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Hey, I'm Brianna. I'm 18 years old. I like giving advice. I won't give you any of that petty advice like "look at the bright side." I mean really, that's wack. I hate when people tell me that. I'm here to try and help you with any of your problems. I'll give you honest advice that hopefully will get you on the path that leads to the right decision. I'm not going to sugarcoat anything. I'm going to give you straight advice. It might not be what you want to hear, but that's advice. Take it or leave it, it's totally up to you. I sign on everyday, usually a few times. So come on, drop questions into my inbox! I try my best to always get back to you within a few hours. Don't be shy, everyone needs a point in the right direction every once in awhile. :D
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for awhile and have not had any kind of sex. I am now getting more and more comfortable every time I hangout with him. We have been talking about having oral sex for awhile but im just soo nervous. How do I get passed my nerves? I need help! I have only done this once and I was drunk. He has had alot of experience and I havent had any. Maybe thats why im scared. I dont know I just need some serious help!
If you are not ready to have oral sex, then you are not ready. Or if you feel as if you are not ready then you are not ready. If you are scared/nervous, that is understandable but then you shouldn't do it. Your boyfriend should understand. If he doesn't understand, then that's something to think about. You only did it once and you were drunk, I'm guessing that if you weren't drunk you wouldn't of done it because you weren't ready or scared.
Like you say in your topic, you are scared to have oral sex with your boyfriend. If you are scared then don't do it. You might end up regretting it later. I would advise you not to have oral sex with your boyfriend since you are scared. Your boyfriend should respect your feelings and your answer.
Hope I helped
xoxo,
Brianna
hi im sandra female and im 17 i just got a boyfriend today and how do i act near him or around him
Just act yourself. Guys don't like it when a girl doesn't act themselves/fake. Just be yourself. Flirt with him and hold his hand. He is your boyfriend so obviously he likes you for who you are. Just continue being yourself!
Hope I Helped
xoxo,
Brianna
There's this guy named Airronn. I've known him for 3 yrs and we dated a couple times, but i broke up with him because he was cheating. The last time I broke up with him I told him it was his last chance with me and he'll never get another one. Now he's calling me all the time and begging to get back with me and wants to know who called me and told me he was cheating and i dont know what to do anymore. I still love him, but I really dont want to get hurt again =( HELP ME!!!
To me the answer is obvious. You guys dated and you broke up with him because he cheated on you. You told him that it was his last chance and that he'll never get another one. You need to stick by that. You don't want to get hurt again, so don't date him again. Chances are he will do something again that will hurt you. Do you really want to go through all the pain again? You need to stick with the decision that you told him. Yes, you may still love him but do you love him enough to get hurt by him again? I know this is a cliche saying but, there are plenty more fish in the sea. Don't stick with the guy who cheats on you and hurts you. He may only be calling you and begging you to get back with him, to see if you are going to stick with what you said or because guys always want what they can't have. He knows that since you said he will never get another chance, that he can't have you. Stick with that. Good luck. If you need anymore else, drop it in my inbox. :)
Hope I helped
xoxo,
Brianna
13/m
OK so last Thursday i went to the movies with my girlfriend and another one of her friends and i asked her if she wanted to do something again this weekend but im not sure if she wants to go to the movies again so what are some things we could do. we live in a small city but not anything with huge skyscrapers and like 10 giant shopping centers just one small one which sucks cause theres hardly anything to do.
so im looking for just any help at all thanks alot
*-Take her to the lake
*-Take her on a picnic
*-Watch movies at your house/her house
*-Take her out to dinner
*-Make her dinner
*-Go mini golfing
*-Get a group of people and go bowling
Hope I helped
xoxo,
Brianna
So i was dating this girl for like the last 3 weeks right? we went on like ten dates and we got really close. last thursday i took her out to lunch paid the bill, gave her a ride, made small talk and all that good stuff. We went to the park after and she told me that i made her crazy and she was starting to really like me... the next day when i textedd her she responded with the one word text messages, which she normally doesn't do, and like after the third message stopped talking to me. She won't return calls or text me anymore.. she just left today for honduras with her church. i dunno what happened, but maybe you could help? should i get over her and move on? or should i try to like "get her back"
Thanks
It's obvious that you did absolutly nothing wrong. You seem very sweet and any girl would feel special after a day like that.
Maybe she answered you with one words because she is starting to really like you (like she said) and since she is was leaving for Honduras she didn't want to start anything special just yet. I would ask her why she won't talk to you anymore and why she is acting this way. I don't know if you can ask her while she is away, but when she comes back I would definitely ask her why she is acting the way she is.
It depends on how long she is going to be gone. If it's only for a few weeks then I would just wait it out and not get over her completely and when she gets home, ask her why she is/was acting strangely. Don't text her or call her to ask because it's easy to just ignore a text/a phone call. Go over to her house and ask her in person. If she doesn't give you an answer or still acts strangely about it, ask her why she said that she started liking you and then she just ignores you. If she still doesn't really say anything, I would move on. You deserve a girl that will appreciate you.
But if it's going to be a few months then I wouldn't wait around for her. You might miss a chance with a girl who is really something special. Waiting for someone is like waiting for rain in a drought, useless and disappointing.
In the end, it's really up to you. It's your decision. It just seems really strange to me that the day after you hung out she just stopped talking to you/texting you/answering your phone calls.
Inbox me if you need anymore help on this, I'll be glad to help you, or any other situation for that matter. If it's meant to be, it will happen. You can't fight fate, whatever happens, happens. I know it's cliche, but it's the truth. Good luck. :)
Hope I helped
xoxo,
Brianna
I like this person and he is all about just having me as a friend with bennifet.. I had sex with him once and he said it was ok. I dont think he is going to come around again. I really do like him but I dont think I am his type because he is into the skinny weman. I am thick.. I would want some type of a relactionship with him. Is there something I can do to get his attenction?? I know by writting this it is very stupid of me to like something like this but I know I would be good for him but he doesnt see it.
This guy is obviously a jerk. Only wanting to be friends with benefits and telling you that the sex was just 'ok.' I'd stay away from him. You don't need to be with a guy who doesn't appreciate you. I was in the same position, the guy I reallly liked only wanted to be friends with benefits and it sucked because I wanted to be more than that. But I had to stop talking to him because I just liked him more and more everytime we hung out. You have to try and stop liking him because you'll end up getting hurt. If he is trying to be friends with benefits to you, he is probably being friends with benefits to other girls and that's just going to hurt you. No girl likes to see the guy they like hang out with other girls and hear about them doing stuff with other girls. So my advice: stay away from him.
Do you really like him or do you just like the fact that he is there, avaiable? There are plenty of other guys out there that will like you for who you are. No matter if you are skinny or thick. That shouldn't matter. If a guy likes you, he will like you, mo matter your size. Hang in there and the right guy will come around. I'd stay away from this jerk.
Don't do friends with benefits with him. You don't want to get pregnant or get an STD or be known as someone who does friends with benefits.
You seem like a beautiful girl on the inside and out and the right guy will come around and notice that. You just got to be true to yourself.
Hope I helped
xoxo,
Brianna
so does anyone know of any good HEART BROKEN songs. well this is what happend this guy and i were in love but then he was also a flirt and it hurt me so i broke up with him, not wanting to because im inlove with him and still am, and hes over me now. but music seems to help me get through. so any good songs that are like i love you but im not coming back type?
thanks :)
*-7 Things- Miley Cyrus
*-Always Be My Baby- Mariah Carey
*-Come On Get Higher- Matt Nathanson
*-Don't Forget- Demi Lovato
*-Have You Ever- Brandy
*-I'll Never Get Over You Getting Over Me- Expose
*-Probably Wouldn't Be This Way- LeAnn Rimes
*-P.S. (I'm Still Not Over You)- Rihanna
*-Tattoo- Jordin Sparks
*-The Right Kind Of Wrong- LeAnn Rimes
*-Unbelievable- Kaci Brown
*-Whatever It Takes- Lifehouse
*-What Hurts The Most- Rascal Flatts
Hope I Helped
xoxo,
Brianna
I go to an all-girl school, so, naturally, this makes it a tad harder to meet guys. This still doesn't make it normal that I know no guys because every girl I know talks about guys, guys, and more guys.
Anyway, I have issues with friends. We don't hang out on the weekends because they don't invite me and I feel unwanted. So, people often offer the advice "Meet a guy through your girl friends!" It doesn't apply here because I really don't have real girl friends.
The thing is, I feel so damn empty and I really can't stand it. I don't know where to meet a guy. I don't even know how to make friends. And to top this all off, I am really overweight. I mean really, I could lose 100 lbs and be normal weight, or slightly underweight.
I know that a guy will not make me feel less empty and another person cannot solve my problems, but I feel like I don't know what to do and even if I found solutions, I wouldn't know how to pursue them.
My main question is: Where can I meet guys?
And how can I not repel them?
You can meet guys just about anywhere. At the mall, around your neighborhood, etc. Just go up and start a conversation with them. If you have any cousins you can hang out with them and their group of girl/guy friends on the weekends. You just have to have faith. They are out there.
Just be yourself! Thats all you need to be. Don't be someone your not. Dress cute but in your own style. Give them eye-contact when you talk to them, smile, make them laugh. But most of all be yourself. Thats all you can really do! Good luck!
If you need any more advice on this subject or anything else, inbox me! :)
Hope I helped
xoxo,
Brianna
what are some really cute love songs ?
I'll Be- Edwin McCain
I Could Not Ask For More- Edwin McCain
Amazed- Lonestar
I Don't Want to Miss A Thing- Aerosmith
Babylove- Nicole Scherzinger
All My Life- KC and JoJo
I Got You Babe- Sonny and Cher
The Way You Love Me- Faith Hill
Just Breathe- Faith Hill
Forever And Always- Shania Twain
You're Still The One- Shania Twain
I Love You- Martina McBride
How Do I Live- LeAnn Rimes
Truly, Madly, Deeply- Savage Garden
Everything I Do, I Do It For You- Bryan Adams
For You I Will- Monica
For You I Will- Teddy Geiger
Because You Loved Me- Celine Dion
and you can always google some. :D
Hope I helped
xoxo,
Brianna
i have this crush he is considered to be a bad boy.i really like him but i don't know if he likes me i don't even thinks he knows my name.how do i find out if he likes me and how can i start a conversation with him?(13/f)
Well, first off if he is a bad boy then you should stay away from him. Bad boys are bad news and most end up not caring about you. I know from experience.
But if you really want to try and get to know him then the most you can do is just the next time you see him is go up to him and say "hi" and take it from there. Good luck!
Hope I helped
xoxo,
Brianna
does anyone know any songs that are about a break up under the category of:
1. The person cheated on you
2. Breaking up and being confident to find someone else
3. Breaking up and knowing your ex made the mistake and won't find someone else
thank you!
Should of Said No- Taylor Swift
Before He Cheats- Carrie Underwood
Lips of An Angel- Hinder
I Can Do Better- Avril Lavigne
F**k it (Dirty)- Eamon
F.U.R.B- Frankee
Hope I helped
xoxo,
Brianna
Hi!!( This question might be long...SORRY!!)
Okay, well I just recently talked to my boy friend from when I was like...6 or 7. lol We didn't really call each other ... but we were!! His name is Andrew...and than he was very shy,I think he still is to.Our mothers worked together and they became real close friends. So, we met each other...and we seen each other SO MUCH...than he started to like me..and so on. Well, now I'm 13 1/2 and he's 12. I just talked to him at the end of last month and I started to have those type of feelings for him again. So..I told him I liked him and he said we don't really now each other. Well..I told him we can get to know each other better than we can be more than that maybe, and he agreed. Well... I tried to look him up on myspace...his name on there is just andrew...but I can't find him... would any of you like to try to find him? His last name is Vaughn. If, you find him...please tell!! Also, when I text him during the day he doesn't text back...than I text him back and.it's around 9 or 9:30 he talks to me. So...do you think he doesn't like me?? Is he avoiding me?He acted like it...though he told me that he still has a pic of me and when I asked him if he had a girl friend he said no..than I said I didn't have a boy friend than he said "Cool".. So...what do you people think? Also when my friend and I call him he tells me in a text he doesn't like to talk on the phone...I think he is still shy , or do you think he just wants to talk to me? I gave him my email ...do you think he will email me?? He tells me he doesn't get on the computer much. Well...HOW will we get to know each other unless we talk?? I'm so confused!! Please someone give me some advice!! I'm freaking out!!
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First of all, don't freak out. Calm down and take a breath.
Don't keep texting him or you'll push him away. You don't want to be the "annoying/smothering" girl. If you text him and he doesn't text you back, don't text him again a few hours later. Wait until he text you back.
He might not be avoiding you. But if you want to know, just ask him and tell him that it hurts you when he avoids you. He may have a good reason why he is doing that. He seems shy and might not want to be pressured into a relationship.
Don't continue calling him, especially since he said he doesn't like talking on the phone. You might end up pushing him away.
Give him some space. You did all you could do. Now the ball is in his court. It's up to him this time. Give him time. He'll come around if he wants to get to know you more.
You're 13. There are plenty more guys out there. Don't freak out over one guy.
Also, for myspace. We certainly cannot help you find him. For starters, we don't know him or what he looks like. If you really want to know what his myspace is, just ask him. Maybe you guys can talk on that and get to know eachother more. Even so, you said he doesn't get on the computer a lot so don't fret if he gives you his myspace and doesn't get back to you within a few days.
Hope I helped!
xoxo,
Brianna
well theres this guy and hes really nice but is one of them guys that will pay you out in frount of there friends . he liked me like 7 months ago and i dont want to sound stuck up but i think he still does . about 7 months ago i think i broke his heart and now knowing how it feels i feel so terrible :(. i love flirting with him and he does flirt with me but i dont want anything more ,and i think he does . hes the perfect guy kind, sweet and his mum & family loves me . what should i do ? im attrachted to him but couldnt see myself kissing him ? i dont want to hurt him again. help?
STOP flirting with him! You say you don't want to hurt him again. Then stop flirting with him. It's leading him on and that's not fair to him. If you are attracted to him but you can't see yourself kissing him then it's most likely a best friend/really close friend attraction or you see him as a brother.
If you know how it feels to have your heart broken then don't keep flirting with him. Leading someone on is one of the worst things to do.
Tell him that you only see him as a friend. That may hurt him but it won't hurt as bad as you leading him on.
Hope I helped.
xoxo,
Brianna