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My name is Abby. I'm 14. I am a freshman at DHS. I live in MA. I like to sing dance, write songs and poetry and I play softball.I can give you advice on friendships, school, sports, things on your appearance, and relationships/love life.
I'm here to be honest, and give REAL advice. I won't lie to you to make you feel better about yourself, I won't tell you that you are gorgeous and perfect, and I will not judge you just because of some of the things you ask me advice about are sleezy and what not.
If you have any questions just come to my inbox. I'll be happy to answer them =]
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Last night my step-dad beat me. He's done it before, but last night was the worst it has ever been. I called the police and they came to examine me, but they didn't find any marks. But TODAY my face is REALLY swollen and bruised up. What should I do to make him get in the trouble that he deserves? I can't call CPS because I've already had three cases with all of them with the same problem, but they have all been dropped. I'm tired of being hit and I want him in jail.
take pictures of all the damage he has done to you. call Social Services and tell them that you want to live with another relative. Talk to your mom privately about this, no matter wether you're right or wrong you deserve better. Your family needs help. I used to get beaten up by my step father. And everytime it gets worse and worse. I used to run away all the time. It doesn't help running from your problems. The next time he beats you its going to be so bad. A real man would never put his hands on you. Go to the police and show them what he did to your face. Bruising and swelling won't go away in a day. Don't be afraid of him.. GET HELP FAST. Call an aunt or an uncle, your dad, or your grandparents and have them pick you up.. pack up all your most important belongings and get out of that house.. go to a friend, anyone who will help you.
NO ONE DESERVES TO GET BEATEN.
=[ sincerely, Abby
f/15
I want to date this guy who I have been quite close friends with for years. We have always liked eachother as more than friends (although it was sort of on and off since we went periods without hanging out) and that is what kept our friendship alive. We have always acted like we were dating (to some extent) and I'm quite sure it would be long lasting between us. I think he is going to ask me out within the next two weeks since we recently told eachother for the first time how we really feel.
Now the thing is that I have had two boyfriends in the past but never told my parents so they think I have never dated a guy. They know I hang out with this guy a lot and he calls my house sometimes asking if I wanna come over. My parents have never met him since I always go to his house and he has never been at mine (because I don't think my parents would allow it).
I am a really good liar and I know I could hide it if I was dating him, but should I? What would be the benefits of telling my parents rather than keeping it a secret?
If I tell my parents (if he asks me out) that we are dating and they don't approve they would probably think differently about letting me go to his house even as friends. If I keep it a secret and get caught they may find out other secrets I have since I basically live a double life (I am a straight A student but I drink and lie to my parents a lot, but they think I'm 'good' and don't do drugs).
Sorry about that being so long but there are many factors and I am running out of time to make a decision
I think you should tell your parents because even if it's just about a boy, you're 15 and a straight A student. If they most likely trust you then they will probably let you go over still. It's not a big deal. And I'm sure they already know what's up. You should just be real with them because telling them the truth will show that you respect their opinions and they will trust you even more.
i feel like my mom is running my love life. when i was 13, i met this boy. i fell madly in love with him and to this day, 2/3 years later, i'm still crazy about him. he liked me a lot. i think he still does but he's just hurt about all of this that's been going on. my mom ADORED his best friend. she told me that if i was going to like anybody that it could only be his best friend and her mind was set. she said that the other guy was ugly and stupid. so, i pretended to like his best friend infront of her. she was so happy and every time i might have hinted that there was something for the other guy, she would get soo pissed. so, i told my best friend about what was going on, and she was the only one that knew. but, then in 8th grade, my mom saw the one she thought was ugly at a party and saw how much she thought he cared for me and she liked him and stuff. and then i was at the hospital on christmas because i had a really bad cough that was non-stop for 3 days and 3 nights and the only thing that made me stop coughing was when she said his name. she dumped my boyfriend of 1 year over the internet because she says that he was sending me inappropriate things. i thought it was gross, but it wasn't worth dumping him for. he said he was sorry. but, she really shouldn't have done that. but, i recently met this guy and she says he's ugly and she doesn't like him because he's ugly and he carries things in a bag. the only reason he brought a bag was because we were going in the pool so he brought an extra change of clothes. she finds the stupidest reasons for things. she thinks he's weird or something and he's not like that, he's a very nice person and he has excellent table manners lol. but, i'm tired or her running my love life. i feel like she wants to control who i can and can't like. i've talked to her about it, but she just doesn't understand. she doesn't think anything she does is wrong. and i think all of these 3 circumstances have everything wrong with them
1) TELLING ME I COULD ONLY LIKE HIS BEST FRIEND
2) DUMPING MY BOYFRIEND WITHOUT MY PERMISSION!
3) TELLING ME I CAN'T LIKE A BOY BECAUSE SHE THINK'S HE'S UGLY!!!!!
now she's telling me i have to like the one she thought was ugly in the first place and i still love him, but, i'm kind of just hanging around and waiting for him to come around. because, recently he was getting into things like smoking pot and stuff and i want him to outgrow it and i also don't want to make a move on him like that. i want to hint it and stuff. but, there's nothing wrong with liking someone and him getting a little jealous with it. deep down i really care about him, but that's besides the point
it'advice about my mom please
thank you
wow.. no offence to your mom but I think that is kind of messed up. Yes she is her mother, but she has no right to not let you like someone just because she thinks he is ugly. Simply tell your mother,
"I know that it is in your best iterest to look out for me but seriously mom, you need to listen to me. I'm not trying to be rude but you can't run my life. I know who I like and who I don't. And honestly, you really can't tell me who I can and can not have feelings for. I don't want to disappoint you but I'm not going to put up with it anymore. It's my life and my mind. You can't control it forever. Just because you think one person is ugly doesn't mean I do. And you can't judge someone on looks because looks aren't everything. It's all about personality. And if you had any TRUE taste, you would see that. I know you are trying to protect me but, I'm old enough to make my own mistakes and learn from my actions. I'm not an idiot. So let me do my job to have a good childhood; and you do yours and be the mom I NEED you to be."
i hope it helps!
I have been in my current relationship for 9 months. Previouisly my relationship was 4 years in which we had a child. since then her father hasn't seen or talked to her in 6 months. Now when she starts to get close to my boyfriend she takes three steps back. But if she meets someone new she walk with them and hold their hand and she won't do this with my boyfriend. This upsets him and I've told him maybe she's just afraid to get close with himbecause she's afraid he will leave her too. Please help me try to understand this better. (she's only 5 years old)
Hi. I can help with this one. My parents are divorced and my mother remarried a guy who is a total asshole. I know I am a lot older than your daughter but I went through the same thing. Your daughter is acting like this because she is affraid she will get attatched and then he will leave like her father. Also because she is affraid that he will hurt you, kids are like that sometimes because they are very protective when they are little. But if I were you, sit her down and talk about him. (not when he is there) then try to find a solution so you can feel more comfortable.
Hope I helped
Sincerely,
Abby