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I am a teenage girl with kind of a big problem. My thoughts are consumed by the thought of appearance and other peoples approval. I am constantly looking at myself in the mirror seeing every imperfection wheather big or small. I know a lot of people have this problem, especially at my age. But I get severly depressed from it, I have made people not want to be around or get annoyed with me always asking if I look good. And I cannot go a day without receiving a compliment from anyone other than my mom, if I never get one I'll feel like I looked disgusting that day. I love my life, and the only thing I would change is how I view myself. So please anyone out there with an opinion or could help me with this situtation, your time is very much apperiated. (link)
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You must realise that you are your own worst enemy and you will never be satisfied with yourself if you continue on this cycle of self-hatred. You are young, fresh and you have your entire life ahead of you but you are wasting precious time focussing on the negative. In the words of Ram Dass: "Everything in your life is there as a vehicle for your transformation. Use it." Give yourself a break. Take the time to really open your eyes and see yourself in a new light. True beauty comes from within, so look around and understand that your appearance is completely irrelevant. By loving yourself and treating yourself with respect you will find your happy place and finally be at peace with who you are. There are people in this world who will look at your flaws and imperfections and think that they are beautiful - and they really are! They give you character; there is nobody else out there like you. Remember that you are a strong girl, you are still growing and someday as a woman you will look back on this time in your life and realise that you never gave yourself enough credit. Your life is going to be filled with growth and adventure, all of which will overpower the sadness that you feel now. Give yourself permission to let go of your insecurities and to start living a more positive and fulfilling life.
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Is this abuse. I have been wanting to go back to school (college) since my husband and I started dating. He told me I dont need to go to school I need to work. Friday, I called the college and talked to someone about signing up for online school, one class at a time and work. Well when we all went to town he said where to I said walmart and I need to go by the college and he gave me a look and said for i said to pick up papers to sign up for school and he keep asking me why. I said because I want to. Well after walmart and he did his errons he went home and didnt even start to head towards the college. Hes constantly yelling at my 3 year old. ( his step son) My father says im being abused emotionally. I love him even though there is constant conflict mostly because he wont look or keep a job.I think im scared to leave. (link)
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The fact of the matter is that you have a young child who you must protect from any person or thing you may see as a threat. This man, whether he is the step-father or not, has absolutely no right to yell at your child and you should not allow it. His controlling behaviour is a sure sign for what could potentially become some form of abuse in the future if you let it. Considering that you've seeked advice for this matter suggests to me that you really are worried about the situation you're in, so I think that this relationship must end for the sake of both your safety and your 3 year olds.
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