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Q: I AM SO EMBARRASED

i dont go on here much but i went on the otha day and forgot to log off, my sis posted this thing about how she had sex with my best friend and all this shit i cant look at him or my sister the same at all she knows i saw it

what do i do?

ohh man i would be pissed umm well if you dont want to be mad anymore i guess i would just talk to them a little bit more about it who knows maybe you dont know the whole story.or maybe she made it up so you would get mad .
let me know how it all works out
'lot of love,lizzie

Q: Hello there,

I have a really violent brother who often for no reason throws things at me and is really quite horrible to me. I do get on really well with him, its just that sometimes he flicks and becomes some violent monster. What should I do? Is there any way that I can help him to overcome this violent side of him? Most of the time he is just fine.

Please help,

Germany

Umm try to spend more time with him i guess would be the first thing to let him no how much you care about him,and while hesd not in a bad mood talk to him about that he does,chances are he dosnt relize what hes doing.
lots of love,lizzie

Q: my dad and mum seperated before i was born, and when i was 11 they finally divorced.My dad abused my mum and my mother put a restraining order on him so i wasnt allowed to meet him.I have to wait till im 18 to meet him wich really sucks!I know what he looks like cause i saw the wedding pix.I really want to meet him but i dont want to wait!Im thinking of leaving to meet him when im 16 and have my licence should i or not?

you have every right too.i think you should go seee him but you dont need to .if you waited this ong ou can waut longer
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: My Dad was in an argument with my Mom like always today and he said, "YOU WONT LET ME TALK TO MY KIDS! YOU WONT LET ME HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM! WELL IN 2009, I'M MOVING! THE BASE (like a military base) IS BEING SHUT DOWN AND MOVING TO ILLINOIS AND I AM MOVING THERE WHEN THAT HAPPENS! WE ARE NOT HAVING TWO HOUSES AND I AM NOT STAYING MARRIED TO YOU! I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY YOU THINK I LOVE YOU! I HATE YOU, YOU ASSHOLE!" Yes, and lucky me...I got to listen to it like always. To make this clear, my mom has never done anything to offend him and only tries to help him. I learned that all of my conversations with him turn into him yelling at me for something, so I try to stay clear of him and not bother him...my mother has nothing to do with it. My mom asked me today if I would rather him stay here till I get out of High School. I told her yes, but I honestly don't. I mean, I want to stay in my neighborhood and all, but I can't take anymore of his yelling, screaming, and when he threatens my mom and stuff. I feel like half of this is my fault. Half of the time he is yelling and cussing at me and my family for all of these little things. I've cried myself to sleep plenty of times because of the things he's said to me. Am I wrong to not want to be around my father?

wow calm down and take a breather girl ! you have every reason not to want to be around your father any more.If he cant do his job as a father then you dont need to put up with it.Try talking to your mom about moving to a new house or staying wth some family members just for awhile or maybe dont stay at high school at that school go to a different one but still keep in toouch and visit your friends.either way its a hard thing to go to.
let me know if it all worked out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: okay well as a christmas gift this past christmas my parents got me christina a. concert tickets... well just recently, heather (24 years old, so my mom approve of her responsibility, really nice, etc) mentioned it would be at TON of fun if we went together.. well im sure my mom intended for me and HER to go together but i brought it up anyways. i said to her "hahah yesterday heather was like 'IT WOULD BE AMAZING IF WE WENT TOGETHER, WOULDNT?!!??! ASK YOUR MOM' shes so funny" and my mom said i could bring her cause they were MY christmas gifts... and she seemed kinda sad but she said she didnt mind...

Wellll, i reallyreallyreally want to bring Heather, but i fell terrible. and plus i know that if my mom goes we'll get into a fight... AND she already has a musical planned for us to go to together next month... so is it that big of a deal?

so here are my list of questions...:

-who should i bring? (i want to bring heather but who SHOULD i bring)
-if heather, then how do i tell my mom
-if mom, what should i tell heather.... ):

THANKS AND SORRY IT WAS SO LONGGGGGG. (:
xoxo

well ask your mom if she would mind,and really look into her eyes when your talking to her.If you decide your mom then just tell heather my mom said i cant take any friends,and if you chooese heather then tell your mom you want to spend time with her,just not aty the concert.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: my friend is in jail and i really want to go see him but i have no idea how...my parents would never let me go visit him but i have friends who are 18+. do i need someone to be 18 years or older to go with me? do i need to make an appointment? and how much trouble could i get in if i lied and told the officers i was his sister just to see him?

Ya im pretty sure you have to make an apintmnt,and you wouldnt get in any troble for it but you better make sure you say something like im his cousin or something.becaus ethey may have a list of name salready on the list.and if you think its to risky then you can allways call the jail and get the nmber for his cell and stuff then you can write backand forth to im .
lt me knw how it all works out
lots of love,lzzie

Q: I am the Bride. The Groom has 3 daughters. I have known, loved, and enjoyed all 3 girls for years. We have shared a lot.

The Groom and I decided to finally marry after much soul searching, years of living together, breaking up, and finally getting back together, staying together for keeps. One HUGE problem -- daughter No. 3, the youngest, the most needed
( financially and emotionally ), the most spolied, and sometimes really mean, she decided that at about age 15 ( 10 years ago) to be horrible to me, and she has never stopped. She throws fits (use to on the floor kicking), refuses to talk, asks that I leave the house if she's coming for a visit, ignores me if I am in the same room, and she will probably make this wedding a living hell. Her father seems to agree.

Her sisters are fine with me. We are adults and we have our own issues. Nobody is casting any stones. His children are age 32, 29, 25. I am 39 this October. We have dated since I was 23, so for 17 years.

I have helped raise the girls, and I love them very much. However, I was also the ruler maker in our household. So like other would-be step moms with teenagers, we had our challenges, mainly with Traci. The girls are all married now with children of their own. How can I, we, break news and still enjoy our wedding and our life together?

The girls live 3 hours away by plane. We see them 4 or 5 times a year at family functions. We all get along well except for her.

The father is very worried that she will not talk to him, make the wedding problematic, not participate in family functions, and blame him.

What can we do?

as hard as this may seem.you BOTH need to talk to her !!!!!if you dnt think you can send her a letter.explain to her that she dosnt have to agree with you,and she dosnt have to like you,but your getting masrried because you love her father.most kids are like this but if you love your fiance well enough you can take time to talk to her.you may not be able to tell,but shes listening .

let me know how it all wroks out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: 17 female

my dad died when i was 12 and I still get upset about it every now and then and now since the anniversary of his death is coming up soon this month i've been feeling upset more than ever he died about 5 years ago is this normal?

my dad died when i was 5 years old.he was suppost to just go in for a check-up so i dicided to go to a fishing place with m,y brother.i can still remember my mom comming home and sitting me down on the couch and telling me "lizzie....daddy died today".it was ther hardest thing i have ever had to hear.sometimes i can be very happy for one minute but then i will think about it and be so sad because i miss him so much.i know its hard but you rerally have to think about the good times you had together,and how happy he must be now that hes in heaven .the best you can do is be happy for him.let me know how it all works out
and if you ever need to talk im allways here.
my email is Iluvaaron1993@aol.com yuou can also im me if you want
lots of love,lizzie

Q: my brother has this thing that he has to be better than me in everything i do. for example we were in a arcade and they had that basketball game where u shoot the balls and i got a higher score than he did and he didnt show it but i knew that it bothered him that i beat him in basketball.. even hate home when we are playin like horse or something he gets mad when i keep gettin them in and he keeps missing also i have been hip hop dancing for 6 years and my bro always has to try and show off dance moves in front of me even tho he cant dance that good and he's like ha i bet you cant do that and i just play dumb and say no i cant do that.. i mean its soo annoying that he has to compete in everything i can do... what should i do i mean its so dumb for a 19 year old to compete with me and im only 14 its kinda pathetic

so what should i do about it???

my brother is like this too and it cuased alot of problems between us.simply explain to him what the dangers are in your relationship.tell him that he dosnt have to be better at you at everything u will still love him either way.just dont loes your temper.u think that it is pathatic for your 19 your old broother,now you know how it feels to have a 23 year old brother be like that.
welll let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: My mom told my dad three days ago that she wants a divorce. My mom is unhappy and our family is nothing but fighting. My mom told my little brother who is 13 about this today. he is taking it pretty hard. He is also blaming me when i have nothing to do with it. it rally upets me because my brother is saying this whole thing is my fault. well my dad wants to do counsling. he thinks he can change everything but he cant. my mom doesnt want to live like this. so im supose to move out with my mom and my brothers supose to move out with my dad. Im not sure what the question in this is but ive never moved before. my dad mentioned couple years ago that he was going to leave and me my mom and my older brother cried about it. my little brother was to young to understand. im just looking for advice please help

first of all take a breath ...breath in...and out ....okay,now you know what it is not you or your brothers fault .so you try siting your brother down and calmly explaining that this is between your mom and dad .everyone goes through this its not just your family,and you know counciling dosnt have to be the worst thing ever.maybe you could do it for your brother it will give you tips on how to talk to him and explauin that to im.
let me know how it all works out and if you need a friend im here
lots of love,lizzie

Q: Well, My mother is trying to read my mind. She sets me up without "knowing" and then says im doing it because (some weird hatful things im doing) and it`s making think shes nuts. She is crazy tho. I could get her put away in a M.H.

But, I have sleeping problems. I have this annoying ring in my ears. But it goes away with white noise(or any noise) but a fan puts me asleep with ease. So i get home for being on my own, after all my shit was stole. And i ask for a fan, she says i have a fan. The ceiling fan i have is the most annoy! Its quite, I have to sleep on my back(which i almost never do, like 1-50) Cuz if i turn my head the ringin in my ear is there.I almost died cuz i was so sick of sleepin on my back i slept face down with a pillow on my forehead so i could have air, i wake up coughin to death drownin in my own drool!!! On my back my whole mouth is dry, it takes me hours to fall alseep. And i have to be tired. Like missin a good amount of sleep. Im missing so much sleep i keep seeing things, plus im really paranoid. Im now missing over 40 hours. I tell this to her she flips out and thinks im lying. Im a Buddhist so im not lying, i cant! And she hates the fact im Buddhist when she has no religion. What can i say for her to shut her trap and listen for more then 30secs. And i tell her this and she says im not doing this, but im doing some complex plan to make her mad or something? So help!

im not to good with this buddism religion and i dont know to much about it.But i do think since she is your parent she should rezspect your religon .So if you find she wont listen to you when you talk try writing her a letter.She cant yell at the paper.Maybe save up some money and buy your own fan.If you have problems sleeping like i do ,then try some prescripted sleeping pills.let me know how it all works out
lots of love ,lizzie

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hey guys whats up im Lizzie .i love to give people advice and i sometimes need to ask others for advice if i dont know what to do .the most important thing i want everyone to know is that they shouldnt be ashamed to ask others for advice.it will get you far if u ask questions.im not here to tell people how to live there lives,im just here to help .so if u ever need advice or just want to make a friend im allways hear .hope to hear from u soon ,
lots of love,lizzie