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From being in the band, I've gotten a lot of irratation, blisters, and cuts on my lips. Now they are large and kind of misshaped. Is there any way I could bring down the swelling so I look normal again??

You need to carry chapstick[s] with you.

Wrap some ice cubes in a towel and apply to your lips.

OR

You could put a towel in warm water for 15 minutes and hold to your lips. The heat will reduce the blood in the area and swelling should go down.

Try using a medicated lip balm like Blistex. I think there's a regular stick and a roll on liquid one. Carmex is good too.

Drink more water and get more of Vitamin C & B.

If the swelling doesn't go down in a few days, it may be a viral infection.

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I don't have time for a shower in the morning, so I take one before bed. And sometimes I'll wake up and my hair is frizzy. Is there a quick way to bring down the frizz????

Wrap your hair in an old t-shirt while it's drying. If you must use a towel, don't rub- just wrap and let the towel soak up the water.

I've tried that Frizz Ease serum and it's okay, just gives off this greasy feel/look (hair and hands)

Sometimes mousse makes your hair frizzy.

Rinse with cold water and try finger combing instead of using a brush.

A good flat iron can bring down frizz.

You might have damaged, dry hair and/or split ends. Try a deep conditioner treatment once a week.

You could mix some conditioner & a little Extra Virgin Olive Oil into a bowl. Heat it up in the microwave for 10 seconds and there's a cheap hot oil treatment. You could do without heating it up and do an overnight treatment during the weekend.

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How much blood comes out when you pop your cherrie? Because I had some blood in my underwear and I didn't get my period and it was like the size of a quarter. Did I pop my cherrie?? Thank you!!

You can "break" your hymen and not bleed. Most girls "break" it by doing some sort of activity. I didn't bleed my first time. The blood could have been anything, like spotting (period!) You won't know until you go to a doctor to get checked out.

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How do you become a fun person to hang out with? None of my friends are very fun to hang out with, so I'm afraid when I hang out with other people that I'm not fun. What makes a person fun to be around?

It just depends on so many things. You can't change who you are. If you are happy and make jokes, make people feel comfortable .. then it's fun. Sometimes you just need to try something different like hanging out somewhere else and other people. Sometimes it's just the group, try mixing friends and hanging out. Things sort of click that way. I had two friends from different schools and they hit it off well when we hung out. I know some certain friends of mine are better suited for a movie night opposed.. to the mall or even dinner. You must be fun if people want to hang out with you. If people don't blow you off for something else, you are fun.

It's not something you should worry too much about. If you weren't interesting enough to hang out with, people would come up with excuses not to.

Just have fun and laugh. If you can be silly around people, it's good!

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i've heard that if you apply the goopy inside from an aloe-vera plant on an acne scar, then it will get rid of it in a matter of days.

i have a few acne scars, and im on christmas break..2 weeks. and i REALLY REALLY want to get rid of them by the time that i go back to school.

so..i cant really get an aloe vera plant..but if i put aloe vera gel..like the stuff you put on sunburns..would that help the acne scars?

and also..do you know any other really good treatments that are really cheap..maybe something that i can do at home? or something that i can just buy at walmart or something?

thanks so much!

You can't get rid of acne scars in a matter of days.. or even 2 weeks.

You have to exfoliate the skin to remove the dead skin. It took me quite some time to fade my scars.

Buy some masks or a exfoliater. I've used wet crushed aspirin and honey as one. It worked fairly well.

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which smell do guys prefer on girls?

strawberry?

Depends on the guy. I didn't use any body spray or perfume for awhile. Some guys commented about how good I smelled because of the shampoos I used. Like strawberry milk, green apple, etc. The scent is just sweet and lingering. Lotion is good too.

I use Bath & Body Works Black Raspberry. It's fresh and it's not too overpowering.

All I know is that guys don't like perfume that is so heavy, it's for old women. It's like trying to disguise bad smell.. a mix of fruit and flowers.

I say anything fresh and light would be good.

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what do you think a "pretty" girl
looks like?

A pretty girl looks confident and happy. That's the main idea for me. She's funny, nice and likes to have fun. I've seen so many pretty girls with different appearances tho.

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my friend wears tampons and i want to start to use them. So one day instead of using a tampon, i used my finger..so i guess i fingered myself..lol idk! But my finger wouldn't go in...so now i'm scared to use a tampon. Please tell me how it would feel!!!!!

Try using your finger more often so you're not tight and tense when trying to get it in. lol I tried using tampons and I've had sex many times, still cannot get the damn thing in. Pain is different for everyone, because it hurt me.

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I'm getting braces and i want to be prepared b/c my friend told me that they hurt the second day that i get them on. And i want to know what i should do if they start to hurt!

Well are you getting a shot? I'll take it if your teeth are sensitive.. but seriously.. they just glue brackets on and push wires through it & hook it in the back [slips right in, you know].. It may feel uncomfortable because there's a wire surrounding your teeth and there's some pressure. They give you wax just in case the wire in the back pokes. After a few months, you'll get used to it and you could just ask them to cut the wires shorter in the back. Go out and buy a smoothie afterwards. Mine hurt because I had over 4 teeth removed.. but if you didn't then they shouldn't really hurt to be honest. You could always have ice cream or medicine.

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i love pilates. i take classes on youtube this 10 minuete ab one. does anyone know another ab pilate video thats free and more then 10 mere minuetes?


thanks

Do you have onDemand? I watch some videos [fitness section]. There's a lot of yoga/pilates..and certain workouts for specific areas of the body like upper body, abs, legs, etc. Some are 10 minutes up to 25 mins!

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my hair was probably down to the middle of/almost under my boobs. and it was getting split ends so i went to this really nice haircutting place and they took so much off. it probably has atleast an inch off when i asked for a half. i have really wavy hair & they layered it too, so it looks even more shorter. i hate it when my hairs short.
how much does hair grow in a month!? :(

Well at least your hair is healthier now. Split ends seem to slow down hair growth. So don't dye, blowdry, straighten or put too much product in your hair. If you must, then go out and buy a vitamin called Biotin. It makes your hair healthier as well as nails and skin. My hair grew a lot without the trouble of split ends.

It depends on the person but it will take like 3-4 months to see any difference in length.

I've found using banana clips or pulling back the first layer of hair.. makes my hair look longer.

But I think it's good that they layered your hair and cut it shorter, especially for wavy hair. It's just a lot healthier and I'm sure your hair looks amazing at the length.

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is earnie from george lopez's accent fake? because when he talks, it sounds like hes faking it.

well I think it's a little too thick. I saw him on another show, X-files.. a slight accent was there but not as noticeable as in George Lopez.

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what does this mean and represent?



Noel®

the "R" sign? how is it important?



It means Registered Trademark.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Registered_trademark

I would say it's important for business but if it's some part of a myspace name.. then they are trying to be cool lol.

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i'm not trying to be rude or offensive at all but i just want to know...are the japanese offended when you call them japs? why?

Today it's thought of as an ethnic slur.
During the World War 2 the term became derogatory and it carried out after. It was useful for propaganda like "Let's Blast the 'Jap' Clean Off the Map." So of course it's offensive. Some people don't mind while most do.


here's a whole list:
http://gyral.blackshell.com/names.html

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I'd like to pick up a craft, but I don't know which one to start with. If you craft, which one did you like better?

I have a little experience with knitting (from when I was a kid), but that probably won't matter much.

I want to pick up a craft as a creative outlet, not necessarily to make practical or wearable things only.

Classes or mentoring isn't an option. I'll be starting out with learning from books only.

With those points in mind, any suggestions? Well-considered responses will be greatly appreciated. =)

I like crocheting because it was easier to learn than knitting. It's easy to make scarves too.

You don't really need books, just search online.

I've used these sites:
http://www.stitchdiva.com/custom.aspx?id=53
http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Cottage/3606/tutorialpage.html
http://www.nexstitch.com/Tutorials.html

Youtube also has some stitch videos.

if you can get the slip knot, the chain and single crochet down.. you can make a scarf or a really long chain :P

here's an online community:
http://www.craftster.org/forum/index.php?board=78.0

there's a lot of different crafts. there's also subforums.. with completed projects, questions, etc. so if you're interested in trying something new.. you'll have people to help you get started.

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Just wondering what i could do to recycle old clothing into new design? Like turning old jeans into a mini skirt, but different ideas with t-shirts.
Thanks

here's a list of tutorials for shirts:
http://ohmystars.net/craft/

http://www.craftster.org/forum/index.php?board=348.0

this forum is great for inspiration, questions and tutorials. some people even post up their own tutorials. people are helpful on there.

and other creation tutorials:
http://www.craftster.org/forum/index.php?topic=125734.0


craft stores always carry great sewing books and patterns. stock up on needles, buttons, ribbons, etc.

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What's a good place to hide condoms in my room where my parents wont find them? It's not like they'll go looking through my stuff, but they clean it a lot and sometimes find stuff they shouldn't.

I've put mine in various boxes/chests that i have. it's always put under papers and things. nobody seems to find mine.If your parents clean your room, don't do the mattress thing and don't hide it in a bag. that's just asking for it be to be found. i put mine in a pencil case at one point.

You can put them in a wallet but i wouldn't keep them in there too long because they may tear.

You can get a box with a lock and/or key. I'm sure you can hide the key because it's tiny. I would made a necklace out of it so you wouldn't lose it.

If you have a desk drawer, hide them in a box under some books. I suppose it's easier to hide the 3 pack ones.

You'll come up with something. You could try putting them in a old board game or a shoebox in the very back of your closet.

You could always try putting a 3 pack under your dresser, if you know your parents don't move it.

You can try to get a stuffed animal with a secret pouch in it lol. XD I got this frog a couple of years ago.. you can barely see the zipper, good hiding place!

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how long do they usually last?

A pink one usually lasts 3 or 4 days.

Red/Purple usually lasts a week.

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ppl tell me im very pretty adn have the look to be a model, i weigh like 120 redhair pale skin dont have many freckles but im only 5'6' im tryin to loose some more weight cauz uve got to be extremely skinny to be a model bu tbefore i go to that extreme, is there even a chance of me makin it, cauz i heard you have to be like at least 5'8' to be a model is that true?

There's many other types of models. For runaway, it's wanted to be 5'8 because the designers make clothes for that height and body type. You still have a chance but you're going to face a lot of rejection. You have to be 5'7 at least, so you can just wear heels or shoes with some platform on it and keep your head up high. Don't appear small and conscious about your height or body. Don't become extremely skinny, just tone your stomach, butt, legs, everything. Some people want some skin or curves on their models, not bony ones. If you're trying to get into an agency.. any sort of extreme dieting will not be liked.

Red hair and pale skin is unique. You just need to practice with expressions and not appearing so "dead" in the eyes in photos. If you really want to do this, you need to start taking photos now. Practice ones. Then go out and get a friend who's experienced with photography or go into a studio and pay for professional like photos. You need to create some sort of portfolio. There's some legit agency sites online where you can send them your photos.

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what's PMS and what does it stand for??

I think the advice below me is wrong. That's describing menstruation.

It's called Premenstrual Syndrome. A girl's horomones change before having her period, notice the "pre-" Usually the symptoms go away once her flow starts but it could also carry through her whole period.


It's when a woman starts to get abdominal bloating, cramping, breast tenderness, stress, anxiety, depression, appetite changes, food cravings [example, chocolate], headaches, insomnia, swelling of the breasts, acne [breakouts]

Basically she may get extremely irritated and upset easily. That's why some men will joke about PMS and how woman's moodswings are their worst nightmare blah blah.

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