be said.
Communication is not a very strong point in my family, however, when someone says something, we all take sides, and it just turns into nasty finger-pointing episodes...
What should I do?
well you have to tell her how you guys feel at some point. and it's better soon than never. you guys have to put a stop to it before she owns your house. and maybe she doesn't even realize she is doing it when in fact she is.
TALK TO HER!
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My mom has always drank some on the weekends to relax from her stressful job. I've lived with this all of my life and there was never a problem. Well, my dad has been gone for about six months now (died in a car wreck) and my mom has started drinking more.
Dad's death was really hard on us but it's hitting mom the worst, I think. She drinks a lot more than she use to. She drinks every night and sometimes (more frequently this past week) passes out in the hallway floor before it's over. She's even missed work a few times because of her hangovers. Since she has started drinking like this I've started waking her up for work and stuff because she's been oversleeping dramatically. I mean, I don't want her to lose her job and I know this is a hard time for her.
Anyway, I am concerned over all of the drinking now. I know alcohol does some nasty liver damage and I don't want my mom to die too. I'm afraid to confront her about it because I don't want that stress to have her drinking even more. What do I do?
iam deeply sorry for your loss. my condenansis goes to your family. I also think your mom needs to be confronted. she needs to know that she has a daughter and that she needs to do whatever she can to amke sure that you are safe and that nothing happenes to you. she needs to be the aldult and know that this is as hard on you as it is on her. talk to her.
Iam sure she would understand
hope this help and again iam deeply sorry for your loss.
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My mom just left me and I don't know what to do! We got into a big fight because she was talking to this guy on the phone a lot and I asked her if she was cheating on my dad. She got really mad and went into her bedroom for awhile. When she came out she had some things packed and told me she was going to go somewhere else where she is appreciated more. I don't know what to do! My dad is gone for another 2 weeks and I don't know what I'm suppose to do in this situation. Do I call the police and tell them I'm alone and stuff and I don't know WHEN or even IF my mom is going to come back? I'm scared.
you should call your dad in this situation. have him know about what happened. and call a close by relative and ask them if you can stay with them.
you need to make sure you are staying with someone.
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hi im from canada and i struggle with helping my mom get over her addiction, im 14 and i have a chance of moving in with my aunt who is much more better for me and has more time, money and strengh too keep up with me. so do i stay with my mom for grade 8 and be stressed with the bills and her self or do i leave and start fresh with my aunt and hurt my mom for myself?
hey i think you should defitnetly leave.
but don't abandon your mom. make sure she gets the help she needs. for now you need to be with someone who would keep you safe. you need to keep your health and body healthy. so i think your aunt would so the job and your mom should get help somewhere.
and maybe in time you guys can live agian together!
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