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I'm not perfect. But the heartbeats add up. As well as the life challenges. And I'm only 25. So I'm here. To help those I can. Try and make a difference in someones life.to better somes life by being someone that's there when they have no one.
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I ship things on Ebay using Priority Mail Flat Rate envelopes and I thought I could just print out a shipping label and use that to mail the letter. But I can't figure out how. When I go to print on I can't find London or the UK on the list so that leads me to believe I can't use this envelope. So I would need to use a normal everyday envelope, right? Do I need any special stamps to ship this to London?
I don't mail ever and my dad has never mailed anything outside of the USA so we're both confused. (link)
https://www.usps.com/send/send-mail.htm


21/f I have ADHD and have been off and on my meds. Well anyways I've had trouble keeping a job for as long as I remember. My first job i walked out on because I was really upset. Well I changed my attitude, and I learned to be better. And after that it was mostly because I was slow and employers would get upset with me, or It takes forever for me to learn something. Then they tell me it's not working out. I mean this has been going on for the last years and I just want to be able to keep a job. I am back on my medication, and I am going to work at a salon as a receptionist, and I am very scared. I start training tomorrow, and the manager said it's a lot of responsibility. I have to answer calls, book appointments, I am pretty much the mother of the salon, and I'd also have to fold towels, and I'll be knowing how much the hairstylists make. There will be another receptionist there who will be training me. And she said by Thursday I should be getting the hang of it. I am going to work on Tuesday, and then Thursdays from like 3-7, and half Saturdays from 8-1 pm. I usually take a notebook with me to write stuff down so i don't forget things, but I am still scared, what should I do? (link)
Every new job is scary, doesn't matter what it is. Yes you may have a learning disability. but that does not mean you are unable to work. it is normal that it takes time to learn things. it's a process of learning. I would say just take a deep breath. Relax. because you have got this! There may be alot of responsibility. but it takes time to learn everything. look at teachers and doctors. they didn't just jump right in, they learned how to do their jobs the important information before they got good at their jobs. you will do great hon, just take a deep breath, and remember you got this.


Hey guys,
I haven't asked for advice on here in a while. I guess I thought I was somewhat invincible,I thought I could handle all my problems on my own but now I realize I can't.
I need advice. I'm going through a lot right now.
Ok where to begin.. I turned 18 recently and with that came a whole new set of responsibilities ones I was looking forward to. College, living on my own, opening my own bank account working part time learning to drive. Basically being independent.
But something awful happened the night of my birthday. I had a party with family and friends in my house. Then afterwards we headed out clubbing. My friends drink got spiked and she was voilently sick. I lost my camera that my boyfriend had bought me too and I was just a mess. Im very responsible when I head out so when all this happened I kept beating myself up over how irresponsible I was. Usually Im the one who doesn't let her hair down. Seeing as it was my 18th birthday I felt I deserved to have a good time?but anyway Afterwards I had like a mini melt down. I was completely tripping and hallucinating.I was totally irrational.My family were so worried they brought me to the doctors and it turned out my drink was spiked too. The doctors said I have a gene that reacts badly to drugs. So even if I wanted to which i would NEVER I can't do drugs.
I'm still trying to come to terms with what happened. Me and my friend are really lucky we are here To tell the story. Its just so hard because on top of that I received my exam results,which were fantastic because I worked so hard. But im finding it so hard to be happy about anything. I decided to defer college until next year but I feel so numb.
I feel angry but I have no face to direct my anger towards. This should have been the most exciting time of my life and instead I feel a shadow of myself.
Im happy about my decision to stay home and recover because what happened knocked my confidence massively.
I feel im not good at anything. Im reflecting too much on things also.
I feel like I deserve everything thats happened to me,as some sort of punishment for the mistakes I made in the past. How ridiculous is that?!
I live in Ireland and the exam system is different from the u.s you are awarded points for each grade. The points are out of 600. I got 495. 60 above what I needed for my first college choice. However I didn't get my first choice because I missed out with a requirement in english. The course required a B and I got a C. This devastated me even more on top of everything else. English was always my best subject. I got an A in my trial exams. Anyway you can appeal results over here so I have sent my exam back to be rechecked (our school was very unhappy overall with the way english was graded)
So that was another blow to my confidence even though I did so well in all my other subjects. Better than I expected. I have soo much coming up this year that I should be looking forward to but I feel so down. I'm usually a very bubbly outgoing person. I don't want to end up becoming a reserved shy and reclusive person. How do I get through all this?
How do I stop beating myself up for my mistakes?
I feel like a bad person. I feel this is karma for all the silly things I did when I was younger?
Is it normal to feel this way?
Sorry this is long any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated!


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First off I have been where you are. for the last year i felt that it was my mistakes that screwed me over and that I deserved everything that is coming to me,. even now i sometimes feel that way but you have to understand my dear that was not your fault at all!

The fact that you are sooo in control of everthing, and anything in your life gives you a feel of balance,. control and sanity.
Because that one little pill or liquid what ever it may have been knocked everything you knew out and put in hallucinations,.

You just need to take a few deep breaths,. relax and look yourself in the mirror and think. This is not at all my fault. Do that 3 times everysingle day. And you will start realizing it.

Spiked drinks can happene to anyone. Maybe try talking to someone about it like a theropist. i tried a few different theropists before i actually found peace.

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


I'm M/16. I have heard the term, "Quantum creator," multiple times. I have searched the internet for information. Suprisingly, there is very little information about what a quantum creator is, what they do, and how to become one. I find the term "Quantum Creator" to be so cool. If you can tell me about it, that'd be great. (link)
http://www.quantum-creators.com/


Can anybody list me some anime shows like Elfen Lied that are dubbed in English?
This includes any similer story lines, romance, nudity, and any possible sex.
Thank you! (link)
Check out :

dubhappy.com

They have tons and tons of Anime shows and movies ont here to choose from try Fullmetal Alchemist and Fruits Basket. Two of my favourites.

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


If my move in day is today can I just get my key today and not actually move in until tomorrow? It seems like it will be crazy to try to move in when everyone is moving in today. (link)
Move in day means you can start moving in that day and afterwards,. Not just that day.


Will i get cut if i shave my u know where
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If this is a girl or guy,. There is a very large possibility,. And it hurts but! it does heal just like any other cuts. You just have to be very careful which way you slide the razor,. don't slide it diagonal just up and away from the skin and up or down and away from the skin,. Don't drag it along the skin going to move to the next strip of shaving.

Hope this helps
~Jasmine


I had about 200 dollars in cash (all 20's) in my wallet. I was going to go to the bank to put it all in my savings account but i was extremely busy and waited a few days to do it. I know I should have taken that money out of my wallet and put it somewhere safe. One time I actually did. I was going out with friends and I remember taking it out of my wallet and put it in my drawer next to my bed. Then I think I remember putting it back in my wallet because I was sure I was going to the bank the next day. But I guess I didn't because I think the money was in the wallet for a few more days.. so today i decide to count my money and see how much I had. Well there was only 23 dollars in there... i got really worried and searched EVERYWHERE!!! I looked in all the pockets in my wallet, my school backpack, my purse, all of my pants pockets, my drawers in my desk, even in between the cushions in the couch. I literally looked everywhere in my room and all the other rooms it could be in. I have no idea where it went... :'(

This makes me really sad because this is MY money. My money that I actually worked for... And at my age, I never really get to say its my money. most of the time its my parents money that they give me. but this is money that I earned hard, and now i'm so upset its gone :( I know I should have taken better care of it.. I dont need the lecture. I understand money (especially cash) is a big responsibility and I am old and mature enough to deal with it. I just wasn't thinking. So please don't give me that speech about being more responsible. I get it. I learned my lesson. I just really need some advice on what to do.

I can't ask my dad because he will be furious if he finds out I lost that money. I was thinking I could sell some of my things on ebay or craigslist so i can kind of get it all back? I have some useless things like a lava lamp, a lot of video games and movies I dont use anymore. Do you think thats a good idea? I was also thinking maybe I could bake some cookies and go door to door selling them for like a dollar each? Kind of like a lemonade stand but for cookies.

Oh and I kind of have a feeling that some kids in my 4th hour class took it because my 4th hour class isn't exactly the "good crowd". A lot of kids in that class smoke weed, drink, party, they cheat on tests, steal things all the time. So maybe they could have gone in my bag and stole it? But then why would they leave 23 dollars???

Or maybe it fell out of my wallet when I went to the store a few days ago? I was kind of in a rush, but I honestly don't remember anything falling out of my wallet. If it did, i probably would have noticed it because i was looking right at my wallet when i pull out or put away cash. Do you think maybe I should go back to the stores I was at and see if they found it?? But how would they know its mine and that i'm not just trying to steal someone elses?

I'm just in a really bad mood :( I have such bad luck all the time.. Its not fair that I work so hard for this and then it all goes away :( I'm a good girl and a good person. Honestly. I believe in karma but I didn't do anything wrong to deserve this.. I have such bad luck :( ugh. Can anyone help me?? Thank you. (link)
First off,. Did you maybe spend more than you thought you did? If not then maybe you might have misplaced it. OR infact in might have been stolen,. you can't be 100% sure.

Also. Just because this group of people is known as the bad crowd and has been known to steal does not automatically make them a top suspect. Sure they could have done it. But you can't blame or accuse them without hard physical proof.

I do agree baking cookies or selling a few unwanted items is a good idea Although I would NOT USE CRAIGSLIST! It might be an okay website,. But it does not seem very trust worth. and i have heard alot of bad stuff about it.

I would suggest you use Kijiji. But depending on how old you are,. i would Recommend being with some friends or someone you trust when meeting up for the initial exchange of items and money

Hope this helps:)
*Jasmine~


Can you get in trouble if you are at a party or someones house and they are doing like heroine or something, can you get in trouble for just being there?

Just purely curious :)

well actually what if people are just doin pot and I'm there can I get in trouble if the cops come? (link)
Just because your not doing the drugs or smoking the stuff,. Does not make you innocent,. You would be charged with Drugs by association,. Or by being a witnessing partner or the acts.

So i would be very careful who i am with and what they are doing.
I'm sure your curious because you might be in that situation at some point but just be warned. If they go to jail,. You might go to jail as well. or be charged for the offense.

Hope this helps:)
*Jasmine~


So I activated facebook mobile. I have t mobile and unlimited texting and I wanted to make sure it won't cost me.
Thanks! (link)
If it's sending you text messages, then it won't cost you at all,. if you have unlimited texting.

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


There's a couple of authors that I'm dying to meet, even if it's just a glimpse and a book signing, but I have nooo idea where to start looking for them and where they might be having their book signings, so is there any special sites that give this kind of information?
The authors I'm interested are Darren Shan, Rick Riordan, and Heather Brewer, by the way :) (link)
Well start looking on the internet for book signings,. and public veiwings,. you might have to do some traveling to see them,. but i'm sure if you google the authors and booksignings or tours you might find a location.
Goodluck

Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*


If you could recommend any book in the world to someone, fiction or non-fiction, what would it be and why? I don't mean just a girly piece of chick lit that had an exciting plot line but a book which inspired you, made you think, changed your outlook etc.

Thanks. (link)
Feedom Writers!

Its about troubled kids and a teacher making them write in a journal everyday. Very inspireing Movie and book!


For my boyfriend's and mine anniversary, I want to get him something special. I was thinking an autograph from his favorite celebrity? But I have no clue how to contact a celebrity.. I've tried fan pages but they don't really provide much. How should I go about this? post-mail? email?

what if I wanted them to sign something specific like a t-shirt, would i have to supply the t-shirt or would the celebrity get one? (link)
If your thinking of getting a item signed by a celeb that specifically says to his name love celeb.. well your going to be rank lucky! Celebraties are very busy people and will not sign items for just anyone! The best thing to do would be to go onto ebay and see if you can buy an item with their signature on something.

Hope this helps and goodluck!
~Jasmine*


18/f

I'm not really lovin life right now. Lots of stress, problems and drama. I don't have any trust-worthy and loyal friends.. they all put me down and make me feel worse about myself. I talked to my parents about this and they said to ignore them and stop being "friends" with them. I took their advice and didn't bother to talk to them ever again. But now I feel like such a loner. I try to make friends but they never really stick. We become friends for a few months and then things die down. I'm pretty busy outside of school so I don't have much time to party or hang out. On top of "friends" putting me down, my parents put me down sometimes too. They make me feel like shit sometimes. They point out my imperfections and make me feel worse about some things. but other times they make me feel ok. I just have such a low self-esteem.. :( I have a boyfriend who is literally MY LIFE. he's my best friend. he makes me feel so amazing. the majority of my happiness is just from him because he makes me so happy :) however.. there have been times when we were close to breaking up. those times were the worst because I literally felt like I had nothing.

I've tried to boost my self esteem by buying/spoiling myself with pleasures like shopping and eating junk food. I've tried yoga, meditating, doing new things like starting ceramics, starting to sew and make fashion, etc. but nothing really makes me feel great about myself. I just need some advice please. How do I make myself happy? make my self esteem better? My boyfriend always gives me compliments. he says i'm beautiful and amazing. most of the time i just say thank you, but i never truly believe it. Part of me believes that I'm not special at all. whenever i look at myself in the mirror, i never think i'm beautiful. i never think i'm an amazing person. I don't look at myself like i'm magnificent. I'm just "blah".

I know this is a problem. I'm a senior in high school about to graduate this spring. I'm just so sick of feeling "blah" all the time. I want to be happier. I want to feel good about myself. I want to have confidence in myself and know i'm amazing. but i don't get that feeling right now. please help! thank you so much :) (link)
wow,. Deja Vew. or how every you spell it.
this is exactly word for word how i felt a few years ago when i was a senior. I wish i had the perfect words but all i can say is i've been there and it gets so much better hun,.
as to the self esteem issue you just have to think you are a powerful young adult who had the world at her feet and is able to do anything she wants!

I hope this helps a little
Jasmine*


I was planning to go to NYC and shop around. However, there are so many stores in NYC and don't want to be wondering all over the place. Does anyone know a website where I can print out a map that has like the names of the stores and where they are. So as I'm walking I can refer to the map and see exactly where to go (what turn to take) and the store I want to go to? Thank you ahead of time, greatly appreciated! (link)
Try google maps for the stores you would like to go to.


i want an emo nickname, help? (link)
I found a page that has a whole bunch of ideas.

http://www.xomba.com/various_emo_nicknames

Hope This Helps:)
*Jasmine♣


Hey i was just wondering Are there any teen clubs in maryland to be exact like ages 13-16 ? the names and where plz (link)
HaHa,. I tried googling it as well,. with not much luck either. Try checking For Teen Nights,. They used to have some where i live,. but maybe they have some around your town. They are in bar places. but on those nights,. No liquar is sold. It usually lasts from 7-10 or something like that.

Hope This Helps
*Jasmine«


There is this guy who works at the gym I go to. Whenever he works the front desk he always seems to be the one that checks me. At first I thought it was just a coincidence but after awhile I started to realize that he always check me in. No matter how many people are standing waiting to be seen or how many people are working behind the desk he always calls me over to him so he can check me in himself. When I show him my key pass he stares at it a very long time and sometimes he repeats my number over and over. I was wondering if this is just really good customer service or is there something else that I'm not seeing? Also I want to know what info shows up when I check in? (link)
Two or three times might of been coincidence,. but if it's every every single time you go to the gym and he's working,. this might hint that he has a little interest/crush on you.

Hope This Helps
*Jasmine«


16/f

I feel so stressed out. I haven't felt like this in a year. I think it's mostly school. I'm so horrible at math and I've been trying to understand and tutoring and all that but it stresses me out. I'm afraid that if I can't do good in it, that I won't do good when I get out of high school and go to college because I'm not too great at math.

Then being able to afford college because I'll be a senior in a few months. The college I'll most likely end up going to is thousands, like maybe $9,000 including room and board, and all that. I'm afraid if I don't get enough money by that time then I won't leave.
I could wait a year but there are reasons why I don't want to but if it comes down to it, then I will.

We haven't had many family problems recently. Awhile ago it was really tough but now I don't think any of that is the problem.

I've been taking what people say pretty seriously. My friend will ask me what I'm good at and he'll say I'm not good at really anything. He said I was good at cleaning and cooking. I don't suck at school but I'm not amazing. My friends point out random things that are wrong with me. I usually just ignore it and it really didn't bother me. Lately I've been taking everything so seriously and I don't know how to stop. I tell myself positive things but it's so hard.
Anyway, sorry about how long this was but any help would be great. Thanks! (link)
A. Those friends are bitches.
NEVER should your friends put you down or say things wrong with you. True friends will accept you for who you are.
As far as schooling,. You can get student loans so don't worry too too much sweetie,. you will make your self sick,.
As far as math.,
Some tutors suck really hard. so try out different tutors. it will become easier with time
*Hope this helps
!Jasmine




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