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Breaking up
I really need help. My boyfriend of two years broke up with me a few weeks ago and it's getting really hard to handle. I knew that I'd be crying a lot and facing a lot of pain, I'm just in a really bad moment of pain.
I've been crying a lot every night because he has a new girlfriend and it really hurts to think about. I know that I should be talking to someone and I do have a really supportive family. I guess I'm asking if theres anything more that I could be doing at this point?
He had an away message talking about how much he loved his girlfriend and it set me off into depression. Can anyone help any further when it comes to dealing with a break-up?
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I have been in this same situation and really the best thing that you can do is to realize he is most likely not the guy your meant to be with or you would be. So I know its hard but just ignore him If he is trying that hard to flaunt his new girl then obviously he is trying to make you jealous so just dont pay attention to him and he will realize that you are totally over him. So just forget him you seem like a cool person so if he dumped you than he is not worth your time.
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Lots of cliches coming up but that really do work:
1) copy down his email address and phone number and put them at the bottom of a drawer and then DELETE THEM from your phone and MSN/AIM. This avoids you having to see his crappy mushy little screennames and prevents phonecalls or texts made while drunk/in moments of weakness. (This is a good thing. Trust me.)
2) Make a list of all the bad things about him and your relationship- very easy to idealise it once it's not there- and remind yourself of it when you sart to feel like you've lost something perfect. Top of your list can be he is pretty fickle to move on and be "in love", no less, so quickly after your break up.
3) Go out. With your friends, with your family, by yourself, it doesn't matter. Concentrate of having fun and doing things you enjoy that have nothing to do with him. This is an excellent time to catch up with your girlfriends, let them bitch about all his flaws and then totally forget about him during girly days of shopping/spa-ing/partying or whatever.
I don't knwo if you have to see him a lot but if you do, a brave face is a wonderful thing. Seeing him will be shit but there's no need for him to know. Act like his presence doesn't affect you and you'll be suprised how quickly it becomes a reality.
Good luck x
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First you should stop reading his away messages, and if it's too hard to keep yourself from reading his messages, then delete him, or at least hide him from your list altogether.
Keeping up with his life is only going to make you feel worse, as you've already found out. I know how much it sucks to be the one in the relationship who was dumped, and to see the other person move on first.
There is no reason why you need to have him on your list, I know it's easier said than done, but you really should consider taking him off of your list. It's not as if you'll never be able to talk to him again, or you'll never be able to know what he's doing in his life again, but for now, just try to ignore that he exists.
By the way, it's been a few weeks, and he's already "in love" with a new girl.
What an asshole.
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did he know you were online? hes probably trying to get you jealous, and it does work. you can't show him your jealous. just take it day by day, theres a lot of other guys out there.
you really just have to cry and let it out and always remember that your too good for him. I hope you feel better, I'm really sorry about your breakup
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