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Q: hey ummm this might be long.... ok this guy i really like asked me if i wanted to lose my virginity to him....and i was like asking him questions like if we would ever go out and he said he didnt know maybe.... and he also doesnt want anyone to know about it...which i can see that to because i dont want it getting around school either but i have the feeling that he doesnt like me and he just wants to lose his virginity....but i dont know. and like after we talked about doing it around his birthday and then like all of a sudden he asks my best friend out and im like OMG... and they went out for a couple of days........ but i havent talked to him about it anymore because i havent got the chance to... but i dont think he likes me anymore... so does anyone have any advice?
--->confused

don't do it girl! its not worth it and don't you want your first time to be beautiful and magical and special? he's just looking for some goodies and i think you would be very ignorant if you did do that with him.

Q: Listen, I switched churches, and I met this really hot blonde girl there. We hung out at a lock-in, and it felt like she was totally digging me. That happened about 3-4 months ago. I talked about her on my xanga, and she pretty much rejected me without me asking. We talked off and on, and we recently started talking on the phone. She apparently thought I was going to ask her out, and we got into this conversation about the whole thing, and she basically told me to wait. Then on her xanga she said that she just flirts a lot and not to be led on. I still feel like there's something there though, or maybe its just me wanted to get with her. I really need helpt with this. Do I purssue? Or do I wait? I just have no idea what to do.

I personally think you should wait. If you ask her out and she rejects you, then it will embarassing for the both of you. Luckily, you guys still talk on the phone. That is a good sign. Hopefully, more will come out from that.

Q: I like the most popular guy in school. It really sucks because obviously he won't ask me out. What do I do? I mean we flirt a lot and he constantly stares at me in the one class we have together but you know how shallow middle schoolers are. Helppp.

Well, you should try making the first move. If not, probably nothing will happen. But, make sure yoi are reading him correctly,Does he use your name alot, does he smile at you, does he say hi in the hallways? If not then i think you guys have some more work to do. Try to talk to him more, but not too much or you will scare him.
Good luck!

Q: So there's this guy that I'm best friends with. And we've been friends since 4th grade, so we know each other really well. Well, I like him. A lot. I really want to go out with him. Last night at the school dance we slow danced together and now everyone thinks we're going out. And I could tell he enjoyed dancing with me. I mean I would just ask him out but there's more. Two of my other friends like him. One likes him a lot and I'm afarid to tell her I like him (even though she was one of the people that got us to dance). The other one only likes him a little and knows I like him, and, frankly, doesn't care (as in she wouldn't be mad if we went out). But I still don't want anyone to be mad at me. What do I do? Thanks.

OMG! The same thing happened to my friend!!! [haha i wonder why ]

So you should so ask him out! like on monday like soon!!!!! If you are to shy to then umm me and kik can do it cuase like kik and i are in his homeroom and kik is like his biffle so yea. Please do it!!

Q: Heyy. There is this guy that i REALLY like, but i'm too scared to talk to him and i have no idea what to say. He's not in any of my classes, i only see him in the hallway. Some of my friends say they think he likes me because he blushes sometimes when he sees me and stares and me sometimes, but he is really shy too so he wont talk to me. I want to say something to him and maybe become friends. but i dont want it to be ackward. Please help. ♥

Why don't you get his screenname and talk to him online. To make it less awkward you and your friends could start a big chat room and invite him in. Just start talking to him more, like simple conversations. And when you see him in the hallway, smile at him or say hi. Soon you guys will become friends and maybe he will ask you out. good luck!

Q: Well, I don't mean to sound conceited but a lot of people come up to me and say they like me, but it's always these guy's friends that like me. Is there something wrong with me that the guy who likes me can't come up to me and say it himself? Why is it always their friends?

They are probably shy to do it themself. They like you alot but they are worried about you rejecting them so they send their friends to do it. A lot of pwoplw in my school do that. As they get older they will probably grow out of it. Hope I helped! ♥

Q: if i realli like this guy is it wrong to ask him out??

It's the 21st centure and I think girls should ask out guys too. Don't be afraid just make it casual and friendly. If he says no , don't get all sad, just say o well thats ok.

It's his loss
Good luck!

Q: 14/f

A couple of nights ago at a school dance, the boy I like and I were getting pretty close. We danced together like the whole time (only fast dancing though). I was asking him about who he liked. I told him to tell me online but he said he was grounded so I'd have to call him to talk. I told him he could just tell me in school. However, now I want to give him my number. But how do I go about doing it? He's not in any of my classes so it may be awkward. Thanks in advanced.

Wow!!!! I was reading this and i was like " hey this sounds like my friend____" and then i was like "holy ****" it is her!" haha

well i think you should get one of your bestest buddies to give him your phonenumber. becuase i we have special connections . luv you!

Q: why would a guy that you're just friends with get mad if you ask about a friend of his? I had just gotten hired at a new store. I found out from my guy friend that another one of his friends got hired at the same company. I asked him what department he got hired in, and if he knew that I was working there as well. Then my friend got angry and said "why do you want to know"? It almost sounded like he was jealous.
Is this a normal reaction? Or does it sound like he's possesive of me, considering that we are just friends.

He probably likes you a lot. That is a normal reaction and he probably wants to make sure you are not interested in his friend.

Q: When a guy says "will you go out with me?"

What are you supposed to say? Just yes?

Were confused!

Thanks in advance!

Say , Yes I'd love to!!!!!!!!

Q: This might be a dumb question, but whenever my boyfriend gets mad about something, or when he is in a bad mood, he always takes it out on me, and he's just in a bad mood so it makes me in a bad mood, and i was just wondering what I should do about it, like is there something that i can do about it to not get so upset about it, or like tell him or anything? I just don't know what to do. The help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks. ♥

Youi should break up with him!! You are to good for him! He might eventually turn abusive. Get yourslef out before it is to late! I bet there are a lot of great guys out there that would treat you right.

Q: my friend is having a problem she is in 7th grade and so am i she got asked out by a 8th grader and she likes him a lot but she doesn't know if she should go out wit him or not some people say he is really weird and everything so can u please help my freind out

She should get to know him better and see what he is like. You shouldnt listen to hwat other people say. He might be really nice.Good luck!

Q: Well, there's this guy at my camp, and all my friends used to say how much he liked me, but nothing happened. Then the next year, (this summer), he told me he liked me, and i liked him, but we haven't talked since summer, cuz he didn't have a sn or an email. Well, now i sorta like this other guy, and all my friends think he likes me, but if he does, i don't know what to do because i still like the guy from camp, but i only see him for like a month out of the year, and i haven't talked to him for months, so by the time i go back to camp, he might not like me anymore, or he might have a girlfriend.

~ So confused!

I tihnk you should go out with the new guy right now, and find out if you really like him. If you don't break up with. If you are still oging out with him durign teh summer when you are at camp and the old guy still likes you then you could go out with both of them, but If you get caought then that woul.d suck a lot. lol

Q: Well ive had a b/f for 11 months now and i do love him or else i wouldnt be so confused....Theres no spark anymore because hes so up my butt lol...He doesnt leave his dark room to hang out with anyone else because he said he might miss my call and he hates everyone because he said he doesnt need friend he only needs me and im only 17 so i dont want a relationship like that. and there is this guy and when ever he flirts with me or even talks to me i get excited.....and smile but i know if i break up with my boyfriend he'll fall hard and cry n stop going to school and do stupid things and i wouldnt be able to handle that! what should i do?

Hey its your life, why should you be unhappy just to please that nerd? Go with the man thats makes you tingle inside! Trust me, you will be 10 times happier! Your ex needs to learn to move on or he won't survive in the real world, he will jsut be stuck in the dark room. ok so thats my advice! good luck

Q: Hi guys,

The reason that I named the subject "my guy =(" is because the name of the man whom I love is Guy. I went out with him shortly before Christmas break and broke up with him the same day because my friends told me repeatedly that he was gay. He is now going out with a girl named Angela, and I'm realizing that everything my friends said was untrue, and that I made a huge mistake. I am mourning my loss right now, and he really loved me, and I don't know if I'm ever going to get him back. Could someone please help me?

-just call me BLUE

OK sooo, you need to tell guy how you feel!!!!!! he probably still likes you a lot and he probably doesn't care about Angela. You should call him, AIM him or even write him a letter. If he is good enoguh for you, then he will take you back. If he doesn't, well then he sucks so find a better hotter guy and make him jealous! lol good luck