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lust and love.
Whats the different between lust and love? How do you know if youre just "lusting" someone?
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I'm glad you asked this question, actually. So many people (usually teenagers) confuse the two words.
Lust is, in a nutshell, physical attraction. An example is if you're walking down the street and you see someone really, really good-looking. You turn to your friend and say, "Wow, that guy/girl is really hot!" One night stands and random hook-ups are almost always based on lust.
Love is the strongest emotion a person can feel or express. A lot of people say that it's impossible to explain, in words, what love feels like and what it does to a person. I'll try to explain it.
Love is caring for someone, inside and out. While lust is entirely superficial, love is the opposite. Of course, you can be physically attracted to someone and still love them, but love is more than that. It means knowing someone, the good and the bad, and accepting and caring for them. A lot of people who are in love would lay down their lives for that loved one.
I don't know if you're a Christian or not, and I'm not trying to shove any Christian beliefs down your throat or anything, but the verses from 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 describe love pretty well; a lot better than I can. Here they are:
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails."
Just because you aren't in love with someone, doesn't mean that you're "lusting" for them. You can like someone, personality and all, but not love them or JUST be "lusting" for them. Chances are, you'll like most of the people you date, but you won't fall in love with all of them.
Love is stronger than lust. For instance, imagine there are two people in a fire: One of them was very good-looking, and the other was your boyfriend/girlfriend of a year. (You didn't specify your gender, so I don't know which one you would have.) Which would you save first: the lover, or the hot guy/girl?
That's just a way of distinguishing the two emotions, and to show you the strength of true love.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders
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Lust is just physical attraction. You can lust for someone when you first meet them. It's just wanting to fool around and talk and thats it. nothing real.
love is the real stuff, kissing cuddling, falling in love. The emotional bond is much stronger than the physical.
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Lust is having y physical feelings - like getting turned on,horny etc.Love is basically life!Strong feelings, romanric kissess - not "snogging" if you get what I mean.
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Lust is having only a physical attraction to someone. Love is having strong feelings for them although lust can be involved in it. ♥
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i never really meant to specify that you were directing it towards you nor did i say you liked anyone one i was using you as a substitute for the person thats how i talk. and if there was a direct definition i guess you could look it up in the dictionary. no person can give you a direct definition because everyones diffrent. when you know oh im sorry when the person knows then the person know and there is no qquestioning thats just it.
when you have to ask or question wheter your lusting or loving thats usually a red flag that your lusting.if it was love it would just click in and you would know and you wouldnt have to ask. so when you dont have to ask the question is it lust or love then its usually love.
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Loving someone is when you actually adn truly care about them as a person. Lusting over someone is when you only like them because of vain reasons like looks. If you think youre lusting over someone ask yourself, would I still like them if they weren't as hott? Usually if you love them, you want to talk to them and just be around them. If it's just lust, you want them. Like you're always thinking about them in sexual ways.
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Lust is only about one thing... And you only think about that one thing being the best thing abotu them for example someones looks, if you couldnt stand soemone if they didnt look the way they do thats not love. Love is you like everything about them!
Hope that helps
--Syd
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