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i was textin` my boyfriend.. and then he had a problem w/ my top at first.. since he was number three.. but he had to understand that no guy can go before my bestestest friend.. and that i couldnt make her number 3 either.. and he didnt care about that, i think.. O.o and then it turns out that he didnt like the person on my top 1.. and stuff like that.. but he doesnt know her well enough to say things about her and all. and then later on he told me that he was going to miami next month for a week, and he said "it wouldnt be any difference.. we never get to see eachother anyways, we can js text." and i was lik` "i see you every week" and he said "haha yeahh.. wait lemme correct that, once a week." and he doesnt understand .. cause i have alot of things to do.. depends on the weather, my sister sometimes cant take me.. and my parents dont like me being w/ him and stuff.. and hes the only person i get to see every week since my friends live kinda far away from me. and then i said "is something bothering you?" and he said "no nothing at all" >.< and he says that hes thinking about the past.. and i told him that hes worrying me. and he said "whys that?" and i told him to reread that he said.. and yannoe what he said? "-_- whatever.." >.< idkk whats going on.. i wanna stop texting because im scared whats going to happen. he says he wouldnt leave me cause he loves me so much.. but idkk >.< im getting scared.. and worried. please help me!!! (link)
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I completely agree no guy should go before your best friend on myspace. I'm the same way. But if you have another guy before him on myspace, thats a different story. I think something is DEFINITELY bothering him, but avoiding him won't help. so I think you should settle everything with him before h leaves for miami. guys usually like to see their girlfriends a lot, maybe he thinks your cheating on him for not seeing him all the time, which is his own security issues.Did you see him a lot more before yous started going out? That could be what he meant by the past. But you just need to talk to him. Avoiding him and not texting him won't help you. I think you need to call him and be like Listen I know somethings wrong tell me.Let me know how it goes! Any more advice just ask. Good luck.
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Okay, you said you'd help so here ya go. Oh And you don't have to type all proper, I will read anything. :)
1st guy- Tyler [14 years old] Prep, HATES emo people, cusses, is bad but really sweet to girls, hilarious, likes to fish etc., thinks he's all that, wears certain shoes and shorts, skater, MAJOR MAJOR PREP, reallreallyreally nice to girlfriends, likes the fast heavy metal music, is a drummer, use to be fat but now really toned up and muscular and skinny and hot, has had sex 5 times (so he says), kinda lies alot, told me he loved me (few months ago) but then got a girlfriend (who just broke up with him), talks/sees his girlfriends everyday when he's dating someone. Doesn't go to church alot, but is a christian. likes girls who are outgoing. has a pretty good sense of humor...but is usually nasty. plays football.
2nd guy- Will [15 years old] Amazing. Not too preppy, just awesome. Kinda smart. Likes the same music as me, the old stuff like 80s and 80s (eagles steve miller band ac/dc etc) Goes to church every sunday and wednesday. use to smoke weed, but quit because he knew it was bad. very religious. likes to have fun. likes to swim. when he likes a girl, he is up front with them. wants a seriuos relationship. likes girls who are outgiong. funny, watches family guy etc, funny shows. plays football and is on the wresteling team and works out at the gym. I went out with him before, but he stopped liking me "because i didnt say more than 2 words to him" (thats what he said)
3rd guy- Tyson [15 years old] Kinda emo. Shy at first but once you get to know him, he's hilarious and awesome. He's super sweet and he'll drop what he's doing for anyone. Not the leader of a conversation. Doesn't date many girls. Really sweet. Lives with his mom and a bunch of sisters (thats probably why he is sweet) (link)
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i tried typing regular haha but when you type an answer you have to type a certain way or the thing like corrects it. its weird.
im confused on what u wanna know. and i take it u wanna know what guy haha. but the first guy the bad things are: from what you described he thinks hes all that, lies, if he did have sex 5 times experienced. but the good things are guys who are preppy are usually hott hah in my opinion. and hes really nice to his gfs. and you want a boyfriend you can see almost everyday.
the second guy the only bad things is that he broke up with you because you only said "two words to him" if he really liked you he shouldnt have broken up with you just for that. but besides that he seems okay.
tyson seems good. I find it cute that he is shy at first. depending on your personality that could be a bad or a good thing. I personally would go with tyson guy. I dont think your too into the first guy especially because he seems to have the most negative things. any more help let me know. tell me how it all works out.
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I want to describe 3 boys, and someone tell me what kind of girls each one of them would like. But I don't want to describe it on here incase they read it. So someone just answer and tell me if you're willing to help. [15/f] (link)
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I'll helpp =]
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what if you made out with a guy in party and when you were drunk is that slutty or what? this is your second or third time
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no this isnt slutty.
I do it too.
but if you had sex it would be totally different.
but watch the guys your with when you are drunk because some guys, while this is wrong, will take advantage.
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so ive been dating a guy for a couple months and he just recently said something really mean to my friend while she was working causing her to run of work bawling. i dont want a guy that talks shit to my friends. is it wrong to break up with him for it? please answer.. (link)
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its not wrong for you to break up with him for it. but I would suggest you talking to your boyfriend while your friend is there so she knows you defintely said something to him. make sure you tell him if he says anything else its over.
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so there is this boy i like named brandon. and he just got out of a long term relationship with a girl who treats him like shit. he has liked me and i liked him for the longest time and he invited me over to play video games with him tomorrow. Since he is finally single and willing to make out and stuff i dont wanna just play video games. i wanna make out with him what should i do? (link)
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flirt with him, or if you can invite 2 other friends, and tell 1 to dares you to makeout. don't come on too strong though. good luck
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I really need help. My boyfriend of two years broke up with me a few weeks ago and it's getting really hard to handle. I knew that I'd be crying a lot and facing a lot of pain, I'm just in a really bad moment of pain.
I've been crying a lot every night because he has a new girlfriend and it really hurts to think about. I know that I should be talking to someone and I do have a really supportive family. I guess I'm asking if theres anything more that I could be doing at this point?
He had an away message talking about how much he loved his girlfriend and it set me off into depression. Can anyone help any further when it comes to dealing with a break-up? (link)
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did he know you were online? hes probably trying to get you jealous, and it does work. you can't show him your jealous. just take it day by day, theres a lot of other guys out there.
you really just have to cry and let it out and always remember that your too good for him. I hope you feel better, I'm really sorry about your breakup
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i just broke up with my boyfriend because one of his close friends told me many things he's been doing behind my back and my boyfriend called me to tell me he loves me and that's all not true, his voice was so sad.. how do i know which one's telling the truth?!! ! please i need help (link)
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Do 3 way on the phone and let the close friend and your exboyfriend work it out. But make sure you listen to what they say. I hope it works out for you
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ok, here's the situation: i was at a dance Friday night and i met this girl(whoo hoo!), and i got her phone number. I said that i would call her sometime.
what i was wondering is when i should call her. should i wait 2-3 days or do it right now? and when i do call her, what should i say? Should i be like "hi, remember me from friday?" or what should i say? (link)
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Wait a day or 2, no more. You want to look interested but not desperate. When you call her say Hi, its _____ we met at the ___ dance friday. wait for her response. Than just take it from there.
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I broke up with my boyfriend, because I was scared. I have heard rumors he still likes me, and rumors he hates my guts. I still really like him, and I'm ready to accept the fact that being afraid of something new will not make me give up.
I want to pull him aside and tell him this,
" Hey, um, yeah well, I still really like you, and I miss you alot. And breaking up with you was a stupid mistake thats hard to explain, I was just scared. I wanted to know if theres any chance of us going back out again, cause if theres not, I want to stop trying, and stop holding on to that last bit of false hope"
Will that work? Or should I say something different. I'm not trying to make him feel bad, I wanna know the truth, please help =] (link)
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I would talk to him, either on the phone or in person. Don't do it on the computer though. As easy as it is on the computer, for this type of situation you will need to see or hear his reactions. Try saying something along these lines:
"Hey, I've been hearing that you hate me, and I mean I hope you don't because I really like you. I broke up with you because I was scared, but now I regret it." See his reaction, he might just ask you out again, if he doesn't than you could say something like " Would you ever consider us going back out again?"
I hope everything works out for you!
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so im 'together' with t his one guy, we arent going out but we do the same stuff. were freshman in highschool. i have neever kissed a guy before and i dont know why i wont kiss him! its not like i dont want to or think its gross.. it doesnt matter, but i just cant do it. maybe he should make the move? should i wait? how do i stop this madnesssssss? (link)
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If you feel weird doing it, than let him make the movie, hint to him.Or you could always use one of your friends to dare you two I hope it all works out for you.
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I really like this guy but there is one problem, he has a girlfriend. I want to go out with him, but I don't want to ruin his relationship with his girlfriend. That's just not what I do. He is really easy to talk to and he is really cute. The other guys who I have had crushes on were really cute but shallow. But this guy is different. What should I do?
signed,
confused (link)
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I have the same problem. The only thing you can do is wait and see what happens, it'll all work out in the end.
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hi there, well there's this girl i like. she has a boyfriend and she usually comes to me for help. we have lots in common and she has said to me that she wishes she had a boyfriend like me.. well recently i told her how i felt about her.. i dont know if i should of said this because im not sure things will be the same. she says its ok and she still loves me. but it feels like im in an awkward kind of position. any advice would really be appreciated, thanks. (link)
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It might feel awkward to you only because you now know she knows. Just act like you never told her, I know its hard to act like you never said anything but I think it would really help your friendship. Don't flirt with her more than usual, and try to decrease it alittle. If her and her boyfriend break up, give it time, and than flirt with her more. I hope everything works out for you!
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So I'm like 13 and theres this guy in my neighborhood who likes me and I like him too but like hes 17....he asked me out but I told him I would think about it. I like really like him, what should I do?
PS. He said he would show me a good time if I went out with him **if you knows what I mean** (link)
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Don't go out with him. Thats not good. Stay away from him until you are older, like older than 18. I hope everything works out for you.
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There is this boy at my school. Last week, I did not know him at all. My friend knew him and showed me his myspace. I sent him a message asking if he knew my friend and he said yes and we began talking. We had never talked in person. I told him I would say hi to him sometime at school. I think he was beginning to figure out I had a crush on him. Today he was standing in the lunch line behind me and I thought it was the perfect chance. So I said hi and we talked shortly. Then I said "see you later" and that was it. I don't know what to do. I get shy when it comes to talking to him at school. I feel like I am being annoying over myspace though. Everyone tells me he is down to earth, nice, and funny. I just don't know how to get closer to him. I really want things to work. We can never have any classes together because he is a grade younger. He is so my type and I really want to tell him how I feel, but that would be too fast since we barely know each other.
Any takers?
It's a toughie, but PLEASE help. (link)
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I understand where your coming from.
If I was you, I wouldn't always message him first on myspace. If you message him once in awhile, or message him when he messages you than you won't seem annyoing.As far talking in person, I know this can be hard because you really like him, but honestly use any excuse to start talking to him. For example, be like sara said you were in the 7th grade, thats cool, Im in the 8th but I liked the 7th much better. if you get my point, something like that. I hope I helped and I hope everything works out for you!
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I'm Melissa, and I'm 16 years old
So I'm crazy jealous (to a really large extent) and I don't know how to get over it. If anyone has been through it and somehow SOMEHOW overcome those horrible feelings, let me know what you did...Because I'm working on it and I'm afraid to push my boyfriend away at the same time. He's really understanding, but I'm assuming that there's only so much that a person can take.
Missy
Thanks (link)
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I understand your situation. But I'm confused on your question, I'm sorry if I understood it wrong. Just try and trust him, thats the only way the relationship can work. If your jealous of someone who is talking to him, remember your his girlfriend.
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