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I don't know what's wrong with me, or if it's my dad.
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My parents got divorced when i was in the fourth grade, I'm a freshman now. My parents divorce was rough. I'm currently living with my dad, and i see my mom every other weekend. Before that though i didn't see her at all. My mom hasn't been paying child support, because she doesn't have a job and had to have knee surgery which prevents her to have a regular job. The relationship between my parents is very tense, they don't even speak to each other. I'm always in the middle of everything. For the most part, my dad and I had a really close relationship. but He always bashes and talks bad about my mom, and complains about money and how his life is so hard being the only parent. I used to just ignore his comments but lately i've been outbursting on him because i'm tired of hearing it. He wants me to not like her and not respect her either, but she's my mom and i could never do that. After I told him that i didn't want to hear his complaining, and his comments about my mom he's stopped caring about me. He's always negative and usually ignores me now. I don't know what to do or why this is going on, So if you could please help me i'd really appreciate it.
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first iam sorry about your parents divorce ND I HOPE YOU WILLGET THROUGH IT.
Second, i don't know about you but i have noticed that when parents get divorced, they sometimes try to turn thier children aginst one another.
to me i feel like you dad is afriad. he knows that you love your mom and that you care deeply for her, but he is afriad that you might love her more than him and it hurts him because he has been the one taking care of you.
I think you should talk to your dad again, this time tell him that its alright if he doesn't love your mom, but he shouldn't also talk aout her badly infront of you. tell him that you love your mom, but you also love him and that hearing him talk that way doesn't make you love her less, but it makes you want to defend her more. reassure your dad that treating you that way to take out his anger against your mother is wrong.
i really hope everthing works out and that you are able to get through it.I know divorces are not easy, but you can wrok throught them...
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