Hi, Im Sarah and Im 24 and Im married to a wonderful man! Together we have 3 kids together the first one was an "accident" as I was still in high school when I was 17. But she is now 7 and her name is Ashley Marie. Then I have a little boy who is 11 months and his name is Corey Logan. Then I am expecting the third in about a month!!! She is suppost to be a girl so her name will be Kelsey Anne. I graduated college from The University of Tennasee. I am a gymnastics coach and own 3 gyms. Then as a side job I train horses for all events. I got married on May 21, 2007!!! If you ever need help I can answer most any question... I am a been there done that type of person! I've learned from alot of mistakes too.
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okay so im 15....
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pregnant! i just found out...
yes i know i am very young to be pregnant.
i will be 16 in 2 months.
so please dont write about how im too young and blah blah blah...i already know....dont need to hear it more. thank you.
anyways....today i was on the laptop and my dad was next to me and i was looking at abortion pictures and saying how horrible it was. and my dad was like so if you got pregnant you would keep it? and i said YES I COULD NEVER KILL A BABY! and then we had this whole argument on how its not a baby at a certain amount of weeks and whatever...so i showed him an article on how they get nerves at 4 weeks so they do feel it and he was like I DONT CARE ID DRAG YOU DOWN TO THE CLINC AND MAKE YOU GET ONE! i just kept saying you cant make me..
REMEMBER....HE DOES NOT KNOW IM PREGNANT!
also when he found out my mom was pregnant with my little brother he yelled and screamed at her and dropped her off at the clinc..she sat there for HOURS crying...finally went in but they said she was too far along to get one...thank god.
so my dad is capable of having the heart to leave me at a clinc.
how do i tell him im pregnant without going through that? im keeping the baby, im still with the father and he is staying with me so i have help.
when i tell my dad should i immediately tell him abortion is out of the question?
can he really force me into an abortion? thats my right though isnt it? its not like since im under 18 he could make it get it by law right?
either way i need to tell him soon because i want this baby to be healthy so regular checkups to the OBGYN and getting put on healthy stuff is needed asap.
i live in florida if that helps?
thank you. (link)
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Hey there sweetie I know its hard right now. You have got to talk to someone in your family, I would go to your mom first you dad does not sound like the kind of person I would want to tell right off the bat. Maybe once you tell your mom if you are really close to her and trust her then maybe she can sit down with you and yall can tell him together. If you are not close enough for that maybe you should consider telling him with the baby's dad's parents they might be willing to help you. You need to put it out there that you are refusing to have an abortion that you want to keep it. Im sorry but teenagers can raise kids on their own sure its rough on them and sure it makes you grow up faster but those kids are still yours and they will still love you. Every parent makes mistakes we all know that but you can grown and learn with your baby. The father may stay around.... he may not he may be there for a while then not want to be with you then go and still see the baby. Then also he may leave you never know..... but chances are if hes here for you now he will be for you later too because right now and up till you have the baby will be the hardest part to get through because once you have your child then people get to hold it and see how adorable it is. I have a story for you I want you to read I would type it up for you on here but I am short on time I have to get to work but there is a short version of it on my column page.... its in where it talks about me under the picture. read it for me please... then if you wanna talk come talk feel free!!! Good luck! Sarah
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okay 1st thanks for the advice.
and im going to talk with my parenting teacher.
im actually verry excited for my baby to come. and today will offically be a month =D
its offical by the way im pregnant for sure.
i just got back from the docters.
uhmm i have a couple questions.
1. Around what month will i really pop.
2. Did people judge you at school when you really started showing.
3. was it really hard to leave the baby at home while you were at school.
4. how long were you out of school before//after having the baby.
5. did your friends react weird when you told them?
thanks sooo much for answering these.
im so happy.
but then again im nervous.
i think my parents are gonna hate me.
and my denny (father of baby) already told his parents that i could be pregnant...and they are preetttyyyy excited.
thansk again =D (link)
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Since you are still young it will take you longer to pop I think I really started to pop and show at about 5 months maybe a little sooner. Some people judged me at school. Just ignore them, a lot of people considered me a slut/whore and atomatically thought that I was sleeping with a lot of people when the truth was that I had only ever slept with my boyfriend. For a while it was hard to leave my baby at home when I returnede for school, but i knew she was going to be ok because my mom was with her, sometimes I took her to school with me, you may want to see what your schools policy on that is. I was allowed to bring her on days that my mom could not watch her, and it was pretty fun going to school and being a mom all at the same time and people do gain a lot of respect for you when you bring your baby to school with you. I even brought Ashley to school with me through the rest of my high school years even after she turned 1 and all people thought she was so adorable. I was out about 2 weeks before I was due and then I stayed home for about a month after i had her and I went into school like once a week to pick up work so that I would not get really far behind. If your boyfriend plans on having something to do with your baby, then he will probally want to stay out of school and be with you for say the first week thats what mine did and it really helped! Some of my friends did act weired when I told them but it was more of them being in shock. Some of my friends that I was not so close to kind of ignored me for a while but then slowly came back and talked to me again, also my really close friends backed me up and supported me all the way. I know that your parents are not going to hate you! You have to know that they will always love you no matter what happens. They might be dissapointed or mad for a while but in the end they will be excited and happy for you. That is a really good thing that Dennys parents are excited because that gives more hope that they will support you even if your parents do not. You have to keep in mind that different parents have different oppinions on things like this. I can understand why you are nervous I was too, and be prepaired for major cravings! lol it is one time in your life when you can acctually eat what ever you want and not look like a pig! Good luck with talking to your parents and if you want let me know as things progress and I can help you alot!
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okay please dont judge me im begginnggg you..
but im 14 gonna be 15 in like 8 days.
but me n my boyfriend of 3 years have had sex b4.
and this last time we had it he didnt wear a condom.
i took a test and it showed up positive.
i took one about 3 weeks ago.
i took another one just last week and that one also said positive.
i have no i dea what to do.
my byfriend and i both want to keep it.
but have no idea how to tell our parents.
pleasee tell me something to doo. (link)
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Well right now I think it would be best if you go and talk to your school counsler or at some schools they have a parenting counsler...they did at my high school. It does not really matter if they know who it is, and it might be a good idea to have your boyfriend come with you. But Then you might ask if there is a way to have your parents come in for a meeting, and have the counsler there when you tell them. When I got pregnant in high school thats what I did. It helped alot because then i didnt have to be alone when I had to tell my parents. It is most likely that you are if every test has come up positive. If you have a supportive boyfriend, parents, I would keep the kid. I kept my little girl and I am so glad that I did! I refused to have an abortion when I got pregnant because my veiws on it was that it was murder and i wasnt giving my baby a fair life. I really didnt want to put her p for adoption because I didnt want to regret it later. But honestly it will be hard it will not be easy! Some days will be harder than others and one of the hardest parts is going through school when you start to really pop. You really do need to get your parents in volved. They will be upset with you trust me but after about a month of fighting they will back you up a 100% and be there for you. If you keep the baby to the best idea I can give to you is if you are in a good relationship with your boyfriend then try and stay in it with him.... you never know you might end up marrying him some day :). But do not force yourself to stay in a bad relationship with someone that does not treat you right. If you need any help feel free to ask, i have been in your position! Good Luck!!!
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Ok so I'm a 15 f and i'm 36 weeks, 1 day pregnant today. My due date isnt until novemeber 17th but I was wondering if there was any way I could schedule a C-section before hand so I won't have to go threw giving birth and I could have my baby home sooner. Please answer fast I need to know. Thanks.
Love, Amanda. (link)
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You can schedual a c-section. You will need to talk to your doctor though. I know that for me natural birth was easier. It really dose not matter on which way you give the birth on the amount of time it take to get your baby home. Rember that the c-section will leave a nasty scar too! That was one of the reasons that i had natural births until my last child was born I had a c-section because she was a pre mature child. Honestly do not listen to the person below me about who your parents are and stuff, I know where your comming from i had my first kid when I was in high school, I was 17 though. You will learn a lot and at times it will be hard. But it really isnt anyones fault. And your parents are probally really good for you. If you need any help with anything, feel free to ask! I have been in your position before.
good luck and congradulations, hope everythin goes well
Sarah!
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As far as the topic of breast feeding goes, is it really better to do that instead of feeing your baby formula? Does breast milk have any advantages besides beind cost free?
Is it true that breast feeding helps a mother lose pregnancy weight? Is it also true that breast feeding makes your breasts sag? (link)
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There are advntages to both, as well as disadvantages, instead of typing it all out here is a very helpful website, that should help you. As for the weight, I really did not see a difference in breastfeeding and formula. I gave formula to my first two kids and breastfed my last but I think I lost the weight at about the same pace.
http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/food/infants/breast_bottle_feeding.html
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My five year old son isn't interested in paying with other kids. My husband is VERY concerned. He will play with his sister and his cousins (all younger, all girls) and an occasionaly older girl who will act as a follower. My son likes to be in charge, he is the 1st born. Do you think any of theses characteristics are a sign that there is something wrong with him socially? He just seems to prefer the company of adults. (link)
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Well I think it is probally that he is just shy. But I am not sure of all medical problumes in kids but I do know some about autism. I cant say that he has it but my sisters little girl has it and when she was that age she usually played with younger kids or was very close by to her mom or dad and got very upset when either left, she didnt talk very much, and she didnt have a vocabulary of what a 5 year old should have. Also they usually dont like to look people in the eye. Like I said before I am not saying that he has this but you might ask your doctor what they think if it is just normal shyness or if he needs to be tested for something. I hope this helped a little bit.
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ok
its beens a month since my last pd. well a month and 4 days
i'm hurtin bad (down south). and i'm only 16.
But i thought i started like 2 days ago but i didnt. but i can see blood when i pee. and i wipe myself i see blood but i put a pad on for 2 days and didnt have no blood on it what so ever.
I don't know what to do. i want a kid but ill get killed
am i preg.
or is it to short to tell
help!! (link)
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Ok wow yo sound like I did when I was your age pregnant at 16 baby by 17. It is scary when you do not know if or what ever, but you need to get a pregnancy test try like 2 or more at the store and if they come up positive or even one of them then you need to go to your doctor, I would recomend going any ways because the blood in the pee is really weired and worrying me a little. But if you are and you need help about it like talking to your rents or something feel free to come and talk to me I have been there and done that. So good luck with it. Best wishes.
Sarah
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i just found out i'm pregnant.
i'm very nervous that my water will break out in public, is it alot of fluid or is it not that much.
also i'm nervous about peeing my pants in public.
if i do, like would i pee alot, or would i be able to catch myself and only pee a little.
please answer these, thanks. (link)
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Well for the water breaking in public it can happen and with my first, it happened to me. Well kind of in public I was 17 and I went back to school that week to take my exams and well then, it happend in school it was a litle imbaressing but most people were excited for me and I didnt have to finish my exam lol. It isn't that much water but you will know it plus you will most likely be contracting by then.
For the pee thing it is harder to control you might leak a little but not a whole lot, I wore pantie liners with my three kids. Hope this helps and congragulations!!!!
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im a 15 year old female. i think i might be pregnant but im not sure.. there is no way i can go out and get a pregnancy test. so is there any other way of telling if you are pregnant without the test?
thanks! (link)
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Well there are signs, like morning sickness, and weired cravings and things like that but honestly there is nothing that can tell you if you are 100% pregnant before you have a test done and a test from a store is not always as accurate as the test doctors give you.
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i got my preriod very late.. so my boyfriend think that i am pregnant. we went to the clinic for five times and i took five urine test. it all came out negative. i am really scared because my stomach is getting big than it was. after that clinic that i took five urine test, i went to a different clinic. when i took another test. it came out negative.
does this means that i am not pregnant? or the test is just messing up. i've been hearing that the urine test is not accurate and also the blood test. i dont know what to do. they wont let me have a ultra sound so i know if its in there or not.
can someone tell me.. if im pregnant or not. i am really scared and i dont want to have a baby. (link)
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Well, first off I will start of with I am like 100% positive you are not pregnant. If you had your period that means that you are not pregnant. The tests that they do at clinics are usually very very accurate, more than the store bought test. Since you have had 6 tests than I would feel very confidant in myself that I would not be pregnant. The only way that I would be concerned was if you had not had your period.
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what is a reasonable curfew for a responsible sixteen year old? (link)
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Well in most towns there is a curfew set by the law, so you might want to find out what that is. When I was 16 my curfew on school nights was 10:30 and on non-school nights it was 11:30. I think it was pretty resonable.
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HI.
i really need ur help. im having a baby shower for my sister. what kind of games can i do. and also what gifts. I have no idea and its coming up. please help.
thak you (link)
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You can do the baby food game get jars of baby food and test your sister to see if she knows what the food is, there is the one where you can put a word at the top of the page and see who can make the most words with it, here is a website with some too! Good luck planning and have fun! http://www.babbee.com/baby_shower_games/contents1.html
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ok....im 13 and pregnant i dont want to tell my family because i think they will be ashamed.I dont want to get an abortion because i think its wrong.I also dont want to give "it" up for adoption, because my friend was adopted and he doesent like it.I just really need some help.What should i do? (link)
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Well first off I have to get this off my chest why were you having sex at the age of 13!!!! Ok anyways you need to tell someone because you have to go for check ups and all. Second are you 100% sure you are pregnant? I know it is hard to tell them but you have to because it is really important they will find out anywyas it is better to tell them then them finding out! Also make sure it is at a calm time at the house so it goes over well! They will be dissapointed I am pretty sure of that but they will still love you anyways and they might have some ideas for you! Good Luck!
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How do I tell my mom I think I have those? 13/f The pain is unberable at night I cannot sleep :( (link)
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Well go up to her and say mom I think I need to go to the doctor. I do not know what this is. THen show it to her act like you donnot know what it might be.
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Hello...
I have a teen daugter she is 13 and she goes to the mall all the time which I don't mind.But she always brings home clothes and says their her friends or something like that and I found 1 price tag in her room...she has a history of shoplifting but do you think shes at it again ?
Signed,
Questioned (link)
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Look for receipts ask her friends and all and keep an eye out for about how much money she has to spend and how much she comes back with. She could be or she couldnt be. You might also want to see if you can get her to talk to you about it openley and if she comes around to tell you that she is then you might want to say ground her from shopping for a week or something until she gets the point that it is NOT OK!
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im 14 i lost my fist born over the summer and im pregnant again it broke my heart when my daughter died i refuse to get an abortion what can i do (link)
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Im 23 and have 2 kids my first I had at 17. I did not have supporting family. But I know how one thing leads to another. With my first I was in high school trying to decide what to do. I knew I wan't going to have an abortion. I had the two decisions.... adoption or rasing. I chose rasing because if you think about it farther down the line in your life you are going to want to know that baby, see that baby grow. I would not have it any other way! THat is me but if you are in certain situations then you probally should put the baby up for adoption. I would also think that you need to be open with every one around. When I was 17 and my mom found out that I was preganant she said if you keep that baby then you are not living here. So there I was in high school pregnant and no place to go. I ended up living with my aunt in another state. But it all worked out in the end. I am now engaged to my babys daddy. When he found out I was moving out of state he freaked. But then we went to the same college together so we stayed together. Then now we just had another one together and he is 4 months old. But there are alot of things to parenting that you don't relize until you have one of your own. I know it can be an emotional roller coaster but hopefully you have a supporting mom and dad to the fact! IBut if you are refusing to have an abortion the best thing for you to do is have that baby and keep it and watch it grow! It is one of the best things in life to see. If you need to talk please feel free to come and talk to me! If you need help with anything ever talk to me please! I know how hard it is to go threw at a young age, but not as young as you but. Keep in the low stress areas and don't freake over little things either!
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It is common to have bad dreams in early pregnancy? I think I might be pregnant. My first pregnancy, I had to have a DNC at 10 weeks, I had bad dreams. Is that common? If so, how long does it last? I hate to be scared! hahaha
Not a horror movie fan! (link)
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I had them with my baby boy who is now 4 months but I never had them with my baby girl wellshes not really a baby now but, they can last you whole pregnancy. If you think you might be pregnant get a test and see also if your boobs are sore your becomming quite the picky eater and also if your lower stomache is having dull pains. Those are sure signs! Hope this helps!
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i was just wondering if anyone could help me, how do i get my 1month old gil into a routine? how do i start it off? is she to young to get her into one?
any help would be great
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I tryed to put my first born on a scedual but it is a waste of time untill they are about 6 months old! They are on there own schedual at that age. And yes that means getting up at 3 a.m. to go feed. But it gets better. But like I said before there is no reason to try until they are about 6 months old.
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my 15 month old son keeps bittind me and wont stop. ive tried rubbing his gums and give him meds to help with the teeth pain. but everytime i smack him when he bits and say no he just laughs at me and does it again. how can i get him to stop? (link)
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My littel girl used to do that but put him in a time out. Then also bite him back too and don't be affraid they will lern but dont do it too hard to leave marks or anything of that.
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my whole life my parents were hardly ever on my case about anything. Now im 18 and im trying to get out of the house more. And they dont like it they say im never home to do anything. I work retail 35-40 hours a week and the expect me to come home after work and clean the house & do a million loads of laundry. My mom has a job and she doesnt do much at her job except sit around. But she doesnt come home and clean up anything because she believes that since she works she doesnt have to clean.
i have 2 siblings that are old enough to do luandry and they havent touched the washer or dryer since we moved a year ago.
i bought myself a tracfone with my money and my dad told me i dont deserve it.
i started seeing this guy and my mom tells me that im not aloud to touch him, kiss him, be out late with him, go back to his place. BUt before i turned 18 i was aloud out with every guy that i wanted to be out with.
I feel that im old enough to make my own decisions but my parents arent making life any easier for me. Im so sick of this crap.
please give me some great advice. (link)
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I would agree with the person below me about if your not paying rent then you should be helping. But it sounds like they are just having problumes letting there baby go! IF you sit down and look at how much money you have and get a month you might consider getting an apartment with a friend. But as far as the cell phone ignore him because if you are paying for it then it shouldnt matter. If you need to talk feel free to write me!
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