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Q: Hey my name is Rachel strickland and iam 17 years old and in the 11th grade at my highschool and for some reason i have these crying spells all the time like at least once a week and i've been taking lots of naps lately and i havn't been eating as much as i use to.
This has been going on ever since my dad died 5 years ago and i wondered if that could have anything to do with it.I've tried looking at photos and i've tried remembering the good time like my mom told me to do but that just makes me want to cry more.my dad and i have always been really close even though my parents divorced when i was 3 we was still close.
my mom just dosn't understand how i feel whenever i feel sad i go and take a nap or a bubble bath to relaz bur i arill am sad.The other day i was so depresed i didn't go to school becouse i knew if anybody sad one thing to me i would burst into tears so my mom let me stay home.
my blood pressure has also been really high the last time i had it chceked it was 150/86.
I also have panick attacks when i get really upset.
what should i do?

im thinking either depression or post trauma disorder. go see a therapist or talk to someone. it will really help. trust me

Q: Does anyone have any tips on how to stop cutting?

i used to and now im working on stopping. but ive tryed so many different tricks and stuff. its really hard. and this has to be my eleventh time trying to stop. im going cold turkey but these are some other things that help

1.) (common) rubber band on arm stap it when you get urges

2.) take a stopwatch. time 15 minutes and in that time go against it and dont cut when times up if you still want to then set another 15 and keep doing it.

3.) playdough.haa sounds really wierd huh? well it really does get your mind off of everything - this girl had it and when she'd get mad she would smush it up - really seemed to work

4.) take a orange[apples prob work too] put it in the freezer. when you want to cut take it out and hold it and try smushing it and stuff. it works because it distracts you

5.) the marker trick if your one of those people that needs to see blood draw on yourself with red marker[ i honestly didnt see it that effective but other people did ]

6.) draw a picture or take a poloroid and a red marker draw on it what you want to do to yourself

7.) writing letters to people that your angry with (or yourself) and never give it to them

8.) [my favorite and most effective for me] writing poetry about cutting ; it really worked and instead of doing it to myself i was writing about it and how it feels trying to stop or how it feels right after you did it.

i really dont know why you cut or any backround to it but if these tricks/tips didnt work then drop one in my inbox or im me at loserfacee9o3

Q: here lately i have gotten into cutting myself. bad. i mean i dont go deep or anything. i just pretty much break the skin. but its gotten bad. like its all i think about. i started saturday and i was like i wont do it anymore. well i did it again last night and then 3 times today. how can i stop? ive told 2 of my friends and they tell me i need to stop, which i know. but its hard. help me? please dont tell me to get counseling, cuz i cant tell my dad and i cant go.

same thing is/has gone on with me. its quite the addiction if you ask me. its really up to you on how far is to far and im glad that your trying to stop. okay in the hospital i learned alot of different methods to stop. but in advance it doesnt go away over night and you do just have to wait it out and eventually you will stop

1.) (common) rubber band on arm stap it when you get urges

2.) take a stopwatch. time 15 minutes and in that time go against it and dont cut when times up if you still want to then set another 15 and keep doing it.

3.) playdough.haa sounds really wierd huh? well it really does get your mind off of everything - this girl had it and when she'd get mad she would smush it up - really seemed to work

4.) take a orange[apples prob work too] put it in the freezer. when you want to cut take it out and hold it and try smushing it and stuff. it works because it distracts you

5.) the marker trick if your one of those people that needs to see blood draw on yourself with red marker[ i honestly didnt see it that effective but other people did ]

6.) draw a picture or take a poloroid and a red marker draw on it what you want to do to yourself

7.) writing letters to people that your angry with (or yourself) and never give it to them

8.) [my favorite and most effective for me] writing poetry about cutting ; it really worked and instead of doing it to myself i was writing about it and how it feels trying to stop or how it feels right after you did it.

i really dont know why you cut or any backround to it but if these tricks/tips didnt work then drop one in my inbox or im me at loserfacee9o3

Q: i really need help. like, from a pyschatrist. and i really don't know how to ask my parents.
but first i wanted to ask everyone on here a few questions.
IF YOU HAVE BEEN TO A SHRINK;
-- is it weird talking to them?
-- does it really help?
-- how did you ask your parents?
-- how does it work? like the visits?

thank you everyone that takes the time to answer.

1. i talk alot and having someone i dont even know was really wierd she was just creepy in the end i started lieing to her to make her shut up and tell my mom i didnt have to see her anymore

2. honestly i would deff. say no it didnt help i got in way more trouble after seeing her and the thing is i didnt tell her nearly even close to what was going on

3. i went to a hospital and through there they made me go i hated it

4. she/he will like talk to your parents and sent up appointments and some will have your parents and some prob wont.. for me i had my mom in there once and i freaked out and couldnt stand being in my moms prescence anymore and refused to talk to the therapist for like two appointments..

-- in the long run i lied to her so i didnt have to talk to anybody where as before i went to the hospitals and stuff i was really open.. i just learned how to hide emotions better..

Q: does anybody on this site cut themselves ? i need to talk to someone who i can relate to .. PLEASE!! i/m me at x3MOxL0V3x thank you so much

yeaah i used to try not to but occansionally.. you know stuff just happens i got sent to two hospitals.. not excactly the best time of my life-- i got made fun of and people still say stuff about it behind my back.. i recently moved to another town and some girl that used to live in my old town started telling everybody at my new school ;;ive been through it all so deff. you cant talk to me.. drop one in my inbox or IM me at jessicaa 9o3

Q: i have had them for like an hour.
tips on getting them to leave?
duude pleasee help, it hurts. thanksss.

drink something and go upside down and swallow

hold your breathe

Q: I am currently writing a novel. I have about 70-80 pages done, and will soon need a title. The novel focuses mainly around the topic of self-injury, more specifically, cutting. Do any of you have an idea for a title? If I use it, and make any money off of the book, I'd be willing to give you a portion of the money. Any ideas?

congrats im working on a book about cutting too

our little secret
permanant stains
deeper then the ocean
just once more
perfect purification [ as in like cleaning your mind of good/bad thoughts ]
memorable scars
painfully perfect
seeing scars [ seeing stars ]

Q: Alright i am a 15 year old girl. im pregnant. i have a great boyfriend. i dont get along with my dad or little brother. my mom and dad are getting a divorce. i choice to move with my mom. and my little brother choice to live with my dad. just recently i started cutting again. i no its not good and i talked to my boyfriend about it and ive been trying so hard to stop but there is so much drama. i just cry and i want to do it so bad. but i can i promised my boyfriend i wouldnt. my mom and i are moving out the end of the mnth. so i wont have to put up with my brother or my dad any more. but thats to long i cry everyday! and i want to cut everytime i cry or get angry. i need help!! and im crying out for help. i dont want to go talk to someone. i have a fear of talking to someone i dont know! so hopefully you guys can help me!

i cut for about 2-3 years on and off then i got put into two mental hospitals one for nineteen days and a partial for eleven days i doesnt solve problems although you may think that it does it doesnt just hurt you it hurts everyone else & honestly its not worth it it takes over you like a way of life a ritual or a religion you cant even look yourself in the mirror for the mistakes youve made ok so what im going to tell you is 1.don't tell your parents they will make you see someone [ since you dont want to] 2. try talking to a friend honestly mine helped me through long struggles 3. hang in there just think only a little more till you move out -- one thing to stop cutting if you feel like you need to then put it off be like ok 15 minutes of cutting free once you get to that goal set it higher and higher so that you make it through three days and see how you feel.. i really hope i helped good luck with the baby and if you cant talk to your friends then talk to me my aim sn is Jessicaa 9o3 and my email is jess1o9@aol.com

Q: I don't know what is wrong with me. I've been getting really nervous when certain people talk to me. When this happens, I start shaking and come very close to crying. A few nights ago I started laughing, crying, and screaming at the same time. I have an idea of why, but I can't seem to pinpoint an exact, rock-solid reason. Also, I sometimes find objects in my hands that I don't remember picking up or even seeing. I've been told by cloes friends of conversations that I can't remember happening, and e-mails I don't remember sending. Does anybody know what could be wrong?

i dont think you have bipolar disorder . i think you have either MPD or dissociative disorder. but "I've been getting really nervous when certain people talk to me." sounds like anxiety too so you should go to a doctor about this you could be losing your memory and the doctor can help this action stop hope i helped and good luck ♥

Q: okay, seriously.. i must be an insomniac. it's 5:27 am and i cant sleep, i cleaned my whole room, bathroom and kicthen to give me something to do, and im hyper as ever still, for the past 2 months i have not been able to sleep, and when i do sleep i sleep to much, what is rong with me? am i going insane???

this is normal for teenagers and is commen in adults too. this could be linked to depression or anything like that you should go to the doctors to see if they can get you some medicene to help you get to sleep i have insomnia && they gave me pills for it but the problem is i go to bed around 10-11 so i take the pills at that time so it takes like three hours for them to work so be aware of that ♥

Q: Walking down a very busy street today, I saw a gentleman talking to himself and pausing to hear an answer. He was talking to himself but I truly believe, that he believed, there was someone there. Who can say that there wasn't? Could he be talking to the dead or to someone else that lives on a different plain then we do? Maybe, he is the "normal one" and we aren't because we can't see what he is seeing? Has anyone else ever thought of this theory before or am I not "normal"?

ok first thing just to throw it out there he might have had an earpiece likr telephone type thing but i have the same thoughts he could be talking to someone that we dont have the brain power to see he might be normal and the world is not -- but dont think your not normal because of this its something that he was doing its not like you were walking around talking to yourself ♥

Q: This is NOT a joke. I seriously think my house is haunted. Tonight I saw something (a black figure out of the corner of my eye) walk past my room. The reason why I dont think it was "just my eyes playing a trick on me" is because I felt a prescence, like there was someone there. When I looked down the hall, there was no one there. I asked my Dad who was watching TV in another room if it was him and he said, "No." And my Mom was sleeping in her room and no one else was home. Please help! This has happened 3 or 4 times and I cant sleep at night! What should I do?? Has this happened to anyone else? How did you feel less scared? :(

this happens to me i would recommend walking in the light at nite if your scared also use a nite light && if there is a place thats dark just run through it really quick and constantly remind yourself that there not there or they arent going to hurt you ♥

Q: SORRY ITS LONG i think im becoming anorexic because i never eat and well i eat but not alot.Yesterday i tryed to throwup on purpous but i couldt.Im scared for myself also iv been getting depressed latly and thinking about cutting i used to cut but i stoped because one of my ex friends told the school. I would never kill myself because i dont want to go to hell. After i cut myself i always feel so bad but i think i just feel that way because i dont want to get caught again.Boys and girls are always saying how hott i am but i dont think i am.I think im fat and ugly and i hate myself.It started around the time i started going out with my boyfriend.I cant brakeup with him because hes suacidel and i like him a real lot also he says i love you to me and i need to hear it.I need help! i need someone to talk to.DONT say my mom and dad because my mom has a deadly sickness and they have unuff stress and i dont realy trust any of my friends because i dont want them to tell like befor.Ohh ya i love to get hurt because i love the Sympathy and so i make when ever has happened worce. THANXS

you have a lot going on maybe you shoulf ask you parents to see a physiatrist [ i know i suck at spelling ] or if you have any brothers or sisters you can talk to them.. and if none of that works you can talk to me because ive been through most of that i went to a mental hospital for three weeks the whole school knew that i did i cant throw up
&& i get way to hungry so just come talk to me if you have a screen name IM me at risktakerx3 on AIM ♥

Q: i think i have anger problems... yesterday, i got mad at my parents and i dug my nails into the palm of my left hand until it bled. now there is a huge chunk of skin out of my left hand. I am a cutter. I cut when i get depressed. any idea of what to do when i get mad other than drawing blood? i dont want to go see a doctor... because my parents dont think i have problems.

ok listen you do have a problem but its okay.. because i have had the same but now to deal with it i close my eyes think of gripping a knife and make the motions of cutting it gives me an adrenaline rush wich is what i got out of cutting but it doesnt leave any scars ♥

Q: Alright. So i think i might sort of have a problem. A while ago (this year though) I started kind of cutting myself, but i didnt think of it as cutting. I didnt actually use a knife so i didnt think it was cutting. I just scratched my self w/ something sort of sharp, until i started bleeding. I did it twice the first time, and then the next time three smaller ones, and then the third time one small & one normal one. But their on my arm where a cutter would cut. And i think people think i'm trying to look like i cut, so i havent yet, and even though i'm not planning on doing it again, if i do i'm just gonna do it on my ankles.. But is that really considering cutting anyways? i mean its not like w/ a knife. When i told one of my like good guy friends about it i was bawling, i felt like a disappointment to him (hes sort of like a brother) and i didnt know what to do, i felt like it was a mistake to tell him But he said its better then lying to him. now we like barly talk & our relationship has started to become distant, but i dont know if its all for that reason. i feel stupid for doing it & i feel like the few people that know, judge me because of it. it really is stupid and i know it, and i really dont even know why i do it. Its not like i do it b/c i cant control my anger, but it does help, like instead of freaking out its easier for me to just do this, and then as i do it i think about what happens. But now i have scars, and seriously i'm embarrassed by them. A few people can tell that i cut myself, other people like my sister fool around & like joke & say that it looks like i did, but i just say that i like fell into a fence, and stupid stuff like that. PLEASE HELP ME. i seriously dont know what to do.

it is concidered that i used to no matter what its still cutting just explain to your friend you didnt mean to dissapoint him and i highly recommend you dont tell many people that you did because stuff like that spreads VERY fast && people can and will make fun of you for no reason.. it happened to me ♥

Q: For the past few months, I've been feeling sad very often. I'm 15, female, and I guess I feel sort of alone. I constantly think about death, how I don't have many good friends, and how I don't have anything I really need to be happy.

I'm also on a diet, I've lost 20 pounds, because I think I need to be skinnier.

I guess what I'm asking is, am I depressed? And do I need some sort of help? My mom knows how I feel and she is always lecturing me about it. I just want to know what I can do to not feel this way.

i think you should go to a therapist just to make sure you dont have depression or borderline personality disorder ♥

Q: I think that I need a psychiatrist. I know that I do, I feel very depressed and I cut myself. My mom sees a psychiatrist. I'm just afraid of asking my mom and dad (they are divorced, so I can't sit them down together) if I can go to a therapist. I was wondering of anyone knew any ways of bringing it up or any suggestions of how to talk about it. I'm uncomfortable bringing it up and I really don't want my parents to know how depressed and frightend I feel. If you have any ideas I would really appreciate it.

Walk up to her take a deep breath clear your mind and say mom i need to see a psychiatrist most likely she will either totally understand & get you help right away or she will want to talk to you about it and in that case just state the truth so that she will understand whats going on - hope i helped ♥

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My name is Jessica ; i have brown hair, but i died it reddish ; I love my friends: ; my best friend is hailey mattson, idk what i would do without her. ; i love pink & green & black ; I love Hanging out with friends & Shopping ; i make mistakes. ; i have regrets. ; i hate being alone. ; i can't go a day without spilling something on myself. ; i hate school. ; i never call anyone back. ; i don't like being wrong. ; im a huge procrastinator. ; i act a lot smarter than i actually am. ; i hate being ignored. ; i cry. ; im shy. ; i can't start a conversation with anyone. ; i have enemies. ; i can't sing, but i try anyways ; i'm horribly uncoordinated. ; i laugh way too loud. ; i can't look anyone in the eye. ; many things just seem to get to me. ; i get annoyed easily. ; i'm not even close to perfect. ; i cut. ; i dont know how to deal with problems. ; i have low self esteem. ; i've been in two mental hospitals. ; i love the movies not like everyone else , augusta gone , && odd girl out. ; i'm such a sucker for lifetime movies ; i like the religion wicca.