about

i'm melanie, call me melly ♥
i'm 18 years old & from long island
i go to University at Buffalo,im majoring in nursing and absolutely love it!

i have the big accent, the big smile and the even bigger heart :)


i love giving advice and helping people out, which is why i`m here. I also love getting feedback, it tells me if I did my job. =)


No question is stupid, ask away! ♥

....I might not always give you the answer you want to hear, but from me youll only hear the truth



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i did the cabbage diet, the original version from Poland, and i lost 7 pounds in 6 days. it's an unhealthy diet since you don't eat carbs, but you should only do it for 1 week at a time. And most people say its impossible to keep the weight off, but I prove them wrong.



advice

can I get preggers if a boy cums in my hair? my friend said I could... but she's only 11.


13/f

I'm not sure if the 11 year old is speaking out of experience or not, but i doubt she really knows much about sex. The ONLY way you can get pregnant is if semen [cum, or sperm]enters your vagina. You can and will not ever get pregnant if cum goes onto your hair. And i advise you not to ask an 11 year old for advice about sex. :] lol
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im not sure what this goes under.



i was wondering if anyone knows

where to get quotes or have any cute quotes



something to deal with love, growing up, something like that/.

p.s. girl 14



i rate

http://www.poems-and-quotes.com/

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=36627661

if you need more hit my inbox. but these sites are pretty good.
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why do people like horror movies, dont get me wrong, i love them, but why do we? because thewy scare us, and fear isnt a good thing right? also, how come movies have changed throught the years, like "the evil dead" from the 60's is so much scarier, and bloody than something from the 80's, or today. thanks.

As an alltime scary movie fan, i think it`s the thrill that makes them so loveable. like you don`t know whats coming next, and you hold your breath. Kind of like a natural high.
""the evil dead" from the 60's is so much scarier" -- this is your own opinion.
but i also think that they were scarier back then because thats when they were really new, and people didn`t know what to expect.
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A LOT of people at my school talk about how they always steal from hollister & abercrombie, all the time. they say they never get caught, i really don't think that it's a good idea, but i'm just wondering what are the chances of getting caught stealing at abercrombie or hollister, if you bring the clothes into the dressing room and rip off the tags and stuff them in your purse or whatever. thank you.

A good show for you to watch is Juvies, on MTV. It will definetly change your mind about stealing.

http://www.mtv.com/ontv/dyn/juvies/series.jhtml

DON`T do it. its not worth the risk
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My mom told me that the word 'shmuck' is bad. Could anyone tell me what it means? I looked it up.. and all it had was 'slang.'

Thank you!

shmuck means jewlery in german, but apparently it also means penis in hebrew.
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14/f
my best friend is having a birthday party, she is turning 15. we are looking for party games to play (nothing cheesy) at her party. i would appreciate it if anyone has some ideas. if its a game that not many people know please explain it for us! we are planning on playing twister so far. please no games like spin the bottle or 7 minutes in heaven. and there are going to be only girls at this party.

thank you sooo much!

1. Consequences (sp) is fun it takes a while and you have to be in the right mood but you can get some really funny answers.
Basically you have a piece of paper each and you write down one line of the storty and the fold it over( so you can see the line) and pass it to the next person.
1) a male name (famous or school teachers are good)
2) female name (ditto)
3) where they met
4) what he said to her
5)what she said to him
6)what the did next (made out went scuba diving etc)
7) the consequence( the got married and had cats or brought as teapot and went to live on mars)

the best one are really surreal and very random.
and if you're completely crazy, like me and my mates, the line should be surreal too, like where they met- a marsh mallow.
so yea its kinda fun and quite a giggle.




2.Make a circle of chairs, one for each person minus one. Then pick a person to be "it" they stand in the middle. Have each person sit on a chair. Then the person in the middle says something (ex. you have a ponytail) and whoever that statement applies to moves one seat to the left- even if someone is sitting in it. I think my party record is about 16 people on one chair, it can get really rediculous but its soo much fun.




3.Well there is always 10 fingers: All gather around, and one person starts saying a statement that they have never done before( Ex. never been arrested). And all the people that have, have to put a finger up. You go around asking the questions, and the person that gets to 10 first is out. Good game to learn about your friend! err, this one is okay.


4.There's another game like the consequence one... you still have to write only one line/answer and then fold it over and pass it to the next person when everyone gets done... the difference is that

Line 1: Who... name any random person girl or boy famous or not

Line 2: What... write down what the person did, can be anything (ex. jumped off the roof, etc.)

Line 3: When... write when that person did that thing above (ex. midnight, yesterday) or be creative

Line 4: Where... write where that person did that thing.. (under the bed, on top of the neighbors truck)

Line 5: Why... write why that person did that thing that they did..( cuz the devil told hiim so) anything...




hope i helped
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I am thirteen and just started giving advice here. Well now I have a question. I am addicted to cofee. I really like it and drink it with my Memaw. Is it bad for me to have it?

It is bad for young teenagers to drink coffee, it stunts your growth and contains a drug called caffeine that you're probably familiar with.

"Is coffee bad for you?
Question: When I told my parents and one of my good friends I had drank coffee that morning, they got on my case about drinking it. I never thought it had been a bad thing besides staining my teeth. I drinking the occasional frappachino since as long as I can remember. My drinking is not habitual at all. I was wondering, is coffee really that bad, that they feel they need to get on my case about it? I feel my parents are being a bit hypocritical since they drink coffee regularily as well.

Answer: Whether or not coffee (caffeine) is bad for you depends on whether how it affects you and whether you have other problems that make it inadvisable to consume it. Caffeine is known to cause the "jitters" (shaking) if you have enough of it. Some people are sensitive enough to it that even an early morning cup of coffee can make them jittery in the afternoon and keep them wide awake when they go to bed. Of course, caffeine has been used by college students forever to keep them alert when they need to study on little sleep. That's not a health problem as long as it's not done night after night for an indefinite period of time. Loss of sleep can reduce your immune response and make you susceptible to infection. People with stomach or esophagus problems such as ulcers or inflammation should probably avoid coffee -- even the decaffeinated variety can exacerbate the GI tract because of the acid it contains. Caffeine can make your heart race, but if it's within normal limits (not exceeding 100 beats per minute unless you're exercising), then that's not a problem. Caffeine does not seem to increase blood pressure except in people who already have high blood pressure. Caffeine should probably not be used except in small amounts, when a woman is pregnant. Follow the doctor's advice in such cases. If caffeine doesn't cause or exacerbate any of the problems I've discussed, then there really isn't much of a case for being concerned about using it. Researchers have long tried to pin something on caffeine -- high blood pressure and other signs of heart disease and a variety of cancers. Those endeavors have not been successful. So if you like your daily frappacino, then go for it.

— November 19, 2003"

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13/f

ok well my friends and i have like a lot of impromptu parties just like 6-10 people at different people's houses if we're bored one day.
well theres always one dry spot where we just dont know what to do.
we've gotten tired of seven minutes in heaven, spin the bottle, and truth or dare

what are some other good party games (kissing and also non-kissing ones)?

any and all help appreciated. thanks!

these are some super fun PG-13 games

1.theres three jars, one labled "person", (ex: james, janet, katie, ricky)
one labeled "body part" (legs, back, chest, lips, arm)

and one labeled "action" (lick, tickle, suck, touch, massage)

in a group of 4 people or more, each person has to choose one paper from each jar without looking.
Then everybody opens up the papers and does that "action" to this "body part" on this "person".




2.Consequences (sp) is fun it takes a while and you have to be in the right mood but you can get some really funny answers.
Basically you have a piece of paper each and you write down one line of the storty and the fold it over( so you can see the line) and pass it to the next person.
1) a male name (famous or school teachers are good)
2) female name (ditto)
3) where they met
4) what he said to her
5)what she said to him
6)what the did next (made out went scuba diving etc)
7) the consequence( the got married and had cats or brought as teapot and went to live on mars)

the best one are really surreal and very random.
and if you're completely crazy, like me and my mates, the line should be surreal too, like where they met- a marsh mallow.
so yea its kinda fun and quite a giggle.




3.Make a circle of chairs, one for each person minus one. Then pick a person to be "it" they stand in the middle. Have each person sit on a chair. Then the person in the middle says something (ex. you have a ponytail) and whoever that statement applies to moves one seat to the left- even if someone is sitting in it. I think my party record is about 16 people on one chair, it can get really rediculous but its soo much fun.




4.Well there is always 10 fingers: All gather around, and one person starts saying a statement that they have never done before( Ex. never been arrested). And all the people that have, have to put a finger up. You go around asking the questions, and the person that gets to 10 first is out. Good game to learn about your friend! err, this one is okay.




5.Some car game is *Sex*: If you are with a co-ed group of people in the car, the person who see's a car with either brake light, fountlight, taillight out you scream SEX and hit the top of the car. The person who did it last has to remove a piece of clothing. You can also play it if theres just one gender in the car, and insted of removing clothing, you have to tell a secret.
you can also do this with things in the room that they see like underwear, or something pink.it's really fun.




6.this one is the same as first just different categories:
5 Boys
5 Girls
5 Places
5 Things you can do to a lemon
5 Female body parts
&&
5 Favorite sayings.

I do that one all the time and its really fun.




7.There's another game like the consequence one... you still have to write only one line/answer and then fold it over and pass it to the next person when everyone gets done... the difference is that

Line 1: Who... name any random person girl or boy famous or not

Line 2: What... write down what the person did, can be anything (ex. jumped off the roof, etc.)

Line 3: When... write when that person did that thing above (ex. midnight, yesterday) or be creative

Line 4: Where... write where that person did that thing.. (under the bed, on top of the neighbors truck)

Line 5: Why... write why that person did that thing that they did..( cuz the devil told hiim so) anything...


as for songs, i'd say alot of upbeat dance to songs. i dont really know what type of music you listen to, but maybe Lose Control by miss elliot, smack that by akon and slimshady, cameltoe by i dont remember, maybe chillin at the holidae inn, and maybe cold hard bitch by jets and are you gonna be my girl by jets? hmmmmmm, theres alot of good dance songs by ying yang twins, these are really good songs you can grind too, you know, if its a couples sleep over. veryyyy hot.


hope i helped
xo

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hey guys..13/f..this is for anyone who has read the book "The Outsiders". For my class i have to do a dramtic reading of one of the scenes in the book. My partner and I have decided to act out the part where Cherry talks to Ponyboy before the rumble begins. We have to pick props and proper background music to put in the background. Does anyone have any ideas about any props/music i should add in my scene?
Any advice will be greatly appreciated!
Thanks

I read this book last year, but i'll try my best. Cherry has red hair, Ponyboy has black, greasy hair, kind of like John Stamos'. Ponyboy wore white tee's, a black leather jacket, and motorcycle boots. He also had his t-shirt tucked in. Those could be some props. I would think Cherry would wear a skirt and have her hair down but one side pulled back with a clip.
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Last Thursday (Dec 7) I ordered a present from a website with the regular 7-13 day delievery.

On Monday (Dec 11) I recieved an email from them saying that gift was out of stock and they canceled the whole order.

Later that same day, I got another email saying they confused the item with another one; the item I had ordered wasn't really out of stock, they just got confused and thought it was. In the email, it said I'd have to completely re-order the present if I still wanted it (in which I do).

Whenever I went to the site to order it, I get a message saying "We cannot calculate shipping costs on site. Fax order to us". I sent them an email telling them "I am highly unsatisfied with your service. I was expecting to get this by Christmas without getting the express shipping. Now whenever I try to order the present, it says that the shipping cannot be calculated. What an inconvience."

My question is, would it be right for me to ask them to pay for my express shipping since it is their screw up?

Sorry if this is long/confusing. Don't hesitate to tell me to clarify. Thanks. :]

Personally, I feel it appropiate for you to ask them. If they want to continue getting customers, they should pay it. I also applaud you on your matureness of the situation; in the email you sent to them and on here. If they reject your question, then tell them why you believe you deserve it unless you started with that first. If they do pay it, don't forget to send a thank-you.
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19/F

I have to do my Christmas shopping soon, but I was wondering something.

I haven't got my boyfriend's present yet, and I have no idea what he got me, so I can't use that as an indicator.

How much should I be spending on him? We've been together for 3 months, but we were friends for a year before that, and we're really close.

Keep in mind that I AM a university student, so I can't spend an exorbitant amount.

Thank you!

you should set up a price range now before he gets the gift, if he already got it, ask him to give you the price range so you could get him something close to the same price as what he got you so it will be fair.

heres a nice site with gift ideas:
http://www.askmen.com/toys/mrtech_100/126_tech_gadgets.html
( the gifts are rated by men and arent too much money)

speaking of christmas shopping, I gotta get my ass to the mall.
hope i helped
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Do any of you care if a friend, or a mother, or a father, or a sister, or a brother, etc disapproves of you asking for advice on an online advice website or does not believe in asking for advice on this type of website.

personally, i don't really care. this site is nothing but helpful and friendly.
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Okay, so about how much should you spend on your friend's 16thbirthday? She's a girl and I've known her since the beginning of this year. we're good friends but not the closest ones. So about how much should I spend on her birthday gift? I'm 14/f by the way. thanks a bunch!

since you just met her, you should probably get her something from $50-80 bucks. you should get her some expensive nice perfume, maybe get one of her friends to ask her what she wants for her 16th birthday and then that girl will tell you. or you could tell her to ask the girl whats her favorite perfume brand. if what she wants is impossible to get or way too expensive, you should get something for her similar or somewhere in the price range.
http://www.mysimon.com/Fragrance/9000-10952_8-0.html?sdcq=dnatrs-price_range_40_60/dfllTrail-$40%20-%20$60

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I want to get my girlfriend a ring. We haven't been dating much, so nothing super big. Just a pretty under $10 ring, preferably with some heart on it.

(I need some help finding a ring! Any websites?)

I also want to buy her a rose and put the ring in it, is that too much for a christmas present ?

i don't know where you're from, but a good place to get a nice ring under $10 would be in Tjmaxx, marshalls, or those stalls at the mall. the mall is probably the best place, you should get it at one of those booths that sell jewlery. i would love if my boyfriend got me a rose with a ring inside for christmas, i would be so happy. you should get it for her.
http://www.silverflake.com/jewelrygiftsforunder$10.html

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ok i've been working at my job for 2 months.

all the girls (four of them) and my boss are extremely nice.

we are going to go out to dinner around christmas time, and we're calling it a xmas party.

so am i supposed to get them something? i dont know them that well because i'm new and we see each other around two times a month.

so if i am supposed to get them something, what would be appropriate?



note: i dont know if theyre giving gifts



any ideas would be appreciated. oh ya dont say gift cards

you should ask your boss if everyones trading gifts, or speak with your coworkers and ask them if they're doing a gift swap, and ask them whats the most and least supposed to be spent on the gift, or the price range. this way you wont be left out, and you know whats going on.
if they are having a christmas swap, then i would suggest you get them something in the price range at bath and body works, they have nice anti-bacterial lotions and pre made gift sets that are sort of expensive, but the hand lotions and candles are about $10-15, so it's ok.
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I bought my first digital camera last January (Polaroid iZone 300 with 3.2 megapixels). In my opinion, it's a horrible camera. The pictures don't come out very clear and the battery dies extremely fast no matter how long I charge it for. Plus, it can record videos, but it doesn't record sound. What good is that?

So basically what I'm trying to say is that I'm not very good at picking out a digital camera and I need someone's help. I'm getting one for xmas and I get to pick it out.

My "requirements": no more than $250, able to record videos with sound.

i'm not sure about any good cameras, but i'll lend you some advice about cameras. i have a cannon and its 3.2 megapixels, pictures are clear, videos are good, except theres no sound either. i didnt find this out until 3 months after i got my camera. yes, cannons are good, but you need to make sure it has sound. ask the people in the store about the sound, they dont always tell you unless you ask.
thanks in advance
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sooo me and my best friend are going camping, we need some cool games to play. we're camping in her backyard so it's nothin far away lol. it's kind of a couples party thing. so there will be 4 ppl. any idea what games we should play? and i don't mean little kid games. there's gonna be drinking too. and also i need songs for a cd to listen too, we're gonna make it so that it's mixed.

these are some super fun PG-13 games

1.theres three jars, one labled "person", (ex: james, janet, katie, ricky)
one labeled "body part" (legs, back, chest, lips, arm)

and one labeled "action" (lick, tickle, suck, touch, massage)

in a group of 4 people or more, each person has to choose one paper from each jar without looking.
Then everybody opens up the papers and does that "action" to this "body part" on this "person".




2.Consequences (sp) is fun it takes a while and you have to be in the right mood but you can get some really funny answers.
Basically you have a piece of paper each and you write down one line of the storty and the fold it over( so you can see the line) and pass it to the next person.
1) a male name (famous or school teachers are good)
2) female name (ditto)
3) where they met
4) what he said to her
5)what she said to him
6)what the did next (made out went scuba diving etc)
7) the consequence( the got married and had cats or brought as teapot and went to live on mars)

the best one are really surreal and very random.
and if you're completely crazy, like me and my mates, the line should be surreal too, like where they met- a marsh mallow.
so yea its kinda fun and quite a giggle.




3.Make a circle of chairs, one for each person minus one. Then pick a person to be "it" they stand in the middle. Have each person sit on a chair. Then the person in the middle says something (ex. you have a ponytail) and whoever that statement applies to moves one seat to the left- even if someone is sitting in it. I think my party record is about 16 people on one chair, it can get really rediculous but its soo much fun.




4.Well there is always 10 fingers: All gather around, and one person starts saying a statement that they have never done before( Ex. never been arrested). And all the people that have, have to put a finger up. You go around asking the questions, and the person that gets to 10 first is out. Good game to learn about your friend! err, this one is okay.




5.Some car game is *Sex*: If you are with a co-ed group of people in the car, the person who see's a car with either brake light, fountlight, taillight out you scream SEX and hit the top of the car. The person who did it last has to remove a piece of clothing. You can also play it if theres just one gender in the car, and insted of removing clothing, you have to tell a secret.
you can also do this with things in the room that they see like underwear, or something pink.it's really fun.




6.this one is the same as first just different categories:
5 Boys
5 Girls
5 Places
5 Things you can do to a lemon
5 Female body parts
&&
5 Favorite sayings.

I do that one all the time and its really fun.




7.There's another game like the consequence one... you still have to write only one line/answer and then fold it over and pass it to the next person when everyone gets done... the difference is that

Line 1: Who... name any random person girl or boy famous or not

Line 2: What... write down what the person did, can be anything (ex. jumped off the roof, etc.)

Line 3: When... write when that person did that thing above (ex. midnight, yesterday) or be creative

Line 4: Where... write where that person did that thing.. (under the bed, on top of the neighbors truck)

Line 5: Why... write why that person did that thing that they did..( cuz the devil told hiim so) anything...


as for songs, i'd say alot of upbeat dance to songs. i dont really know what type of music you listen to, but maybe Lose Control by miss elliot, smack that by akon and slimshady, cameltoe by i dont remember, maybe chillin at the holiday inn, and maybe cold hard bitch by jets and are you gonna be my girl by jets? hmmmmmm, theres alot of good dance songs by ying yang twins, these are really good songs you can grind too, you know, if its a couples sleep over. veryyyy hot.


hope i helped
xo

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On Friday, my friend had a successful party with DDR (Dance Dance Revolution) and a moonbounce. I had so much fun (Well, that was because of the boys there, but that isn't my point...). I want to have an equally successful party.

What are things that you (or your kids) have done for their fifteenth birthday parties? Of course, there will be music, and stuff, but things that you rented//had at your party.

Keep in mind that the party will most likely be coed, with more girls than boys, but still coed. I'd like to invite about 20 people, but I can always go smaller. I plan on having it at my house [Have experience? Please share!]

I'm thinking karaoke, but I need more.

hmmm, well, if i was going to a party, i would want a dance floor with lights off and super loud music, good finger food, some fun games to play...here are a couple good games that are soooo fun!




1.theres three jars, one labled "person", (ex: james, janet, katie, ricky)
one labeled "body part" (legs, back, chest, lips, arm)

and one labeled "action" (lick, tickle, suck, touch, massage)

in a group of 4 people or more, each person has to choose one paper from each jar without looking.
Then everybody opens up the papers and does that "action" to this "body part" on this "person".




2.Consequences (sp) is fun it takes a while and you have to be in the right mood but you can get some really funny answers.
Basically you have a piece of paper each and you write down one line of the storty and the fold it over( so you can see the line) and pass it to the next person.
1) a male name (famous or school teachers are good)
2) female name (ditto)
3) where they met
4) what he said to her
5)what she said to him
6)what the did next (made out went scuba diving etc)
7) the consequence( the got married and had cats or brought as teapot and went to live on mars)

the best one are really surreal and very random.
and if you're completely crazy, like me and my mates, the line should be surreal too, like where they met- a marsh mallow.
so yea its kinda fun and quite a giggle.




3.Make a circle of chairs, one for each person minus one. Then pick a person to be "it" they stand in the middle. Have each person sit on a chair. Then the person in the middle says something (ex. you have a ponytail) and whoever that statement applies to moves one seat to the left- even if someone is sitting in it. I think my party record is about 16 people on one chair, it can get really rediculous but its soo much fun.




4.Well there is always 10 fingers: All gather around, and one person starts saying a statement that they have never done before( Ex. never been arrested). And all the people that have, have to put a finger up. You go around asking the questions, and the person that gets to 10 first is out. Good game to learn about your friend! err, this one is okay.




5.Some car game is *Sex*: If you are with a co-ed group of people in the car, the person who see's a car with either brake light, fountlight, taillight out you scream SEX and hit the top of the car. The person who did it last has to remove a piece of clothing. You can also play it if theres just one gender in the car, and insted of removing clothing, you have to tell a secret.
you can also do this with things in the room that they see like underwear, or something pink.it's really fun.




6.this one is the same as first just different categories:
5 Boys
5 Girls
5 Places
5 Things you can do to a lemon
5 Female body parts
&&
5 Favorite sayings.

I do that one all the time and its really fun.




7.There's another game like the consequence one... you still have to write only one line/answer and then fold it over and pass it to the next person when everyone gets done... the difference is that

Line 1: Who... name any random person girl or boy famous or not

Line 2: What... write down what the person did, can be anything (ex. jumped off the roof, etc.)

Line 3: When... write when that person did that thing above (ex. midnight, yesterday) or be creative

Line 4: Where... write where that person did that thing.. (under the bed, on top of the neighbors truck)

Line 5: Why... write why that person did that thing that they did..( cuz the devil told hiim so) anything...


i know i would love to play these games.

i know you said you wanted to order/rent things, but spend money when you can play really fun games for free? believe me, these games are hilarious and are oodles of fun! i would love to play them at a party...
it will aslo save your parents some trouble!
hope i helped
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16/f

I want to do a scavenger hunt as a way to give my boyfriend his Christmas gift but I don't know what to do..

I need some ideas on how to do it. I'm clueless.

if you guys are sexually active and are really opened about sex, you could give him a scaveneger hunt.(inside when nobodys home) when he walks in, there should be a picture of you on the floor with all your clothes on, and as he walks around and follows the picture, each picture he see's is a picture of you with one less piece of clothing on. finally, he'll come into the room and you'll be there completely clotheless. good, eh?
hope i helped
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what hair straightener do you recomened?? i am looking for a straightener that will keep my hair straight for a long time with no frizzinnes. my friend has one its called wet to straight or wet to dry. somthing like that. if you could clear that up for me that would be great =)

the best straightner out there is called chi or key or something like that, it's pornounced "key" and is about $100, so lets skip that.
the straightner i use is remington wet2straight, it's really good, and you can set it on a scale of heating from 1 to 30. it beeps when the straightner is finished heating up to the number of your choice. it's only about $30 too.
and to help keep your hair from being damaged by straighteing and blowdrying it, i suggest you use v05 mircale! mist, heat defense and conditioning spray. (it says all that on the bottle) not only does it keep your hair shiny, but it protects your hair from being fried.
hope i helped!!
=)

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