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boost my self esteem
18/f
I'm not really lovin life right now. Lots of stress, problems and drama. I don't have any trust-worthy and loyal friends.. they all put me down and make me feel worse about myself. I talked to my parents about this and they said to ignore them and stop being "friends" with them. I took their advice and didn't bother to talk to them ever again. But now I feel like such a loner. I try to make friends but they never really stick. We become friends for a few months and then things die down. I'm pretty busy outside of school so I don't have much time to party or hang out. On top of "friends" putting me down, my parents put me down sometimes too. They make me feel like shit sometimes. They point out my imperfections and make me feel worse about some things. but other times they make me feel ok. I just have such a low self-esteem.. :( I have a boyfriend who is literally MY LIFE. he's my best friend. he makes me feel so amazing. the majority of my happiness is just from him because he makes me so happy :) however.. there have been times when we were close to breaking up. those times were the worst because I literally felt like I had nothing.
I've tried to boost my self esteem by buying/spoiling myself with pleasures like shopping and eating junk food. I've tried yoga, meditating, doing new things like starting ceramics, starting to sew and make fashion, etc. but nothing really makes me feel great about myself. I just need some advice please. How do I make myself happy? make my self esteem better? My boyfriend always gives me compliments. he says i'm beautiful and amazing. most of the time i just say thank you, but i never truly believe it. Part of me believes that I'm not special at all. whenever i look at myself in the mirror, i never think i'm beautiful. i never think i'm an amazing person. I don't look at myself like i'm magnificent. I'm just "blah".
I know this is a problem. I'm a senior in high school about to graduate this spring. I'm just so sick of feeling "blah" all the time. I want to be happier. I want to feel good about myself. I want to have confidence in myself and know i'm amazing. but i don't get that feeling right now. please help! thank you so much :)
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Hi, I am old enough to be your grandfather and I hope the wisdom that comes with being my age will be helpful to you.
It's tough being a teenager these days but I'll let you in on a little secret. The friends you make in High School rarely last past graduation. Once you finish the public school system everyone's life seems to go off in all different directions. Many off you will go off to college. One or two will go off to Military Service and a few will remain at home and attend Community College or start looking for some type of employment.
What happens at this point is our goals in life start to set in. We are no longer care free with the singular goal of just getting through high school. Our outlooks change, some of our values change, mostly for the good. Our interests tend to change based on the direction of our goals.
This is where you will find the answers to what you believe is your problem. If you are going off to college there are a host of opportunities to extend one's social life. There are numerous organizations both on and off campus based in a variety of interests to choose from that one can join. Many of these organizations are centered around you college major. Others are plain social clubs based on social interests, such as camping, hiking, literature and many others far to numerous to list.
Life is what you make of it. You can go off to college and be totally goal oriented and not take advantage of the social aspects offered or you can seek out those social aspects that are interesting to you. From these interests you will make friends that will not desert you, who will understand you as they have similar interests as you.
Not going off to college; these same social clubs are available in your community. You just need to seek them out. Many our available through your place of worship or employment.
When we look in the mirror we are not always seeing our true reflection. The person we really are. That person resides just below the skins surface. This is the person people need to get to know, the caring, nurturing person I know you are. You can alter your outward appearance, you cannot truly alter your inner self.
Your allowing your low self esteem to drag down how you view your outer self, which in turn is hurting your inner self. I believe once you graduate and get out from under the stress associated with all this you will be able to lighten up on yourself. You are a magnificent person, I can tell this from the way you write. You just need to believe in yourself more.
My advice: Don't be so hard on yourself. IF someone puts you down that's their problem not yours. Their the ones that are short sited or jealous of something you have or better than them at. As for being a beautiful person; I know you are, you just have to believe it.
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wow,. Deja Vew. or how every you spell it.
this is exactly word for word how i felt a few years ago when i was a senior. I wish i had the perfect words but all i can say is i've been there and it gets so much better hun,.
as to the self esteem issue you just have to think you are a powerful young adult who had the world at her feet and is able to do anything she wants!
I hope this helps a little
Jasmine*
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