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Hi, I'm Zoinatrobe and I give advice for most things- school, self harm, fashion, family, ect. I often notice on advicenators that when people give advice, they tend to say what kind of thing you should do to resolve your problem. I can't say I can do it all the time, but I'm going to try to say HOW you resolve a problem. I often give advice to my friends at school.
About meeeeeee-I love rock and funk (and funk rock!)- The Red Hot Chilli Peppers, Jimi Hendrix, Nirvana, ect, exercise 8 times a week each time an hour or more (rowing, running, kickboxing) and play guitar. (I have a Fender with a wah wah pedal and an acoustic.) And don't you just love my mouse warrior? ;-p

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hey i have my periuod but i dont know how to use a tampon... im afraid im going to get it this weekend and im going to this club for teens. I need to wear a thong so i have to wear a tampon. But how do you use it... is it hard?? Does it hurt? what should i do..

You can buy special sanitary pads for wearing in thongs. I strongly advise you to stay away from tampons till you are older. If you can't find the pads for wearing in thongs, you can get starters tampons. Hope I helped,
Zoinatrobe.

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ok, my parents are divorced, i think all my friends talk about me and hate me, and i think my moms going to die!! whats wrong with me? sometimes i feel like cutting myself but i don't. i just think thats not how u solve things but i feel like doing it so mucch. my life is soooo screwed. canyou help??

Don't worry there is nothing wrong with you, you have just gone through alot. It is not you or anyone elses fault (except your friends). Remember to love yourself and think positive.
First, I would solve your problem with friends- either talk to them and tell them how you feel, ask why they are doing this and how if they were your true friends they wouldn't be doing this. If not,start making some new friends- don't stop talking to the others untill you have found some, then tell your mean friends that you think they shouldn't be treating you like this and that maybe you would be better off having real friends that respected you. You don't deserve sp called "friends" like that. I'm having a similar problem at the moment.
Secondly, don't cut yourself whatever happens- if you cut once you'll do it again and again. I know your situation is hard but you can change the situation for the better.
Thirdly, you say you think your mother is going to die- could you send me another question explaining why you think this please? I may be able to help.
Fourthly, your parents are divorced- I know this can be very hard but remember it is likely that they are happier like this- otherwise they wouldn't have divorced.
Finally, if you are still worried, try ringing one of these numbers- You can ring Childline at 0800 11 11 or Samaritans on 08457 909 090 for professional advice on any problem.
Big hug and sorry about the length I got a bit carried away..Hope I helped,
Zoinatrobe.

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For the past while i have been cutting myself. At first it was just scratches and then i started cutting deeper and deeper. I am really scared and I don't want to talk to my parents, they have enough to worry about, so is there anyway i can break the habit and just stop...and please don't answer if you are just going to poke fun at me and mock me. I don't need that. Only post if you can help me.

You must stop now- if you hit an vein by accident, it is likly you would die. Next time you get an urge to cut, harm something else, like cut an orange or ppunch a pillow. Love yourself and think of all the other people that love you- your family, your friends..If you did accidently kill yourself think of how they would feel. It would be best to tell your parents but if you really can't speak to your school counsellor or e-mail the Self Harm Alliance on support@selfharmalliance.org. It could save your life.
Good Luck,
Zoinatrobe

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Hey ... im a cutter and i have been every since the middle of 6th grade and i am just starting 7th .. its mostly cuz of boys and some cuzza my home life . it makes me feel good wen i hurt myself and i dont know why :( my mom dont know nd idk wut to do please help just I M me at YellowKissez207

Sometimes life can be hard but if you continue cutting you might kill yourself, by accident or on purpose. Remember that you are beauiful and there are so many people that love you. Love yourself. Look at the positive side of things. Next time you get the urge to cut yourself, cut an orange or punch a pillow or something. If you can't stop by yourself, email the self harm alliance for free on support@selfharmalliance.org. Tell your Mum or one of your friends so they will support you. Break free.
Zoinatrobe.

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I have been having this problem for quite sometime. I am a cutter. And i can't really stop. I have been going to counseling and I had been taken off antidepressants. My mood hasnt gotten any better, it feels alittle worse. Parents are no help, my dad thinks that I am doing this for attention and he yelled and screamed at me saying that I am faking everything and its just a waste of money to keep the counseling going. So now, I am not in that anymore. I feel terrible, worse possibly. And my freind who I have known since the second grade is going through problems, she is cutting herself and trying to kill herself. I have been trying to give her advice but, how do I give advice to someone who is doing the same things as me? I need some major help and someone to talk to.

Next time you get an urge to cut yourself, harm something else- like cut an orange or punch a pillow. It gets out some of your anger. You don't need to spend money to get help- try emailing the Self Harm Allience on support@selfharmalliance.org for free. Tell your friend about them too.
Remember, there are lots of people out there who care about you and you don't have to suffer in silence. Love yourself, think of the positive things and try to be happy.
Zoinatrobe

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