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hey! thanks for looking at my advice site! don't be afraid to ask me anything - worst comes to worse i'll just straight up tell you that i don't know the answer (but i'll try to give you advice neway haha)...remember: a different perspective is always helpful :~D !advice
what are some ways to show your significant other that you really care about them thats not sexual or extreme?
tell them!! tell them why they are important to u and what u appreciate about them
Hello all,I'm new to this site and I need advice so I'm hoping you guys on here can be helpful. Here is my story..
Me and this girl (I'll call her Mallory) have been talking for about a month now. She asked me to go with her to her homecoming dance next weekend (we attend different schools). Well,I told her yeah until I found out who was gonna be there. This guy I have alot of beef with will be there,and I know all he's gonna do is start mess and try to get me to fight him. I'm not gonna fight him at the Homecoming dance because I don't wanna get arrested plus that'll just make both of us look low life. Besides that,she goes to a private school which means alot of preppy people will be there. All in all,I really don't want to go,but I already told her yes. What should I do?
ask her if she knows the guy you're talking about and explain that you 2 don't get along 2 well...but that shouldn't make you not want to go ~ just avoid him, and if he comes to u then be like : look, all i'm trying to do is enjoy a dance with my date...
This boy has liked me for a while and he asked me out about 2 weeks ago. I told him I'd give him an answer soon because i needed to think about it. And I really did need to think about it. Well I told him I'd give him an answer by his birthday which is in a few days. I really don't know if I like him or not. I love his personality but he doesnt really have good looks and I dont care wat anyone says, you do need physical attraction in a relationship. Plus he smells kinda weird lol and none of my friends like him. But the big think is I just dont know if I have feelings for him like that AND his birthdays coming up... Wat should I say to him? should I go out with him or not ?
don't go out with him just cuz of his birthday because that's completely fake and dishonest and he'll just fall harder when he falls...it doesn't sound to me like you're comfortable being with him, so just tell him that you've decided you aren't ready for a relationship right now or you have someone else in mind
okay i like this guy and he likes me. well the other day he asked me out and i said yes but 2 days after, were already broken up ! he said he needs to get to know me better and i totally agree no hard feelings there but what i dont get is why cant we get to know each other by going out? i asked y he even bothered to ask me out if he felt like that nd he said "i wanted to at the time, but i think i wanna get to know you better" or does he not want to go out and thats why he said that, but like after that hes like i still like u but i jus wanna get to know u better maybe wen school starts. and the day after i seen him at the movies and i waved and smiled--so did he and i knew i liked him alot. do you think we eventually will go back out ? or do you think he jus doesnt like me even though he said he did ..
since he already knows that you like him and are willing to go out with him, the best thing you can do is be patient and hopefully he'll come around! he may just want going out to be a more gradual thing
how can i tell if my boyfriends wants to kiss me? also, im a lil scared cause ive never kissed anyone beforE!
he might make a comment or even ask you if it's okay, but just be ready if you're ever sitting/standing close to each other...let him make the move, and don't do nething til you're sure he's gonna kiss you so that you don't look stupid...just go with it and you'll be fine - i mean, you've seen enough movies and ppl kissing to kno how to do it! fake confidance and you'll fool everyone into thinking you're experienced!! good luck mwah ;)
Hey. I need some advice and you seem like you like helping people out so here i go:
I'm a sophomore and ever since last year, I have liked this guy in my high school and he has liked me back. However, this guy is a player. He goes out with many girls at the same time. He gets over all of them, yet he's never been able to get over me. He always asks me out and I always refuse him. Who would want to go out with a player and get hurt? He promises me that he'll change. Sadly, I caught him making out with another girl the day after. I was devastated. I sent him a letter that told him how I felt. In it I told him how stupid I felt for liking and caring so much about him for such a long time. I also told him I was sick of lies and false promises. I ended it by saying "don't write back or talk to me anymore...leave me alone, you've hurt me enough." That day I came home and started crying. I should feel better now that it's over, but I don't. The thought that he'll never talk to me again makes me sad. Even though he's broken my heart and played me from the very start, I can't help but keep liking him. Should I talk to him again? Should I keep trying to make "us" work out? Please let me know your honest answer.
it seems to me that it might not be an easy habit for him to break and u'll really have to use your own judgment on whether he's sincere or not but i'd suggest that in order to find out maybe you can be like "if you like me so much, then let's start out as friends but you can't be with other girls if you really want something to happen between us" and move slow - let him kno that if he blows it, it's over!! if he's really into you then he'll be willing to put aside the other girls in order to get you!! good luck
my name is carly and im 13. i really like my friend "bob". over the summer we were like best friends we hung out a lot.. and we went out twice. the first time we were going out he broke up with me cause he thought i liked another guy. so i told him i never liked any other boys a few days after we broke up and we went out again. but the second time we went out things were getting too serious, like he said he was in love with me? and i wasnt ready for that.. i was really scared. so i broke up with him. but now i think i made a mistake. i've hinted around that i like him again and he doesnt even seem to care.. i think i really hurt his feelings. now he doesnt even say hi to me at school or anything.. we even walked out of the door at the same time and neither of us said a word to each other! i havent told very many people but im like crazy about him! im like missing him all the time and i never talk to him cause hes never online anymore. everything reminds me of him too! what should i do? i really need advice so if you could help me out that'd be great!! (sorry this is so long) xoxo -*carlycakes!!
sry this took so long to answer - i was away!!
i understand how him saying he loved you on the second date could be a little much, especially since you're only thirteen!! try tellin him why you reacted the way you did and tell him that you're new to this whole thing...you shouldn't be completely committed to each other at such a young age! move slow ~ start by being friends again...
umm this guy asked me on a date a couple weeks ago but it was like well since we like eachother we should hang out some time and i was like yea and then he was like well i hafta go but i'll ttyl about hookin up and i was like ok . .nd i was like really happy n stuff but he hasnt said anything about it nd like i dont kno if he still likes me bcuz i always have to i.m him and then he'll talk n stuff but like i dont kno it seems like he doesnt and all my friends say to just ask him to the movies or sumthing cuz i realli wanna kno if he still likes me but on the othher hand i really dont wanna get rejected cuz i like thys one a lott . .i need help
-iCEd lAttE x0x
go out with a group of ppl and invite him and if he spends the whole time with you then you'll kno that he likes ya
Hey guys =) I was just wondering if any of you know any sites I can put pictures on, that's free.. anything besides, picturetrail and photobucket. Thanks so much!
snapfish.com
ok well there is this girl, but she has a boyfriend named who knows what. and yet i am totlly in love with her and i don^t know the right words that will influence her to wanna have second thoughts about this guy. i know it is wierd but i am basiclly in love with her. but i am nbot scared to tell her i have told her and it seems that she just kinda well moves subjects when i talk to her.
so i need a way to sit her down and tell her how strong my feelings are for her. cause when i tr all i get is somthin like. " what do u wanna do know" so it is startin to annoy me in a way but the more i see her or talk to her the more love i have for her.
if anyone can help it would be great.
ciao
and thnx
i don't want to hurt your feelings, but if the girl already knows that you like her and hasn't shown interest, then maybe she just doesn't like you...the more you push her the more likely it is that she'll push away.
ok here it goes i really like my best friend but i dont think he likes me and i dont know how to ask him and i don't want my other friends asking him because i don't want them to lie to me to make me feel better and i was just wondering if anybody knew how i could tell if he likes me or not
tell him straight up but let him kno that you r just telling him cuz u want to get it out and that it's okay if he doesn't like u, this way you'll get an honest answer
What's the difference between Taking a break and breaking up! I always saw taking a break as just an easy way of breaking up with someone...like just a nicer way ya know!
it's not officially over yet
Does anyone know any quotes that are about love and her liking him so much and him not liking her at all? I need some for my profile... ANything about love will do! Thanks a bunch!
iLL rate you a 5 for a quote..whether i like it or not lol
it's not my fault i fell for you - you tripped me.
I have a really good friend (thats a guy) and well we have gone out a couple times. And i like him again and he told one of my friends he kinda likes me. i wanna just grab him and kiss him one day but im scared he'll push me away. what should i do.
*female 15*
i always thought it would be really cute to get your message through in a song, but i've never tried it haha like start playing "kiss the girl" from little mermaid next time you're alone! lol *smooch* gl
Alright guys.. I dont want you to think i'm some kind of hoe.. or pervert.. But.. here goes.. I'm starting to have feelings for this kid... I won't mention a name.. But.. hes 15 I think. He's a friend of my sisters. I know he likes me... and I'm 17.. I dont know what to do! someone! Please help me!!
i knew a guy who went out w/ a senior when we are freshman so that was an even bigger difference - i suggest spending more time with him before you make ne moves just to make sure that you do like him instead of worrying about it being an issue beofre you have to...but if you like him then go for it (as long as he's not one of those delayed 15 yr olds who just started puberty lol) ~ just think, in 10 yrs that age difference will be practically nothing
what are some good ideas for gifts for my boyfriend (of 5 months) birthday?
nething related to inside jokes you guys have, clothes from a store he likes, hats if he wears them, a watch if you have some dough lol, cd's he wants ........
ok i have a long distance g/f im talkin outastate ne way i call her alota and she means the world to me i could go on and on about her but there is 1 prob i have only seen 1 pic of her and im not even sure thats her and i prob wont ever see her in person what do i do???
plz get back to me
how can you NEVER plan on seeing someone you are crazy about?? how old are you?? if you're young, then i think you need to stop with the online romance - it's okay to have friends online, but don't let yourself get caught up in it because you'll be missing out on opportunities for g/fs that live near you!!...and if you're older, then don't necessary rule out the thought of ever meeting, it can be done (and should if you are serious about her)
My so called friend i think is only my friend cuz he likes my girlfriend and he even said so, i think there is a chance that she likes him, should i see if she really wants to go with him, or let her know that he really is a jerk or what...?? help please!!
don't encourage your g/f to go out with someone else!! that's crazy lol, if you want to bring the issue up with her, then do it in a way so that she knos you don't want to lose her -- tell him that your friend has his on her, but that you don't want it to come between the two of you....if she wants to break up with you for him, then she will! but don't make her feel like it's okay to do that!
ok, so u hear about these girls who have guys as best friends..well im one of those girls. any ways, brandon os my best guy friend, and i love him..but not like that. well, it turns out he has the biggist crush on me...and he told me he loves me more than anyone else. but the prob. is..is that i just like him as a friend. Hes the sweetest guy a girl culd have..but im just not really ready for a relationship. and hes really hard on himself, and i would do anything to keep from breaking his heart. But if i do end up having feelings for him...i would definatly go out with him. but hes kinda dorky...and i kno i kno it shouldnt matter, but wut if people tried to make fun of us as a couple...so what should i do??
hmm..it seems to me that you DO actually like him but you're letting his reputation (or lack of one) get in the way - look at it this way, one of you has to be the "cooler" or "hotter" one in the relationship, so why can't it be u??
hey! i came to u before with my problem about the girl i have a crush on liking my best friend and i thought u gave some great advice. so i'm coming to u again.
Before I told the girl how i felt, i wanted to clear things up with my best friend first. He told me that he wouldn't make a move on her and that i could have her. I didn't want him to just give her to me, cuz i thought that wouldn't be right. So later i asked him if he would go out with her, and he sed maybe when school starts again (we're freshmen). After he told me that, i went and told the girl just like she asked me to. She went on about how she was so grateful she was that i did that for her and that this was the happiest day of her life and that she has liked my best friend for a long time. After she sed that, i didn't think it was the right time to tell her my feelings. I'm so lost, wut should i do? plz help!
hey, i'm glad to help!
okay, so you obviously kno that this changes things up a little!! i don't think now's the right time to tell her because if you truly like her then you'll want what's best for her and that might be for her to go out with your friend.. and if you do tell her then she'll probably think you're just jealous...also, if she told you that she's liked this guy for a while, then it's probably a sign that she hasn't given as much thought into going out with you as you have about going out with her...i suggest that you let them see how things work out between them, but make sure that your best friend doesn't take advantage of her and always be there for her - do NOT do nething w/ her or tell her once they start going out though (if they do) cuz it'll look like you're backstabbing your best friend -- you never kno, things might not work out between them!! and maybe she hasn't liked you for the plain reason that she never really thought about you that way ~ but if she does start to think about it then something may heat up! lol...if it's inevitable that they're gonna get together, then the best thing you can do is show her that you're a good guy and a good friend! but you seem pretty cool so I think you'll be alright!! if you have any other questions or just wanna talk then leave one in my inbox! ;)