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my whole life my parents were hardly ever on my case about anything. Now im 18 and im trying to get out of the house more. And they dont like it they say im never home to do anything. I work retail 35-40 hours a week and the expect me to come home after work and clean the house & do a million loads of laundry. My mom has a job and she doesnt do much at her job except sit around. But she doesnt come home and clean up anything because she believes that since she works she doesnt have to clean.
i have 2 siblings that are old enough to do luandry and they havent touched the washer or dryer since we moved a year ago.
i bought myself a tracfone with my money and my dad told me i dont deserve it.
i started seeing this guy and my mom tells me that im not aloud to touch him, kiss him, be out late with him, go back to his place. BUt before i turned 18 i was aloud out with every guy that i wanted to be out with.
I feel that im old enough to make my own decisions but my parents arent making life any easier for me. Im so sick of this crap.
please give me some great advice.
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I would agree with the person below me about if your not paying rent then you should be helping. But it sounds like they are just having problumes letting there baby go! IF you sit down and look at how much money you have and get a month you might consider getting an apartment with a friend. But as far as the cell phone ignore him because if you are paying for it then it shouldnt matter. If you need to talk feel free to write me!
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Unless you are paying the rent, I think you should pitch in with laundry, dishes, trash, etc. Your mom pays the bills: electric, water, rent, stuff like that. Therefore she doesn't have to do the chores you and the other kids do. Who cooks dinner? I think whoever cooks dinner should be excused from doing dishes that night. Suggest making a chore chart, seriously. It's kind of an immature thing but sounds like nobody else is pitching in.
The guy you're dating.. you can do whatever you want with him as long as she's not around. Just don't sleep with him.. you don't want to get pregnant, do you? Talk about chores.. you'll have hella chores if you have a baby.
Try to be mature about everything.. talk to your mom about your feelings. Tell her you work a lot and are tired. Sympathize with her, about how you know SHE is tired and SHE works hard.. but SO DO YOU.. Do you see what I'm trying to say? Relate with your mom as much as possible and it'll open more doors. Hope this helps..
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If you're still living under their roof and you're not paying rent, you do have an obligation to help. Unfortunately, you also have to live under their rules.
If you think that you're old enough to make your own decisions, you should be old enough to be living on your own and taking care of yourself.
I know it's probably not what you want to hear, but I've been there and done it. I'm 19 now, living on my own, putting myself through school. I also have full freedom. I can do what I want, when I want, but I have to deal with the consequences.
Long story short... start taking on more responsibility, then you'll deserve more privileges. If you want freedom, you have to stop depending on your parents.
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ok, tell them that your not always going to be around and remind them that being 18 your almost going to be going off on your own. Tell them your just trying to be independant so your ready to leave -- or something of that manor.
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