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I'm a qualified colour therapist and I'm doing a course in psychotherapy and councelling. i have the letters SNHS after my name which means i have a diploma from The School of Natual Health Sciences.I have life experience in mental health, agoraphobia,bullying,parents divorce.
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so im a 16 and i honestly think im depressed. Ive been thru alot of bad times starting with my mom passing away and i feel everything just keeps piling up. Dont take this as a teenager just trying to get happy pills but i honestly think im depressed. So the question is who would i go to to see if im actually depressed and if so what would happen then. I have no idea about how to go about this.PLEASE HELP!
Firslty, i'm really sorry to hear about your mum, it's completely understandable and normal for you to be feeling this way. xx
And secondly, Sorry but I completely disagree with the poster below. Not allowing a doctor to help, self medicate with sleeping pills? What irresponsible advice!
Of course a doctor will help you, that should be your first step.
Your doctor will be able to help you and advice you and a way that is suitable for you personally.
They may think councelling is the key, they may not. They may perscribe medication, something suitable to fit your needs, you shouldnt be taking off the shelf stuff without a doctors advice.
Depression is a serious illness , you NEED appropiate help and advice from a proffessional in order to get better and feel happy again, and not to let it get to the stage where it goes too deep as it will be even harder to treat (I know, ive had it for 10 years and my life has been a mess, so unwell with it, please dont let it get that far before you do something about it.)
Take care of yourself x
I live in Hampshire, England, United Kingdom. and i want a theropist who is cheap and who is female. please reccomed some. :)
I use BACP to find a therapist, they are all private and cost from around £25 - £40 per session.
It's a good website because you can find the therapist that is right for you, ie someone who specialises in anxiety, eating disprders ect
In my personal opinion, I have preferred the therapists i have found privately to NHS ones, but I would never rule out speaking to my GP first.
Your GP will be able to refer you to someone, but if you are wanting to go private then BACP has been the best for myself.
http://wam.bacp.co.uk/wam/SeekTherapist.exe?NEWSEARCH
SO if not anxiety disorder, I have depression. What do I do from here and who do I talk to to get help? Is an anxiety disorder normal for my teens or more serious? Has this happened to someone before and done something about it? Please tell me.
From personal experience I would say please get help now.
When i hit 17 i became completely agoraphobic and over taken by panic attacks and depression.
I'm now 26 and i am in a bad way with panic, agoraphobia, social phobia.
I'm not saying this to frighten you, I know my case is extreme but I would give anything to go back and get help when i had the chance.
Your doctor will be able to tell you whether you have anxiety or depression, how bad it is, ect
If it's got to the stage where you made need help with it then you may be refferred to a psychologist (I was when I was 16 but i wasn't ill then), it was just a one off thing though and she was able to tell that I wasn't in need of any help).
If you do need extra help, then this can come in the form of therapy, which is usually once a week, just one to one.
Medication are usually a last resort.
There are natural remedies you can have for anxiety such as Bach rescue remedy and Kalms.
But see your doctor and get their proffecssional opinion first, your only young and it's very common in teens to feel stressed out and anxious, and also to have dark moods so you may be worrying about nothing, but just get it checked out first and then you can start feeling alot better.
14-f
im 5'6 and 104 pounds... am i fat??????????????
Far from it, you are actually under weight.
If you look at this chart, you will see that you are 5 ft 6 and 7.6 stone, which means you actually need to put on half a stone just to be in the OK section.
http://carearea.com/heightweightchart.jpg
I get so nervous if I go into something new or with any kind of big change. Nervous to the point where I throw up. I feel sick at my stomach and get nervous and I stress out to my breaking point over things that shouldn't do this to me. It has happened to me before..and this time I'm starting college in a few days..leaving my friends and family and its scaring me.
Has anyone else ever felt this much anxiety over something as small as this? Any advice to calm the nerves and better adjust to any new situations?
Your having panic attacks. There pretty much an everyday occurence for me, even just seeing my family, but thankfuly your not so bad.
Starting college isn't a small thing, it's a huge thing, it's very new, so theres no wonder your having panic attacks about it.
I would suggest you see your GP for some advice (even even just call them on the phone), you wont have to go on tablets, especially as it's not regular panic attacks, an dif you get offerd them you can turn them down.
Try Rescue Remedy and natural oils to help you, i have rescue remedy when i'm having a panic attack, and also lavender roll on and soothing smelling salts, available at health shops or online.
Not sure where your living but here in UK we have tablets called Kalms (probably have something similar in outer countries), they are just something you can take as and when you need it, if you have a stressful day coming up, my grandma swears by them as she gets nervous about going in to town and they take away her nerves.
Also make sure you have a comfort bag with you when your going to be doing something that makes you panic. You can use your handbag, just keep a bottle of water in it to help when you feeling sick, rescue remedy (i use drops, there are also sprays and pastilles), soothing oils, your phone, some tissue (just incase you are sik), a puzzle book for distraction (a must in the fight againt panic). and a pen. You might want a paper bag too incase you hyperventilate.
I also have a note book with simple instructions of what to do if im having a panic attack, because its hard to think of anything.
Take care, message me if you need any more advice xxxx
I'm stuck home this weekend all alone and I'm so bored. My parents went on a business trip and they let me stay home but there's nothing to do! I really don't feel like going out either because I'm on my period and I'm tired a lot. Is there anything fun to do without leaving the house? I thought maybe some sort of neat free internet game or something? I can't think of anything. I don't know...
ideas?
Due to health problems I have to spend ALOT of time home alone and so bored, i created a list of things to do, it was designed for people with mental health issues and panic issues so everything on it is all things you can do in your home.
Computer and Internet
Play computer games
Make a newspaper or magazine (You can use pictures from the internet)
Make a CD, tape, DVD or video cover
Play games online
Online Course
Surf the web
Join forums (Phobic, your favourite band or TV program, hobbies, cars etc)
Create Quizzes or take Quizzes
Watch web cams (www.Earthcam.com is really good)
Print off writing exercises, puzzles, stories, recipes, music sheets etc)
Learn new skills and about new things (knitting, scrap booking, guitar, flower arranging, animals etc)
Watch TV clips, programmes and movies (for free on www.youtube.com)
Create a profile on dating/friendship websites
Create your own website or group (You can do this for free or you can pay)
Find epals/penpals
Chat in chat rooms or instant messengers
Shop online (For food, clothes, supplies for hobbies, DVD’s, CD’s etc)
Creative
Make a scrapbook (You can make one for your favourite photos, or for your favourite TV program, music band, or things you like such as cars).
Make greetings cards
Make jewellery
Knit
Cross Stitch
Paint
Draw
Make a collage
Decorate a room in your house
Origami
Cook/Bake
Make a newspaper or magazine (Using cuttings from other newspapers and magazines, pictures from the internet, photos, felt tip pens etc)
Make a CD, tape, DVD or video cover (Using pens, pencils, paint, pictures)
Do writing exercises
Write a story, novel, your autobiography, a song
Write a script for your favourite TV programme
Make quizzes
Sort your photographs into albums
Make a documentary about your agoraphobia, fears, progress etc
Create a dance or exercise routine
Design houses, buildings, cars, clothing etc
Customise old clothing
Make a board game
Paint glass bottles
Decorate boxes to keep jewellery and other keepsakes in
Have music lessons (Find someone who will come to your home to teach you)
Make lists (Your favourite songs, DVD’s, food etc)
Imagine that you are going to a desert island or The Artic, write down what you would take with you (which clothing, DVD’s, albums, books etc)
Other
Make a CD, tape or computer play list
Read books/magazines
Watch films/TV
Listen to the radio/cd’s
Organise your CD’s/DVD’s
Ring or text family and friends
Invite family and friends
Exercise
Do yoga
Have a bath
Pamper yourself
Play board games
Make a treasure hunt (especially good if you have children)
Do a home study course
Do housework
Play games on a mobile phone
Hope that gives you pleanty of ideas :-) xxx
15/f
in july i will be taking a plane to new orleans. ive only been on a plane once before when i was ten, and i was terrified.
recently there have been a lot of planes crashing and i just heard about a pilot dying on board.
im starting to really worry myself, and i was just wondering if there was anything i could do to chill myself out?
i worry way too much and this plane thing is seriously starting to stress me out majorly.
any advice?
thanks :)
I've never been on a plane but i do suffer terribly with anxiety and panic so i can give you some tips to help with that.
Before you go to the airport, have a nice long soak in the bath with some lavander oils or lavander aromatherapy bubble bath. It works a treat!
Deffinately buy some rescue remedy. I take 4 drops on my tonge and it eases panic, it recomends 4 but people do take more.
It's like a miracle in a bottle, all natural so no side effects and safe for any age and even safe for animals.
http://www.rescueremedy.com/
You can also buy rescue remedy pastilles, you could suck one instead of the sweet they give you to stop your ears popping.
Lavander roll on for your wrists also helps, i put some on and take the rescue remedy at the same time.
I also find something in your hands helps, i use aroma dough http://www.feelkarma.com/catalog/168
its just like though stress balls, or play dough except its got soothing oils in that release for you to breathe in as your squeezing and playing with it.
Take lots of distractions in your carry on bag. If you have/or can borrow a portable dvd player and some dvd's that would be really great. Mine goes everywhere with me.
If you are aloud mp3 on a plane then take one so you dont have to listen to the sounds around you for a bit of escapeism while your reading ect.
Puzzle books are essential for me to calm down because they are a good distraction to take your mind away from the panic so you do calm down.
I find childrens/teens ones are better because they are easier when your brain is all fizzled from the panic. And colourful ones seem more fun and calming than boring black and white books.
Magazines and books are essential too, i find myself reading the most boring stuff, concentrating on ever word just to stop the panic.
Make sure you have a drink of water with you at all times, it helps with the sickness feeling that panic bring.
The chances of being in a plane crash are 1 in 1MILLION and in 90% of those accidents passangers survive. Just incase you are still worried The BBC (very trusted) have some info on how to survive a plane crash
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/5402342.stm
Enjoy New Orleans xxxx
I'm 19/F and for the past few years, I have been showing signs of being a hypochondriac. Any little thing that goes wrong with me (headache, cut, stomachache, etc) I assume it's the beginning of or a symptom of something life threatening. I stay up all night scared I won't wake up the next morning! How can I get over this? I'm sick of making the small things big, but I'm also incredibly scared of catching a disease or dying. It's a huge, unrelenting fear that affects me every single day.
You have health anxiety, i've started to feel like this too, the only advice i would be able to suggest is join http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk it's for people with panic and anxiety, there's a section on the forum called Health Anxiety which has been a god send to me and many others.
If your scared you tell people your symptoms and how your feeling and then the others will give you advice and 9 times out of 10 there will be people who have the exact same symtptoms, it's a real comfort :-)
I'm a girl in my early 20s.
I've suffered from depression and anxiety my whole life, but it really came to a head between 2006 and early 2008. I progressed from getting nervous in class, to being scared to go out, to being terrified of going to the grocery store across the road, to being unable to leave my house or even my room.
I failed out of school twice in this time. I lost contact with all but a small handful of my friends, and nearly lost even my family and my fiance. Fortunately, I was able to get through this alive after being hospitalized for several weeks. I took a year to get used to life and living again, and I'm feeling better than I ever have.
Here's my dilemma: I really want to start communicating with people from my past again. Thing is, most of them have no idea as to what was going on. I've tried talking to a couple of people, but they end up getting freaked out, or acting awkward.
If anybody here has similar experience in trying to rehabilitate socially after a serious battle with mental illness, I'd really appreciate your advice.
I'd just like to say well done for getting your life back on track again, i know from personal experience how much of a struggle it is.
Like you, i was was 17 when i became agoraphobic and suffered from serious depression, last year i got back in touch with my old best friend.
I was so worried about how she would react as she didn't understand what a hard time i was going through back then and i think she got freaked out too.
i found her email address after googling her name.
I'm justing looking at the origional email now, that first one was the most nerve wracking.
I started off by saying...
"I know it will probably be quite a shock to hear from me after all this time but writing to you is just something I felt I had to do"
Then went on to explain why we lost touch...
"We were best friends and I loved and cared about you so much, and I wasn’t avoiding you, or anyone one else for that matter, not intentionally anyway. I was scared, and I know it doesn’t make much sense, it didn’t to me either which Is why I couldn’t explain it at the time."
I didn;t expect a reply but i got one, and she was so relieved and happy to know i was alright again and we've kept in touch.
You can take some of my words or use my emails as a guide line...or copy it if you like :-)
Chakra xxx
fifteen/ female
My mother suffered from agoraphobia (fear of wide open spaces) for years. That was in her twenties and thirties, but she had me after that when she was forty-one. She was afraid to leave her house and talk on the phone, and she had social anxiety disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, she was bipolar, depressed..all of these different illnesses.
Ive inherited some things from her, but not all of them. And I have a sleep disorder.
Well school starts in a bit less than a week for me and Ill be in high school. I LOVE to go to amusement parks, shopping, the mall, carnivals..you name it. Well not carnivals theyre icky x]
But when Im in my house, I get nervous. Really really nervous. I might shake a bit and sometimes Ill cry. Its mostly when Im either in the kitchen or the family room..and itll seem like Im looking through a fisheye lens and the room feels sooo much bigger than it really is! So I usually have to spend my time in my bedroom or outside. I think I feel more comfortable cuddled up in my room with the lights down real low, or just in the computer room because theyre the smallest parts of the house. Is it possible that I inherited Agorophobia from my mom? If I did then why can I still go out in public? Oh but sometimes when Im out in public my eyes get real sleepy and I have to walk looking at the floor, though.
You cannot inherit agoraphobia, but you could have inherritted or just picked up on anxiety traits that are in your mum.
I was always a nervous child, and with some family memebers i was like you, scared, shakey, teary and just wanted to get away from them.
If you had agoraphobia you'd have a panick attack everytime you even thought of leaving the house, you sound like you have some social anxiety, which does need sorting out before you end up like me and not be able to spend any time with people.
I know it's you who asked the question, but i am going through all those mental illnesses right now that your mum went though (from age 17 and i'm now 24). Would it be possible for you to ask your mum how she overcame those things and led a normal life again? I'm getting out now but only for an hour at the weekend, i can cope with that and im building on it, but the social phobia is crippling as i cant spend time with mine or my partners family which causes alot of problems.
Sorry for asking you xxx
I was just wondering how do you get rid of stretch marks I've had them since I was 10 and i really want to get rid of them.....if you know of some ways please tell me.
-Hopeful Gurl
Bio Oil, it's helps to reduce the appearence of stretchmarks, aswell as scars, uneven skintone.
The website here tells you more about it
http://www.bio-oil-direct.co.uk/
i dnt know if this is in the right category
i dont know why but every time i think about something that happened and it bothers me i start shaking and i feel dizzy and lightheaded and sick and i have touble breathing and its like im nervous.but its thoughts that are and have been bothering me.
i dont know why and i dont know how to make it stop anyone know wht it could be or why its happening?
thanks ahead of time
As the others said, it's panic attacks. I knew exactly what it was when you mentioned the symptoms as i've been having them now for many years.
What you need to do when it happens is go somewhere quiet to relax. in your home it's easy, go to your bedroom, close the door, if you can put a dvd on, read a magazine, do a puzzle book till the feels go. Also have a drink with you at all times, it helps to combat those sickly feels the panic brings on.
Have a fan helps too, as it helps the dizzyness/lightheadedness.
Go to your GP too for more help, they wont neseseraly put you on medication, thats usually a last resort, see if they can recomend some natural remedies, Lavander is very good for panic.
I have a lavander roll on stick, that i put on my wrists when i panic, and smelling salts/oils too. You can get them from health shops.
These therapy doughs are great too http://www.aromasqueeze.com/ they are just like play dough but with aromatherapy oils in them, so you can smell lavander to help you relax while playing and keeping your hands busy which also helps you relax xxx
I can't talk on the phone without shaking or driving myself nuts beforehand. I can't communicate with people without sweating or anxiety attacks..it takes me about 15 minutes to work up a hello in a social situation...and when someone doesn't reply or acknowledge it, the awkwardness fills me up and tears me up. I cry a lot over this. Hysterically. I can't be left by myself in any social situations. Usually, I'd have my dad or mom walk with me, get me into programs, register me, talk with my teachers, etc. I've been raised like that for the past 10 years now. I'm in this comfort zone and when I'm tossed out there in the real world, I can't project my voice, I can't go a day without someone going "aww, she's so shy," I can't go a day without disappointment. I feel like I need my parents to lead me and take me by the hand. And I push myself, like..go out there, knock..say hello...say it loudly. I do it and then I feel like I'm a failure. I feel like crying. I mess up relationships with my friends because I like being by myself more than with them. And then I regret it. I don't know what to do. I'm SIXTEEN. And I feel like I'll NEVER be able to communicate with people. I get on with the friends that I have left...but when I talk to teachers or any authority figures, I feel as if I subconsciously put on an act...with a lowered, innocent voice (as if my parents beat and starve me at home..) and I talk like please, please don't hurt me teacher...with closed eyes or something. What can I do?
16/f :(
I have exactly the same thing, it's called social phobia/social anxiety. Mine is so bad that i have panic attacks when it comes to even seeing my own family. I had to ring up a shop today and i had a panic attack on the phone.
There is help available though, it's a treatable fear but it does need treating otherwise you'l end up like me, with no friends and losing that closeness with your family.
I know how difficult it is for you but see your gp and tell him how you feel, dont miss anything out. you should be referrd to a child therapist (it's usually cognative behioural therapy), and because your refferd it means you dont have to pay.
There are tablets for anxiety but those are usually a last resort, especially since you are so young.
I cant really help you in getting over it as im still suffering with mine but ive learnt now to never give up.
If we have family around stay in the room with them as long as possible, but they know if i need a breather then i can go and have my space and then come back.
I always have a drink with me whereever i go as it help the icky feelings that you get with panic.
I would also strongly reccomend aromatherapy oils which you can buy at health shops and online. ones are are for panic and calming nerves, lavander oils are really good for that. You can buy t it little roll on's or tiny bottles so you can carry them round.
Whenever i have family over i put a ton of lavander on my wrists and smell my salts.
I'd just like to say Welldone though, welldone for not giving up, yes it effects your life in such a huge way but please dont give up and isolate yourself, ive been there and it was the worst time of my life.
if you want to email me or need any more advice i'd be more that happy to help you (just send me a private message on here) :-)
Chakra Xxxxxxx
Our class trip is going to Poland and Israel for two and a half weeks
we fly from chicago to Poland, Poland to Israel, Israel back to Chicago. One of the main reasons I do not want to go on this school trip is because I am scared of flights and I suffer from panic attacks. I don't want to embarass myself from getting a panic attack on the plane flights and I'm thinking of taking adenine I think it's called. But the longest plane ride I've been on was six hours and I never traveled over seas before. I need some advice how to handle this situation whether i should go or not.
And to add
How long is the plane flight from Chicago to Poland and how long is the plane flight from Israel back to chicago
And what's the food like in Poland I heard it's really bad and I am a picky eater
thank you
Ok, I can;t help with the flying part as i've never flown but I suffer terrible panic attacks so I can advise you on what to take with you if you do decide to go.
Lavender Roll ons - These are little tube of roll on sticks that you can get from health shops, you put them on pressure points on your wrists that help you relax.
Smelling Salts - I think you can get these from health shops too, they come in a tiny bottle and you smell them to calm you down. I found these to be very effective when i had an extremely bad bout of panic attacks last year.
Aroma Dough - This is like play dough but it has armoatherapy oils in, i have the lavender one as Lavender is very good for calming. You can play with it and squeeze it like a stress ball while the aroma calms you http://www.clearviewshop.co.uk/shop/catalog/browse?shop_param=shop_overview_pager%3D2%26cid%3D2%26
These are all things that you can fit in your carry-on bag, which leads me to...
Comfort bag - I used to take my comfort bag everywhere with me, you can use your carry on bag as yours. A comfort bag is something you can put all your comforting things in just incase you have a panic attack, it also helps just knowing that if you did have a panic attack then there are things with you to help you.
You could put some aromatherapy oils in it, a drink or 2 is essential if your aloud drinks on planes, i don't know if you are (preferably water or dilute as water helps you especially when the panic brings on sickly feelings), puzzle books and magazines to distract your mind from the panic. If you are concentrating really hard on a puzzle or reading then the panic dies down because it's in the mind. A little games console just to distract you, and tissues because if your anything like me you'll get upset when you panic, also panic can cause phlegm in the back of your throat so i find its always best to get it out rather that swallow it.
I think you are so brave to even contemplate taking this journey, if you really want to go then dont let your panic attacks stop you. But if you think it will make you ill because you'll be stressing out and extremely anxious and panicy about the flying and whole trip then i wouldnt go. You'll be a long way from home and wont be able to go home if your panic attacks makes you ill, so you need to have a long hard think about what will be making you panic (if it's just the flying or is it being away from home too) and speak with your parents about it. Make sure you know and do what YOU want to do, and maybe make a pro's and con's list too about the trip.
I think I may have aniexty but my dad doesn't seem to think or take it very seriously.
I'd like to see a doctor to check it out,what kind of doctor would I go to?
I suffer terribly with anxiety too so I know what to do, you go and see your normal doctor first, the one you see when you have a cold or virus. Then he/she will decide what is the best thing for you.
Tablets are usually a last resort, especially in young people. If it's anxiety that is effecting your everyday life, you'll be refferd to see a psychologist or therapist, but the doctor will sort this out, not you, and let you know when and where to go.
If this happens you'll have 1 session to start with and then if the therapist decides you need more you'll make your appointments through her.
I guess this comes under meantal health...
Ok well i used to be a cutter last year.
Bad i started about 3 years ago and stopd lasted year.
The thing is ive got so depressed lately all i want to do is harm...
I just want to get a knife and go deep.
To be honest im waiting for someone to cut me by accident or whatever. (if you get what i mean)
Im not a type of person that takes the wrong road twice so i really dont want to go back to it.
ANd im full of advice for everyone... except me.
I just want that red liquid to emerge from my skin.
To trinkle down my wrist.
To feel the stingy numbing pain....
Please point me in the right direction
Vikki
I once watched a v show that helped me alot when i was going through a really rough time, there was a famous psychologist on who gave some great cutting advice.
If it's seeing blood that makes you feel better, then drip red paint on your wrists, colour them in in felt tip, red shower gel ect
If it's pain that makes you feel better then use an ice cube on your writsts and do a cutting motion, it will sting like hell and go numb but wont actually harm you
I really do.
Here are my symptoms:
-I hear a constant ringing
-I hear a heartbeat plusing in my right ear. (This isn't constant, it comes in phases of 20 minutes or so.)
-I become irrationally angry with people
(This happens in public a lot. If I go somewhere I've never been, I can become very angry for no reason at everyone I see. I feel my heartrate increase and overall rage.)
-I see small animals like birds and squirrels that others claim not to see
-I get overwhelmingly dizzy
-I have a reocurring dream of this guy called Patrick who is very bad. He manipulates people in the most horrible and nasty way. I am scared I might see him in real life.
Any psychology experts, can you assess what might be happening to me?
Am I going crazy? What is going on?
There is a condition called Tinnitus which causes ringing and hissing noises in the ear, it can also be acompanies by dizzyness.
You really need to see your doctor about this, noone here can diagnose you.
If it is Tinnitus, you'll most likely be reffered to an ear,nose and throat specialist.
If you are in the Uk you can call NHS direct for free and speak to a nurse about your symptoms and they'll advise you on what to do but since yours in a long term thing you really need to talk to your GP.
15/f
recently ive noticed a LOT more sexual thoughts going through my head. like if a guy just touches me briefly or talks to me i immediately start thinking not-so-pg13 rated thoughts about him..even male teachers and stuff which is really gross = =; i thought guys were supposed to be the ones with sexual thoughts. should i be worried?
You shouldn't be worried, it's completely normal :-) I know i went through the same thing when i was 15 too, it didnt last long but all of a sudden i was getting thoughts like you. It's completely natural so don't worry about it :-)
I feel like my mind is messing with me. I am 5'5'' and about 135lbs ( 15/female) . Now, technically that isn't overweight, but I used to be 4'6'' and 140lbs a few years ago, and my brain is stuck on that.
Back then I told myself I was healthy, but now whenever I look at myself in the mirror or in a picture I think I look obese. I can usually keep this to my self, but when I am PMSing, it gets worse. I feel like such a fatty all the time. I dont really have any confidence. I dont wear make-up because I have a disease on my skin on my face , so that doesnt help. My family and friends are concerned, but I just cant help it
=/
how can I make my self think I am normal-looking?
It sounds as thought you have Body Dismorphic Disorder (BDD), it is a mental health problem thats causes you to see yourself in a different way to reality.
A don't have this myself but one of my friends has this, she see's a therapist who helps her to cope with it.
Have a chat with your GP and mention BDD to him, if he thinks this is what you have you will probably be refered to a therapist (which means you wont have to pay if you live in the UK, not sure how the health service works anywhere else though).
Coucelling and therapy will help you to see yourself in a better and more realistic light, it's usually cognative behavioural therapy as this type of therapy is used to change our thought patterns.
It is important that you do get proffessional help because if it is BDD, that can lead to other mental health problems such a depression and anxiety.
so my whole life i have add mild anxiety and for about ten months i could function after i stopped talking medicine but the past fourish months there's been alot of chaos and i cant control it by myself.
i sometimes find myself having random panic attacks.
little things like school stuff freak me out or just thinking about certain people or things make me extremely anxious.
my nervous are uncontrolable.
i would like to avoid not taking medicine.
anything would help.
thanks. =)
I suffer terrible panic attacks too and like you, wont take medicine. I cant help you overcome it as i still have them but they are somethings i can tell you that help me.
Lavender Roll ons - These are little tube of roll on sticks that you can get from health shops, you put them on pressure points on your wrists that help you relax.
Smelling Salts - I think you can get these from health shops too, they come in a tiny bottle and you smell them to calm you down. I found these to be very effective when i had an extremely bad bout of panic attacks last year.
Aroma Dough - This is like play dough but it has armoatherapy oils in, i have the lavender one as Lavender is very good for calming. You can play with it and squeeze it like a stress ball while the aroma calms you http://www.clearviewshop.co.uk/shop/catalog/browse?shop_param=shop_overview_pager%3D2%26cid%3D2%26
These are all things that you can fit in your pocket or your school bag, which leads me to...
Comfort bag - I used to take my comfort bag everywhere with me, you can use your school bag as yours. A comfort bag is something you can put all your comforting things in just incase you have a panic attack, it also helps just knowing that if you did have a panic attack then there are things with you to help you.
You could put some aromatherapy oils in it, a drink or 2 is essential (preferably water or dilute as water helps you especially when the panic brings on sickly feelings), a puzzle book and magazone to distract your mind from the panic. If you are concentrating really hard on a puzzle or reading then the panic dies down because it's in the mind. Also a mobile phone or little games console just to distract you, and tissues because if your anything like me you'll get upset when you panic, also panic can cause phlegm in the back of your throat so i find its always best to get it out rather that swallow it.
I would see your gp again and see about getting some therapy, cognative behavioural therapy is usually best for panic as it helps to change the way our minds think.
Deffinatly 100% tell your teachers about your panic attacks and what triggers them, then if you need some time out if your feeling anxious then they can let you go and relax if you need to. It would be great if your doctor could just write a doctors note to explain this, you would only need to show it to your head teacher or form teacher as they would tell your other teachers in the staff room.
I hope this help you and if you need to ask me anything else about panic then just ask :-) xxx