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♥ My name is Kelly. I`m 17 years old. I live in a small town in Arizona. I`m a born and raised Christian. I love God, my family, and my friends. I have been through alot throughout my teenage years like from boyfriends, girl drama, loosing mediate family members, moving all the way across the country, starting new schools - making new friends! You can ask me ANYTHING and I will try my hardest to answer your questions. Please, don`t ask stupid questions because i will give you a stupid answer back. You can also email me at xstarbrightbabix@yahoo.com, IM me at xostarbrightbaby, Or my quote site. link is on the right module. =]

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(female,15) ok so i have this bf and we've been going out forever. but id like him anymore, but i still wanna stay friends w/ him. But he likes me SOOOOOO much. I wanted to wait till summer cuz if we break up now it kinda ruins our other group of friends and we won't b able to hang out w/ them and i won't b able to hang out over the summer. so should i just wait till summer to break up w/ him nicely or just get it over w/?

Tell him you want to take a "break" from the relationship & then if things don`t change then break up with him as soon as you feel you need too. You shouldn`t lie to him and you should be completely honest with him. I`m sure he will still want to be friends after you break up. So I wouldn`t worry about loosing friends over it. hope things work out for you. ♥

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ok so there is this guy that i have dated for a long time and we ended up breaking up but the thing is i still love him
he has a new girlfriend and everything
and i dont know what to do
i have a boyfriend too but idk if im happy with him
i just hate being alone!
PLEASE HELP

If you really don`t have feeling for your current boyfriend .. then don`t be with him. You may not be ready for a relationship just yet and until your heart knows your ready then you are. Trying to get over an ex and then having to deal with the fact he has a new girlfriend it`s hard, I`ve been there. But you have to realize if you`re still truely had feelings he wouldn`t be with. Everything happens for a reason and something aren`t meant to be. ♥

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ok so i liked one of my guy friends who was alway there for me when i needed him, but after things fizzled out between us we went through a period where we didnt talk to eachother at all and if we talked we wouldnt have anything to say to eachother. i was mad at him for moving on and i think he was to scared to to confront me on it or something. Well its been like 4 months and we are finally starting to talk again and now i am confused. We are friends and that is all we will be but i feel like if i go back to spending the time with him i might start having feeling for him again and i dont want that. But they have already started but the problem is i dont know if i still like him or if i just miss him being there to always help me and protect me like he was before?! help!

Thanks

I know exactly how you feel and i`m going through the same thing you are right now. I`m not really sure if I can help you but I think you should talk to him. Let him know how you feel and see how he feels. That way he understands. Even though it may be hard, give it time. If you realize it`s too hard let him know and try to stop talking to him. As much as you think it will make you happier to be with him, your getting your heart broken even more. Maybe over time you can try the bf/gf relationship again. Since i`m not sure what happend between you guys, there might still be a possibility he still has feelings for you. Hope this helps. ♥

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im 13.i went to 3rd.is this slutty?

Everyone will have their own opinion about this. I think that you are way to young to be doing that but if you did it with someone you care about and they do back then it`s ok. Most girls don`t see they are being used and you have to be able to trust the guy. ♥

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ok sooo heres the deal. my boyfriend is amazing and i like him a lot. but hes just really shy. im so jealous of my friends and their boyfriends because their boyfriends always will come up out of no where and kiss them or just simply put their arm around them for no reason, but my boyfriend is always really shy and kinda stays away from me when his friends are around. i want him to know that i wont act all weird if he randomly comes up and hugs me or grabs my hand or whatever and that i'll like it. but i mean how do i do this? should i simply just come out and tell him or drop hints? or is there a better way? im just not even sure if he really likes me anymore and if he doesnt act like it then i just might wanna break up with him because then its just not gonna work ever. so help, pleaseee! thanksss

Maybe he`s not comfortable with you yet. Try hanging out with him alone more at home and get to know eachother. If he doesn`t do it after awhile try to do stuff like that to him. And if he still doesn`t, sit him down and ask him about your relationship. I`m sure it will help your relationship. ♥

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i have an amazing boyfriend. okay, but i don't like saying "i love you" to someone RIGHT AWAY (we've only been going out for 4 days). this is because my LAST boyfriend was a complete asshole who used me & would ALWAYS tell me he loved me(he was lying) only to get "some" from me. i really, really like my new boyfriend, but the thing is..i guess i'm SCARED to say "i love you". he hasn't said that to me, like when we talk or anything, but once online, he 'im-ed me saying "love you" right before i signed off & i didn't reply.
please help =/ what do i say to him if i'm not ready to say "i love you"?

When he says it next time just tell him something like your sorry but you`re not ready to say that & you really do have strong feelings for him. It`s better you don`t say it if you truely don`t feel that way - & tell him that. It`s good to know he treats you better and cares about you than you`re ex boyfriend did and i`m sure over time you`ll be ready to tell him. :) Hope this helps & good luck. ♥

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i'm fifteen; my boyfriend was over the other day and we were downstairs in the basement. the furnace is down there and it makes a lot of noise, so we make sure that we don't "do things" while it's running because we can't hear if someone is coming down the stairs. well, my boyfriend was kissing my neck when my mom came down (and we couldn't hear her because of the furnace). she saw him and now dislikes him a lot. i don't know what to do to get her to like him again and allow him to come over and go in the basement with me. and i can't just go to his house because he hates it and refuses to invite me there. help!!

You really should try talking to your mom. Tell her that`s all you were doing & she happend to come down at the wrong time. Try to see if your mom will let him come over for dinner/visit one night and try to get to know him better. And make an agreement that you will stay in the family/living room for a while to build back up her trust. If she still doesn`t budge then try to hang out with him somewhere else, like the mall for awhile. I`m sure your mom will come around. Hope this helps. ♥

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okay... so im 13 and my boyfriend just turned 14 he want to do setain thing that im afraid if i do i will get pregnant but the thing is i havent started my period so do think i will get pregant if i havent started my period.

Yes you can get pregnant, because you can start your period soon. You are way to young to be having sex. Think of the consequences. ♥

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okay so

im 14/f
theres this guy at school that i really like. i flirt with him all the time, and it seems like he flirts back. i really like him but i know he doesnt like me. what should i do? i really want to go out with him and i really want him to like me. and dont say anything like "wear cooler clothes" or anything like that, becuase i dont want to be anything but me.

please help me!!

Since you didn`t give an age for him, I`m guessing he`s older than you. First, try to talk to him (not really flirting). Get to know him as a friend. If he doesn`t seem interested in you then maybe he`s wanting more. Give it awhile and see how things go. Hope this helps. ♥

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basically i like this guy who has a new girlfriend and he just found out i like him and he likes me too..but he has a girlfriend

i dont want to be the kind of girl who breaks people up but how do i make him see im the better choice? sorry if that sounded conceited.

if you watch the oc, im looking for something along the lines of seth declaring his love for summer on top of a coffee cart kind of thing. something brave.

i want to show him he means something to me.

ideas?

If you know for sure he likes you like that then talk to him. Try to hint to him that if he does like you then he should end things with the other girl by telling her "he doesnt like her that way". You don`t want to be the one getting in between or being the other "girl" and him cheating on his girlfriend with you. You might not have to go all out telling him you`re the better choice, just wait for awhile until he does the right decision. Hope this helps. ♥

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hey.


so theres this boy..
and i like him a lot and i have liked him for a really long time..and this summer we hung out a lot and had a boyfriend and girlfriend type of relationship..but we weren't going out.

then he completley stopped talking to me and is kind of mean to me and now he really likes this other girl..

and i was just wondering if you can give me any advice on how to get over him because i really, really want to..because i'm just so emotionally hurt..

thank you so, so much! ♥

First, you need to tell yourself you deserve so much better and he`s a jerk for doing that to you. Try to go out & meet other guys and do things you enjoy doing - keeping yourself distracted & happy. Don`t go back to him because he might hurt you again. Even if you can`t find a new guy, wait for the right one to come. :) ♥

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Hi, well.... me and my boyfriend have been going out for 8 months. it's been great. except he had sex with another girl, and that bugs me. Then, we were talking last night... and i was joking and asking aboug if he fingured or gave oral to her.. and he said yes to both i couldn't believe it! What if that girl had a STD or something? I mean.. I was really upset.. so then I asked would you of told me if I hadn't asked you about having sex with the other girl.. and he said I don't know... because he didn't tell me about oral or fingering.... which i would obviously tell someone because the person you're going out with has a right to know... why can't I get over everything and put it in his past and leave it there? Why does it bug me so much? What do I do? My age is 15 and gender is female it said you have t o say that

It happend in the past and if he doesn`t talk to her anymore then you shouldn`t feel jealous. Just because he did those things to her doesn`t mean she has an STD or something. If he had sex while you two were together and cheated on you.. then you need to get rid of him. It`s good to know who his partners are/were. But if you feel like you want to be safe, have him tested if you are currently sexually active. When he`s done with test you will probally feel ALOT better. Hope this helps. ♥

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i'm a female and i am 16 and the guy is in a grade above me. ok so this guy and i met through my ex boyfriend and hung out a lot and then we were in the same drivers ed class and kinda spent a lot of time together. Then i started liking him. i was close friends with my ex and all his other friends so we kept hangin out and stuff and i guess you can say we had a thing for awhile, but then on halloween he went to a party and started liking this other girl and for awhile he thought he could do both but then gave up on what we had. the girl doesnt like him but they spend a lot of time together and they are going to prom, even though she wanted to go with someone else. We barley talk now and when we do we can barley have a conversation. i try but he puts not effort with those pathetic one word answers. Should i still be mad or should i try to give him another chance, even though it doesnt seem like thats what he wants people say it is?.

If he`s barely talking to you, then he doesn`t deserve a second chance. If he started to like another girl then maybe he`s just a player. Give it time, try to talk to him again and see if things can change between you two again like before. But if he`s not making an effort, move on & get over it him cause you deserve better. ♥

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okay...i was reading through the posts and i saw the one about the ten year old girl who's boyfriend wanted to have sex with her. call me crazy, but i find that very disturbing. at 10, sure, i had a crush on a guy, but i mean come on. 5th grade?! nothing like that should happen. am i stupid to think this or do you agree?

I totally agree with you. I had a crush in fifth grade too & never though about sex/drugs/drinking. But because society has changed younger kids minds to think it`s ok & will make them cooler they do stupid things. I just hope parents see the reality and set the kids minds straight & talk to them about the problems. ♥

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well i was starting to like guy cause we were talking all the time and then he asked me for a picture of my.. yeah and i said no thne he got all crazy on me and started calling me prude and telling me he would never want to be with someone like me. im like okay i dont rly care anymore what you think then yesterday when i woke up i had a text msg on my phone and was like ilove you and always will. i know hes trying to get action. what do i do.

He`s trying to use you. Be smart and walk away from him. No matter how times he keeps begging for you back. You deserve better. ♥

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I like this kid paul and he likes me back, but we aren't going out. what are things i can do to get him to like me more and ask me out?

Try to let him get to know you more. Hang out, something you both have in common, hint about going on a date. If he doesn`t end up asking you out soon then ask him. :) ♥

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im debating whether i should break up with my boyfriend i think we would be better of as friends...but the thing is hes a great kisser!!! What should i do??

You could try to take a break, see how your feelings are. But if you don`t have feelings like that for him anymore then maybe you should break up with him. I wouldn`t suggest friends with benefits because well someone always gets hurt in one of those relationships. Hope things work out. ♥

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okayy so im a sophomore and i really like this boy and im pretty sure he likes me back.. the only thing is that he's a freshman. I'm not sure i want to date a freshman so im scared that he's going to ask me out and i wont know how to handle it =/
At my school..its weird to date younger guys..espescially freshman.

i have however seen senior girls dat junior guys.

if he does end up asking me out..what do i do?? Do you think i should wait till hes a sophomore and im a junior? or should i just skip dating him all together...
15/f

Age doesn`t matter. Who cares what others think. If you guys like eachother then go out. Or atleast give it a chance. Hope this helps. :) ♥

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Whats the different between lust and love? How do you know if youre just "lusting" someone?

Lust is having only a physical attraction to someone. Love is having strong feelings for them although lust can be involved in it. ♥

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help im 10 and my bf wants to have sex with me!

i dont want to but he does he says we're ready

weve been going out for a year and he says its times

hes 11

HELP

woah. since your not ready you tell him no and break up with his stupid ass cause hes probally going to try to use you. does he even know what it is?

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