My name is Nikita. 19 years of age. i answer all questions. However i answer truthfully so don't take it personal if i say something rude. I've been on this website for 6+ years. I live in Texas. And right now i go to hcc. I love hanging out with my friends, facebooking, pigging out, and going on walks. If you have a question please inbox me :D thanks bye!
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Due to my own lack of trying, I was dismissed from college before I could begin my second semester. I failed four classes and boy was my father was upset, and with good reason too, of course.
He told me to find a new job or else I'd have no car, no phone, or Internet, all essential things for me, or I could join the guards and retain that. Not an option for me. So I found a new job, and I now hold down two.
But then, today, he said that if I don't work full time, which is impossible with two jobs, that I will be walking to work, which is also impossible as both places are miles away, and it is Winter.
How do I handle my dad and fix all of this? (link)
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you need to sit down and talk with him and let him know that it isn't fair he's making you walk because you can't work full time at both jobs. tell him it's not possible and i am sorry but i can't do what you want. the fact that he took your things away because you failed your classes is legitimate. you need to try harder. but talk with him and see if you can go back to school so maybe you won't have to work at both jobs or just 1. i hope i helped.
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Hi I'm a 20 yr/F. the problem that's occurring in my family is that my sister is neglecting her family. she is 21yrs old and in love with this guy who is 19 yrs old. i have no problem if she likes him or not, but she is totally obsesses with him. she cant stop thinking about him. the main point is that they're just friends. she always tells everyone that oh we're just friends. she always calls him 24/7 and always goes to visit him. she lives with me and our parents and doesn't give our parents respect. she always tells them lies and she occasionally steals money from them. just for this guy. and whenever she would go out to see him she wouldn't come back till 4 in the morning. i know u guys think that oh shes 21 and that she has her freedom, but she's dependent on our parents. and our religion does not allow smoking and drinking which she does and lies striaght to my parenbts face while shes drunk. i really need your help...please help me solve this problem. how can we keeep her under control cause shes totally out of it..?? (link)
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well she lives under their roof right? so she needs to follow those rules or leave. i think you need to discuss this with your parents. I think they need to give her consequences take her phone and car away. As for this boy you don't know if he likes her not, eventually he'll get sick of her calling him and tell her to move on. Your sister needs a wake up call, because all this lying, stealing, drinking, and smoking, is going to get her into some serious trouble. she needs to respect your parents. after you talk to your parents they need to talk to her calmly, and need to tell her they know everything, and her behavior is unacceptable. i hate saying kids go through this, because i went through a phase where i did stupid things that got me in trouble, but i grew up, learned from my mistakes, and i don't do things behind my parents backs, because i know they'll be disappointed in me, and they won't be able to trust me again. i hope i helped. please inbox me and let me know how everything goes.
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My 24 year old son and his now wife have an 8 month old child. His wife became pregnant while on the pill ( she is 21 years old). He married her and they are struggling financially. My husband and I have been helping but wonder if we should. I worry very much about their future as a couple How involved should we be. (link)
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they've put this on themselves. your son got her impregnated so they need to take care of all that, and support themselves financially. They need to realize that they need to take responsibilities for their actions. Babysitting their kid every once in a while is fine. i hope i helped. good luck Nikita
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I moved out at the age of eighteen. i stay with my boyfriend and his family. Everything is great except school is really expensive and i can't seem to get any loans. The issue is i could go to school for free if i move back in with my parents, but i do not want that. I was so depressed there. But its really stressin me on how long its taking to get back into school. im feeling as if i wont ever get back in. So what do i do, choose love and eventually i can have my career or choose career and be miserable back at home and worry about love later? (link)
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hi so i am in a similar situation. i am i also in college. I am a sophomore. im taking only 3 classes at the community college i attend. i understand where your coming from because i don't have many friends to hang out with. I go to school and come home and study or do homework. I've talked to some people in my class and a lot of them say the same thing. And alot of kids make time to have fun and study, which is hard for me, but they party so that's why im not friends with a lot of people at school, my parents wouldn't allow me to do that stuff. but anyways you need to talk to your parents as well as your boyfriend. Make a list of things you need to do. Talk to your parents and tell them that your feeling depressed. And tell them that your not able to pay for school and you would like some help. You need to make school your first priority. I haven't been and im not doing too well. But im learning that you need to become something before you find someone. I know it's hard, i mean im not even allowed to date. but remember everything has it's place, and everything will happen at the right time. I hope i helped. Nikita
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What is a good age to move out of your parents' house and find a first apartment/rental? (link)
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hah. i ask myself the same question. i don't know if your in college but if i were you i would get through college and find a good stable job that'll help you pay your bills when you find an apartment. there's not a good age to move out, but really its about timing. i hope i helped.
nikita ♥ the cheetah
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Hey im 18/f my mom had me when she was 16 and my biological father gave away his rights. Then she met my adopted father bryan. he is my 2 sisters real dad. But he adopted me when i was like 2. They got divorced and he could have not seen me anymore and whatnot but he chose to. He is basically my dad and i dont think of him any different. I want to create something to show how much i love him. Is there any songs that you can think of that somewhat relate. I really like brad paisleys song he didnt have to be. Are there any other songs like that out there?
Thanks (link)
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John Mayer- Daughters
and i found a website with some country songs http://www.the9513.com/30-songs-about-dads/
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I was the girl who wrote earlier asking for help on how to get along better with my mom.
This morning we got in a fight over a lunch box, a stupid lunch box. Now she told me she wishes I were never born her child.
Its so hard to stay in this house with someone that would say something like that to you.
I don't know what to do. My dad won't listen either. (link)
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i know how you feel. me and my mom always don't get along but we always talk about. you should talk to your mom and tell her what's bothering you. im pretty sure if you two to talk that'll help solve the problems you two have.. i hope i helped!!
nikita
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Ok this is kind of long so sorry. well i have this cousin lets call him frank. frank and i are reallllly close we tell each other everything and we have sooo many memories but after he turned 15 he wasn't fun to hang out with anymore and he started calling me names and just being mean to me. and so i finally just decided to stop talking to him. im 14/f btw. i mean he wished that when i went to florida my plane crashed! ridiculus right???? well the thing is we used to talk on the phone for like 3 hours everyday and we were like each others diaries and he keeps sending me emails guilting me so i will forgive him but he makes me sad. should i forgive him? or should i just forgive him so i can talk to him? I havent talked to him in a week and a half and im a wreck! how do i get over him? i just need advice! and im on vacation with my family so i cant just hang out with friends. (link)
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yeah he's your cousin you should forgive him and tell him how you fell. tell him that you didn't like how he was being mean to you and that he should never do it again.
well i hope i helped!
nikita♥
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k, im in 9th grade and i have to wake my 8 year old brother up for school and he never gets up when i tell him to. what can i do to make him get up the first or atleast the second time i tell him too? (link)
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buy him and alarm clock if he doesn't have one and tell him to set his alarm..
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